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Tl:dr: My ex broke up with me and came back. Now I still have feelings for her but we’re not very compatible. I need to chose between her and another girl with whom I’m very compatible, but who I do not love yet

My ex broke up with me about a year and a half ago. We had been together for two years and were very much in love. Obviously, I dated casually after the breakup and recently became FWBs with a new girl. The new girl is smart, pretty, fun to talk to, shares my interests, and the physical connection is incredible.

Until recently though, she was clear that she didn’t want it to be anything exclusive, so when my ex reached out to say that she missed me, I started talking to her again. (In fact, they both know about each other, so I’m not betraying either one’s trust). All of a sudden, everything that ever bothered me about my ex hit me all at once. She’s gorgeous and she’s kind, but she doesn’t share my interests, can’t solve her own problems, is passively self centered, the physical connection is nil, and is just generally a little air-headed.

This should make my choice simple, but here’s the problem. The new girl, has decided that she wants to be exclusive with me if I decide not to get back with my ex. I have so much fun with her and I like her a lot, but I don’t miss her when she’s gone and I don’t feel my heart race when I see her. The old girl annoys the hell out of me but I still get excited when she calls and I think it’s entirely possible I might still love her.

Both of them realize that they’ve put me in a difficult position, so they’re willing to wait and let me figure it out, but obviously I don’t want to prolong it. I just find myself oscillating from one to the other on a near daily basis. What do I do?

My figure drawings are passable, but nothing to write home about. I work from reference and don’t have a ton of interest in working from imagination, so anatomy tends to be less of a focus because, as long as I accurately draw what I’m seeing, it turns out okay.

That said, I wanted ti try my hand at some anatomy studies because it seems like something an aspiring artist should do. The more I research though, the less clear what an “anatomy study” actually is becomes. Many people are even opposed to the use of anatomy books that are floating around.

Is it a series of sketches of specific body parts in different orientations that detail the underlying musculature? Are they tracings of existing works that have the muscular insertions highlighted? What kind of practice should I put in that will be useful for the “atelier style” drawing that I’d like to achieve?

The funniest part of this sub is finishing the hardest crossword of your life, only to go to the comments where, invariably, someone has written “Cute puzzle. Pretty easy for a [insert day] though.”

Edit: For the record, I don’t begrudge them this at all. When I say “funny”, I do really mean that it makes me chuckle to get ego-checked like that

I’ve been drawing portraits with both graphite and charcoal for the better part of a year, with vague aspirations of moving to oil painting eventually. Right now my drawings are passable. I can usually draw a faithful depiction of an individual and have gotten better at conveying both emotion and various intensities of lighting.

My question is, so I wait until my drawing skills are “perfect”?

For what it’s worth, I don’t care at all if someone is googling answers to keep their gold streak alive. It has no impact on me and I’m happy they’re enjoying the hobby.

I’m curious though, are these people really NEVER stumped by a cross requiring two pieces of trivia that they have no way of knowing? Or have they just gotten so good that they’re able to work it out no matter what?

It seems inconceivable to me that these folks can go years without getting screwed over even once by bad cluing or an incomprehensible theme.

My ex dumped me in a pretty traumatic way almost 2 years ago now. She wasn’t cruel or disloyal, but she was thoughtless in the way she went about it. She was my first and only serious, long-term girlfriend and we had even been living together up to that point.

After the breakup, she continued to reach out occasionally, often intimating that she missed me but wasn’t “ready” to come back yet. This kept me on the hook and made it hard to heal for a long time.

Just recently, she reached out and explained that she missed me, that she thought about me every day, and that she wanted to know if it was too late. I told her that I needed time to think about it and that we should talk, because I needed to get a bunch of stuff off my chest before I could even consider the prospect.

Now that we’ve been hanging out a bit again, I worry that, despite the fact that there are still feelings there, we’re not compatible. I don’t begrudge her any of what happened when we were breaking up, but when I look at her, my heart doesn’t speed up the way that it used to. I might even still love her, and I definitely don’t want to hurt her, but I don’t know that I want to try. And it hurts all the more because it’s clear that she wants it so bad and so badly regrets what happened.

This girl is gorgeous, exceedingly kind, and an artist, which I find admirable. But we are now incompatible in so many ways too. We don’t have many common interests and theres just no heat between us.

I’ve been seeing a girl casually who has started to imply that she wants to take things to the next level. She’s also very pretty, she’s very smart, and the physical connection is unreal. I haven’t made a choice yet, but I’m leaning in the direction of making things work with her. (For the record, both of these women know about each other and I’m not lying to either one about my seeing them at the same time).

I just don’t know what to do. I was hoping that someone from this sub may be able to contribute some advice or stories of their own. I can’t believe that I’m thinking about rejecting my dream girl but I just don’t know what to do.

Ishiura was my favorite wrestler when he was active. I thought his style was consistently entertaining. He was on the small side but made up for it with his build, aggression, and strong repertoire of throws.

Is there anyone with a similar style in the top division currently?