u/TheOutsiderEnzo

I am currently 15 and I would like to start taking T this year, but the only thing holding me back are my parents. Someone told me to wait till I turn 16 which would be next year, but to be quite honest I can't wait any longer. Although, they said to wait till I turn 16 so if things get bad I can hopefully have a car by then and leave. My parents are very transphobic and in the past said slurs along with other things I will not repeat to me. Plus when I tried packing with a sock and my mom found out she held a belt to my face, but luckily my dad stopped her (this was a few months ago). My parents still aren't supportive but are learning to tolerate it to the best kf their abilities by buying me men's clothes, giving me a little more leeway to choose what hairstyle I want (not allowed to get a haircut), and let me go to two pride events thats about it.

My concerns are that my parents see and hear the effects on T and take me to the doctors to get evaluated. Which could result in them telling my mom to get my hormones levels checked and probably have me take estrogen. And or confiscate my things including my phone as punishment for "hurting my body" for these changes. Lastly, I could possibly get kicked out but I very highly doubt it because my parents especially my mom care about the family image and me getting kicked out will reflect poorly on them.

Although, what do yall think should I get that DIY T now as a 15 year old or just wait until im 18? Also should I change my name in the school system as well or would that be a bad decision?

I am currently 15 and I would like to start taking T this year, but the only thing holding me back are my parents. Someone told me to wait till I turn 16 which would be next year, but to be quite honest I can't wait any longer. Although, they said to wait till I turn 16 so if things get bad I can hopefully have a car by then and leave. My parents are very transphobic and in the past said slurs along with other things I will not repeat to me. Plus when I tried packing with a sock and my mom found out she held a belt to my face, but luckily my dad stopped her (this was a few months ago). My parents still aren't supportive but are learning to tolerate it to the best kf their abilities by buying me men's clothes, giving me a little more leeway to choose what hairstyle I want (not allowed to get a haircut), and let me go to two pride events thats about it.

My concerns are that my parents see and hear the effects on T and take me to the doctors to get evaluated. Which could result in them telling my mom to get my hormones levels checked and probably have me take estrogen. And or confiscate my things including my phone as punishment for "hurting my body" for these changes. Lastly, I could possibly get kicked out but I very highly doubt it because my parents especially my mom care about the family image and me getting kicked out will reflect poorly on them.

Although, what do yall think should I get that DIY T now as a 15 year old or just wait until im 18? Also should I change my name in the school system as well or would that be a bad decision?

I am currently 15 and I would like to start taking T this year, but the only thing holding me back are my parents. Someone told me to wait till I turn 16 which would be next year, but to be quite honest I can't wait any longer. Although, they said to wait till I turn 16 so if things get bad I can hopefully have a car by then and leave. My parents are very transphobic and in the past said slurs along with other things I will not repeat to me. Plus when I tried packing with a sock and my mom found out she held a belt to my face, but luckily my dad stopped her (this was a few months ago). My parents still aren't supportive but are learning to tolerate it to the best kf their abilities by buying me men's clothes, giving me a little more leeway to choose what hairstyle I want (not allowed to get a haircut), and let me go to two pride events thats about it.

My concerns are that my parents see and hear the effects on T and take me to the doctors to get evaluated. Which could result in them telling my mom to get my hormones levels checked and probably have me take estrogen. And or confiscate my things including my phone as punishment for "hurting my body" for these changes. Lastly, I could possibly get kicked out but I very highly doubt it because my parents especially my mom care about the family image and me getting kicked out will reflect poorly on them.

Although, what do yall think should I get that DIY T now as a 15 year old or just wait until im 18? Also should I change my name in the school system as well or would that be a bad decision?

I am currently 15 and I would like to start taking T this year, but the only thing holding me back are my parents. Someone told me to wait till I turn 16 which would be next year, but to be quite honest I can't wait any longer. Although, they said to wait till I turn 16 so if things get bad I can hopefully have a car by then and leave. My parents are very transphobic and in the past said slurs along with other things I will not repeat to me. Plus when I tried packing with a sock and my mom found out she held a belt to my face, but luckily my dad stopped her (this was a few months ago). My parents still aren't supportive but are learning to tolerate it to the best kf their abilities by buying me men's clothes, giving me a little more leeway to choose what hairstyle I want (not allowed to get a haircut), and let me go to two pride events thats about it.

My concerns are that my parents see and hear the effects on T and take me to the doctors to get evaluated. Which could result in them telling my mom to get my hormones levels checked and probably have me take estrogen. And or confiscate my things including my phone as punishment for "hurting my body" for these changes. Lastly, I could possibly get kicked out but I very highly doubt it because my parents especially my mom care about the family image and me getting kicked out will reflect poorly on them.

