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I had a really upsetting session with my therapist today and I’m wondering if her response was normal. I’ve been seeing her for about 6 months. I’m 23 and she’s in her 50s. Recently, she made several comments about a medication that made me feel pressured and invalidated. Today I finally tried to bring it up and told her that a couple of things she had said over the past two months had bothered me.

Before I could even fully explain myself, she immediately got defensive and her tone seemed angry. She immediately said, “I NEVER said that, I don’t know what you are talking about. I NEVER invalidated you.” She laughed at me and right after said “you are projecting right now.” She scoffed and said “that might be YOURRR interpretation of things, but you are definitely misremembering because that is not what happened and that is not what was said”. She also said “I’m sorry IF you felt that way, but I feel very disappointed, I have been trying to help you this entire time, I don’t know where this is coming from, but it seems like you are trying to blame someone”. She said all of this at once 😭

I was honestly shocked and became so uncomfortable that I went into damage-control mode. I reassured her that I wasn’t blaming her, apologized, and even denied feeling pressured even though I actually had. I just wanted the conflict to stop.

Then near the end of the SAME conversation, she brought up one of the comments again and asked what she had said. I repeated it, and she responded, “Yes, I did say that.” That really threw me off because earlier she had insisted she never said it, told me I was projecting and misremembering, and laughed/scoffed at me. I had only brought up a few of the comments that bothered me, and after seeing her reaction I can’t even imagine bringing up the rest.

She is my first outpatient therapist, so I genuinely don’t know what is considered normal in therapy. Is this an appropriate way for a therapist to respond when a client tells them something they said felt invalidating? Are you not supposed to tell a therapist if something they said bothered you?

I had a really upsetting session with my therapist today and I’m wondering if her response was normal. I’ve been seeing her for about 6 months. I’m 23 and she’s in her 50s. Recently, she made several comments about a medication that made me feel pressured and invalidated. Today I finally tried to bring it up and told her that a couple of things she had said over the past two months had bothered me.

Before I could even fully explain myself, she immediately got defensive and her tone seemed angry. She immediately said, “I NEVER said that, I don’t know what you are talking about. I NEVER invalidated you.” She laughed at me and right after said “you are projecting right now.” She scoffed and said “that might be YOURRR interpretation of things, but you are definitely misremembering because that is not what happened and that is not what was said”. She also said “I’m sorry IF you felt that way, but I feel very disappointed, I have been trying to help you this entire time, I don’t know where this is coming from, but it seems like you are trying to blame someone”. She said all of this at once 😭

I was honestly shocked and became so uncomfortable that I went into damage-control mode. I reassured her that I wasn’t blaming her, apologized, and even denied feeling pressured even though I actually had. I just wanted the conflict to stop.

Then near the end of the SAME conversation, she brought up one of the comments again and asked what she had said. I repeated it, and she responded, “Yes, I did say that.” That really threw me off because earlier she had insisted she never said it, told me I was projecting and misremembering, and laughed/scoffed at me. I had only brought up a few of the comments that bothered me, and after seeing her reaction I can’t even imagine bringing up the rest.

She is my first outpatient therapist, so I genuinely don’t know what is considered normal in therapy. Is this an appropriate way for a therapist to respond when a client tells them something they said felt invalidating? Are you not supposed to tell a therapist if something they said bothered you?

I had a really upsetting session with my therapist today and I’m wondering if her response was normal. I’ve been seeing her for about 6 months. I’m 23 and she’s in her 50s. Recently, she made several comments about a medication that made me feel pressured and invalidated. Today I finally tried to bring it up and told her that a couple of things she had said over the past two months had bothered me.

Before I could even fully explain myself, she immediately got defensive and her tone seemed angry. She immediately said, “I NEVER said that, I don’t know what you are talking about. I NEVER invalidated you.” She laughed at me and right after said “you are projecting right now.” She scoffed and said “that might be YOURRR interpretation of things, but you are definitely misremembering because that is not what happened and that is not what was said”. She also said “I’m sorry IF you felt that way, but I feel very disappointed, I have been trying to help you this entire time, I don’t know where this is coming from, but it seems like you are trying to blame someone”. She said all of this at once 😭

I was honestly shocked and became so uncomfortable that I went into damage-control mode. I reassured her that I wasn’t blaming her, apologized, and even denied feeling pressured even though I actually had. I just wanted the conflict to stop.

