u/discolights

Parents always say that you'll never know what unconditional love is until you have kids. But they don't "unconditionally" love their kids. Just look at the regretful parents sub and you'll see. So many people love babies and toddlers but struggle when their kid has thoughts and feelings of their own. Parents disown their kids for being gay, trans, leaving their religion or culture, etc.

It's kids who unconditionally love their parents. Kids will love even an abusive or neglectful parent. Many people find it difficult or impossible to cut a parent out of their lives. I myself am an example of this. My own mother was neglectful but I can't bring myself to cut her off completely.

Is this what parents mean when they say "unconditional love", that they want to create a person who will feel beholden to them their whole lives?

She is in her mid-thirties. Lives on a caravan site with her fiance and his family. Has a ton of health problems, like numerous food allergies, medicine allergies, and epilepsy. But yet she still wants to have a baby. I've playfully teased her about it because she just adopted a puppy and has been struggling with house-training. She doesn't have much patience. I said "if you can't handle teaching a dog to go toilet outside, how you gonna handle potty training a kid?" She insists that it's different and that her fiance and his mum will help. Whatever.
A couple of years ago, she had a miscarriage. Ever since then it's been baby rabies and "I'm already in my thirties, the clock is ticking, you know!" She's a really great colleague and I like working with her, but I've had to draw some firm boundaries on this topic. I'm afraid if I let her go on I will snap and say something that will hurt her feelings. I guess I just can't wrap my head around the fact that this kid will probably have some of her health conditions and a shit life because its parents are broke.