
u/discolights

TIL that you should not ask wanna-breeders why they want kids...
I'm 40, Non-Binary, childfree obviously. I work in a retail environment with a wide mix of people. One of my colleagues is a 19 year old single university student. I cracked a joke today saying "no matter how much my life sucks, at least I don't have to go home to a bunch of kids." He said, "I can't relate. I want to have a bunch of kids one day." Me: "Really?" He: "yeah, really. I think being a dad would be amazing."
So I asked him what it was he thought was so great about children. Especially since he's told me before that he has zero experience with toddlers or babies. I asked, was it because he wanted to pass on his DNA? Wanted a mini-me to pass his values to? A "legacy"? (I've found a lot of men are obsessed with the idea of passing on their last name or having a legacy.) He got this dreamy look on his face and said, "I can't explain it. It's just a feeling I have. It's something I know I want. When I graduate uni, that's my priority, is starting a family."
Gag.
I am not going to hold it too much against him because he's young and has barely any life experience, but gosh, "I just want to" is such a selfish reasoning imo. I think he's going to get a rude awakening when he actually does get a kid. He's going to see it's not all sunshine and roses.
Call me biased but... Pug smiles are the best
Head empty, no thoughts 🥰
That time my pug decided to get a job...
He didn't last long at a desk job unfortunately.
The grave of Armistice Margo Atkinson (Crowland, UK)
Visited Crowland Abbey today and had a wander in the churchyard, spotted this grave. I don't think I've ever seen anyone with Armistice as a given name. I wondered why her parents chose this name for her. My hypothesis is that her father served in World War I and she must have been born on Armistice Day, or thereabouts.
Sad that she only lived to be 9 years old.
Continental breakfast spread in Poland
Gościniec Kanclerz, Zamość.
Not pictured: giant mug of hot strong tea I have every morning instead of coffee
Kotlet schabowy, tłuczone ziemniaki, i mizeria (English in body text)
One of my all time favourite Polish dinners. Breaded pork cutlet, mashed potato (garnished with plenty of dill) and a cucumber salad made with sour cream and even more dill.
Taken at Gościniec Kanclerz, Zamość, Poland
Żurek (sour rye soup)- Mielec, Poland
I enjoyed this at Karczma Polska restaurant.
I know it's been too damn long since we've had a new episode when I see this local event and I do a double take...
Season 3 when?
Just turned 40 and I have no idea how to style myself anymore
I am short (155 cm/5'1) and plus size. I believe I am pear shaped as I have wide hips, large bun and thighs, and not much in the way of a waist. I've also got an apron belly. I don't want to look frumpy; it seems most plus size clothes options want you to hide your body in floral potato sacks.
Most of my clothes are things I've had for years. I think if I had some advice on what types of clothing would look good on me, it would make clothes shopping a lot less stressful.
I actually had a damn good time at the show in London
After seeing all the horror stories on here about the shows in America, I was worried that there would be similar here. I went to see him on Thursday. It was so much fun! Very high energy show. He played all my favourites (and some stuff I hadn't heard before). I've been to dozens of shows and this was definitely top 5.
Pros:
Didn't have to wait long for merch or drinks at the bar
Queue was long but moved quickly
Great staff and security
Amazing vibes all night
Cons:
No encore (I know it's not a requirement but would have been cool, even doing Europapa again)
I was towards the back most of the time but I noticed the closer I got to the front, the more it smelled?? There were definitely some unwashed fuckers there who needed some deodorant
Tall people who wouldn't FUCKING move. I'm 155 cm, and found it hard to see sometimes. Ended up having to elbow my way thru the crowd a few times.
Overall though, great job Joost and Co, come back to London soon please!
found this on the floor at work
is this---? yes. it is.
I spotted these on Geeksoutfit earlier and I have never needed anything so badly
I will say it looks like a Chinese drop shipper site so I'm sure the IRL quality is shite, but if I could get some official show merch like this I would be chuffed!!
The most bashed bridge in the UK takes another victim
Tbf that sign is very easy to miss.
Found these lil guys in my conservatory today (East Cambridgeshire,UK)
Some years ago my fiancé picked up this random piece of metal off a road (he thinks it might be part of a tractor) and stuck it on a shelf in our conservatory. Welp, turns out that a robin has made a nest in it. When I went to get a picture today the chicks heard me and put their heads up.
Ain't nature grand?
"I don't like beef in red wine so I made a recipe with both these things, and I didn't like it"
At least Jo B set her straight.
It's not parents that give "unconditional love", it's children
Parents always say that you'll never know what unconditional love is until you have kids. But they don't "unconditionally" love their kids. Just look at the regretful parents sub and you'll see. So many people love babies and toddlers but struggle when their kid has thoughts and feelings of their own. Parents disown their kids for being gay, trans, leaving their religion or culture, etc.
It's kids who unconditionally love their parents. Kids will love even an abusive or neglectful parent. Many people find it difficult or impossible to cut a parent out of their lives. I myself am an example of this. My own mother was neglectful but I can't bring myself to cut her off completely.
Is this what parents mean when they say "unconditional love", that they want to create a person who will feel beholden to them their whole lives?