Then near the end of the SAME conversation, she brought up one of the comments again and asked what she had said. I repeated it, and she responded, “Yes, I did say that.” That really threw me off because earlier she had insisted she never said it, told me I was projecting and misremembering, and laughed/scoffed at me. I had only brought up a few of the comments that bothered me, and after seeing her reaction I can’t even imagine bringing up the rest.

She is my first outpatient therapist, so I genuinely don’t know what is considered normal in therapy. Is this an appropriate way for a therapist to respond when a client tells them something they said felt invalidating? Are you not supposed to tell a therapist if something they said bothered you?

I had a really upsetting session with my therapist today and I’m wondering if her response was normal. I’ve been seeing her for about 6 months. I’m 23 and she’s in her 50s. Recently, she made several comments about a medication that made me feel pressured and invalidated. Today I finally tried to bring it up and told her that a couple of things she had said over the past two months had bothered me.

Before I could even fully explain myself, she immediately got defensive and her tone seemed angry. She immediately said, “I NEVER said that, I don’t know what you are talking about. I NEVER invalidated you.” She laughed at me and right after said “you are projecting right now.” She scoffed and said “that might be YOURRR interpretation of things, but you are definitely misremembering because that is not what happened and that is not what was said”. She also said “I’m sorry IF you felt that way, but I feel very disappointed, I have been trying to help you this entire time, I don’t know where this is coming from, but it seems like you are trying to blame someone”. She said all of this at once 😭

I was honestly shocked and became so uncomfortable that I went into damage-control mode. I reassured her that I wasn’t blaming her, apologized, and even denied feeling pressured even though I actually had. I just wanted the conflict to stop.

Then near the end of the SAME conversation, she brought up one of the comments again and asked what she had said. I repeated it, and she responded, “Yes, I did say that.” That really threw me off because earlier she had insisted she never said it, told me I was projecting and misremembering, and laughed/scoffed at me. I had only brought up a few of the comments that bothered me, and after seeing her reaction I can’t even imagine bringing up the rest.

She is my first outpatient therapist, so I genuinely don’t know what is considered normal in therapy. Is this an appropriate way for a therapist to respond when a client tells them something they said felt invalidating? Are you not supposed to tell a therapist if something they said bothered you?

I had a really upsetting session with my therapist today and I’m wondering if her response was normal. I’ve been seeing her for about 6 months. I’m 23 and she’s in her 50s. Recently, she made several comments about a medication that made me feel pressured and invalidated. Today I finally tried to bring it up and told her that a couple of things she had said over the past two months had bothered me.

Before I could even fully explain myself, she immediately got defensive and her tone seemed angry. She immediately said, “I NEVER said that, I don’t know what you are talking about. I NEVER invalidated you.” She laughed at me and right after said “you are projecting right now.” She scoffed and said “that might be YOURRR interpretation of things, but you are definitely misremembering because that is not what happened and that is not what was said”. She also said “I’m sorry IF you felt that way, but I feel very disappointed, I have been trying to help you this entire time, I don’t know where this is coming from, but it seems like you are trying to blame someone”. She said all of this at once 😭

I was honestly shocked and became so uncomfortable that I went into damage-control mode. I reassured her that I wasn’t blaming her, apologized, and even denied feeling pressured even though I actually had. I just wanted the conflict to stop.

Then near the end of the SAME conversation, she brought up one of the comments again and asked what she had said. I repeated it, and she responded, “Yes, I did say that.” That really threw me off because earlier she had insisted she never said it, told me I was projecting and misremembering, and laughed/scoffed at me. I had only brought up a few of the comments that bothered me, and after seeing her reaction I can’t even imagine bringing up the rest.

She is my first outpatient therapist, so I genuinely don’t know what is considered normal in therapy. Is this an appropriate way for a therapist to respond when a client tells them something they said felt invalidating? Are you not supposed to tell a therapist if something they said bothered you?