Although, what do yall think should I get that DIY T now as a 15 year old or just wait until im 18? Also should I change my name in the school system as well or would that be a bad decision?

I want to expand my buisness and become prominent online. I already have a brand name, planned shipping costs, photos of the products, and more planned out. The only problem is that I have to convince my parents. My parents are very controlling, but I need to save money for many things. Including college, my future car, and necessities. I already have experience, because I sold my jewelry locally since I was at least a pre-teen. My parents common arguments are "Focus on being a kid, you're skipping steps, and stop trying to rush into being an adult you have your entire life to work." Things of that nature and I even mentioned I wanted to get a credit card, and my mom used these same arguments against me. I was luckily able to combat them which resulted in her saying not being able to make a comeback and saying something on the basis of "because I said so."

I am also currently 14 turning 15 in August and I want to be able to launch my buisness online. Not as soon as possible I want almost everything to be accounted for, thorough, and neat I don't want a rushed/slopy buisness appearance online.

Edit: My bad I forgot to write my question. How would I convince my parents to let me expand my buisness online instead of staying local?

For context I have black parents that push the "only date in your race" stuff. Although, I've had crushes on people outside of my race multiple times and never disclosed that because they wouldn't be ok with it. When my mom found out I liked a white boy in Elementary school and later found out I liked a black boy in Highschool. (She found out because she read my text messages and went through my things). She was releived and said "I thought you lost yourself and I was worried for you, because I thought you were only gonna like people outside your black race. You know how wrong it is and you need to keep our black roots strong." My parents and family would always use the "black and white" couples while pointing out how the black people aren't happy. So I wouldn't be happy either and talk very poorly of other races including black people (rarely). This also lead to my parents including family saying how the person always submits to the other race, ends up unhappy, and ditching their culture.

Tbh im in the middle I wouldn't mind dating almost all races, but not all because of negative past experiences. That doesn't make me racist I just would like to protect myself from getting hurt again. I've also seen happy interracial couples, so now im conflicted.

If you went through a similar if not same experience how did you combat those ideas, seedlings of doubt (wondering if dating this person due to their race was going to make u end up submitting to their race entirely), and how did you learn to like other races without guilt?

For context I have black parents that push the "only date in your race" stuff. Although, I've had crushes on people outside of my race multiple times and never disclosed that because they wouldn't be ok with it. When my mom found out I liked a white boy in Elementary school and later found out I liked a black boy in Highschool. (She found out because she read my text messages and went through my things). She was releived and said "I thought you lost yourself and I was worried for you, because I thought you were only gonna like people outside your black race. You know how wrong it is and you need to keep our black roots strong." My parents and family would always use the "black and white" couples while pointing out how the black people aren't happy. So I wouldn't be happy either and talk very poorly of other races including black people (rarely). This also lead to my parents including family saying how the person always submits to the other race, ends up unhappy, and ditching their culture.

Tbh im in the middle I wouldn't mind dating almost all races, but not all because of negative past experiences. That doesn't make me racist I just would like to protect myself from getting hurt again. I've also seen happy interracial couples, so now im conflicted.

If you went through a similar if not same experience how did you combat those ideas, seedlings of doubt (wondering if dating this person due to their race was going to make u end up submitting to their race entirely), and how did you learn to like other races without guilt?

-My mom knows how much I make

-How much I spend/what I spend it on

-Has full control over my bank account

-Constantly asks me to give her money for bs (for example she couldn't pay for a jacket for some reason even though ik she has more than enough to pay for things herself)

-Exchange for example a $100 for 5 $20's

-Knows how much I have in savings

-Persistently asks to go over how much I have saved in my room and even searched through my room to find the money and count it herself to know how much I have

-Monitors what I spend my card on, where, when, and how much including why I would spend my money on xyz

-Wants to keep having the account under her name (I want to separate her from supervising my card when im 16)

-Takes money without asking sometimes

-Doesn't want me to get a safe for my money

-If I don't comply she ask if I gave money to friends, why I wouldn't want to be open with her about my money, why im being secretive, and why can't I give money to her after everything she did for me

Is this normal as a 14 year old and what can I do to make her stop?

Hello, I am currently 14 years old and I just finished my Freshman year of high-school. I would like to go to a University abroad. I am aware that studying in my home country (America) would be a lot more affordable, but I really want this for myself. My parents have a savings account, but I don't have a strong relationship with my mom. So, that money is not garenteed to go to me. I currently have a little over 2K last time I checked. I enjoy making copper jewelry, playing electric guitar, drawing, writing (I am currently making a comic), and anything artsy or creative.

