u/chipfr1es

I typed myself IEI but a strong observation from my closest friends catched my eye. Made me think if i was EII.

I recently got in an argument with someone, and that person told me that im trying to be the moral superior.

I asked my close friends if i generally try to be moral superior. Both of them said yes.

My first friend that i will call G said (word by word):
“It’s the fact that you question your own morality of your own actions as well as your past, and even beat yourself over it. Sometimes validly, sometimes overly (IMO).”

My second friend that i will call A said (word by word):
“Not gonna lie, it is like that. That one time where you were debating with the religion teacher, you put him in a spesific box that you were stubborn with your point of view. You sometimes act like a “morally know-it-all” and it affects us. When there is a political debate or an impression of a person, you do that a lot.”

And after A sent this G one-ups it.

Could it be because that my tritype is 641 (The Philosopher) and that i am 1L in psychosophy?
Or am i just an EII mistyped as IEI?
Let me know in the comments!

For context, im pretty sure that i am a LEVF. I took tests and also read SoL (not all of the book but i do have an idea.).

The thing is, some people claim that LEVF can only be SX5 in enneagram. This makes me feel trapped, i dont think that all people must fit into one box.

I have typed myself SX5, SP4, SO4 and SP6 before (just telling it so that you can understand what type of person i am).

In conclusion i typed myself SP6 but the thing is that 3V+4F is more relatable than 3F+4V.

What are you guys’ opinions about this? I would love to hear some opinions.

Yaklaşık 1 yıldır devam eden bir süreç var.

Gün içinde her zaman paranoyağım. Evdeysem genellikle tüm perdeleri kapatıyorum, evin kapısını hep kilitliyorum, apartmandan ses geldiğinde kapı deliğinden bakıyorum.
Dışarı çıkmaktan korkuyorum. Hayatımın belirli bir dönemindeki insanların, hatta dışarıdaki herhangi birinin beni bir şekilde “ifşa” edeceğini ve dünyanın en kötü insanı olduğumu kanıtlayacağını hissediyorum. Gerçekten lazım olmadığı sürece site dışına asla çıkmıyorum. Dışarı çıkarsam benden nefret eden insanlarla karşılaşacağım gibi geliyor ve bu durumdan asla sıyrılamıyorum. Geceleri/duşta insanların benim geleceğimi mahvedeceğini düşünmeden edemiyorum. Geçmişte hata yaptıysam onları asla affedemiyorum ve kızmak/üzülmek gibi durumları yaşayabileceğimi ‘hak etmediğimi’ düşünüyorum. Geçmişten beri yaptığım büyük küçük tüm hatalarımın sonucunun bana patlayacağını düşünüyorum ve sürekli kendi cezalandırıyorum self-sabote ediyorum.

Eğer tipoloji sistemlerinden biri olan Enneagram’ı biliyorsanız, ben bir Tip 6’yım (Kendini Koruma 6, SP6). Belki bu biraz daha açıklayıcı olabilir.

Daha çok şey yazabilirim ama buradaki insanların da bana soru sormasını istiyorum, belki merak edilen şeyleri cevaplarsam daha mantıklı olabilir.

Sizce psikolojik yardım almalı mıyım yoksa bu davranış sadece kısa süreli bir reaksiyon mu?
Not: 17 yaşındayım, reşit değilim.
Bu reaksiyon ergenlikten mi kaynaklı?

im 17M and always had a rocky relationship with my mother due to her being emotionally unstable, manipulative and insecure in general. she had an image of a how a perfect child would be and always tried to put me into that box. this image has “good grades, being socially active, obedient, having a great body and an appearance”. i was always academically smart in my entire life and usually didnt speak up to her, but i was introverted and overweight so she always insulted my body whenever she got mad/frustrated to me or someone else but then lashed out on me.

i had a twin brother and he didnt recieve any of this treatment at all. he has bad grades, socially active but also very lazy, not obedient at all and very much independent, but he has a very great physique. he does not listen to any of the things my parents say and gets away with it very easily because he simply overpowers anyone in the house and my mom favors him anyways.

