u/bombastic-banana

Bought a handheld rechargeable fan to wear around my neck and one to carry. Can I bring it?

I accidentally bought tickets to the wrong concert on StubHub. They gave me the option to not resell which I did and they sold. However, I can’t give the buyer any tickets because the person who sold them to me has not transferred them. They have until 4pm the day of the concert. Meanwhile the person who bought from me has until 3pm what should I do? How is this possible?

Got asked to do an in person consult for a couple three weeks out. I said that was ok as long as it’s on a day I’m in the office and remains 15min. Curious if anyone else ever says yes to free in person consults and if so, have you noticed people who do this tend to try and take advantage of your free time? I shouldn’t be making assumptions, it’s very likely this couple is just trying to find the right fit but I see so many mixed opinions on this.

Hi everyone, I am taking my bf on a surprise’s visit to a shooting range with a massive pit for his birthday. You can bring any object you want to place into the pit and use it as a target (as long as it’s not a safety hazard of course). I was wondering what are some objects he would enjoy shooting? I would love some advice on what objects I should buy!

For more context he owns the following guns

Winchester 94
Body guard 2.0
Wildcat 22LR
HellcatSp Comp
Browning 85 auto
Butera 92 FS

Hi everyone, I am taking my bf on a surprise’s visit to a shooting range with a massive pit for his birthday. You can bring any object you want to place into the pit and use it as a target (as long as it’s not a safety hazard of course). I was wondering what are some objects he would enjoy shooting? I would love some advice on what objects I should buy!

For more context he owns the following guns

Winchester 94
Body guard 2.0
Wildcat 22LR
HellcatSp Comp
Browning 85 auto
Butera 92 FS

Hi everyone, I am taking my bf on a surprise’s visit to a shooting range with a massive pit for his birthday. You can bring any object you want to place into the pit and use it as a target (as long as it’s not a safety hazard of course). I was wondering what are some objects he would enjoy shooting? I would love some advice on what objects I should buy!

For more context he owns the following guns

Winchester 94
Body guard 2.0
Wildcat 22LR
HellcatSp Comp
Browning 85 auto
Butera 92 FS

Hi everyone, I am taking my bf on a surprise’s visit to a shooting range with a massive pit for his birthday. You can bring any object you want to place into the pit and use it as a target (as long as it’s not a safety hazard of course). I was wondering what are some objects he would enjoy shooting? I’m not very knowledgeable about guns and usually spent time shooting the .22 while he does his thing.

For more context he owns the following guns

Winchester 94
Body guard 2.0
Wildcat 22LR
HellcatSp Comp
Browning 85 auto
Butera 92 FS

While at Whole Foods several months ago, a man gave me his card and asked me if I wanted to apply to work at his men’s spa. I thought it was a real job and I am a student who could use extra money plus it would be cool to get free training as a masseuse. When I went to interview he closed the door and began telling me that it’s not hourly pay it’s a percentage of the clients pay and that however far I wanted to go for the men is my choice and I get to keep all of the tips. I pretended like I had known it was a happy ending place while he spoke to me because I was rather scared. I left, got in my partners car and texted him that this wouldn’t work for me. He then asked me if I could come over to his house for $200 for an hour. Idk why he thought this I was just in line to make an Amazon return and it was in west loop too. Should report this to the police? Or are these really ethical buisness’s with women trying I make ends meet? This happened several months ago and a convo I had with a friend recently sparked the memory again. I didn’t report it to the police because I assumed that anyone who went to get a message there that wasn’t wanting a “happy ending” would have already reported it by now; I assumed the police therefore know and do nothing about it anyways….and like I already stated, I didn’t know if the women working there actually needed that job.*EDIT someone in the comments mentioned they girls could be teens and they did look young but I really don’t think they were that young.

*EDIT for the people really caught up on the fact that this went over my head 😂

Did I think it was a bit odd? For sure. That’s why I had my partner drive me there just in case. But I checked the website on his business card and it was a legit website. I assumed that sex trafficking rings were not so blatant like this because I ASSUMED that police would be all over a business that does this sort of thing. At some point someone who went there to not get a happy ending massage would of been upset for being sexually solicited and reported them.I also know nothing about being a masseuse and had zero clue you needed a license to do so.

He had also asked me in a REALLY nice area of Chicago. I assumed a sex trafficker wouldn’t risk trying to solicit someone in the middle of board day light like that ngl. I know better now tho. Thanks for the info everyone this helped a lot and I’ll be making a report.

