u/cherryjuice_32

Yesterday I posted in a women’s sub about leaning into my feminine energy more and asking for advice. I said I sometimes feel frumpy and wanted to work on it.

I was jumped all over and accused of wanting to improve myself for the male gaze and told to de enter men and that my use of the binary term “feminine energy” was harmful (??)

I posted here and got way better answers and people who actually understand my question about self improvement and wanting to radiate confidence and feel better.

It’s got me really seeing how toxic this feminist movement or whatever it is, truly is. Why are women being punched on for simply saying that they want to improve? The argument over there was that I should embrace the way I am. I respect that, but what’s wrong with wanting to feel better or improve if that’s what I want?

I have typically been left leaning but I think it’s just gone too far and everything I’ve read on here has been so refreshing.

I asked this in another sub and they got very heated. I’m hoping this one is better. They got really mad at me for using the term “feminine energy”

Have you ever changed your mannerisms?

Maybe this is a strange question but I always feel…. Frumpy and clunky. I don’t know how to explain it. As I try to lean more into my feminine energy and relax more, I notice my mannerisms don’t match (maybe?)

I don’t know. I wish I were slower, more elegant, poised, etc.

Has anyone ever had something like this that they changed?

I have been using ChatGPT for a little over a year and I do not think I have seen it say this so excessively somehow in every single fucking message. I updated my memory to tell it to stop doing that and it is literally still doing it.

I’m so sick of my terrible posture. The only thing that makes me “need” to stand up straight is wearing in heels… Otherwise, I will inevitably fall over. However, I can’t wear heels 24/7 so I’m trying to figure out how those of you who had this issue fixed it.

I also know posture is directly related to confidence, and I’m really trying to be my most confidence self.

My 6 year old cat used to sleep through the night but for some reason it changed. He eats wet food 2x a day. 6am, and 6pm. For awhile, he was waking me up at 4am by scratching my bed, so it wasn’t something I could just ignore. So I decided to add a small snack of dry food at 10pm for him via auto feeder. I thought if he ate more before bed he’d be full and sleep through the night, but no dice. So I decided to *also* add a 4:30am snack. But now he wakes up and eats the 4:30am snack, zooms around, and then meows until 6.

Something here has to change but I don’t know what. Is there anything I can do??

My 6 year old cat used to sleep through the night but for some reason it changed. He eats wet food 2x a day. 6am, and 6pm. For awhile, he was waking me up at 4am by scratching my bed, so it wasn’t something I could just ignore. So I decided to add a small snack of dry food at 10pm for him via auto feeder. I thought if he ate more before bed he’d be full and sleep through the night, but no dice. So I decided to *also* add a 4:30am snack. But now he wakes up and eats the 4:30am snack, zooms around, and then meows until 6.

Something here has to change but I don’t know what. Is there anything I can do??

Can you tell I’m a first time cat owner? 😂