I wanted to see the scent notes so bad 😭😭

Has anyone who lives in New Jersey and has Medicaid been successful in getting eating disorder treatment? I have spent months trying to find outpatient eating disorder treatment. I have contacted 100+ different eating disorder therapists, clinics, programs, directories, websites/apps, insurance directories, insurance referrals, and even my insurance company directly. So far, all of them have been a fail. 

From everything I was able to find, the only eating disorder therapist/clinic/program in NJ that accept Medicaid are Robert Wood Johnson Hospital, Princeton Hospital, and New Bridge Hospital. Unfortunately, these three programs don't offer virtual services and are located too far away from what I live, so it is impossible for me to go to them.

I also contacted many general mental health clinics and therapists that listed eating disorder treatment on their websites. However, when I called, the receptionists immediately told me they do not treat eating disorders. They didn't even hear about my history. As soon as I mentioned eating disorders, they told me they don't treat clients with eating disorders. That's been one of the most frustrating parts of this process because their websites advertise eating disorder treatment, but then their offices tell me they don't actually provide it.

At this point, I genuinely feel like I don't have access to outpatient eating disorder treatment through Medicaid in New Jersey. It feels impossible to find treatment. I wanted to ask has anyone here with NJ Medicaid successfully found eating disorder treatment? If so, where did you find it?

I know there are free virtual support groups through organizations like NEDA and ANAD, and I appreciate that those resources exist. However, I've participated in group therapy many times before and personally have not found it helpful or effective, so I'm specifically looking for individual outpatient therapy or IOP. Please let me know if this is even possible because I don’t think it is 😭😭

Has anyone who lives in New Jersey and has Medicaid been successful in getting eating disorder treatment? I have spent months trying to find outpatient eating disorder treatment. I have contacted 100+ different eating disorder therapists, clinics, programs, directories, websites/apps, insurance directories, insurance referrals, and even my insurance company directly. So far, all of them have been a fail. 

From everything I was able to find, the only eating disorder therapist/clinic/program in NJ that accept Medicaid are Robert Wood Johnson Hospital, Princeton Hospital, and New Bridge Hospital. ONLY THREE eating disorder therapy treatment options are accepted by Medicaid in the ENTIRETY of NJ. Unfortunately, these programs don't offer virtual services and are located too far away from what I live, so it is impossible for me to go to them.

I also contacted many general mental health clinics and therapists that listed eating disorder treatment on their websites. However, when I called, the receptionists immediately told me they do not treat eating disorders. They didn't even hear about my history. As soon as I mentioned eating disorders, they told me they don't treat clients with eating disorders. That's been one of the most frustrating parts of this process because their websites advertise eating disorder treatment, but then their offices tell me they don't actually provide it.

At this point, I genuinely feel like I don't have access to outpatient eating disorder treatment through Medicaid in New Jersey. It feels impossible to find treatment. I wanted to ask has anyone here with NJ Medicaid successfully found eating disorder treatment? If so, where did you find it?

I know there are free virtual support groups through organizations like NEDA and ANAD, and I appreciate that those resources exist. However, I've participated in group therapy many times before and personally have not found it helpful or effective, so I'm specifically looking for individual outpatient therapy or IOP. Please let me know if this is even possible because I don’t think it is 😭😭

Has anyone who lives in New Jersey and has Medicaid been successful in getting eating disorder treatment? I have spent months trying to find outpatient eating disorder treatment. I have contacted 100+ different eating disorder therapists, clinics, programs, directories, websites/apps, insurance directories, insurance referrals, and even my insurance company directly. So far, all of them have been a fail. 

From everything I was able to find, the only eating disorder therapist/clinic/program in NJ that accept Medicaid are Robert Wood Johnson Hospital, Princeton Hospital, and New Bridge Hospital. ONLY THREE eating disorder therapy treatment options are accepted by Medicaid in the ENTIRETY of NJ. Unfortunately, these programs don't offer virtual services and are located too far away from what I live, so it is impossible for me to go to them.

I also contacted many general mental health clinics and therapists that listed eating disorder treatment on their websites. However, when I called, the receptionists immediately told me they do not treat eating disorders. They didn't even hear about my history. As soon as I mentioned eating disorders, they told me they don't treat clients with eating disorders. That's been one of the most frustrating parts of this process because their websites advertise eating disorder treatment, but then their offices tell me they don't actually provide it.

