u/UnicornSparklle

For some background, 17F, go to a school in a pretty rural area. It’s well-funded and provides decent educational opportunities, but lots of resources, like counselors and social workers, are lacking. A year ish back, my family discovered that I had been talking to/in a relationship with a 50yr old man for two years (since I was 15) and forced me to see the school social worker. She was never particularly kind to me, treated and spoke to me like I was an idiot, and would berate me when I didn’t reply how she wanted. Some time later, after I had stopped talking to her (after I found out she had been discussing things I told her with my mother) I discovered that she had been telling a teacher of mine about what we talked about during our time together as well. This was a teacher that I was not close with and had had previous issues with in the past. They had essentially gossiped about me together. The teacher she told was leaving at the end of that year anyways (got fired for swearing at students and shit-talking them to their peers) which is why I think she told me during June of the school year instead of November/December when it all happened, not wanting to face the consequences for engaging in those discussions.

When I found out everything she had said about me (it’s a long list of terrible things that I can elaborate on in comments if needed) I went down to her office and yelled at her, which maybe I shouldn’t have done, but I felt incredibly violated that she would tell ANYONE, let alone I teacher I had issues with, about my personal problems in such a manner. It wasn’t out of concern, like “hey this student is struggling”, it was malicious and disgusting and I heard all about what she thought and said about me. When I confronted her, she tried to speak to me like it was another one of our sessions, wanting to “therapize” or whatever. She told me that she thought I had been “groomed in order to see how the people in my life would react” because she “couldn’t understand how someone so smart would allow that to happen to themselves” and couldn’t see why I was “too ignorant” to see that I was being exploited. Her exact words. I was genuinely beyond mad it was insane. So, I reported her, and the school district informed me and my family that she would not be coming back the following year after looking into and validating all the claims (aka she was fired).

I didn’t feel too too bad about it because of everything she said about me and to me, but my friend told me that by reporting her I had taken away so many people’s support system. She was the only social worker at our school, so most people who couldn’t afford therapists went to her instead as a free mental health resource. AITAH? Should i have not reported her? My friend said I was being selfish and making it a bigger deal than it had to be

For some background, 17F, go to a school in a pretty rural area. It’s well-funded and provides decent educational opportunities, but lots of resources, like counselors and social workers, are lacking. A year ish back, my family discovered that I had been talking to/in a relationship with a 50yr old man for two years (since I was 15) and forced me to see the school social worker. She was never particularly kind to me, treated and spoke to me like I was an idiot, and would berate me when I didn’t reply how she wanted. Some time later, after I had stopped talking to her (after I found out she had been discussing things I told her with my mother) I discovered that she had been telling a teacher of mine about what we talked about during our time together as well. This was a teacher that I was not close with and had had previous issues with in the past. They had essentially gossiped about me together. The teacher she told was leaving at the end of that year anyways (got fired for swearing at students and shit-talking them to their peers) which is why I think she told me during June of the school year instead of November/December when it all happened, not wanting to face the consequences for engaging in those discussions.

When I found out everything she had said about me (it’s a long list of terrible things that I can elaborate on in comments if needed) I went down to her office and yelled at her, which maybe I shouldn’t have done, but I felt incredibly violated that she would tell ANYONE, let alone I teacher I had issues with, about my personal problems in such a manner. It wasn’t out of concern, like “hey this student is struggling”, it was malicious and disgusting and I heard all about what she thought and said about me. When I confronted her, she tried to speak to me like it was another one of our sessions, wanting to “therapize” or whatever. She told me that she thought I had been “groomed in order to see how the people in my life would react” because she “couldn’t understand how someone so smart would allow that to happen to themselves” and couldn’t see why I was “too ignorant” to see that I was being exploited. Her exact words. I was genuinely beyond mad it was insane. So, I reported her, and the school district informed me and my family that she would not be coming back the following year after looking into and validating all the claims (aka she was fired).

I didn’t feel too too bad about it because of everything she said about me and to me, but my friend told me that by reporting her I had taken away so many people’s support system. She was the only social worker at our school, so most people who couldn’t afford therapists went to her instead as a free mental health resource. AITBF? Should i have not reported her? My friend said I was being selfish and only thinking about myself.

