u/Vex_Appeal

Guys, don’t ever give up. My wife walked out on me about two months ago. The first six or seven weeks were extremely difficult. Especially since I found out that she started dating people almost immediately after.

I started going to the gym like crazy, therapy, and being social. Even on the days when I didn’t want to. The gym made me look better and feel better, therapy helped me heal, and being social got me back in the swing of things.

SO the good part. Someone from my past came back into my life and it’s like I stumbled on a lake in a desert. She’s amazing and excels in everything my wife lacked like sexual chemistry and libido. She actually wants sex and she’s gorgeous, I feel like the luckiest man in the world. And I’ll tell you what, I kind of don’t care what my wife does anymore. I have my own thing to worry about.

My wife knows something up but she’s been too afraid to ask. Things can change really fast though, so just make sure you’re ready. Because luck is where preparation meets opportunity. And I might just be the luckiest guy ever.

I posted here about 10 months ago about finding TRT and being 95% recovered. I then posted a few months after saying I had relapsed to around 50%.

Well in June the wife asked for a divorce out of nowhere. I was or thought I was very sick, but the day after she walked out? A lot of my symptoms disappeared. And she kept the house around 70, now that it’s around 78 I don’t get cold so I don’t get cold sweats.

I don’t think any of it was LC relapse. I think this broken marriage was depressing me and I was able to see it clearly once the physical parts of me were fixed by TRT. I’m sad and hurt but I have hope now, I go to the gym almost every day and I have momentum. I get a 2nd shot at life.

I’m back to saying 95% recovery but only because I don’t live with someone that sucks the life and energy out of me anymore.

Right now we have agreed to her helping for 3 months, but I have been running the numbers and it looks like I need to tell her that while she may not be able to do a full half of the mortgage, maybe she can do a couple hundred bucks because I can’t afford this place on my own and it’s not like I wanted this divorce or separation. It’s also not like I did anything wrong to cause this. Her feelings just changed and she walked out.

What’s reasonable? I understand that if she’s paying me for mortgage than she can’t get herself an apartment, but if I can’t afford this house, none of that is relevant because neither of us want a foreclosure.

I have thought about asking for a half contribution for month four and a 25% contribution for month five. Then month 6 I’m in my own.

Seems like a lot of guys go through some version of this: wife’s feelings quietly fade, she says nothing until she’s already decided on divorce. No warning, no chance to fix it.

For about two years, my wife was falling out of love with me and never said a word. I brought it up multiple times over the past year :“you’re not treating me like a partner” and every time she denied it, told me she loved me, and told me I wasn’t losing her. She had every chance to be honest. She wasn’t.

She left the night after finally admitting it was over. I suspect the GLP-1 drugs numbed her emotionally and she blamed the relationship and me, and starting a new SSRI the week before didn’t help. The sweet, loving person I married is gone.

She started reaching out to exes within a week of asking for divorce, filed a week after that, and didn’t tell me for three weeks. She’s since slept with at least two people. I gave her ten years and she treated it and me like nothing.

Maybe this is always who she but the first 8 years were good. I know she’s ashamed of the affairs because she makes up huge elaborate backstories about how she’s working on herself and trying not to be codependent. Lmao. She doesn’t know I know and if I keep getting everything I want I’ll keep my mouth shut about it. For now.

I’m about 2 months out and she’s trying to rush me, she even had the nerve to say that all of this divorce stuff needs to get wrapped up before her parents vacation so that they’re not worried while they’re on it… She’s just a selfish sociopathic monster that I don’t recognize.

I have an iPhone 17 pro and have been using it to stream Wild Rift but now I want to put myself on camera.

Do I just need a laptop? Any specifications I’d need to handle this?

I’m a total noob so I’m sorry if these are dumb questions but I didn’t know where to start.

I have the 17 pro but want either the 17 pro max or 18 pro.

How does it really work? Do I lose all the “equity” I have in the phone now from payments made already and just start a new plan over or do I get credit for any of that?

Trying to make a Tinder profile that is like catnip for tortas.

What should I put in my bio and what kind of picture should I take?

Does it help that I’m slender and muscular? Should I wear glasses or contacts?

40m in TX my wife asked for a divorce about a month ago and we have been separated since. We’ve been in contact pretty much the entire time, but there have been some fights and cool off periods.

Well I found out she fucked an ex and I’m all of a sudden ready to sign the papers. I don’t tell her that I know, but I reach out and say that I’m ready to sign.

And she ends up revealing at some point that she had actually already filed for divorce over three weeks ago. Just decided not to tell me. So 3 weeks of cooling off period now gone for me without my knowledge.

At first, she said it doesn’t change anything and it’s not a big deal. We are doing this pro se, so I told her this was a huge violation of trust and that imagine if we had lawyers, how pissed mine would be right now. We basically are our own lawyers.

Then she said she didn’t tell me because we were fighting. I went and looked at the text and the days before she filed and the following week at the very least, we were getting along and sending each other, cat pictures. I send her those screenshots.

Then she finally landed on “you weren’t ready to know yet”. Eventually, she apologized and as an olive branch, she brought over our third cat that she had taken from the house a few weeks ago, breaking my heart more than the divorce tbh.

Anyways, should I just forgive and forget? Should I tell her that I want 21 days added to the cooling off period? Is that reasonable? We likely won’t be ready at that point anyway. I still haven’t been served yet, does anything change after I get served? Should I delay it?

