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now please don't judge me here, i need some help but maybe i've been stupid i don't know 😓

so 3 months ago i made a payment on neokyo which is a proxy service in japan to get goods from japan. i used the one time only card for this purchase, i like using this card for purchases like this because paypal fees are very high. it was a secondhand item and it ended up being sold out earlier than my proxy could secure it for me. i ended up getting a full refund and that was sent to my paypal because that's the only way i could get my money back. i immediately reported the issue to klarna so i didn't have to pay the bill anymore.

klarna didn't agree with it at first because the money was refunded to paypal, not to klarna. i reached out to them and provided all information and they told me that it was a huge help and things would be okay.

now today, they sent me another email saying i still have to pay the bill. i already got the refund well over 2 months ago, and since i bought this item with some friends i refunded them their part of the money as well. i'm not sure but it doesn't seem fair that klarna is still asking for this money right? i couldn't get the money back to klarna any other way and i've explained this to them a couple of times but now i'm still getting billed for something that i never received.

what do i do in this situation? i feel so dumb but i really don't know what to do

sorry in advance if there's any spelling mistakes, english isn't my first language and i'm also sad right now

my gf (21) and i (21) have been dating for about 4,5 years now, in which she had a couple of depressive episodes, just like right now. she's currently in therapy for it as well.

the reason why i'm posting this is we just got back from a midweek at our friends, we slept there for a couple of days and she seemed to finally feel better. she seemed more happy, was laughing lots with our friends and we were also very touchy again, which is something that kinda stops when she gets depressed.

we got home yesterday night and almost immediately she got really sad again. now i've also been kinda sad about this because the last couple of days she has been so helpful and kind with my problems, but now that's gone again and i have trouble accepting it. i've been also having a rough time lately, got diagnosed with a severe chronic illness and that left me feeling really lonely and sad. at our friends she was so kind and understanding for the first time honestly since my diagnosis, which made me so happy and grateful that i could suddenly do things again i thought i wasn't able to do anymore after i got my diagnosis. but now that's we're back home and things have returned to how they were i can't help but feel really sad about it.

i can tell that she really tries to help me still and i feel so bad for feeling this way because i know she's going through it and she can't help it, but i also now just feel very sad about it because i realized how much her love and support can uplift me in these moments :-( i'm currently still awaiting starting therapy but i'm on a waiting list so i don't have much support right now either.

my question now is, how do i keep being supportive of her but also keep myself afloat? i'm starting to feel really lost... sorry if it sounds like i make it all about myself but i don't know how else to explain things at the moment 😓

like title says, not sure if this is the right sub for portable cd players too but i wanted to ask regardless

i'm sick and tired of subscription services, everything just gets more and more expensive by the day so i want to finally switch to a dap or portable cd player. i have lots of cds so that's why i'm not sure on which one of the two to buy.

what i'm looking for in a dap/portable cd player:
- bluetooth support (i love my sony headphones i can't give them up just yet)
- gapless playback
- i'm kinda an audiophile... i really want my music to sound good, not crunchy or anything
- not tooooo expensive. i'm talking like $100 max but if there's nothing in this budget i'll just save up for a couple of weeks if necessary so feel free to recommend something else too

i like the look of the innioasis y1 but i've heard mixed reviews about that one. i also like the snowsky disc and echo nano, but i'm not a big fan of the snowsky echo mini, i'm not so fond of those type of buttons if that makes sense lol

sorry if i'm using the wrong words english isn't my first language and i'm still kinda confused with all the options out there and words that are being used 😭

not sure if this is allowed (lmk if it isn't and i will take the post down!) but i'm hosting a group order (EU, NL based but WW okay!) on my instagram! https://www.instagram.com/p/DaVBhN-kSKL/?igsh=MWdmYW5tOW53d2c0bA==

if you're unfamiliar with the way group orders work, i ask around if anyone is interested in any smiskis, if so you'll pay me once i request payments and i order them for you! then in this case they'll be shipped to my korean address where all my other group order items also are so they can be put into the same box to save on shipping costs. then everything will be shipped to me and you'll be charged a small amount for ems and customs. once they arrive at my house i sort everything (i can leave your smiski(s) sealed or unsealed) and ship everything to you!