For some background, 17F, go to a school in a pretty rural area. It’s well-funded and provides decent educational opportunities, but lots of resources, like counselors and social workers, are lacking. A year ish back, my family discovered that I had been talking to/in a relationship with a 50yr old man for two years (since I was 15) and forced me to see the school social worker. She was never particularly kind to me, treated and spoke to me like I was an idiot, and would berate me when I didn’t reply how she wanted. Some time later, after I had stopped talking to her (after I found out she had been discussing things I told her with my mother) I discovered that she had been telling a teacher of mine about what we talked about during our time together as well. This was a teacher that I was not close with and had had previous issues with in the past. They had essentially gossiped about me together. The teacher she told was leaving at the end of that year anyways (got fired for swearing at students and shit-talking them to their peers) which is why I think she told me during June of the school year instead of November/December when it all happened, not wanting to face the consequences for engaging in those discussions.

When I found out everything she had said about me (it’s a long list of terrible things that I can elaborate on in comments if needed) I went down to her office and yelled at her, which maybe I shouldn’t have done, but I felt incredibly violated that she would tell ANYONE, let alone I teacher I had issues with, about my personal problems in such a manner. It wasn’t out of concern, like “hey this student is struggling”, it was malicious and disgusting and I heard all about what she thought and said about me. When I confronted her, she tried to speak to me like it was another one of our sessions, wanting to “therapize” or whatever. She told me that she thought I had been “groomed in order to see how the people in my life would react” because she “couldn’t understand how someone so smart would allow that to happen to themselves” and couldn’t see why I was “too ignorant” to see that I was being exploited. Her exact words. I was genuinely beyond mad it was insane. So, I reported her, and the school district informed me and my family that she would not be coming back the following year after looking into and validating all the claims (aka she was fired).

I didn’t feel too too bad about it because of everything she said about me and to me, but my friend told me that by reporting her I had taken away so many people’s support system. She was the only social worker at our school, so most people who couldn’t afford therapists went to her instead as a free mental health resource. AITAH? Should i have not reported her? My friend said I was being selfish and only thinking about myself.

Me and my friend were drunk the other night and I opened up to her about never feeling attractive. To comfort me, she said that she “didn’t have ugly friends”, and wouldn’t be friends with ugly people, implying that because I’m her friend, I couldn’t possibly be unattractive. Problem is, we have a mutual friend that is objectively unattractive. Nice girl, but not very beautiful. This kinda just made me sigh. She later proposed we go on Omegle, where she then had random guys rate our looks. My friend is a very beautiful girl, and I don’t think she did anything out of malice, but yikes did that night suck. Do I bring it up?

I love Reddit and I love reading people’s posts, but I often feel shocked by the amount of hatred that gets spread on this app. People are so quick to make assumptions about your life, family, intelligence level, and general character from a 200 word post about an opinion on a TV show or your incorrect guess about a species of plant. It’s just so intensely angry ALL THE TIME. Someone could post the most mild “Am I The Asshole” story of all time, and there will be 200 comments calling them terrible and evil and judgmental and despicable without realizing or caring that they are probably being a bigger asshole in a comment section than OP is in real life.

Probably weird to ask teachers considering the whole plug thing but it’s school-based so why not ask. Basically I have this plug in my math class who I’ll call A. He wanted me to read his, frankly terrible, essay on Thomas Jefferson and have me review it. Keep in mind that he knows who I am and my beliefs and stuff and I’m not a very tactful person so I wasn’t sure what kind of feedback he was hoping for but it wasn’t good. In one of the paragraphs he describes Jefferson as having “reproduced with his slaves” which frankly irked me. He never even named Sally Hemings, the teenage girl Jefferson had brutally and continuously raped, and the use of the word “reproduce”, though technically accurate, deliberately aimed to strip the conversation of the necessary disgust and outrage it needed. When I told him that, he said he didn’t want to use the “r word” because it was a “bad word”. He is eighteen years old and sells drugs mind you. Anyways I told him that ignoring the word means sugarcoating the problem and euphemisms intentionally fail to convey the severity of actions in order to be palatable. The people at my table, who he also sells drugs to, told me I was being too woke and intense. I understand that I can be a tad much about these things sometimes, which is why I think I might’ve overreacted, but at the same time he’s a grown man calling rape a “bad word” while he sells me and my table mates drugs during class so idk. Do you guys even teach about sally hemings in class? He’s in regular history and I’m in APUSH so I’m not sure how much of a difference there is. Would you guys have been put off by the use of the word “rape” instead of “reproduce” in a paper?

