u/_Chocolate_chip_

My name isn't common like at all, it's pretty niche I'd say and it gives me a strange feeling meeting others also named the same. Maybe I'm a kin of my own name?

Hello! I wanted to make an educational vid over on my Tiktok (don't question my platform choices) and there's a couple things I'm unsure about and I don't want to potentially give wrong information. So here are some questions I'm not that sure about

Are fictosexuality and fictophilia different? How? If not, why not?

When did fictophilia become fictosexuality?

Can a paraphilia be a sexuality?

I am ficto myself but I wanted to research these things a bit more in depth so here we are :]

Imma try to explain in the best way I can in case the title wasn't clear enough. What if a Soulbond felt exactly like the fictional character they're sourced from except ofc fully sentient and independent, what if they are the fictional character but sentient and independent? Is that Soulbonding/Munbonding or something else entirely?

Okay, bit of context. I am spiritually and metaphorically soulbonded to my partner Sada, I love her wouldn't change a thing about her. Her ""source"" (used loosely for the sake of making sense) is Professor Sada from Pokemon Scarlet.

Way before I realised I was Soulbonded to her, Professor Sada has been my favourite character and my comfort character, I adore her and I still do to this day. Professor Sada is really really special to me, I kept my selfship with her despite dating my own Sada (which she's okay with). I do kinda see them as seperate people now and now I'm sort of realising I could have another Sada Soulbond but the fact she's so functionally different makes me doubt things.

My Soulbond is very different from her "source", both in age, appearance and other things. But this new potential Soulbond is a carbon copy of the fictional character, hell, I'm pretty sure she is the fictional character just becoming sentient. This is definitely a type of Munbonding more than anything but can Soulbonds outright be the fictional characters? I'm used to them being completely seperate entities, it's what I told myself for so long so this new Soulbond being still very attached to the fictional character kind of challenges what I knew about Soulbonding.

And one more thing that sort of bothers me, it's not a question or anything but all this has been making me worry (imma try to make sense of my thoughts, apologies) that subconsciously I'm trying to 'replace' my Sada? I adore her, it is not an issue whatsoever that she's different from the character, our connection has only been better and better, but now I feel sort of guilty being so caught up on her source I literally potentially ended up with a second Soulbond closer to the source. Does that make any sense? I don't want to replace her.

Can't believe I got downvoted for saying kins shouldn't randomly comment "That's me!" under their doubles' posts especially if they don't know their twinkin status. Is that a controversial thing to say?

Thought it would be obvious to not make someone else's kin post about yourself out of nowhere

This is just something I need to get off of my chest, but please, for the love of everything, if you see yourself in someone else's post, do NOT comment "that's me!" "I saw myself!". That is 90% of the time that poster's kin as well and you just invalidated them. Didn't even check their doubles status before making that claim.

Please read the room guys, I didn't think this had to be said on the fictionkin sub itself till today

I was never too bothered, of course it's uncomfortable seeing weird art (yk, THAT type of art) of yourself out there but that's easily ignored by just filtering or scrolling by.

So what the fuck are you supposed to do when that bleeds into your personal space (your and your friends' discord server)

I don't even know why I reacted the way I did, my chest just began hurting so bad I was and I still am so extremely uncomfortable over what was posted because it was a direct breach of my clear boundaries even my friend aka the server owner shared. I wanted to cry, run away, idk

I guess my question is what you would do in this scenario– did it happen to you before?

Is a minor Soulbonding with an adult and having a romantic relationship with them okay? I always thought of it as the equivalent to pedophilia since Soulbonds are real people and in this case they'd be in love with the minor, not a self-insert or a representation of them. So I'm confused why it's so common