u/bikesailfreak

I have been recently diagnosed with ADHD (1 month) as adult after a period of strong anxiety and mentioning my irritability. its a new world for me and for few days in meds.

We moved 6month to a new appartment and I keep telling my wife that I can’t find a safe place/retreat for me. I go to work and stay there till late. sadly. my kids are just screaming and fighting in the evening and I can’t deal with the slightest car noise or plane noise around the place.

my questio: Do you people also have such a need for a refuge/safe place? what have you done to create one?

in my previous place I kept going into the basement to fix stuff or work from home with headphones… both I can really do anymore (or don’t want to).

Ich kann nicht mehr - hab alle Läden geschlossen und war tagsüber weg. Hab sogar noch AC Monoblock laufen lassen. Wohnzimmer ist 28/29C jetzt um 23:00. ich will ins Bett und kann nicht.

wie warm ist es bei euch und was macht ihr? danke

I have been Product Manager, Sales, Project Manager and what shall I say: I changed job every 2 years as it was boring and I didn’t grow. I don’t do politics and like to do good work. I am at times a bit chaotic and forgetful but also very creative.

most employeurs where happy but I was never happy.

I was diagnosed only 1 month ago and still confused what it means. I am 40

any idea what could help to finally stick to a career and grow?!

Here is the idea: I want to buy a used outdoor speaker that has some leftover space in it. Open it up and add a Squeezebox Receiver in it. Then place it on my terrace and when I turn power on I simply have another place to listen to my synced music.

Anyone has done that or know a model where I could do this? Doesn't need to be loud (I have neighbours, but would be nice to have a nice speaker that I can leave outside.

I like it hot but not that hot.

Any meteorologist can explain why we will cook - even warmer than Marseille or Madrid or any other city in Switzerland?

whats your plan?

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edit: Thanks for the ones providing actual explanations! Learned alot. Hopefully we’ll see some change in our politics and construction management.

see you in the badi or the rhein.

I ve changed job way way too often. So the answer should be: Not yet.

I am since 5month in the new job and its full of problems. Now I keep working or forcing myself to work as it is well paid and one of the best companies to work for in my area…

I tend to have burst of energy but deep down I dislike the job. Now I just do it and say its a job and force myself.

my last 5 jobs I held between 1 year and 2.5year max:(.

any idea?

Many times during the day I daydream about just getting far away into a small house that is mine and paid off. i just want not worrying about money and other people.

i have no idea how to stop these thoughts, as many feel I have a fantastic life: kids, wife, good job etc

I was told that after I did a renovation or I bought a place.

I look for informaiton from ESTI but wasn't sure since it is not a new place and I haven't received a request for a periodic control. It is an exisitng apparment, where we let some plugs be changed and added a wall (with a plug).

Do I need to ask for such a periodic test? And what if I change a single plug (like instead of a button) in the future? I have to do it again?

Thanks

I am 40 on paper successfully working for a well paying company in my field in senior role (not super high), I have a mortgage, kids, wife... all seem from outside super nice.

Inside I am constanly stress out and feel I am just waiting that everything falls apart (loose job, never finding a job again, financial issues etc).

I have been diagnosed first with GAD and recently also ADHD. When I see friends, my wife I only wish "I would love to just go through life without all these worries". But I can't!

Any advice to stop worrying and enjoy life with these disorders? Start with meds or CBT, structure or whatever?

Here in Europe we are experiencing a heat wave way too early. I need to sleep with open windows and this leads to endless other problems.

i am affraid of sleeping with a ground floor window wide open. i hear every noise and passing by cars or people make me angry and nervous.

And I am not even starting on all the fear regarding my financial fears that my appartment that I own might be a financial mistake.

I have a lack of sleep and get irritable. so this is a vicious cycle. any advice how to function?

New here - since 1 week diagnosed with ADHD (40 years old) while I was on the GAD (general anxiety disorder track incl diagnosed and meds for the past 3 years.

This news hits hard and I am affraif how to deal with it.

Overall: I am ok successful at work, but have changed job 6 times in 10 years. Now I understand that I am the problem. However the anxiety doesn't go away: Constant layoffs, fear that I cannot provide for my family, I get older etc.

Next week I need to select/decide for some meds for ADHD. The only thing I want is to ARRIVE in life and feel secure that I don't need to worry. Where does ADHD fit into my issues? Is anxiety or ADHD first here? Anyone has combined some anxiety and ADHD meds or where to start?

Thanks

Ich hab seit Januar eine neue Stelle. Mein neuer Chef ist ziemlich unter Druck und unsere 1on1 waren in den ersten 2 Monaten jede Woche, seither nur noch monatlich.

Mir ist das zuwenig - auch unter anderem weil viel im Umbau ist.

Wie oft sieht ihr euren Chef?

Wie würdet ihr das ansprechen?

PS: Bin Projektleiter Software in grossem nicht-Software Unternehmen. Meine Projekte umfassen 5Mio jaehrliches Budget und führen KI gesteuerte Software ein.

danke

Ich papa 40 mit 2 kids bin leider ständig gestresst und merke wie das Leben meiner Kids (5 und 7) an mir vorbeigeht. Sogar meine Frau sagt es und ich gebs zu.

Wir haben schon so optimiert: Grosseltern in der Nähe 15min, Pendle nur 20min mit dem Rad, Frau arbeitet “nur” 40%.

Ich arbeite 100% und oft erst um 18:30 zuhause und dann sind die Kids müde und man kann kaum noch was sinnvolles machen als Essen und ins Bett gehen.

Am Wochenende gehts und vorallem in den Ferien. Klar kann man sagen: Pfeif auf den Chef - aber ich bring nun mal 90% des Haushaltseinkommen nach Hause und solch eine Stelle finde ich nicht so schnell. Und ja finanziell Absichern meine Familie ist schon ein Ziel - aber ja zu welchem preis….

Ich glaub schon, dass ich das Problem bin , weiss aber nicht wie angehen. Teilzeit? Abende mit Kids blockieren?

Danke für alle Tipps