At this point, I genuinely feel like I don't have access to outpatient eating disorder treatment through Medicaid in New Jersey. It feels impossible to find treatment. I wanted to ask has anyone here with NJ Medicaid successfully found eating disorder treatment? If so, where did you find it?

I know there are free virtual support groups through organizations like NEDA and ANAD, and I appreciate that those resources exist. However, I've participated in group therapy many times before and personally have not found it helpful or effective, so I'm specifically looking for individual outpatient therapy or IOP. Please let me know if this is even possible because I don’t think it is 😭😭

I’ve had Medicaid all my life, but about a year ago, I was finally able to access eating disorder treatment for the first time because I was able to have a different insurance. I went through PHP, residential, and inpatient treatment (so kept moving up levels) but I was unable to complete inpatient because my insurance got terminated. So I had to leave inpatient and wait to be approved for Medicaid again. Since then, I have become weight restored, medically stable, and not engaging in eating disorder behaviors for about 7 months. So I no longer need a higher level of care, and I am a college student so I would prefer an outpatient or IOP program so that it fits into my schedule.

I live in NJ. Once I got Medicaid again, I spent months trying to find outpatient treatment. I contacted well over 100 different therapists, clinics, eating disorder programs, directories, websites/apps, and insurance directories/calling insurance/insurance referrals. All of the eating disorder therapists/ clinics/ programs in NJ do not accept Medicaid, except for three of them: RWJ, Princeton Hospital, and New Bridge. However, these three don’t offer virtual services, and they are way too far from where I live so it is impossible for me to go to them. 

I also contacted many general mental health clinics that listed eating disorder treatment on their websites. However, whenever I would call these clinics, the receptionists immediately would tell me that they do not treat eating disorders. They didn’t even reject me from hearing about my history. As soon as I said eating disorders they said they don’t treat clients with eating disorders. That's been one of the most frustrating parts of this process because their websites advertise eating disorder treatment, but then their offices tell me they don't actually provide it.

I also had a horrible intake experience with a therapist. One of the first questions I asked was whether their clinic actually treats eating disorders (their website says they are general mental health but also treat eating disorders). Instead of answering, the therapist asked why I wanted to know and whether I had an eating disorder. I told her that yes I do, but I am in recovery. She asked about my treatment history and whether I completed treatment, and I told her how I couldn’t complete inpatient because of my insurance getting terminated. After hearing that, she said the clinic couldn't take me as a client because I didn’t complete a higher level of care and they need proof I’m medically stable.

I told her my PCP could provide documentation. She told me that wasn't enough and said I would need proof from another doctor. When I asked what doctor and what documentation was needed, she couldn't tell me what doctor she is referring to. I even asked whether documentation from a psychiatrist would count, and she said no. She said her supervisor would follow up with me, but they never did. The whole experience left me feeling discouraged because I never got a clear answer about whether they actually treat eating disorders, and I was willing to provide whatever documentation was needed, but nobody could tell me what that documentation actually was. Also, there is no such thing as an “ed specialist doctor”, especially in an outpatient setting, people just have PCP’s. 

After 100+ rejections, I finally found one therapist who was willing to see me. She told me that she doesn’t specialize in eating disorders, but because she has over 20 years of experience, she isn’t afraid of eating disorder clients. So I went in with the mindset that she most likely can’t truly help me with eating disorder recovery, but maybe she can help with my depression and other trauma I have. I've been seeing her for about 4 months now, but I don't think she's a good fit at all. I already knew she most likely wouldn’t have been able to help with eating disorder recovery I’ve given her grace for that, but I feel like when it comes to depression and other trauma she hasn’t been helpful and effective either. I have never found a session to be helpful or effective, so I feel like she’s not a good fit.

4 months ago before I started seeing my current therapist, I found two other general mental health clinics where on their website it says they help with eating disorders and they both accept Medicaid. I called both of their receptionists too and their receptionists said the same thing, and I was shocked to hear that. It wasn’t an immediate rejection like every other general mental health clinic/therapist where their website says they help with eating disorders but when you actually call them, they say they actually do not. But both of these clinics had waitlists so I never completed an intake, but now I'm considering contacting them again. But I feel like it would probably be another situation where during the intake the therapist will actually say they don't take eating disorders clients or they would reject me for not completing inpatient treatment, even though it’s been a year since then and again it’s been 7 months of me being medically stable and weight restored.

