Inappropriate Workplace Behavior - Attempted to Fix, but Being Bullied Instead
Hello!
For context, I am an autistic person who was openly queer, and I struggle with social interactions but still try to do better and expand.
No excuses, just reasons.
These coworkers have previously invited me out places, and we used to hang due to proximity. Early last year, I got too comfortable and made some inappropriate comments to two of them. Overfamiliar, and I totally crossed a line - I get that.
Never did it again. No leadership was involved to address it, and nobody said anything.
I noticed maybe a few months later that their behavior changed, so I asked them if I ever made them uncomfortable. They yelled "No!" And "Who told you that?" So I accepted it.
Fast forward more months later, they are jumping when they didn't notice me, or talking and laughing when as soon as I come in, they go stark quiet. We used to greet each other in the mornings but have stopped on both sides.
I used to also offer them leftover products.
Then, I went to a new location nearby. The new staff are fine with me until, at one point, the girls visit a few times.
On their last visit, they speak with another coworker who goes from bright and happy to completely ignoring me and actively antagonizing me.
One of the main coworkers comes up to me and yells my name giddily, but I just stared at her in confusion.
I have no problem admitting when I am wrong, but what's the point in lying to me just to actively bully me?
It honestly consumes my daily thoughts. I hate hurting people's feelings or making them uncomfortable.