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Hi there. 34yo who's never been to a dentist and is terrified to go. But I'm experiencing some minor pain in a molar and I know I should get it looked at before it gets worse. I don't understand anything about the dentist though. I've tried to ask a couple people I know about it, and their responses of "just phone a dentist and make an appointment" were less than helpful. If it makes a difference, I'm located in British Columbia Canada.

I'm an autistic female and don't do well in unfamiliar environments that I don't understand, nor do I do well with strangers touching me. To add to the fun, I'm also a survivor of some heavily traumatic experiences and as a result I am pretty much unable to tolerate having my face, head, or neck touched by anyone. I'm terrified that I'll need to be restrained and/or sedated just for the dentist to be able to look inside my mouth, let alone actually do anything to me.

My questions are:

-How do I know if a dentist is taking on new patients? How do I become a new patient? I assume I have to phone different offices (a whole different issue, I hate phone calls lmao) but what do I say to them?

-What will happen during the appointment? How long does it take? How invasive is it? How long do I have to keep my mouth open? If my jaw gets sore can I take a break and close my mouth for a second?

-What kind of weird stuff goes in your mouth? Are there gross tastes and textures involved? Someone I know mentioned to me that their dentist put some kind of weird foam or gel into their mouth that made them gag. I have severe oral texture issues, what happens if they put something in my mouth that makes me gag or throw up?

-Do dentists have any kind of training in working with traumatized/neurodivergent individuals? What will they do if I start to have a hard time? Can we take a break if needed or am I just trapped there from start to finish while they do whatever it is they do?

Before anyone asks: I am not currently in therapy but have been in the past, I am currently looking to see what I can get covered by my extended benefits through my job. I'm aware that my trauma issues would benefit from therapy but I don't necessarily have the option to slog through months of trauma therapy to get me comfortable enough to see a dentist when I'm experiencing dental issues that should probably be dealt with sooner rather than later. So please don't suggest that I seek therapy, it's in the works but is not any kind of solution to my present situation.

Thank you!

My partner (37f) and I (34f) will be traveling soon. Mentioning for additional context that the trip is a birthday gift for her to an event she's wanted to attend for years. We don't travel often but I love planning trips and happily take on the task when we get the chance to do so. Recently a small issue arose with our hotel reservation, and the hotel needed to be contacted about it. I have terrible social anxiety due to autism and struggle tremendously with phone calls, so my partner offered to call for me. At first I declined, but she continued to offer saying that she didn't want me to get needlessly stressed. I accepted her offer and she assured me that she didn't mind calling, she was happy to help me out since I'd gone to so much effort to plan such a special trip for her.

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Three days go by, and she still hasn't called to discuss the issue. Each day she's said "I'm sorry I didn't call today, I'll do it tomorrow". Again, we are traveling for a specific event that she has wanted to attend for years, so this is time sensitive. In the meantime, I had emailed the hotel but not received a response. I informed my partner of this on day 4, and asked her if she could please call them. She said it didn't matter and that she'd rather not go on the trip if I was just going to get mad at her about it. I tried to reassure her that I wasn't upset at all, but we were running out of time and that I would really appreciate it if she could just call them like she'd told me she would.

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She proceeds to go off the deep end at me. Starts flipping out about how she only said she'd call because she knew I wouldn't, how I could have just done it myself and gotten my answer days ago, how she was going to call them on her own time and I have no right to "treat her like a dog" (her exact words) by making demands of her, how she doesn't think it's fair that she's being forced to call when I'm the one who planned the trip, how she never even wanted to go on this trip and it had all been my idea anyway. She ended up calling after about an hour, and spent the rest of the afternoon complaining about how unfair the situation was. She's been mad at me since, spent days trying to pick a fight until she finally blew up at me for an unrelated reason a few days ago.

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This isn't the first time she's ignored a time sensitive trip-related task and then lashed out at me when I've tried to discuss it with her. Three years ago we had to cancel our out of town adventure elopement due to her driver's license expiring and not being able to drive the rental car as a result (I cannot drive so there is no way I could have taken care of that in her stead, but it was her sole responsibility for qhat was supposed to be our wedding and again was something that she initially said she was more than happy to do), and then said it was my fault because I was expecting too much from her and because driving with me is so stressful that she just can't do it anymore, that she couldn't stand me forcing her to drive us on this trip.

