u/falandofodhasci

i'm a 23yo man, i met a 24yo woman in january, we fell in love and started dating, everything was so perfect, she was so so so sweet, caring, and romantic, and it was reciprocal. we were both "obsessed" with each other, not in a creepy way.

but in the past few months, she changed so much. she doesnt flirt with me anymore, doesnt talk as much, basically doesn't express love (only if i say something first).

i already talked to her about this 3 times, and she just gives the same excuses: "my feelings didn't change, i still love you, i just have been busy, caught up with life".

yesterday i tried to do something, i texted her "youre so beautiful, im so obsessed with you" like we used to say to each other, and her only response was reacting with a heart. but i know what this girl from months ago would have texted me back, and it hurts.

my question is: im thinking if i should ask her "how much are you obsessed with me?" just to see what happens... i wanna see what she's gonna say. should i do this?

i (23M) have anxious attachment, im in a relationship with a girl (24F) since february of this year, and right now she is in a bar because all her friends from her university reunited today so shes there to have fun and have a good time with them (and one of them is her ex)

one thing about her is that doesnt like nonchalant men in relationships (this fact is gonna make sense in a bit)

so the things is, she just sent me a snap with her ex and another male friend of him, both of them dancing in a goofy way to have fun, while she is laughing, and with a caption "who tf loves nonchalant men?"

i think this statement was weird and is making me so anxious and unconfortable, its genuinely hurting me, why would she say that?! does she mean that she doesnt like nonchalant >friends<? if so why didnt she say "who tf likes no chalant friends" instead of "men"...

the way she said this sounds like they are love interests to her... is this okay? am i overthinking? im scared of confronting this and end up just bothering her

hello, im from Brazil and in january of this year a girl from France dm'd me on my instagram flirting, i took some courage to respond and we got along surprisingly well, so so well that we started talking everyday all the time, and both showing love interest, its been 5 months since we met, we created a strong feeling towards each other and we planned on going to paris and meeting irl in December this year. she is what ive always ever wanted from a girl since my last abusive relationship, she is loving, caring, romantic, funny, calm, mature, she communicates, and she is so good with words, really makes me feel loved, but the problem is this all of a sudden kinda changed, in the past 1-2 months she has been more distant, we used to call and talk, watch movies together and spend time together, nowadays she doesnt show interest in any of that, she say stuff like "sure we can do that maybe!" and then it just doesnt happen. she doesnt express love like before anymore, i just cant feel her passion that i used to feel, all the beautiful words she told me... its like she turned on automatic mode, she barely texts me... this has been making me sad but im scared to talk to her about it. is this normal? im so confused and my trauma makes me so scared to ask her if everything is alright

i suspect she was just love bombing me bcs she knows i only had one girlfriend my entire life but i dont wanna believe it