What are ways to become more articulate and fluent in speaking? like i wanna learn new words? I have been using dictionaries like Merriam Webster and reading but i have been in a reading slump :(. are there any games on the app store or maybe flashcards?
I’ve noticed a pattern in myself that I really don’t like. Whenever someone makes me angry, if I know a secret about them, my mind immediately goes to using it against them or revealing it. It’s like I want leverage or control over the situation.
Recently, my 14-year-old sister tried my mom’s vape right in front of me. Later that day I was upset with her, so I told my other sister about it. I didn’t tell anyone else, but my sister found out and was really angry because she expected me to keep it to myself.
At first I tried to justify it by thinking, “Well, she never actually said it was a secret.” But if I’m being honest, I think that’s just an excuse I came up with afterward. The real reason I told someone was because I was angry and wanted some sense of control.
This isn’t the first time I’ve had thoughts like this. I often feel the urge to use private information as leverage when I’m upset. This is the first time I’ve really experienced the backlash from it, and I honestly feel guilty now because I realized how much trust it can damage.
I’ve noticed a pattern in myself that I really don’t like. Whenever someone makes me angry, if I know a secret about them, my mind immediately goes to using it against them or revealing it. It’s like I want leverage or control over the situation.
Recently, my 14-year-old sister tried my mom’s vape right in front of me. Later that day I was upset with her, so I told my other sister about it. I didn’t tell anyone else, but my sister found out and was really angry because she expected me to keep it to myself.
At first I tried to justify it by thinking, “Well, she never actually said it was a secret.” But if I’m being honest, I think that’s just an excuse I came up with afterward. The real reason I told someone was because I was angry and wanted some sense of control.
This isn’t the first time I’ve had thoughts like this. I often feel the urge to use private information as leverage when I’m upset. This is the first time I’ve really experienced the backlash from it, and I honestly feel guilty now because I realized how much trust it can damage.
I’ve noticed a pattern in myself that I really don’t like. Whenever someone makes me angry, if I know a secret about them, my mind immediately goes to using it against them or revealing it. It’s like I want leverage or control over the situation.
Recently, my 16 year old sister tried my mom’s vape right in front of me. Later that day I was upset with her, so I told my other sister about it. I didn’t tell anyone else, but my sister found out and was really angry because she expected me to keep it to myself.
At first I tried to justify it by thinking, “Well, she never actually said it was a secret.” But if I’m being honest, I think that’s just an excuse I came up with afterward. The real reason I told someone was because I was angry and wanted some sense of control.
This isn’t the first time I’ve had thoughts like this. I often feel the urge to use private information as leverage when I’m upset. This is the first time I’ve really experienced the backlash from it, and I honestly feel guilty now because I realized how much trust it can damage
so just recently i have seen a footballer by the name of Achraf Hakimi have allegations of rape. i told my brother that he has that. yk men glazing other men and refusing to see that famous people can clearly be bad people. but guess what he said also that made me think "religion is cope" he said this footballer is muslim so he cannot possibly do that.... so other religions can but apparently muslims cannot...
he is also a raging misogynist and says why do we have to talk about whats happening in afghanistan and other countries for example their age of consent in those countries may be 15 and he says that has nothing to do with him. i literally never said he should be a superhero and save them but clearly lacking empathy is a disease. i have been trying to distance myself from hom cause his worldview are super sexist sometimes and everytime i am around him we banter but we live in the same home so lmfao.
I’m honestly starting to realize I waste a lot of time debating my brothers about basic human dignity and women’s rights. The latest argument started when I mentioned that some countries allow marriage at 15, and instead of discussing the issue seriously, my brother kept referring to a 15-year-old girl as a “woman” even after I corrected him and pointed out that she’s still a child. He also argued that a 15-year-old girl marrying an older rich man is somehow more reasonable than a 15-year-old boy getting married, which just sounded like a double standard to me. This isn’t a one-time thing either. He regularly dismisses women’s sports, saying gymnastics isn’t a “real sport” and that other sports are more legitimate, and he’ll use a single example of a woman performing badly to generalize about women in sports. When I try to have a serious discussion, he eventually switches from the topic to me personally and says things like, “Don’t you have anything to study?” or “You must have too much free time.” He has held these views for years, mocks my journey into medicine, and often gives the impression that he doesn’t take women or their achievements seriously.
