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I’m curious if this is an autistic thing or something else. There is one person that if I am around my brain shuts off (scared of said person). Does that happened to people with autism? I know other stresses do the same but not to this extent…. my brain just goes to complete mush.

I feel like when anything goes wrong and I'm near by, or might have been even slightly involved in a process that has nothing to do with the issue, I'm always to be blamed.

Is this an autism thing or just standard human behavior?

I literally just got accused of recording someone's vehicle when I was making a video clip of a squirrel. I've lost jobs over this too. Even when I stickup for myself then I'm even "worse".

I've been going to therapy, multiple different therapist for years now. I finally found one that I thought was helping pretty good. I saw him probably 10 sessions.

We discussed many things including dealing with an abusive ex and how I see and go thru this crazy world being autistic.

I have a legal hearing with my ex over many things (it's a disaster) custody and stuff. Last time I saw him in court I had a major panic attack and it hurt me on my case.

So I asked this therapist if he could write a letter saying something on the lines of "I've being seeing xxxxx for 10 sessions and believe she would benefit but conducting a legal matter away for her x and being given these following accommodation xxxxxx (like virtual hearing, allowed breaks, etc)". He said he'd do it and have it ready for me.

I just saw him again and this letter was to be completed but now he says he need me to fill out some release form so he can talk to my attorney before writing the letter.

This is annoying, delaying, and now going to cost me hundreds of dollars so he can talk to my attorney. Seems like another case of a NT making promises they can't keep, moving goalpost.

Anyone have similar situation? i write here because the legal reddit is full of very NOT nice understanding feedback. Would just providing the court my medical diagnosis be enough you think?

TIA

Location: Texas

Long story short:

I’ve been a state term employee for a few years (have full state benefits)

I found a permanent position with another state agency a year ago. My bosses boss found out and said (in writing) he would do everything possible to ensure I get a permanent position at my current agency. LIKE A FOOL I BELIEVED HIM - LESSON LEARNED! I stayed with the current agency.
My manager quit and they loaded me up with his work.

I was drowning and did the best I could. I kept some of his work but not all.

I got a new manager. After doing management work I asked for a salary adjustment and was told they can’t give it because I’m temp.

My new manager is a temp with the same program and he got a permanent position and title change a few months later (although somehow is still my manager). Two other term employees in the same program also got perm positions recently.

They have now “laid” me off.

I’m autistic (it obvious but I never disclosed…. except when I was hired I marked “disabled”). Anyhow, I’m 100% certain if I had the social skills as others I would have been given a permanent position. My position doesn’t require much communication which is great and I do my job super well…My performance are expected expectation across the board for 2 years now.

I keep to myself and do great work. This seems to not be enough.

They want an exit interview. I heard these do nothing but for HR to CTAs. I really want to tell them how I have been treated, they know nothing above.

Is there any legal recourse? Also, it seems if there is finding someone to go against the government seems to be a challenge.

Also, this is a dummy account… not like it really matters at this point.

Long story short:

I’ve been a state term employee for a few years (have full state benefits)

I found a permanent position with another state agency a year ago. My bosses boss found out and said (in writing) he would do everything possible to ensure I get a permanent position at my current agency. LIKE A FOOL I BELIEVED HIM - LESSON LEARNED! I stayed with the current agency.
My manager quit and they loaded me up with his work.

I was drowning and did the best I could. I kept some of his work but not all.

I got a new manager. After doing management work I asked for a salary adjustment and was told they can’t give it because I’m temp.

My new manager is a temp with the same program and he got a permanent position and title change a few months later (although somehow is still my manager).

They have now “laid” me off.

I’m autistic (it obvious but I never disclosed…. except when I was hired I marked “disabled”). Anyhow, I’m 100% certain if I had the social skills as others I would have been given a permanent position. My position doesn’t require much communication which is great and I do my job super well…My performance are expected expectation across the board for 2 years now.

I keep to myself and do great work. This seems to not be enough.

They want an exit interview. I heard these do nothing but for HR to CTAs. I really want to tell them how I have been treated, they know nothing above. What would you do? Recommend?

Also, this is a dummy account… not like it really matters at this point. I posted a similar question awhile ago when I was thinking of talking to management but opted not to.

My counselor said today “well you are high functioning, your support needs are needing a lot of alone time”…. which is partially true that alone time requirement is #1 for me but my brain took that as she thinks that’s all I need.

I’m just here to vent, see if anyone has similar interactions.

I’m thinking of making a list of my needs to bring to my next meeting. This isn’t a long term counselor (switching insurance soon).

I watching them online and went to a free course. They seem better than most in the fact they don’t do the fake “you’ll become a millionaire” and they say they were actual traders at firms previously. Curious of anyone’s take?

Also, they teach about institutional trading… like placing orders when the probability is higher that banks have unfilled orders…. Curious of people thoughts on that too.

I never get invited to things and rarely know if things are invites. Today:

Them: a bunch of us are going to this bar at xyz at 6pm tonight
Me: fun, I’ve never been there
Them: yes, I heard it’s nice
Me: so is the invite
Them: it’s a public place so you just go
Me: <confused>

Life would be easy if people were just direct, like WTF does this mean. Like if I go do I sit with them. Was this an invite. Was this just an informaive conversation.

I had my first EMDR session (we used to vibrating things I held).

My goal is to get past this mind trap of the results of a mind F and physically abusive and threading relationship.

It’s been 24 hours. I felt nauseous and can’t concentrate that well.

I’m also autistic and struggle with ruminating and taking things super literal, and noticing everything!!!