The title pretty much says it all, but I’ll expand anyways. I’m 17F and all my life I’ve been “cute” more than beautiful. I’ve seen all my friends begin to date or have talking stages or situationships and whenever anyone asks why I haven’t, I usually wave it off and say I’m too busy with school to date. The truth is, I don’t think anybody wants to date me. I’m not sure if it’s my personality or my looks or what, but it feels like teenage love is passing me by, and I feel ugly for it. It’s gotten to the point where I’ll look for validation anywhere, even if it’s unsafe or objectively gross. Though I always feel uneasy being catcalled in the moment, thinking about it afterwards makes me feel at least a little pretty. So I purposefully put myself in situations that give me that feeling. Walking around the worst parts of the city, seeking out hotspots for criminal activity, being unsafe online. And it makes me feel ashamed. I’d consider myself a prude (virgin, not all that comfortable talking about sex, that kind of stuff) but all this attention I seek makes me feel like a slut. And then I worry that as I get older, less and less people are going to want me. That I’m going to “expire” and lose what little validation I get, and that it’ll push me to put myself in even more dangerous situations just to feel pretty again.

The title pretty much says it all, but I’ll expand anyways. I’m 17F and all my life I’ve been “cute” more than beautiful. I’ve seen all my friends begin to date or have talking stages or situationships and whenever anyone asks why I haven’t, I usually wave it off and say I’m too busy with school to date. The truth is, I don’t think anybody wants to date me. I’m not sure if it’s my personality or my looks or what, but it feels like teenage love is passing me by, and I feel ugly for it. It’s gotten to the point where I’ll look for validation anywhere, even if it’s unsafe or objectively gross. Though I always feel uneasy being catcalled in the moment, thinking about it afterwards makes me feel at least a little pretty. So I purposefully put myself in situations that give me that feeling. Walking around the worst parts of the city, seeking out hotspots for criminal activity, being unsafe online. And it makes me feel ashamed. I’d consider myself a prude but all this attention I seek makes me feel like a slut. And then I worry that as I get older, less and less people are going to want me. That I’m going to “expire” and lose what little validation I get, and that it’ll push me to put myself in even more dangerous situations just to feel pretty again.

Half the time people post stuff on Reddit that’s interesting enough to actually be readable, they do it on a throwaway account. When a million popular subreddits put karma requirements to post it kind of takes away from the whole point of Reddit. It makes it so frustrating to find a much smaller subreddit where you’ll only get advice from like two people just because it doesn’t have a karma requirement. I understand why it’s there, but it’s getting real annoying. SO MANY GOOD POSTS ARE FROM THROWAWAYS FOR A REASON! it’s the juicy stuff they don’t want other people knowing they’re posting! It’s the shameful stuff! It’s the entertaining stuff! Like cmon!

Guys I know why it’s there! I still think some of the karma requirements can be stupid and it usually leads to more spam because people will just post anything for some karma just to be able to post on bigger subreddits

Hi everyone, this is my first time posting, so sorry if it’s kinda long!
For some background, I had been dating my boyfriend for over a year before we broke up (since I was 15 to now 17) (we’re still “friends”, it’s weird) and in that time, he had bought me maybe seven or eight hundred dollars worth of fancy VS bras. My friend, who I’ll call A, had never approved of my relationship with him and never wanted to hear about it because there was an age gap that she didn’t like. This didn’t bother me too much, as I respected her boundaries, and recently we’ve kind of grown apart quite a bit. A has a boyfriend, and they’ve recently started getting intimate. She doesn’t really talk to me about him, and at this point I feel like me and her are more acquaintances than real friends. Which is why I was surprised when she asked, repeatedly, if she could borrow some of the bras my ex had bought me for when her and her boyfriend did stuff.

Now, I’m not weird about sharing clothes, I do it all the time, and I lowkey wouldn’t have even been that annoyed by the bra thing had we been closer. But she has made it abundantly clear that she wants to hear nothing about my relationship with my ex, which I’ve totally respected, so now I feel kind of irked that she wants to wear things he bought me. Especially since she didn’t even really ask, and more told our friend group that she was going to go “bra shopping” in my closet. I talked to a few mutual friends about it and they don’t see the issue since I share my clothes all the time, and it’s not like I ever had sex in any of the bras, but I think my issue stems more from her disregard for my relationship than it does for the clothes. I never faulted her for not wanting to hear about it, but I feel kind of miffed I guess that she demonized my relationship so hard and was always judging me and my ex, and now wants to benefit from it. I told her that I didn’t want her to wear them, and now I’ve been hearing from people that she’s talking shit about me behind my back and calling me selfish. AITAH? Should I have just let her wear them?