u/coolvideonerd

Sou H24 (Homem trans). Estou com muita vontade de viajar para Cabo Verde com minha namorada em Dezembro desse ano.

Iniciei o processo de retificação de nome (e de marcador de sexo legal) semana passada, e ainda não conclui o processo e nem fui no cartório. Meu passaporte, documentos, tudo está com meu nome morto e meu sexo legal natal.

Estou comprando as passagens para a viagem e na aba das informações do passageiro, tem o campo do gênero e nome.

Aí eu já coloco atualizado ou as informações antigas? Será que até lá tudo meu já estará modificado?

Often I come across posts, TikToks and so on of 'trans men' being so clueless about being male. As if trans men are schooling trans men on how to be men. Like, isn't this natural to you guys?

Granted, no one is born knowing how to be this or that. I get cis people go through a process of learning how to be in society and act according to their AGAB. We all do, actually. We're forever students.

So I get that. I suppose what I'm trying to say is something adjacent to that.

Speaking from my own experience, I realized I had to transition trans because I've always been neurologically male. Socially inclined to be in male roles, stereotypically male behaviors, thoughts, mannerisms, sexuality, physical traits, etc.

So I had a very hard time integrating into female roles, behaviors, anatomy... This is where the dysphoria and general 'oddness' started. So basically day 1.

My point is, being male feels natural. I see so many posts and general sentiments that make me think being male to those people seem unnatural or counterintuitive. I could tell those people from cis men just by the way they type, express themselves, their thoughts and probably physically in real life (but that's a given if they're pre-T or very early in their transition)

But I get that my experience is just my own. I feel kinda shitty implying I'm more of a 'real' man compared to them, which I don't like.

I'm still veery early in the beard process. I barely have anything but the few hairs I have seem to attract more pimples to my neck and jaw area, and they're PAINFUL! Any tips on this?

Genuinamente.

NUNCA mais vi alguém vendendo taboca no sinal. Alguém precisa documentar a receita de como fazer para o conhecimento não se perder na próxima geração.

EDIT: Sou geração Z, nascido em 2001 e tenho 24 anos.

One the worst aspects of transitioning is the social aspect. Dealing with people. Especially family members.

I completed one year on HRT last month. I pass 100% of the time, everyone acknowledges me as a man, a guy or at minimum a masculine individual.

I was raised by my uncle and aunt, who I have some problems with. They're okay. I like my aunt better and she has been very supportive of my transition although she has her shortcomings. But my uncle who I'm not really fond or close with gets on my nerves for a multitude of reasons including how he deals with my transition.

I don't hang out or talk to my uncle and have been seeing him less and less since I moved out a couple years ago. I generally try to be distant from him because IRL interactions are never pleasant. He's short-tempered, misgenders me and shows little effort to call me by my name.

Well, my cousin (his son) came to my place to come pick up some stuff and his dad came with him to help. They greeted me, were nice but of course in a short amount of time my uncle called me by my old nickname and quickly corrected himself.

I feel he does that performatively since his son corrects him instead of coming from a place of genuinely seeing me as any other man and wanting to treat me with respect, y'know? But I have been know that, so honestly I didn't react I just kept a still face.

I already knew something like this was going to happen and I had mentally prepared for it. Fine.

Moving on, everything was cool, they picked what they need and we were heading to the garage. They came to pick up a office chair so we were trying to figure out how to fit the chair inside the car.

As I was lifting the chair up, he said "wow [my name] is strong!" which in isolation is a harmless statment but it felt a little bit like when a girl is doing something manual and people praise it a way to be like "wow this is out of the ordinary for a lady!", y'know?

So that triggered me but I also brushed it off and didn't react. Just kept it cool.

But once the chair was inside the backseat and we were done, he came to close the backseat door and said "be careful with your little hand" ("cuidado com a mãozinha, as it was said in Portuguese) when closing it. It felt infantilizing and it genuinely made me feel angry.

I honestly feel very happy with the changes I have on T and I don't second guess myself at all, it's just that I feel family members like my uncle just don't catch up to reality and don't try to even think "wow, this is kind of something you don't really say to a guy". When his son lifted the chair earlier, he wasn't congratulated, it was normal. A guy picking up a chair with his normal strength.

