u/Wide_Importance6892

Hi all,

How do you guys deal with discrimination with preceptors? I am being threatened with dismissal from my APPE rotation because I do not have a “growth mindset”, because I do not initiate conversation during rounds.

This is literally just my personality. I come in, and do the work, but because I do not speak to anyone really, it is an issue. I have always had a naturally guarded personality, especially around much stronger personalities. It is the result of having very little autonomy for most of my life. I really need to know how to make it through this rotation, because I’m finding that I keep running into this issue just about everywhere I go.

I’m honestly at a point where I am irritated as hell and just need to get out of this program. I have really enjoyed this rotation too, which is sad.

I (28F) am the youngest sibling of a blue collar, fundamentalist baptist family. I have spent my entire life neglected and controlled by my parents and older siblings. My parents are truly awful people and my oldest brother is just as awful, if not worse than them.

I have spent the past 27 of 28 of my years caring for my parents’ emotional and health needs while everyone in my family was absolutely horrible to me. I’m not doing it. My siblings are completely on their own with this one. During this time I also built a life for myself, obtained the highest college degree in our family, even ran a marathon, and no one was there, physically, to support me during a time I really could have used support. Not a soul. Not even just family, friends as well. I’m done. I deserve better than to have to fight for basic respect.

I deserved better than to be treated like a joke for my entire life. Best of luck and don’t call me asking what meds our parents take. While we’re at it, never talk to me ever again. I mean it. I want absolutely nothing to do with any of you assholes. I will not be giving you any money in a few years after you tanked your own lives. I won’t be shocked to find my brother’s DV and p*dophilia charges in a few years. While we’re at it, let’s get that drug screen and SA record pulled up as well. I can at least take accountability for the things I have done to others, would love to see you do the same. Best of luck, see you never.

Edit: older people on reddit (state your age), does this get better with time? Or is it worth it to cut ties entirely? I recently spoke with my aunt, my mom’s younger sister, about this to gauge her perspective. But I could use further advice on how to navigate this.

Does anyone have any experiences of severe physical abuse when they were a child?

I (28F) am curious as I have started sharing a bit more and people look shocked when I share that I was abused by my parents and that my oldest brother (35M) used to hold butcher knives up to my neck, throw me into furniture, drown me in swimming pools. I didn’t know if this was normal or not and was looking for outside perspectives. Thanks!

Does anyone have any experiences of severe physical abuse when they were a child?

I (28F) am curious as I have started sharing a bit more and people look shocked when I share that I was abused by my parents and that my oldest brother (35M) used to hold butcher knives up to my neck, throw me into furniture, drown me in swimming pools. I didn’t know if this was normal or not and was looking for outside perspectives. Thanks!

Exactly what is mentioned above. I do not want kids, nor will ever want kids. This is a fact I have known about myself since I was a young girl. I am simply looking for a quick route to retirement & out of an incredibly toxic work environment. 28F, finishing higher education, trying my hardest to protect myself from the Nationalists who expect me to fall in line with societal/cultural norms. I have a cover for myself if people ask me about marriage/kids in the future.

MUST be a secret and would be a 100% platonic roommate agreement, ideally with another high earner who has a professional identity to protect or someone who understands what it is like to live with a private individual. Would also consider an arrangement with an older gentleman with a private personal life. Or could consider an arrangement with a stable couple who is looking to save money on rent. Can be a short term or long term arrangement, depending on what both parties see fit.

If this goes outside of the bounds of a financial arrangement, the arrangement will be terminated. DM me if interested. If the arrangement becomes overly controlling and/or conflict heavy from either party, the arrangement will be terminated.

Edit: title says “relationship” but this would strictly be a financial/business roommate arrangement