My questions are:

• Am I allowed to complete intakes with these two clinics while I am currently seeing a therapist on Medicaid? 
• Do you think the fact that I've been consistently attending outpatient therapy for the last 4 months would make these two clinics more comfortable accepting me, even though I didn't complete higher-level treatment last year? And again if they want documentation from PCP I can give it. 
• What would you do or have you been in a similar situation?

 

I genuinely feel stuck because my current therapist is most likely my only option, but I also don't find it effective or helpful at all. But even if one of these two clinics is willing to accept me by some miracle, I also would feel a bit guilty because my therapist was the only one to give me a chance and say yes to me. 

I’ve had Medicaid all my life, but about a year ago, I was finally able to access eating disorder treatment for the first time because I was able to have a different insurance. I went through PHP, residential, and inpatient treatment (so kept moving up levels) but I was unable to complete inpatient because my insurance got terminated. So I had to leave inpatient and wait to be approved for Medicaid again. Since then, I have become weight restored, medically stable, and not engaging in eating disorder behaviors for about 7 months. So I no longer need a higher level of care, and I am a college student so I would prefer an outpatient or IOP program so that it fits into my schedule.

I live in NJ. Once I got Medicaid again, I spent months trying to find outpatient treatment. I contacted well over 100 different therapists, clinics, eating disorder programs, directories, websites/apps, and insurance directories/calling insurance/insurance referrals. All of the eating disorder therapists/ clinics/ programs in NJ do not accept Medicaid, except for three of them: RWJ, Princeton Hospital, and New Bridge. However, these three don’t offer virtual services, and they are way too far from where I live so it is impossible for me to go to them. 

I also contacted many general mental health clinics that listed eating disorder treatment on their websites. However, whenever I would call these clinics, the receptionists immediately would tell me that they do not treat eating disorders. They didn’t even reject me from hearing about my history. As soon as I said eating disorders they said they don’t treat clients with eating disorders. That's been one of the most frustrating parts of this process because their websites advertise eating disorder treatment, but then their offices tell me they don't actually provide it.

I also had a horrible intake experience with a therapist. One of the first questions I asked was whether their clinic actually treats eating disorders (their website says they are general mental health but also treat eating disorders). Instead of answering, the therapist asked why I wanted to know and whether I had an eating disorder. I told her that yes I do, but I am in recovery. She asked about my treatment history and whether I completed treatment, and I told her how I couldn’t complete inpatient because of my insurance getting terminated. After hearing that, she said the clinic couldn't take me as a client because I didn’t complete a higher level of care and they need proof I’m medically stable.

I told her my PCP could provide documentation. She told me that wasn't enough and said I would need proof from another doctor. When I asked what doctor and what documentation was needed, she couldn't tell me what doctor she is referring to. I even asked whether documentation from a psychiatrist would count, and she said no. She said her supervisor would follow up with me, but they never did. The whole experience left me feeling discouraged because I never got a clear answer about whether they actually treat eating disorders, and I was willing to provide whatever documentation was needed, but nobody could tell me what that documentation actually was. Also, there is no such thing as an “ed specialist doctor”, especially in an outpatient setting, people just have PCP’s. 

After 100+ rejections, I finally found one therapist who was willing to see me. She told me that she doesn’t specialize in eating disorders, but because she has over 20 years of experience, she isn’t afraid of eating disorder clients. So I went in with the mindset that she most likely can’t truly help me with eating disorder recovery, but maybe she can help with my depression and other trauma I have. I've been seeing her for about 4 months now, but I don't think she's a good fit at all. I already knew she most likely wouldn’t have been able to help with eating disorder recovery I’ve given her grace for that, but I feel like when it comes to depression and other trauma she hasn’t been helpful and effective either. I have never found a session to be helpful or effective, so I feel like she’s not a good fit.

