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I want this eye cream to work at its full potential
Pick the moisturizer that works best with the beauty of joseon revive eye cream
Bioderma atoderm moisturizer
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Cerave moisturizing cream
PS. I'm strictly cf (not open to adoption either) but I don't hate kids or anyone who wants kids
I had an argument with one of my close friends and she called me selfish for not wanting to get pregnant. Although she's completely against my cf stance but can't say it because she doesn't want to outrightly invalidate my choice but always gets irritated if I bring up that convo so naturally I stopped talking to her about it.
Recently she asked what was the actual reason of me being cf and I was like "you already know i don't want to get pregnant" and she called me selfish if that's my reason I was like obviously that's not the only reason because if that was the case i would've been open to adopt. She also accused me of being disrespectful to my own mother and the pain she went through while giving birth to me. She was hellbent on her opinion of me and my choices so I just let her be.
It was so frustrating because why do I have to have a million other reasons. Yes there are other reasons like the current state of the world etc etc but I would've been cf either way.
Why the heck is it so wrong that I simply don't have those maternal instincts and I don't want my body to experience that painful process. You would not call me selfish for not wanting to cut off my arm then why do I have to tear my coochie apart to prove that I'm not selfish.
It's Okay I'm done rambling I'm an adult I should calm down
25 yo with a bsc maths degree .3 years gap after bachelors with no job experience (I know it's a lot of gap years please don't judge me) . I really want to prepare for isi msqe 2027. I can't stay one more year at home doing nothing I have to get a job . I'm trying everything I can to get a data analyst job (certs, projects etc) .
OPTION 1I'm not great at multitasking should I try for some job ,any job that doesn't require too much stress or prep just to avoid adding another gap year and I can prepare for the entrance . Also if this is a good option please suggest what kind of job should I go for
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OPTION 2- should I just focus on getting an analyst job and put maximum efforts to create projects that might land me a decent entry level job and just forget about the master's or maybe go for exec masters in the future. I'm not sure about this because I search about any job and people are commenting that "no the market is saturated " , "there's no job for entry level it's a waste of time" .
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OPTION 3-Should I try just take another drop year and prepare for entrance. Maybe freelance during the time but I don't know if I can use freelance/self employment as a good reason for the extra gap year.
Please help me . Appreciate and open any kind of advice, opinion, criticism but please help me
I'm from India so it would be better if anyone from india helped
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How to deal with people who are always in some kind of mental competition ?
My sibling is one of them and it's getting on my nerves . He has always been like this and I can't make peace with the fact that there's nothing I can do about it .
He always does it only when it's something negative . For example if anyone says to him "I have depression" , he'll suddenly become super defensive and say some shit like "I know all about it you don't have to explain , I know exactly what you're feeling because I have it way worse than yours" it's like he's gatekeeping depression .
Once I hurt myself and there was a little open wound on my leg and I was standing outside when a stray dog came and stood next to me . When I got home i was a bit paranoid because I didn't see if the dog licked the wound and should I go to the doctor and I did just to be on the safe side . I mean anyone in my place probably would have done the same .
My brother was like "i would be freaking out if it was me , you know me , no one would be as paranoid as me "
It's always the " I feel everything way more than anyone else"
He self diagnoses himself with every mental issue , he'll see a reel where someone is claiming to have adhd , he'll be like "no he/she doesn't have it I know how is it "
At this point I think he searches for names and their symptoms and acts accordingly ,wtf it's not like every person who has adhd acts the same way
I washed my hands because I'm such a paranoid person you must be lucky you don't go through this
No bro everyone washes their hands when they are about to eat something with their hands
If there's an earthquake he'll be like "I was so scared the ground was shaking " if you say everyone in that area was scared " he'll go "no i was most affected because I'm very stressed and I am most easily scared I have the Highest level of anxiety , it's not the same "
I'm sick of it especially because he constantly invalidates and ridicules everyone else's problems
When I confront him about this "you will never understand what it's like to have my mind " in the most condescending way possible .
How to deal with people with victim mentality ?
There are several incidents like this I can go on but you get the point
How to deal with people who are always in some kind of mental competition ?
My sibling is one of them and it's getting on my nerves . He has always been like this and I can't make peace with the fact that there's nothing I can do about it .
He always does it only when it's something negative . For example if anyone says to him "I have depression" , he'll suddenly become super defensive and say some shit like "I know all about it you don't have to explain , I know exactly what you're feeling because I have it way worse than yours" it's like he's gatekeeping depression .
