While on my way to work, I listened to a local radio station aimed at people between 20 and 30-ish.

A popular station in my area, though I really don't like it.

The hosts were chatting about drivers on the motorway and roads in general, and what I found quite astonishing was one host being a proud bad driver. She's staying on the middle lane on the motorway, can't park if her life depends on it, and she really didn't seem to care about her lack of driving skills at all.

How can you be proud of bad driving on a public broadcaster's radio station? Just wanted to share this real quick, before I start work...

(this text might be quite a bit unorganised, and i would like to apologise for that.)

It's been five years since I popped in the first estrogen dose.

At first I was happy, it was all a bit much, but it felt right. That feeling stayed for a couple of years, but lately my dysphoria is getting worse and worse, my self-hate, the instability to stop comparing myself to other trans girls, it's consuming me.

Five years on hormones. Five years without real progress.

My voice is still deep, I still look like a fucking man, I feel like a disgusting impostor in lesbian/sapphic spaces and every time I try to improve my situation, to better myself, the negative thoughts haunt me.

Every time my friends or my therapist try to help me, try to be rational, my brain just shuts off.

I can't accept their advice, their help, anything.

People instantly clock me as trans, some start misgendering me because of it, talking on the phone is a no-no, I'm already numb to the t-word, and honestly? I don't even know if I should care anymore.

I can't talk to any of my cis friends about anything, as I'd make their day worse and as they really don't get the struggle.

Talking to my trans friends is out of the question, as some of them deal with dysphoria themselves or just don't know how to help. Seeing their progress, and that of people online, it hurts.

I'm really happy for them, but it's also so hard to see that their progress within a year or so doesn't even start to be like mine in five years.

I know that we are our worst critics and that I should take my thoughts with a grain of salt, but this isn't it. Every time I look in the fucking mirror, I can't see a woman.

Every time going through security or immigration at the airport, having to explain myself and my existence and why I am how and who I am, it makes me wanna cry.

Being in any kind of social setting with people I don't know, it's exhausting.

Voice training and listening to myself isn't just stressful, it's embarrassing and dehumanising. I can't stand listening to my own voice.

Trying to just look slightly less like a man, it makes me feel disgusted of myself and throws every progress down the drain.

Currently, I'd be more than happy to just wear a wide hoodie and hide everything, hide myself, not going out of the flat anymore.. When outside, I still wear a mask so that my face is at least not giving away anything directly, though my Adam's apple is visible af.

Summer is an awful season for me. It never gets easier, it never does.

I hate it when pictures of me are taken. I hate looking at myself, at this mess. Comparing (the few) photos of myself five years ago with now, you wouldn't be able to see a difference.

# Yes, every trans woman is a woman and I wholeheartedly believe and fight for that. Full stop.

Not for me though, I'm the exception to the rule and quite a pathetic one as well.

My love life? In shambles. As a lesbian it's hard enough, dating as a trans woman doesn't make it any better and my area isn't helping whatsoever.

I feel so unwelcome in every femme and/or sapphic space, feel like an imposter on dating apps and more and more women exclude trans women right in their bio. Going swimming with friends? I'm never invited nor do I have the courage to do that. Doing a spa day? Well, not the greatest idea as well, as I'm just making too much trouble with my sheer existence.

Don't get me started on going to Pride, I get panic attacks at them and it's not because of the amount of people.

I try to be as confident as I can be on the outside and people believe that I am. I don't want to toot my own horn, but from a personality standpoint, my colleagues and even customers love me. In my private life, I try to be energetic and open as well, but all that comes at a cost. I don't have any energy anymore. No energy to pretend everything is okay anymore.

My therapist tries her best helping me out with my self hate. It got better for two weeks. Then it went downhill fast.

I don't know anymore. Being trans feels like a curse to me.

And just as a sidenote: The people I talk with today, and I don't know why, are talking really weird towards me and bring up trans people (and queer people in general) without any reason. So many slurs and objectifying things, it's absolutely insane today. What did I do to deserve this? 😭

(I'm writing this just a day before the anniversary and posting it on that day. I'm on the train, fighting with my tears, as I'm trying to sort any of these thoughts. But on Monday, the show just must go on. Nobody will know. Nobody will care. And that's alright, I'm used to it and I don't blame anyone. And responses may take some time, as I'm at work)

This might be quite a specific and niche question but I just gotta ask:

On macOS I can simply copy an event, select a calendar on the side, and paste the event by just right-arrowing and cmd+v and the application doesn't nag me constantly by asking which calendar I want to use for that.

Thunderbird and Kontact do that. And it does slow down my workflow tremendously.
Is there some application on Debian that does this very niche and specific thing?

Let's just play it out for the sake of it (and please ignore my legal mistakes like that birthright citizenship thing, which for the sake of it, doesn't apply. it's just for the argument and i needed two countries):

I was born in the US but only got citizenship by France because my parents were from there. For the US, I have permanent residency.

With the current state of affairs, ICE visits my work and puts me on a plane to "my" country in which I don't have anyone or anything.

No flat, no job, just some cash in my wallet but not enough to be of any help. Am I just being left on my own and have to figure out how to survive in France?

No language skills, no connections, just a passport that says I'm French.

What would/should happen?

You aren't supposed to take anything with you during an evacuation, but after all passengers are out and the danger is over, what happens next? How would I get my luggage back?

Yes, not all people, I know! But still too many who just don't care about hygiene or just about the fact that they're not alone.