4 months ago before I started seeing my current therapist, I found two other general mental health clinics where on their website it says they help with eating disorders and they both accept Medicaid. I called both of their receptionists too and their receptionists said the same thing, and I was shocked to hear that. It wasn’t an immediate rejection like every other general mental health clinic/therapist where their website says they help with eating disorders but when you actually call them, they say they actually do not. But both of these clinics had waitlists so I never completed an intake, but now I'm considering contacting them again. But I feel like it would probably be another situation where during the intake the therapist will actually say they don't take eating disorders clients or they would reject me for not completing inpatient treatment, even though it’s been a year since then and again it’s been 7 months of me being medically stable and weight restored.

My questions are:

• Am I allowed to complete intakes with these two clinics while I am currently seeing a therapist on Medicaid? 
• Do you think the fact that I've been consistently attending outpatient therapy for the last 4 months would make these two clinics more comfortable accepting me, even though I didn't complete higher-level treatment last year? And again if they want documentation from PCP I can give it. 
• What would you do or have you been in a similar situation?

 

I genuinely feel stuck because my current therapist is most likely my only option, but I also don't find it effective or helpful at all. But even if one of these two clinics is willing to accept me by some miracle, I also would feel a bit guilty because my therapist was the only one to give me a chance and say yes to me. 

I’m panicking. This entire time my summer term bill showed “F/A Pell offered” and “F/A tag offered”. Today is the first day of classes and both of these financial aid are not on my term bill anymore, they completely disappeared. Does this mean they got removed for good and I won’t be getting any aid?

I want to take this class for summer 2026, but I saw it’s part of the graduate school of education. are undergrads allowed to take it? I am part of RBS.

if anyone took it with Brent Horbatt how was it? Also if anyone has taken it during the summer how was it?

which one of these courses is the easiest class / easy A / gpa booster to take during the summer?

Art appreciation with Tom Raggio (asynch)

Greek civilization with Jordyn Howey (asynch)

Career management with Von Liebtag (asynch)

Science of food with Ponnusamy (asynch)

Transforming the global environment with Paul O’Keefe (asynch)

Introduction to media with Prendella or Niki Natarajan (asynch)

if there is anything else I did not mention in this list that I should take instead please let me know!

Idk if my nose is broken, but anytime I spray the Neapolitan ice cream body mist, all I smell is a lighter version of strawberry pound cake. I love strawberry pound cake, but I’m disappointed, I was expecting the ice cream mist to smell different.

Everyone on this sub keeps saying that the spray smells like chocolate, and I don’t smell any chocolate AT ALL. I’m so disappointed because I finally wanted BBW to have a chocolate forward fragrance 💔. Or I was expecting the strawberry, chocolate, and vanilla to be equal, I would have loved that too. But all I smell is strawberry pound cake from initial spray, to mid notes, and then dry down I still smell strawberry pound cake + vanilla.

My professor hasn’t graded our final and final project yet and it’s may 14th today. When is the final day to submit grades?

I feel like when I added the candle to my cart last year, it said the candle was free, and then my email showed $0.00 for the candle, so does this mean the candle was actually free? or is the price for items divided? I’m confused because I heard for the buy 3 get 1 free / buy 3 get 3 free deals, the items are not truly free even though when you add it to cart it says “free” for some of the items?

Has anyone ever gone full karen at One Stop? I am not sure what to do. I have been dealing with financial aid issues since fall 2025. It is now May 2026. They kept giving me huge financial holds, they tell me they will work on it, it finally goes away after many months. And then the same exact hold comes back multiple times, they say they will work on it, and it takes months to resolve. Currently now, they told me all my issues are resolved but I just checked and they lied. The exact financial hold balance I previously had has now been moved as a charge to my term bill. They basically just moved the balance from a financial hold to an actual charge on my term bill, how is that "resolving" the issue?? I SHOULDN'T HAVE THIS BALANCE IN THE FIRST PLACE, IT KEEPS COMING BACK. I've been going back and forth with them since Fall 2025 and its the same cycle of them telling me that they resolved my issues, but then it keeps coming back as a hold or a different balance/charge.

Now that we know what is coming back for SAS, and Secret Wonderland smells like! I never tried this fragrance, is it similar to Be Enchanted or Pink Chiffon?