Should I report this to the police? At Whole foods a man approached me asking me to work for his men’s spa. I thought it was a real job and I need some extra money so when I went to get a tour of the facility and have an official interview he closed the door and basically started telling me how I won’t get paid hourly but will make a percentage of the massages I give and I get tips and that I could go as far as I wanted with the men. It was really scary and I declined. Then he texted me after asking me to have intercourse with him for $200. Should I report this to the police

I commonly see therapist say you should not advertise you work with people who have OCD, families, children, PTSD UNELSS you have training to do so. I currently started part time CMH and they told me I have to work with children and families. My school program did not teach me any therapeutic modalities for this. They also did not teach me therapeutic modalities on how to work with these populations in school. I am perfectly ok to work with children and families however, i will not get any training I appetites modalities just supervision come every two weeks. Everyone says I will just learn based on interacting with the client alone however, learning by jsut interacting does not feel very evidence based, that is like saying “here is a broken car, you can learn to fix it by just playing around with it. I understand you can buy books and watch free YouTube videos however, I already spent several hours a week reading and typing up notes to learn coupes and individual therapy. I have ADHD AND I MUST type notes to retain information and read slowly. I am still learning my CBT ACT and DBT As well as couples therapy. I work forty hours a week on top of this. I do not have time to learn anything additional. I asked them if they could pay for any three day trainings but it’s not in our budget.

My big question: why is it wrong to work with populations you aren’t specialized in treating but you are called lazy for not doing that in CMH. I am very confused what is considered ethical now.

I decided to take my boyfriend on a surprise date this weekend, pay for it plan it reserve it ect. I chose a restaurant that advertised itself as not being crazy upscale but nice enough that I would have spent $50 per main course, $20 on smaller plates and per cocktail.

I made a reservation for 7:30 which I thought was plenty of time since they took reservations up until 9:45. I noticed their website had a “check a special occasion” box with the options; anniversary, birthday, date. Haven’t seen that before So I thought “what the heck” and checked the box. They placed us in a nice corner area (assuming because they saw we checked the box). The restaurant was COMPLETELY empty with the exception of one other couple and a few out orders. The food was honestly really good, we it’s good quality meant to be appreciated and enjoyed. We got four appetizers and two main courses. While eating the appetizers the server came over twice to try and take the same plate away (even tho I still hadn’t eaten off the plate since the last time she tried to take it away). On the third time she said “just asking because the kitchen told me they’re trying to close down”. This really upset me but I didn’t say anything back. My bf runs a kitchen at a restaurant, it’s not socially expected you rush your meal you reserved two hours before last call when there’s literally no one else eating there. Especially when ur at a nice restaurant people r paying higher prices for not some chain place.

But right after the waitress left our table the hostess SEATED A COUPLE NEXT TO US. My bf (working in the industry for 15 years) turns to me and goes “watch, she’s going to lie to them and tell them they’re out of things even tho they aren’t, they just take to long to cook) and SHE DID EXACTLY THAT! This really do grind my gears dude. My bf works HARD as a cdc 12 hours a day and I just wanted him to enjoy a GOOD meal cooked by someone else. My bf and I talked and decided to pay for what we had ordered and politely ask to leave before they bring us our main course. My bf told her these words “We found your comment about the kitchen trying to shutdown down distasteful, we will pay for everything we consumed but we do not want to continue our meal” She instantly asserted it wasn’t her fault, she didn’t intend her words to sound rushed, it came from a string of people and she thinks we should stay. I asserted a second time that we wanted to leave. She again, began to ramble about how it wasn’t her intention and she thinks we should stay. I, for the third time, asserted we wanted the check and to leave please. She said she needed to talk to the manager. The manager comes over, frantic about how she “wasn’t supposed to say that” and how “you know sometimes people accidentally say the wrong thing or pick the wrong words”. I again asserted we understand, we just want the check and to leave. Now this, this I regret doing. She asked us if we love the food and I said “I loved everything but the NA drink (i had two sips, glass was full. It was honestly bad and the waitress recommended it after I told her I didn’t want alcohol, but still I understand it was my choice to get it) Anyways, I mentioned the drink because I was mad about the service ruining the night and then having to pay $13 for some juice I didn’t even drink. I regret it, I should have just kept my mouth shut. Then when the waitress came back she asked us if our empty plates were “still being worked on” like twice. She asked me why I didn’t like the drink she reccomended because I had told her I liked it when she initially asked (I said this as a social pleasantry as to not embarrassed her and she seemed smart enough to understand that was likely why I said I liked it]. They ended up taking the drinks off our menu. I paid for the appetizers (all delicious) and the waitress again went on some ramble asking for affirmation essentially that we agree the kitchen closing statement wasn’t from her. We left, and I want to go back on a night she’s not there we loved that food! But not if I was the one being the asshole, making mountains out of mobiles, best to not show face again.

I am a couples therapist working o building a resource for clients who do not know how to showcase small acts of love. These can be acts such as leaving a pair of clothes out and a towel while they shower, lighting their favorite candle before they come home, picking up their favorite treat if they had a bad day, doing a chore that’s normally their responsibility). What are some small ways you show love to your spouse?