Once I hurt myself and there was a little open wound on my leg and I was standing outside when a stray dog came and stood next to me . When I got home i was a bit paranoid because I didn't see if the dog licked the wound and should I go to the doctor and I did just to be on the safe side . I mean anyone in my place probably would have done the same .
My brother was like "i would be freaking out if it was me , you know me , no one would be as paranoid as me "
It's always the " I feel everything way more than anyone else"
He self diagnoses himself with every mental issue , he'll see a reel where someone is claiming to have adhd , he'll be like "no he/she doesn't have it I know how is it "
At this point I think he searches for names and their symptoms and acts accordingly ,wtf it's not like every person who has adhd acts the same way
I washed my hands because I'm such a paranoid person you must be lucky you don't go through this
No bro everyone washes their hands when they are about to eat something with their hands
If there's an earthquake he'll be like "I was so scared the ground was shaking " if you say everyone in that area was scared " he'll go "no i was most affected because I'm very stressed and I am most easily scared I have the Highest level of anxiety , it's not the same "
I'm sick of it especially because he constantly invalidates and ridicules everyone else's problems
When I confront him about this "you will never understand what it's like to have my mind " in the most condescending way possible .
How to deal with people with victim mentality ?
There are several incidents like this I can go on but you get the point
I don't use conditioners on my scalp but I still have a lot of build-up on my scalp even after washing it properly and I think it's from the silicones in my conditioner . Please recommend some affordable products to get rid of it
(25f) just for clarification I DON'T HATE MY FAMILY They drain me mentally , I can't work , I can't do any physical activities , my sleep schedule is fucked .I don't know if anyone can relate to me but I have this constant debate with myself because of the guilt that I feel ,i don't want to think this way about them but I can't help it . My dad is the biggest victim according to him (if someone at his work does well he gets angry and labels them as a horrible human being for getting ahead of him) just for example My older sibling is also the same but in a different way , they think that they have every mental issue out there .For example , they'll say some shit like "oh I forgot my keys I'm so zoned out I must have adhd " "oh I overslept for an hour I'm so stressed i might be depressed " and they do it to a level where they search about certain mental health issues and act accordingly to show that they have it ,but god forbid if anyone else says a word about having even minor cough and cold , they feel so threatened that I just know that they'll be having it tomorrow even if it requires drinking from a sick person's cup . They'll literally look at a 5sec reel about something talking about their issues and be like " they're lying for attention , I know about depression and this person doesn't have it ,I know about it because I suffer from it" They'll ignore every bad thing that happens in my life and If I try to do something to improve my life , literally anything like washing my hair after bed rotting for days they'll be like "see nothing was wrong with you "or "wow it's so easy for you i can't do anything I'm so unlucky" which makes me feel bad for taking care of myself There's a lot more to rant about but I won't I'll just keep on rambling Can anyone relate? please share your opinions Please ignore the grammar mistakes english is not my first language
(25f) just for clarification I DON'T HATE MY FAMILY They drain me mentally , I can't work , I can't do any physical activities , my sleep schedule is fucked .I don't know if anyone can relate to me but I have this constant debate with myself because of the guilt that I feel ,i don't want to think this way about them but I can't help it . My dad is the biggest victim according to him (if someone at his work does well he gets angry and labels them as a horrible human being for getting ahead of him) just for example My older sibling is also the same but in a different way , they think that they have every mental issue out there .For example , they'll say some shit like "oh I forgot my keys I'm so zoned out I must have adhd " "oh I overslept for an hour I'm so stressed i might be depressed " and they do it to a level where they search about certain mental health issues and act accordingly to show that they have it ,but god forbid if anyone else says a word about having even minor cough and cold , they feel so threatened that I just know that they'll be having it tomorrow even if it requires drinking from a sick person's cup . They'll literally look at a 5sec reel about something talking about their issues and be like " they're lying for attention , I know about depression and this person doesn't have it ,I know about it because I suffer from it" They'll ignore every bad thing that happens in my life and If I try to do something to improve my life , literally anything like washing my hair after bed rotting for days they'll be like "see nothing was wrong with you "or "wow it's so easy for you i can't do anything I'm so unlucky" which makes me feel bad for taking care of myself There's a lot more to rant about but I won't I'll just keep on rambling Can anyone relate? please share your opinions Please ignore the grammar mistakes english is not my first language