I know I’m not “normal” but I feel like I should feel more things after the session…. like the more I feel after the more it’s working???

What do you think?

For me it would be…. if people said what they meant, and meant what they said…. my life would be sooo much easier/better/less complicated

(yes I know, the alternative could be me learning to not believe people…. which seems just as miserable)

I’m going to be out of a job soon, I’ve always held stocks/investments (long term) and think I’m pretty good at pattern recognition… thinking of my next move. Any successfully traders here? Any input, thoughts?

Person 1: what did you eat for dinner
Me: I had a burger
Person 1: that is wonderful
Person 1: can you confirm again, you had a burger right?

Mind you, the above was in texts.

Person 2: can you help me with x
Me: yes, you do this this and this
Person 2: great
Person 2: can you help me with x (the same x)

This was just in one day!!

I hear all this stuff about masking in autism, my brain didn’t get the memo.

I have absolutely zero ability to “fake” or pretend (sorry I’m probably not using the right word) anything.

I don’t force eye contact or hid stimms.

If I don’t like someone I CAN NOT pretend to like them (in fact, the mere thought of having to be in the same room with them and people expecting me to smile makes me physically sick)

I don’t really need friends and love being alone. Although doing fun things with someone once in awhile could be enjoyable.

I do however “mirror” people’s energy but only if it’s negative… like if I feel someone tone is going negative or they are mean, or I feel they are lying, I give it back (or leave).

I’m also completely unfiltered and genuine. I’m either really kind or neutral… unless around bad people.

Any other no-maskers… or close to non-maskers.

I started a position with the state about 4 years ago. It was a term position (a set end date). They kept extending my position. The department had about 50 people for this temporary program, now there are a few left, including me.

About a year ago I got a permanent job offer with another agency (also state). I was giving my notice and my bosses boss told me “stay, if you do I’ll do everything I can to find you a permanent position” (this is in writing). I stayed (I know now I shouldn’t have).

They kept giving me more work and I asked if I could get a title change to match my duties, I was told by my boss “we don’t do title changes while in a temporary program”. A few months later and my boss (also in the same temporary program), got a title change, promotion, I imagine raise, and now is a permanent employee. The position was created for her and I’m pretty sure wasn’t even advertised to the public.

I asked my bosses boss if he found me a permanent position and I got the run around. Now I got notice my position is over with no discussion on a permanent position. I’m also told I’m training someone else to wrap up my position.

There has also been other things done to treat be less than coworkers but less in my face.

Also, I have received exceed expectations on all my reviews for everything since there. I also have autism which is odious but I never officially disclosed it to anyone but one coworker. My autism makes me great at my job but not good at small talk, or being bubbly, or playing politics…. It also makes me think that people actually say what they mean and “naive “. I do my actual job on my job description wonderfully though. I am highly certain if I didn’t things would be a lot different.

Anyone go thru this or similar? What would you do? Besides the obvious of 1) looking for a new job and 2) not believing what people say in the future

I just went to my first EMDR appointment only to learn the therapist wants 4-5 talking session before actually starting EMDR. I asked another therapist and they said about the same. Is this standard? I ask because I'll only have insurance for one more month and not sure if it's worth talking to another therapist and never getting to the EMDR part (I've been in talk therapy more then I care to admit).

Again and again and again I continue to believe people (and find a world where you can’t trust people word to be pretty Fn shitty).

I work a temp position. Had an offer for a permanent job somewhere else, an executive at my current job said he’d find me a permanent job at the company if I stayed… I stayed and it’s been 2 YEARS and the Fr still hasn’t found me a permanent job (although other temporary people got one)… and now he said my job ends in 2 weeks.

I believed this lying ahole and now my livelihood is in jeopardy.

I believed my ex when he said our life would be wonderful and he’d take care of me.

He later tried to off me multiple times.

These are just the recent big lies I fall for that majorly affect my life… there are trillions of little lies between.

Are people with autism generally more nieve, more lied to or taken advantage of… or is it just me. I just believe people at their word then later get burned… or nearly offed.

Hypothetically speaking…

I’m a state of Texas employee (in a temporary role that has lasted 6 years).

6 months ago I was offered a permanent position with another state agency for a position I think I would have really liked! I told my manager ( who is “high” up). Well that person asked me to stay and said he would do everything he could to find me a permanent role in my current agency. I said “okay, I’ll stay”.

Fast forward, now I am told my job is ending next month. Not a word has been mentioned to me regarding this “permanent position promised”.

Ive had meeting with these people and radio silence yet ironically other temporary employees were given permanent positions from this said promiser.

Various actions from management has proven they don’t really care for me as a human (which it’s not like I expect them to but I’m really treated second class).

I might add I have a disability which doesn’t make me a warm and fuzzy small talk employee although my actual work is A++++ and confirmed in 6 straight reviews. I really feel like if I were an expert at warm and fuzzy work place politics they would have found a permanent position.

I doubt I have any recourse… what would you do? I’m currently applying for other jobs

While im visiting Reno I’m going to be looking at the Montage and Palladio complexes. Curious if anyone lives at either and would like to share pro and cons.

What’s the noise like? Can you hear the street from your unit? Any dog amenities? Also in general what do you love and hate about living in downtown? TIA

Don’t state of Texas employees get assistance in writing a will? If so, can someone point me in the right direction. I saw nothing on ERS. TIA

Update: I called ERS no will help. I called EAP (employee assistance) and after answering a zillion questions and talking to 3 different ppl they said they could find me a discount attorney. Texas Legal monthly fee plan seems like the best bet.