I'm one of the few people who actually seems to enjoy air travel and I've gotten used to the stress surrounding it.

One thing that I never could wrap my mind around though: People seemingly forget everything that's even remotely connected to some form of common decency, as soon as they enter the airport.

It doesn't matter where, when, or which airline.

It just grinds my gears.

One was a granny, basically fresh out of hospital, she ran towards the bus stop and fell right on her face.

No visible injuries, paramedics still took her to the nearby hospital because of her back ache. I felt really sorry for her!

The other one was just today: Mid-20s, I was already rolling for departure and right at the moment where I last checked my right mirror I saw her running and immediately falling, nose on the door. I'm glad she fell with her nose on the door and not on the ground, if I were just two metres away from the stop.

Damn, there was some blood but she declined first aid or an ambulance, apologised profusely, and I immediately knew she was a people pleaser, just like me lol

I checked in on her multiple times during the ride (she decided to hop onto my bus) and she took it like a champ.

Moral of the story: STOP RUNNING TOWARDS BUS STOPS! ESPECIALLY TOWARDS THOSE I'M AT 😭😭😭

(Reported both occasions, of course)

I have to take Uber and other ridesharing services for work every now and then and one thing I've noticed is that some cars have their (back) seatbelts already buckled in.

Where I am, the laws of physics and the road traffic act apply, thus I have to wear my seatbelt.
It's not even like they're hard to reach when not buckled in.

So, my question to these drivers is: Why do you do this? Do you really not care if I'm wearing my seatbelt or not?

(The driver this morning didn't wear his as well, which wasn't really surprising.)

That's basically it.

I was delayed over the entire day due to everything. One trip, I was only 4 mins behind, which was basically on time.

Well, cue the passenger.

He hopped on, was already quite annoyed and yelled at me, I should hurry up, he has to get another bus.

Fair enough, noted. Other passengers were boarding as well, one needed a ticket and another had issues with his season ticket (not readable)

Whilst dealing with them, he got more and more agitated, I didn't really care though.

After departure, I asked him which bus he wanted to catch, so I could inform dispatch - His answer "I don't care, it doesn't matter!" with more rambling that he'll miss his bus and everything.

He was quite on the verge of being kicked out by me because of the verbal abuse, I let it slide though.

Couple of stops later, already 7 mins behind schedule, he disembarked with one last sentence.

"I'm sorry for being abusive to you"

Dude. You didn't stab or spat at me which is better behaviour than some other colleagues have witnessed.

I told him that I really appreciate his words, especially because that's so damn rare to do!

"I didn't want to yell at **you** personally, it's really not your fault" he said and admitted "I also read the connection in the app wrong."

That conversation added three more minutes, these were worth it though.

Damn, from nearly kicked off the bus to being apologetic within 10 minutes.

(I couldn't care less about his rambling, I didn't take it personally and I really understood why he wasn't happy with the service provided.)

Hiya,

there's a bit of a larger area that I need to update, a railway line is re-opening and I already started to reflect that in JOSM.

When I try to upload it, JOSM is always downloading OSM data for validation, even if I have a local planet file loaded.
The issue I'm having is: JOSM is always hitting the bandwidth limit, thus making a simple upload take really long.

https://preview.redd.it/snllqr2ea6bh1.png?width=802&format=png&auto=webp&s=57df91332933ba968a09a880a215eade041dadd4

Is there a way to bypass that and do the validation without downloading straight from OSM's API?
The local planet file is already loaded as a layer and offline mode just throws me an error that JOSM can't download data.

(This is my first time updating a large chunk of my state's map and I really don't want to start all over again)

I'm just very much annoyed. My bus is giving me problems all-day long, I've had to drive a route I didn't even know, and now I'm waiting for a colleague to get me out of here.

A car parked (legally) in a tight curve, there's no in and no out.

I'm so ashamed of myself and I'd like to just disappear right now - And not just that, I've been profusely apologising to the dispatcher for this, it's so damn embarrassing and I can't wait to hear from it from everyone in the canteen tomorrow 🫠

(We have satnav on board, which basically didn't work out for me in this case.)

(i'm a bit bored and hope that post is okay!)

edit: I love your responses to that! THANK YOUUUUU!!!

Maybe I just don't have the right words, I can't find a solution.

I got a paper form which I want to print on, basically just stuff like my name, a date, and some text.

That paper form will be scanned as a PDF and I would enter the text I need in Libre Office in the respective fields.

What's the correct way to tell Linux/my printer to only print out my entries and nothing else?

I'm a bus driver, one of the rarer ones without a car of my own, which isn't too bad to be honest.

However, one question that I got asked a lot since I started: "How do you get to work when there's no bus in the morning?"

Well, that's honestly quite a good question!

For many people, driving seems to be the only viable option.

It's a 15 km one-way trip, so walking isn't really an option for me, biking is also out of the question due to my disabilities.

So, how do I get there when I'm supposed to drive the first bus of the day?

Easy. I know my schedule and can plan ahead. Either by booking a car at my local car club/car sharing service or by using a taxi or ride share (i.e. Bolt) - (Heck, even a carpool might be an option.)

It's waaaayyyy cheaper than owning a car for those couple of times a year I would need to drive, and I don't have all the added responsibilities of owning a vehicle. No MOT, no tax, no expensive repairs, no need to find parking at home...

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Let's just say, people are always surprised when I say that.

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For other shifts, I can just hop on the train rail replacement bus, the season ticket is paid for by my employer.

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I get the need for a car for many, yet there can be alternatives.