What are some ways that I could make 40K, so I can go to a University abroad?

Alright, just for some background info my family including my parents are homophobic and transphobic. I am planning on sneaking and buying a binder, but I am unsure what brand would be best for me. I am very athletic I am always working out, sweaty, and I need something kinda light weight for the summer (ima use the binder during any season). My first binder was from Spencer's (not bad but could have been better) and GC2B off of Amazon (not the best either). Oh! And I am an XL, so I need a binder for my big chest.

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What brands do you recommend that could fit my criteria, have skin tones (im brown), and are good quality/bind well?

Alright, just for some background info my family including my parents are homophobic and transphobic. I am planning on sneaking and buying a binder, but I am unsure what brand would be best for me. I am very athletic I am always working out, sweaty, and I need something kinda light weight for the summer (ima use the binder during any season). My first binder was from Spencer's (not bad but could have been better) and GC2B off of Amazon (not the best either). Oh! And I am an XL, so I need a binder for my big chest.

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What brands do you recommend that could fit my criteria, have skin tones (im brown), and are good quality/bind well?

I am currently 14 and I made a post previously about getting a Japanese tutor. I found a Japanese tutor that will tutor me once a week for 50 minutes. I calculated the amount of money I would spend for next year and it would be $435. I also have the time stamp and week day planned, so it doesn't conflict with my schedule.

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The only problem is trying to convince my parents. They want me to learn Spanish (I am currently learning French in school and I got the languages mixed up). I will learn Spanish after French to avoid any confusion. (Lastly, I want to go to a University in Japan, which is why I am very persistent on learning now and I am not telling my parents because they will speak fear/try to deter me).

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Does anyone have any good arguments or retaliation methods, so I can learn Japanese and convince my parents?

My parents are very transphobic and homophonic. I am currently 14 and I live with my black parents. When I came out they yelled at me, called me slurs, and took away most of my belongings because they were "indoctrination." There were many more instances that were wayyyyy worst that I will not share. Although, I am not making this post to vent. I just would like some help in regards to passing tips that won't upset them and get me punished (my things confiscated including them being even more helicopter parents). I would also like ways I could obtain T and or leave my house early, so I don't have to continue with this bs. Lastly, they are both very religious and keep gaslighting me into believing they are accepting I just can't find the words to go against them yet. So I would also like ways to combat their statements. Such as "You were so girly!", "You are unhappy!", "God made you a woman for a reason!", "But, I am excepting I just don't want to see that", and comments like that.

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If you have any tips please let me know, because I try not to let things bother me but everytime/the more I'm around them the more my mental and overall well-being declines.

My parents are very transphobic and homophonic. I am currently 14 and I live with my black parents. When I came out they yelled at me, called me slurs, and took away most of my belongings because they were "indoctrination." There were many more instances that were wayyyyy worst that I will not share. Although, I am not making this post to vent. I just would like some help in regards to passing tips that won't upset them and get me punished (my things confiscated including them being even more helicopter parents). I would also like ways I could obtain T and or leave my house early, so I don't have to continue with this bs. Lastly, they are both very religious and keep gaslighting me into believing they are accepting I just can't find the words to go against them yet. So I would also like ways to combat their statements. Such as "You were so girly!", "You are unhappy!", "God made you a woman for a reason!", "But, I am excepting I just don't want to see that", and comments like that.

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If you have any tips please let me know, because I try not to let things bother me but everytime/the more I'm around them the more my mental and overall well-being declines.

Religion Confusion and Questions

Hello, I'm a young teen that has been constantly questioning religion (specifically Christianity due to my family) and I have been recently looking into atheists. I identify myself as theist although, I have been trying to research about being an atheists and I haven't found anything. Lastly, if I did become an atheist how would I defend evolution and such? If you are an atheist could you help guide me and see if being an atheist would align with me?

Alright, I am currently 14 and I would like to go to a university in Japan. Although, I need to have a N1 or N2 language proficiency. (Which is why I would like to learn the language early). The school I would like to attend to learn japanese in America is very close to my house, cost $490 per 11 class term, and is currently the only japanese school I could find. The sessions also take place on Saturday in the morning.

Yet, I take honors classes at my high-school and I do things outside of school. Such as sewing, playing electric guitar, and such. My parents are also controlling. Finally, I have my own income that would be enough to fully pay for the classes myself.

How would I convince them to let me go to the Japanese school?