The thing that’s bothering me now is that I keep finding myself arguing with them anyway. Sometimes I’ll randomly start debating them even though I already know how it’s going to end. I don’t know why I keep doing it. Maybe I genuinely hope they’ll change their minds, maybe I hate hearing things I strongly disagree with and feel compelled to respond, or maybe I’m just looking for a real discussion that never actually happens. At this point, I’m realizing I’m probably wasting my time trying to change people who don’t want to change. Has anyone else had this problem where they keep debating the same people over and over even though they know it’s going nowhere? How do you stop feeling responsible for changing someone’s mind?
TL;DR: My brothers regularly make comments that I see as dismissive of women, women’s sports, and girls rights, and every time I try to discuss it, the conversation goes nowhere. I’m starting to realize the bigger issue might not be their views it’s that I keep getting pulled into the same arguments even though I know I won’t change their minds, and I’m trying to figure out how to stop wasting my energy on it.
i know i know this might sound like a dumb question but seriously why? for example my grandpa does not like it when someone wants to help him down the stairs or to get off the chair so i see a lot of my family members just let him do what he wants. is anyone's grandparents like this
مرة أمي قالت لي إني المفروض أكون ممتنة لأن أخوي ما ضربني.
أخوي غالبًا يتفلسف، ويتباهى بنفسه، ويقول لي تعليقات مستفزة ومهينة. في مرة قالت له أمي يروح يجيب المقاضي، فقال: “طيب وأختي؟” وأمي قالت له إنه أصلاً ياخذ فلوس منها. قلت له إن هذي مو فلوس تعبك، هذا مصروف من أمي. بعدها قال إن جلب المقاضي “شغلي”، فقلت له بمزح: “أنت مو رجال”.
راح اشتكى لأمي، وجلست تعطيني محاضرة تقريبًا نص ساعة تقول إنه في عوايل كثيرة عادي لو الأخ ضرب أخته إذا قالت له كذا. حتى اتصلت على أبوي وسألته لو أحد قال له كذا، هل ممكن يضرب أخته؟ وقال: “إيه، عشان يعدل سلوكها”. وقالت لي إني ما أعرف كيف الدنيا تمشي ولازم أكون شاكرة إن أخوي ما مد يده علي.
اللي مضايقني أكثر إن أخوي كثير يقول نكات وتعليقات ذكورية، ويقلل من دراستي للطب، ويقول إني ما عندي المقومات عشان أنجح أو أصير شيء. ولما قلت لأمي عن وحدة من هالتعليقات، قالت لي ما آخذها كإهانة وأعتبرها دافع عشان أثبت نفسي.
أنا الوحيدة اللي أحس إن فيه ازدواجية بالمعايير؟ لو أنا ضربته بسبب كلامه، أكيد ما كان بيكون الموضوع “عادي
شفت ناس كثير يقولون إن الغرب خلاص تقبّل المثلية وصار الناس هناك يخلّون غيرهم بحالهم، وبعدين يقولون إنه بعد كم سنة بيبدؤون يتقبّلون أشياء مثل البيدوفيليا، أو الجنس مع الحيوانات، أو حتى مع الجثث.
اللي أبي أفهمه هو: ليش أصلًا يحطّون المثليين بنفس المستوى مع هالأشياء؟ ليش يقارنون بينهم وكأنهم شيء واحد؟ وش المنطق اللي يخليهم يجمعون المثلية مع تصرفات يشوفها المجتمع مقرفة ومرفوضة ومؤذية؟ أنا فعلًا أبي أفهم سبب هالمقارنة
this man in the video is saying that for a woman it is not permissible for them to sit in the front row of a male professors class... such fanatical concepts... can we stop? what if the have poor hearing? forgot their glasses? simply wants to be there so they pay attention better?
ودي أفتح موضوع تفريش الأسنان في الأماكن العامة، وبالذات في الجامعة. غريبة الصراحة.. سمعت كذا أحد يقول إن هذي 'حركة أمريكان' أو ثقافة غربية، وما فهمت الصراحة وش دخل النظافة الشخصية بالجنسية؟
يعني أنا مثلاً أفرش أسناني في الجامعة أحياناً، وأحرص دايم إني أختار آخر مغسلة عشان ما أزحم أحد ولا أعطل السير، والكل ياخذ راحته.. بس سؤالي هو: هل صدق هذا الموضوع يعتبر 'تابو' أو مخالف للإتيكيت والذوق العام؟