u/bostondiamonds

Not a damn chance

I genuinely think Sol deserves an apology from both the guys and the girls once the show is over.

The villa girls isolated her from the beginning and constantly made her seem like she was the problem. Watching it play out was honestly hard to see. It was especially telling that when it was time for her to pack, Jen was the only girl there helping her.

On top of that, Sol got pied in the face multiple times, took hit after hit, and somehow she was made out to be the villain. And after the pie challenge, of all people, KC was the only one to ask if she’s ok?

And then Sincere, the one person who knew everything she’d been through and conducted all the lies and manipulation, was the one who stood up and gave the speech to send her home? That was a tough watch.

Whether you liked Sol or not, I don’t think she deserved the way she was treated in that villa. She showed way more grace than most people would have in her position.

My close friend is having a wedding in Africa that I wont be able to attend. Her and her fiancé are doing a cash registry only and I was thinking of sending $400. Is that enough or too much or too little? I dont often get invited to weddings (many of my friends just aren’t at that time in their lives yet) so I genuinely don’t know what’s good or not in terms of amount

This might come off as a strange comment to some but the people that get it will get it. Does anyone remember watching tv shows and cartoons in the early 2000s where in scenes where a character was relaxing or at the spa they would have cucumbers on their eyes? I always thought when I became an adult I couldn’t wait to go to the spa to have that same treatment 😆 here I am as a 29 year old and it’s not even a thing anymore! What happened to that? Can anyone else remember or relate?

This past weekend I flew to Nashville from Chicago for my cousin’s nursing school graduation. I woke up at 4 AM to catch a 6 AM flight and was only there for one night. Our other cousin flew in from New York, her boyfriend came from London, her sister came from North Carolina, and her mom was even able to get a last-minute visa to attend—which made the weekend really special.

On Saturday, I spent the entire day with her. We went to brunch, then my cousin from New York and I ran all over Nashville (a city we don’t know at all) to find her gifts and a cake to make her day special. We went to the graduation, then all went out to dinner together. Everything went really well.

That night, she wanted to go out to Broadway, but it was freezing cold and none of us were dressed for it. I had also been up since 4 AM and was exhausted. A few of us (including her own boyfriend) decided to call it a night and go back to her apartment. She ended up going out with her sister instead. She seemed a little disappointed but didn’t make a big deal out of it.

Now here’s where things get messy.

At dinner, my cousin from New York and I mentioned that we really wanted to check out Broadway the next morning and do some shopping since we’d never been to Nashville. She said that was fine, but she needed to take her mom to Walmart in the morning to get groceries because her mom was planning to cook a big dinner for everyone that night.

Sunday morning, there was no food in the apartment and we were starving, so we told her: “Hey, we’re going to grab breakfast and head to Broadway. When you’re done with your mom, come meet up with us.” She said okay.

While we were out, we kept updating her every ~30 minutes with where we were so she could meet us. We didn’t hear back, and when I finally called, she said she was still out shopping with her mom (Walmart, Sephora, Best Buy, etc.). Her mom is from a third-world country, so shopping in the U.S. is a big deal when she visits. We said no problem and told her we’d just meet back at the apartment later.

When we got back, she was clearly upset. I pulled her aside to ask what was wrong, and she started crying, saying that we didn’t let her plan the day and that we basically took over instead of following her lead. She said she felt like we didn’t honor her and that we ruined her graduation weekend.

This honestly shocked me. From my perspective, we:
- Flew in from different states/countries to be there for her
- Spent the entire Saturday celebrating her
- Respected that she needed to spend the morning with her mom
- Made plans to meet up later instead of interfering

She never asked us to come with her to Walmart or told us she wanted us to wait around. If she had, we would have.

I feel like it wasn’t fair to expect us to sit in the apartment hungry all morning when we were only in Nashville for a short time and wanted to see the city. But now I’m second-guessing myself because of how upset she was.

AITA for going sightseeing instead of waiting for her, even though it was her graduation weekend?