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I don't understand her lashing out in these situations, and I don't understand someone making a huge deal about being politely reminded to fulfill a time sensitive obligation. Did I do something wrong? Is it bad to ask someone to do a time-sensitive task they said they'd do? Am I wrong to expect someone to fulfill their sole obligation for an event that I mainly planned? I haven't expected anything if her that she hasn't explicitly told me she's going to do and I don't understand why she gets angry with me over these things.

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My partner (37f) and I (34f) will be traveling soon. Mentioning for additional context that the trip is a birthday gift for her to an event she's wanted to attend for years. We don't travel often but I love planning trips and happily take on the task when we get the chance to do so. Recently a small issue arose with our hotel reservation, and the hotel needed to be contacted about it. I have terrible social anxiety due to autism and struggle tremendously with phone calls, so my partner offered to call for me. At first I declined, but she continued to offer saying that she didn't want me to get needlessly stressed. I accepted her offer and she assured me that she didn't mind calling, she was happy to help me out since I'd gone to so much effort to plan such a special trip for her.

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Three days go by, and she still hasn't called to discuss the issue. Each day she's said "I'm sorry I didn't call today, I'll do it tomorrow". Again, we are traveling for a specific event that she has wanted to attend for years, so this is time sensitive. In the meantime, I had emailed the hotel but not received a response. I informed my partner of this on day 4, and asked her if she could please call them. She said it didn't matter and that she'd rather not go on the trip if I was just going to get mad at her about it. I tried to reassure her that I wasn't upset at all, but we were running out of time and that I would really appreciate it if she could just call them like she'd told me she would.

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She proceeds to go off the deep end at me. Starts flipping out and yelling about how she only said she'd call because she knew I wouldn't, how I could have just done it myself and gotten my answer days ago, how she was going to call on her own time and I have no right to "treat her like a dog" (her exact words) by making demands of her, how she doesn't think it's fair that she's being forced to call when I'm the one who planned the trip, how she never even wanted to go on this trip and it had all been my idea anyway. She ended up calling after about an hour, and spent the rest of the afternoon complaining about how unfair the situation was. She's been mad at me since, spent days trying to pick a fight until she finally blew up at me for an unrelated reason a few days ago.

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This isn't the first time she's ignored a time sensitive trip-related task and then lashed out at me when I've tried to discuss it with her. Three years ago we had to cancel our out of town adventure elopement due to her driver's license expiring and not being able to drive the rental car as a result (I cannot drive so there is no way I could have taken care of that in her stead, but it was her sole responsibility for what was supposed to be our wedding and again was something that she initially said she was more than happy to do), and then said it was my fault because I was expecting too much from her and because driving with me is so stressful that she just can't do it anymore, that she couldn't stand me forcing her to drive us on this trip.

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I don't understand her lashing out in these situations, and I don't understand someone making a huge deal about being politely reminded to fulfill a time sensitive obligation. Did I do something wrong? Is it bad to ask someone to do a time-sensitive task they said they'd do? Am I wrong to expect someone to fulfill their sole obligation for an event that I mainly planned? I haven't expected anything if her that she hasn't explicitly told me she's going to do and I don't understand why she gets angry with me over these things.

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Edit: some comments have prompted me to add additional context that I originally did not provide out of respect for my partner's privacy, as these are details she does not like to have shared. When we met, she had a job, goals, ambitions. I had a partner. She is now jobless. Has been for years, is at the point where she refused to look further. Will not do schooling or volunteer work, just stays at home playing video games and watching TV. I work full time, 10 hour shifts at a busy, exhausting, and stressful job while doing as much of the household related things as I can manage. I fully provide for her. Clothes, groceries, medication, extra fun stuff when we can afford it. Her contributions to our relationship in recent years has consisted of cooking dinner a few nights a week, doing dishes and laundry when she feels like it, and complaining about how boring and miserable it is to be stuck as the housewife all the time. Our house is a mess, I do what I can to maintain it but between my job and my disabilities I cannot do it all. I get the bare minimum of help from her in any aspect of life, so yeah. When she specifically tells me she's gonna do something to help me out, I have the expectation that it'll get done because I really do expect so very little of her, and get far less help in our relationship than I need. I've tried to break up and she refuses, because then she'd have to get a job and be a grownup. I've tried to make it work because I've held out hope for far too long that the person I fell in love with would come back. I promise the expectation of the phone call was not "weaponized incompetence". I promise she is not in any sort of "mothering" or "caregiver" role in our relationship, if any one of us is in that role it's me. I'm literally expecting the bare minimum from her.