when choosing unsealed aka sorted i'll open the blind box and sort all smiskis of people that also wanted theirs sorted and try to give everyone their favorite! odds of getting your favorite go up when buying more smiskis ofcourse, and i use a sorting form so everyone can let me know what their favorite smiski is per set :-)

in my case i'll do a raffle if we get a secret! if there's a secret pulled i'll put everyone's names on a name wheel and let the wheel decide who gets the secret!

i currently have 255 proofs on my instagram and 242 positive reviews on my vinted! :-)

i hope this makes a little bit of sense! let me know if you have any questions, if you're interested in anything or if this post is not allowed LOL

hi all,

i was diagnosed with gastritis back in september of last year after taking a little bit too many NSAIDs. i'm still dealing with everything now. i have also been diagnosed with another thing, not sure of the name but basically my bpm is too high on a standard basis. i'm trying lots of medications for it to see what works. last night i tried another new medication for my sleep issues but after half an hour my stomach started to hurt like crazy again. a little later i started to get these pain zaps in my chest area and then my left arm started hurting. it's been almost 24 hours now and my left arm is still hurting a lot, but thankfully no zaps anymore.

my question is, is this gastritis related? since i also have heart issues i'm scared it might be that but i'm not sure since it only started after i took new medication. my stomach is always upset for days after taking new medication. but this was new for me (at least the zaps were, the pain in my chest and arm aren't) so i'm kinda scared :/ do i have to take less medication? what do i ask my doctor? will i be okay?

as title says, i've only seen the cd being sold on the amigo records website and on amazon uk but i was wondering if there'll be any other sites, preferably in europe, that'll sell them 🤞 ofc uk is still europe but since they aren't apart of the european union anymore shipping and taxes will be really high

if anyone knows another site lmk!! :-)

hi all,

i'm really tired today so excuse any spelling errors or unclear information

i started on metoprolol about 3 weeks ago now, which has been helping with the pain in my chest i get after being active and resting. i can finally do some more chores around the house during the day.

however, today i had quite a bad day and ended up crying a lot and i ended up getting chest pains again. they haven't faded since, they only got slightly less but not a lot of change. right after i was done crying i was also experiencing pain in my left arm (also is still lingering as i'm typing this), however i've always had this issue even before my meds so i'm not sure if it's anything out of the ordinary but it still worries me. i also experience these same chest pains still when i have a bad night of sleep.

my question is, is this normal? i haven't been on these medications for too long and they do seem to help, but maybe not fully. i'm scared (which of course doesn't help right now either) that i maybe have some other condition. i will get it checked out asap but i wanted to ask it on here since it's the weekend now so i can't contact my doctor just yet.

tw voor suicidale gedachten

hallo, ik heb hier nog niet eerder gepost dus sorry als ik verkeerd zit maar ik heb een aantal vragen

mijn vriendin heeft waarschijnlijk een bipolaire stoornis, het is nog niet vastgesteld maar haar huisarts en praktijkondersteuner verdenken dit (en natuurlijk ook mensen om haar heen maar wou vooral haar dokters ook benoemen). ze is hiervoor al doorverwezen naar de ggz alleen de wachtijd is 300 dagen.

nu zit ik er heel erg mee met wat ik het beste kan doen, ze heeft namelijk vaker dan normaal zwaarde klachten hiervan en is suïcidaal. eerst begon het met dat ze er niet langer wilt zijn maar nu is ze ervan overtuigd dat ze binnenkort komt te overlijden, of ze het nou zelf doet of niet. ik maak me gewoon heel erg zorgen, ze kan amper nog wat zelf doen en voelt zich heel slecht. zelf ben ik chronisch ziek dus heb niet altijd de ruimte om dit allemaal op mijn eigen bordje te nemen en daarom wil ik ook graag hulp voor haar, ik kan er gewoon niet altijd voor haar zijn en dat neem ik mezelf erg kwalijk.