I was blindsided, she admitted as much and that she’s the bad guy and I did nothing wrong blah blah blah. Her feelings changed and she didn’t say anything so resentment grew and now it’s too late. Cool 10 years down the drain, anyways:

I work from home and I don’t wanna lose the house. It’s only been 18 months of payments. She’s already gone and has been gone since Wednesday and it looks like she’s never coming back except to get things and help clean. She has committed to help me with the mortgage until I can find a roommate. And we’re discussing what we’re gonna do with the house going forward with just me living here.

I think I wanna have her retain some financial stake, but forfeit the right to occupy. I’m in Texas, and it looks like this is certainly possible with contracts. Basically she’d get something if and when I sell. The alternative is that we sell the house and end up having to pay up to $5000 to walk away.

Any advice? She’s been really reasonable, but I’m starting to wonder if she was cheating because of how she’s acting so guilty. She’s on the same phone provider as me and I think she’s smart enough not to use her text or calls for cheating. But she easily could use a separate app for communication or do most of the cheating at work.

I wanna know, just because of how much more leverage it would give me. How do you guys go about investigating their wives for cheating?

Did anyone else cry during the final battle? When Mob is trying to save the Claw guy but eventually gives up and beats him down.

I don’t know, I feel like this show blindsided me. It was just a fun little thing I put on to pass time. And I enjoyed it. It was funny and interesting.

But this… this is beautiful, this is peak. Mob is a beautiful character.

I’m in a pretty emotional state, I might not have been able to appreciate it if I wasn’t. But am I alone here? Did this show speak to you in this episode specifically in anyway?

I think 2199 was brilliant and ahead of its time. I know they changed things for the remake but still the core was fantastic pre Star Wars sci-fi with original ideas that we still see copied today.

2202 had some incredible visuals but I didn’t enjoy it nearly as much. I stuck around because I love the characters from the first season. It wasn’t bad I just was tired of the formula of hey we’re in danger, ok let’s fight but no WM gun!, but we really need the WM gun captain, oh shit the enemy just blew up the day care and boarded the ship, firing the WM gun!

And I really didn’t agree with Kodai’s interpretation of the promise. Iscandar lady said “don’t become like us”, who were conquerors with WM guns and used it for evil. She didn’t say don’t defend yourself against a cosmic threat with it. And lo and behold what saves the day? A super special WM gun shot. And then I think Theresa extra saves the day by merging with the Yamato? Everyone abandons ship except Kodai and Yuki but somehow Yamamoto gets left behind in the engine room.

Anyways everyone is just chilling and then the Yamato appears in the time fault and they find the aforementioned Yamamoto but no Kodai or Yuki. They apparently are in another or higher dimension. That’s fine, there’s plenty of weird stuff but I think I’m following. So then Theresa keeps telling Kodia he can go back to Earth and he ignores her and keeps walking around. Then a baby arm grabs him? And Theresa talks again. Then the Yamato shows up but I don’t understand how they got to them?

Tl:dr just the questions

1. How did Akira not make it off the ship?

2. How did Theresa merging save the day and did she die?

3. Why didn’t Keyman or Akio want to come back to life?

4. Why did Kodai ignore Theresa and who did that baby arm belong to?

5. How did the Yamato get fixed up so fast and what did the do? Drive to a specific spot in space?

6. So Saito was a Gatlantian zombie soldier? I forgot if he got a happy ending.

Sorry, not really a flair for “unimprovement” of symptoms.

TRT seemed like a miracle cure, maybe it still was? I feel like I’m back to square 1 and I want to fucking scream into the night sky.

3-4 weeks ago I got really sick. Probably COVID but I never test positive for it, ever. Not once. Shit maybe it was the flu but the result was the same.

Wet puddle night sweats are back! Sweating all day? Back! Feeling cold even in the Texas heat?! We’re back baby! Fatigue? Sorta back but there’s an army of pharmaceuticals and supplements keeping it at bay. I’ve also felt depression and anxiety intensify.

I’m just angry, and sad. I don’t want to live like this anymore. I thought I was done. I still have hope I can get back so please don’t take this as me being suicidal. I’m just angry enough to cry and break my hand on a door and need to vent to people that understand. No one in my life really does, they sympathize but they can’t empathize.

Anybody else claim they were cured, only for symptoms to return? I swear I’ve told my family and friends that I was “finally cured” probably at least five or six times over the past six years but this “cure” lasted the longest, over 6 months so that’s good right? Silver linings suck when you originally thought they were permanent improvements.

What 5 shows max are your must watches. Whether it’s a timeless classic that stands alone at the top in quality or originality, a newer show that immediately changed the game, or just something so important to anime as a whole that everyone needs to see it.

I’m relatively new to being obsessed with anime but my 5 must watch shows would be Evangelion, Re:Zero, Cowboy Beebop, Ghost in the Shell, and Frieren. Those 5 blew me away for vastly different reasons. What are yours?

I have thoroughly enjoyed the past 5 episodes, I haven’t been this happy watching an anime since Frieren but it’s way past that. I’m almost embarrassed that I keep catching myself smiling while watching this, it’s so wholesome. Anyways, after the train scene at the end of episode 5 I was sitting there thinking this is already great but it would be perfect if we got Marin’s perspective. I kept thinking I wish we could hear what’s going on in her head through all of this. Then the very next episode actually gives us that and I was way more excited about it than I expected.

I really like how the show handles Marin. A lot of animes put pretty girls on a pedestal and make them feel unreal and almost alien, but here she just feels like a normal person. It feels like the show actually understands that and leans into it, which I appreciate a lot. Ok well I’m going to go back and binge, just a thought from an instant fan.

Ideally a gun or something as powerful. A lot of shows have magic and avoid guns to the best of their ability because they’re game breaking. Anyone lean into this and have the MC bring like, a gun to a world where swords and magic dominate?