And my uncle didn't even say that out of malice, he didn't think twice. But it revealed what I knew - people rationally know I am a trans man, what that generally means, but they do not see me as a guy. I am the same woman but with a deeper voice to them (if that!).

I don't even think a bigger build, a beard or more masculine secondary characteristics would change that to be frank. I've seen guys saying they are the 10 years on HRT and family members will still misgender them... so it's a lost battle.

It's infuriating but yeah, I keep my distance with people that give me that vibe or outright show me that they see me in that light.

Sadly, I didn't have a choice with when it came to my uncle tagging along since it was his car and I didn't want to start anything by refusing to have him over since it'd be a short interaction after all.

But I've boundaries for who I'm letting stay in my life based on how they treat me gender-wise. It's annoying that with family members sometimes they're just there and you can't really escape them 100%. I can expand on this on another post.

One the worst aspects of transitioning is the social aspect. Dealing with people. Especially family members.

I completed one year on HRT last month. I pass 100% of the time, everyone acknowledges me as a man, a guy or at minimum a masculine individual.

I was raised by my uncle and aunt, who I have some problems with. They're okay. I like my aunt better and she has been very supportive of my transition although she has her shortcomings. But my uncle who I'm not really fond or close with gets on my nerves for a multitude of reasons including how he deals with my transition.

I don't hang out or talk to my uncle and have been seeing him less and less since I moved out a couple years ago. I generally try to be distant from him because IRL interactions are never pleasant. He's short-tempered, misgenders me and shows little effort to call me by my name.

Well, my cousin (his son) came to my place to come pick up some stuff and his dad came with him to help. They greeted me, were nice but of course in a short amount of time my uncle called me by my old nickname and quickly corrected himself.

I feel he does that performatively since his son corrects him instead of coming from a place of genuinely seeing me as any other man and wanting to treat me with respect, y'know? But I have been know that, so honestly I didn't react I just kept a still face.

I already knew something like this was going to happen and I had mentally prepared for it. Fine.

Moving on, everything was cool, they picked what they need and we were heading to the garage. They came to pick up a office chair so we were trying to figure out how to fit the chair inside the car.

As I was lifting the chair up, he said "wow [my name] is strong!" which in isolation is a harmless statment but it felt a little bit like when a girl is doing something manual and people praise it a way to be like "wow this is out of the ordinary for a lady!", y'know?

So that triggered me but I also brushed it off and didn't react. Just kept it cool.

But once the chair was inside the backseat and we were done, he came to close the backseat door and said "be careful with your little hand" ("cuidado com a mãozinha, as it was said in Portuguese) when closing it. It felt infantilizing and it genuinely made me feel angry.

I honestly feel very happy with the changes I have on T and I don't second guess myself at all, it's just that I feel family members like my uncle just don't catch up to reality and don't try to even think "wow, this is kind of something you don't really say to a guy". When his son lifted the chair earlier, he wasn't congratulated, it was normal. A guy picking up a chair with his normal strength.

And my uncle didn't even say that out of malice, he didn't think twice. But it revealed what I knew - people rationally know I am a trans man, what that generally means, but they do not see me as a guy. I am the same woman but with a deeper voice to them (if that!).

I don't even think a bigger build, a beard or more masculine secondary characteristics would change that to be frank. I've seen guys saying they are the 10 years on HRT and family members will still misgender them... so it's a lost battle.

It's infuriating but yeah, I keep my distance with people that give me that vibe or outright show me that they see me in that light.

Sadly, I didn't have a choice with when it came to my uncle tagging along since it was his car and I didn't want to start anything by refusing to have him over since it'd be a short interaction after all.

But I've boundaries for who I'm letting stay in my life based on how they treat me gender-wise. It's annoying that with family members sometimes they're just there and you can't really escape them 100%. I can expand on this on another post.

Estava dando uma conferida nos clubes disponíveis na cidade como Yatch Club, Clube Espanhol, AABB, mas queria saber se alguém aqui tem uma recomendação para quem é solteiro e procura praticar esportes.

My hairline is great and I have no receding happening. My hairline did masculinize, which is just what happens when you're on T and I'm happy about it. Having said that, I've seen other guys use finasteride as a form of prevention but I've read that finasteride can impact the potency of testosterone or block some effects, something like that. Can anyone help me understand what I should watch out for if I were to take finasteride preventively?