nu zat ik te kijken dat je via de huisarts soms terecht kan komen bij de crisisdienst. ik zou dat graag willen proberen maar ik vind het ook wel lastig/spannend, ik ben erg bang dat ze het niet serieus nemen of dat er gewoon nergens plek is voor haar op dit moment en ik ben bang dat zo'n tegenslag haar nog verder het diepe in zal gooien.

zijn er nog andere dingen die ik/zij/wij zouden kunnen doen naast de crisisdienst? en is de crisisdienst het waard om te bellen? ik maak me er zorgen om :-(

edit: heel erg bedankt voor alle reacties!! het helpt me enorm :-)

hello everyone,

some extra info: i was diagnosed with gastritis back in september of last year due to slightly taking too many NSAIDs

i started with metoprolol yesterday for heart problems, i'm on quite a low dose (25mg) and i've taken it twice now. ever since taking it for the first time yesterday i've been slightly feeling my gastrisis acting up but after todays dose it's been so bad, very comparable to when it first started. can metoprolol cause flare ups like this? i'm also on omeprazole (10 mg 2 times a day) which seemed to work ever since i had my first bad flare (with some minor flares in between, but those weren't that bas that i felt the need to reach out to my doctor/other people who might experience the same) up until now.

it might be important to mention that (tmi, it's poop related lol) ever since last week friday i've been having an insane amount of diarrhea. my stool is currently getting checked out in the hospital, it looked really out of the ordinary and i had to go to the toilet a lot, so my stomach may also be out of whack because of that. but frankly, i didn't feel that much of my gastrisis during the diarrhea which is finally getting better since today.

if anyone knows anything please let me know!! if you know any at home remedies or things that can soothe me for the night before i call my doctor in the morning again please let me know too :-) thanks so much in advance!

i'm sure this question gets asked often but i'm kinda getting nervous about my situation and i wanted to ask some questions on here, hoping that someone might know something more.

as the title says, i have ibs (got diagnosed when i was young) and gastritis (got diagnosed back in september of last year). i got a surgery (unrelated to my stomach issues) almost 3 months ago and was put on antibiotics. after the surgery, my usual way of going to the toilet really changed. before the surgery i would go at least 3 times a day, it was barely painful.

however after the surgery, i often became "constipated", i would still poop once a day but it was very unusual for me as for my whole life i would go to the toilet at least 3 times a day. after a while of being "constipated", i get a really bad flare up of diarrhea and everything comes out all at once. at first i thought it was just ibs + the antibiotics, but now i had another one of these flare ups 3 days ago but it's just not stopping.

my symptoms have also changed a lot since the surgery, whenever i eat or drink i feel nauseous and my stomach "swells up" (it feels bloated and looks visibly bigger), whenever i poop i also get nauseous, it looks yellow and is watery and there's lots of mucus, however no blood (at least i think?). i'm however spotting sometimes. a lot of foods i used to be able to eat are triggering symptoms all of a sudden. i've also been in this flare for days now, i'm so incredibly tired and i can't do anything besides laying in bed, it seems to get worse by the day. my joints, especially my knees, are also hurting.

the reason why i'm also worried is because my grandpa also has crohns and his started at 21, the age i am now. my cousion and my mom both also have ibs, my cousin is also getting tested for crohns soon so all in all this situation is just scary and makes me so nervous, it feels like my life is kinda over :/

i'm sending a poop stool to the hospital after this weekend and got my blood drawn earlier this week, if there's anything else i could do myself or at the hospital please let me know! thank you in advance

hi everyone, i need some help. i had a flare up on sunday night/monday morning and ever since i've been feeling nauseous. is this normal? honestly that specific flare up was one of the worst i've ever had. i do sometimes get really nauseous during or after an attack but it also goes away within 24 hours.

i still feel sick even though it has been a couple of days now. painkillers do help a lot but once they wear out i start feeling really bad again and i can't eat well anymore :( i'm not sure what to do and if this is normal