(for context: this double standards is so obvious that:

1. my dad once told me that he confronted my mother about this issue before and asked her why did she always favors my twin over me.
2. my little brother told me that he thinks i am my mothers least favorite child)

so, why do you parents play favorites? what is something that is missing in me? why am i my moms least favorite child? am i the problem?

i want to move out for college. whenever i think about staying in the city for college, this thought usually immediately fades away after one afternoon that is spent with my mom.

I (17M) always had a rocky relationship with my mother as long as i remember. This was both physical and psychological. I think she had (still has) an “ideal child” portrait in her head which is “academically successful, obedient, has good body, socially active” etc.

I have always recieved bodyshaming in my entire life (growing up overweight is not for the weak lmao!), my mother could be my n1 bully for that. whenever something happened between us, even if isnt even related to something physical regarding my body, she would insult me. she also couldnt keep a secret, she used to yell my weight to everyone whenever she got mad because of me/because of someone else and lashed out on me. as a result of bodyshaming i was really insecure and introverted.

my mom used to check my phone every day till maybe my late 15s, only backed down when i had one of my biggest arguments with her and told her that she is obsessed with image and had insane double standards etc.

i have a twin brother and he NEVER got this treatment. i remember once at 11 years old my twin brother was very socially inactive and never did anything, my mom wanted him to go grocery shopping. i, a stupid loving child, offered to go instead of him because my mom was getting frustrated by each minute. then my mom lashed out on me, called me every insult that you can imagine for an overweight person, physically pushed me and then hit me when i was in the ground thinking wtf did i do wrong.

now at 17, my twin brother has a great physique so he always gets what he wants because he physically overpowers anyone in the house + my mom always favors him anyways. and i am this socially introverted-ambiverted academically smart overweight person, which my mom loves because she can call me lazy and fat insults anytime i actually do anything instead studying.

my mom is also very emotionally manipulative, pulls and pushed me constantly and does other things that are absolutely her trying to make me feel guilty.

my dad once called her out of favoritism (privately, he told me afterwards) because believe me it was that obvious. i also called out my mom for playing favorites and she said there is no thing such as that + she needs to have a kinder approach to my twin brother because he is independent. my little brother also told me that how it was obvious that im her least favorite child.

the thing is, after all of this i still love her and feel empathy towards her. she is very insecure, unstable and usually a horrible mother figure to me but i cant help but feel guilty about my own words. whenever i think about going to a college near our city or in our city, the thought immediately dies after like one afternoon that is spent with my mom. there are a lot of things that i probably forgot writing this so feel free to ask.

hi you all, this is actually my first post in here!

i actually did type myself in other typology systems such as socionics and psychosophy (i think i am an IEI LEVF) but i do not want to rely on correlations.

the problem is that i cant figure out if i belong to heart or head triad. i dont know if im enneagram 4, 5 or 6. i dont know about my instinctual variant stack. and specifically talking about subtypes, im torn between so4, sx5 and sp6.

i currently type myself:
INFJ IN(F) IEI so4w5 461 LEVF rLoaI VBPN aoxiDxG Melancholic-Phlegmatic True-Neutral
but again im just not really sure about my enneagram core, instinctual variant stack and just enneagram subtype in general.

[THIS IS NOT A “TYPE ME” POST!!!]
[THIS IS A POST ABOUT NEEDING ADVICE!!!]

hi you all! this is my first post so im kinda confused about how this works honestly.

i actually did type myself in other typology systems such as socionics and psychosophy (i think i am an IEI LEVF) but i do not want to rely on correlations.

the problem is that i cant figure out if i belong to heart or head triad. i dont know if im enneagram 4, 5 or 6. i dont know about my instinctual variant stack. and specifically talking about subtypes, im torn between so4, sx5 and sp6.

i currently type myself:
INFJ IN(F) IEI so4w5 461 LEVF rLoaI VBPN aoxiDxG Melancholic-Phlegmatic True-Neutral
but again im just not really sure about my enneagram core, instinctual variant stack and just enneagram subtype in general.