u/burnetrosehip

I'm a 5 mins max makeup applier and the right BB cream can improve my life, but I've only found 1.5 of them that match my skin tone and blur a bit without seeming to emphasise every hair and wrinkle on my middle aged face (peach fuzz lol, if I found a peach with hairs this long I'd buy it some cat food). I'm fair cool/neutral. Absolutely cannot do foundation, don't have the budget to seek a holy grail by trying 100s/ taking someone's recx for Clinique or something.

The recent BBs that *didn't* work were Nivea light (too brown), and an elf one that even after an extensive online colour matching quiz went on like yellow paint.

What worked was a Lacura thing from Aldi, not orangey at all, nice pore blur, neither too matt or too shiny, and the .5 is for a Rimmel colour corrector which would be fine if it worked on its own, but being green left me looking a bit pale.

Aldi aren't doing theirs any more. I don't mind it not being right if it doesn't cost much to try. Any surprising finds out there?

All I need is a perennial, low or mid height with a medium spread, think true geranium in terms of size and also its preferred soil type (somewhat acidic clay, roses thrive), tolerates semi shade, winter frost and occasional drought, fierce enough at outcompeting e.g. dock with a little help, flowers prettily for as long as possible, ideally bees like it.

Am I looking for a unicorn, or any ideas? Novice gardener here. I can water it if I have to.

Having just learned that (*edit, actual, not net) immigration was down 31% in 2025, returns and deportations up 9%, and that Labour pledged to "smash the gangs" behind small boats I am genuinely confused about how/ why this is happening, what am I missing?

This might sound like a biased question, but the fact that (disclosure) I see Reform's focus on immigration as a likely smokescreen does not mean that I have a position on immigration overall. I know that many successive governments have made loud noises about it for many years while also relying on it to shore up their version economics. I am not angry at individual people who have migrated to make a better life for themselves or escape war/persecution. That's my whole position. I'm not looking for an argument about immigration, as if we need more of those. I'm genuinely confused about these statistics that I've just learned (from another thread) vs people's anger at Labour on immigration. Is it founded in actual policy and facts, or is it just based on an image of the left as being somehow weak? If it's the latter, how do we get politics back to being based on actual outcomes rather than just angry reacts?

My confusion is how we seem to have just had a local government election dictated by a protest vote on immigration when the current government, frustrating as they are, are bringing down immigration. Should Labour have been putting up big posters with these stats on them in heartland areas with "next question?" after them if they wanted to hold onto voters? Or am I being hopelessly simplistic- about the issue or about how people think?

I am in the mood for some snark. Also it's just pretty fascinating.

Have encountered some of the deeper dive into critiquing therapy as a culture stuff with Bayo Akomolafe, (who will no doubt have his own pitfalls as every revelatory groundbreaker seems to at some point), and read researchgate back and forths about the legitimacy or otherwise of polyvagal theory, but the life coach world I have not touched, and I am open to anything from entertaining to enlightening, single "coach"/ influencer focus or wider aim at the culture, all welcome.

Big respect to our severely fatigued meeps who don't have this choice, to start with. I'm moderate mostly, and today I had a day in bed Doomscrolling. Surely there was something more productive or even enjoyable I could be doing, and I was just making bad choices? No, no there was not, and I was not, really. If I had tried to do more I would have rapidly been reminded why I was not doing more. Maybe lying down listening to relaxation noises would have been better. But overall, nobody is morally impacted by my choice, so WHY IS IT STILL AN ISSUE with me after 20 + years of this?

Mantra: it's ok to rest and chill, it's ok to rest and chill, I can count my blessings that I'm able to rest and chill! But apparently my brain can't do it on its restless own, so I'm making a post for anyone else who resonates to say hi and help me remember it's not my choice to have this energy limit. Thank you ❤️