Quando falamos do abandono dos bairros centrais, Tudo parece que a resposta rápida é gentrificação. Ninguém aprofunda. Não que isso não possa fazer parte, mas as pessoas usam como um "catch-all".

I know people flame some trans women a lot for not "re-socializing" but what do you see in FTM communities that might fall into the same category?

Salve! Resolvi abrir esse AMA pra ajudar quem tá precisando tirar dúvidas que dificilmente você encontras as respostas facilmente na internet. Já fiz um post similar mas resolvi fazer isso de novo dado o sucesso do primeiro post.

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Também criei um subreddit pra quem trabalha como editor (ou motion designer/designer gráfico) pra gringa: https://www.reddit.com/r/breditors/

Title! Started T May 2025. I was 23 when I started now I'm a 24. No sign of an Adam's apple, kinda bummed even though I knew the chances were slim.

I'm a trans man. I agree that dysphoria is a prerequisite to being trans and this is not the question I'm trying to raise.

I'm more interested in people who have transsexual interventions, like being on testosterone (a normal or above average male range), top surgery and bottom surgery.

For example, I've seen lesbians who only have top surgery, I have seen lesbians that take T, are fully masculinized but still understand themselves as somewhere in the woman category.

And it's not like they get a standard double mastectomy like women who go through cancer get, they get the type of top surgery we get, where they reconstruct and sculpt your chest into a masculine one.

I find it fascinating, honestly. It's hard to wrap my head around since those interventions will alienate those people from a general societal perception of them as women. So people will misgender them and treat them as if they're male (because phenotypically and hormonally they are), so how's navigating that?

I've seen people say they don't have any dysphoria whatsoever but I find it hard to believe... going through all those steps to change your secondary sex characteristics but claiming they never caused you distress? So why change them in the first place?

But at the same time, I get people who might just be pragmatic. My reasoning behind having top surgery is because of dysphoria, it is because it is a female feature that doesn't belong in my body in order for me to feel whole as a man, but I also get people who want that part of them gone because life would be easier without them. Like, working out and going to the beach without a female chest seems pretty amazing for an objective POV, IMO.

I also get using testosterone as an enhancer if you're a bodybuilder or a gym person who's trying to achieve a certain physique or athleticism.

But the combo of hormones, surgeries, male name, male behavior, etc... and no dysphoria? There's this big question mark for me on that.

I'll be getting top surgery in 3 months and then right after that start my hysterectomy consultations.

Just the whole topic of reproduction is triggering to me. Just reading words on a paper makes me want to crawl out of my skin. I just want what's in my body to be out.

A few days I ago I was talking to my cis girlfriend and I was mentioning something about me getting hysterectomy and she asked if I plan to leave some of the things in my body if I want biological children.

First off all, she knows I don't want children but it was aggravating to even have the thought of me using anything female to reproduce entertained. Absolutely disgusting and repulsive. I want to speedrun hysterectomy so I can get bottom surgery as soon as possible but also just everything about what I sadly have going on reproductively is so disgusting and distressful.

It's hard because in order to get the surgery I have to do research and obviously will need consultations with doctors where they'll be discussing my body parts. I feel lightheaded when searching about it. It's distressful to know what I currently have inside of me and it's the opposite of male.

I'll be getting top surgery in 3 months and then right after that start my hysterectomy consultations.

Just the whole topic of reproduction is triggering to me. Just reading words on a paper makes me want to crawl out of my skin. I just want what's in my body to be out.

A few days I ago I was talking to my cis girlfriend and I was mentioning something about me getting hysterectomy and she asked if I plan to leave some of the things in my body if I want biological children.

First off all, she knows I don't want children but it was aggravating to even have the thought of me using anything female to reproduce entertained. Absolutely disgusting and repulsive. I want to speedrun hysterectomy so I can get bottom surgery as soon as possible but also just everything about what I sadly have going on reproductively is so disgusting and distressful.

It's hard because in order to get the surgery I have to do research and obviously will need consultations with doctors where they'll be discussing my body parts. I feel lightheaded when searching about it. It's distressful to know what I currently have inside of me and it's the opposite of male.

I've heard this once online from someone who was disappointed their top surgery was absolutely 100% plank flat and was trying to build their pecs.