u/astoldbysomxx

I’m 31. My grandma died a week ago. She was 80 and had a rare lung disease that caused COPD and liver damage. She has been so sick for the last 5 years and 2 years ago she had a stroke. I know grief is not a competition but I feel stupid being so upset over an 80 year old woman when people have lost their parents or children or siblings.

I was so lucky that I met most of my great-grandparents. I still have a great-grandma alive and my last great-grandpa died last year. So I just always assumed she’d live until her 90s or even 100 like her parents and in laws.

I’ve lost 2 classmates (went to a very small school), a dear friend, a cousin and a family friends daughter. But fuck the death of my 80 year old grandma feels like it’s going to kill me. I don’t know why.

We texted daily. She could barely leave the house the last 3 years so she was bored. I basically texted her every little thing I did. Even when she had a hard time replying after her stroke. I had teen parents so I lived with her and my grandpa until my parents got married. She taught me the hobbies I love. Gardening, cross-stitch, cards and canning.

I miss her and I want her back. I want her to be healthy again and I want her back. I’m having a hard time caring for my 14 month old. My husband is being supportive and helpful but I just can’t cope.

First time mom to a 14 month old boy. He’s been in daycare since he was 4 months old. We really like his daycare.

He recently transitioned to the oldest infant room (1 year to 20ish months) and it’s been rough. He’s struggled with changes in nap and meals but it’s gotten much better.

I know biting is super normal at this age. But he’s gotten bit 6 times in the last 2 weeks. They moved up the kid who bit him the 1st 3 times but now he’s gotten bit by 2 other kids. We also noticed a bite mark on his back that wasn’t reported, so we assumed teachers didn’t see, which I know happens sometimes. We just let the director know and showed her the mark. Making the total 7 in 2 weeks. Seems like a lot but I have no reference. Makes me sad thinking about my sweet guy getting bit.

Edit: just from the few comments I’ve received, I’ll be going to the director on Monday (we are off the next several days) to chat with her about how they plan to keep my little guy safe.

I’m 31F. My brothers (17M and 21M) and I were talking the other day and joking that our mom passed down mental illness to us lol.

My mom (49F) and I were both diagnosed with ADHD in the last year. I’ve suspected that I’ve had ADHD for several years and suspected my mom did way before that.

My 17 year old brother got diagnosed 3 years ago and my 21 year old brother got diagnosed 2 years ago.

Just curious about other women, if they also have family members with ADHD.

All 3 of my siblings and I also have anxiety and depression diagnosis as well. I know that it doesn’t matter but we had a very loving and stable childhood and my brothers (I had teen parents so less so me) have always had financial stability. Just interesting how the mind works!

I’m at a loss. Until about 1 our son was so sweet, calm, rarely cried and if he did he was easily comforted or I could figure out what was wrong.

He’s going through some changes at daycare. He’s in the 1 year old room and doesn’t do day time bottles any more (we still give me a bottle before bed.) He only takes 1 nap at daycare when he really still needs 2. He’s getting morals and has ear infections constantly but since getting tubes they are easily managed.

I swear a switch flipped. He’s so cranky when he’s awake. He can’t walk yet, though he tries super hard, he wants to climb on everything. That’s fine but I am losing my patience at his constant screaming, crying and hitting. He’s just a grump when he’s awake. He can maybe be happy for about 60 minutes total in a day. Which wasn’t the case even 6 weeks ago.

He wants dad. My husband takes him. Then he wants me. I take him. Then he wants back to dad. If I leave the room? Meltdown. Dad isn’t in sight? Meltdown. Not getting his food quick enough? Meltdown.

I know it’s hard because he can’t communicate what he wants and needs yet with language. I’m not even sure what I’m looking for. Some reassurance maybe? To know other parents have dealt with this?

He just sucks. Like truly. The amount of resentment I feel towards him is insane. We’ve been together 8 years. Married 3. We have a 13 month old. I’m 31, he’s 34.

Our son is getting molars, going through daycare transitions and battling another ear infection. He wanted his dad. He loves his dad. It’s very sweet. He didn’t want to go with me so I suggested “why don’t you put him to bed.” He looked at our son and playful said “no that’s mommies job, mommy does it every night.”

I lost it. I told him “yeah mommy does it every night because daddy won’t. Mommy also gets you up every morning. Feeds you every meal. Makes your milk (I still pump but am weaning). And has given you every bath you’ve ever taken in your life! Isn’t that great.”

My husband got angry. Which is a defense mechanism I’ve learned he does when I call him out on his BS. Like he just resorts to being angry when I confront him about this. He can never have a conversation about how to fix it. I can’t even stand to look at him.

I feel stuck. We own a home together. I make 3x less what he does.

My baby brother is starting pitcher on his varsity baseball team tonight, I was so excited to watch his game on the couch with a pop and eat supper once my son went down. Now I don’t even want to be near my husband. So staying in our room and far away from him.

Today is Mother’s Day. Our son is 1 years old. My husband plays cricket every single weekend during the summer. During the first 6 weekends he plays 5 hour games every Saturday and Sunday. Yup. Every single weekend. And then it turns into 10 hour games just 1 weekend day for the rest of the summer. I really don’t mind that much because I get a lot of time with our son and he’s such a chill kid. He’s generally very happy and still naps 2 times a days.

So yesterday and today he is out of the house for at least 6/7 hours. Driving and playing time.

I told him, when you get home I want to leave the house, without the baby.He says “yeah babe whatever you want.” He got me gardening stuff and cute shirt for our son. It was nice.

But now when it’s actually time for me to leave he’s exhausted and just pouting. Mostly because I told him he has to give our son a bath and put him to sleep at 7:30. (OH, by the way, anyone wanna guess how many baths my husband has given our 1 year old in his life? 1 other time. YUP!)

I left anyway because I deserve me time. But I can’t help but shake the feeling that his pouting is manipulative. Because I do feel bad leaving. But I shouldn’t. And I feel bad because obviously I put up with this. I complain and keep putting up with it. But GAH. He just sucks.