u/fallenguardd

My little sister is in 10th grade right now and I genuinely don’t know what to do anymore, so I’m asking here in case any therapist/psychologist or even someone who has dealt with something similar can guide me.

She used to be one of those students teachers praised all the time. Great marks, active in class, neat notebooks, everything. But from the last 1–2 years her studies have dipped really badly. Like barely passing bad. Her notebooks are filled with red marks, she even failed once, and teachers keep calling my parents to school. One of her teachers even said she literally does not speak a single word in class anymore and might need professional help.

The weird part is whenever we try to talk to her, she just shuts down completely. She sits there silently or replies rudely and avoids the conversation. Even bringing up studies or habits changes her expression instantly, like she becomes a completely different person. My mom even gently asked her if she wanted to see a therapist or someone professionally, with zero judgement, but she immediately said no.

I know teenagers can act rebellious sometimes, but this feels different. She stays in her room all day, constantly on her phone, doesn’t interact much, and doesn’t seem interested in anything anymore. I’ve tried talking calmly, motivating her, even saying I don’t care if she uses her phone till midnight but at least study for an hour or two, but she just replies rudely like “aapko kya.”

As an older sister, I think I’m extra scared because I don’t want her repeating mistakes I made. I want to help her so badly but she doesn’t seem to want my help either.

At one point I even thought maybe it was some boy issue or something because she seemed emotionally affected. In starting i used to check her phone and i found a guy asking her for nudes and that sank my heart literally cuz it gave me flashabacks of when i was a teen i went to met a guy i liked and he tried to put himself all over me wanted to touch me even though i said no. I dont want taht for my sister and I got angry once and told her I don’t mind her talking to guys but please notice red flags and take care of herself. I later apologised because I realised I sounded controlling and scared instead of supportive. Since then I stopped checking her phone or interfering because I think it only made her trust me less.

But honestly I still feel like something is wrong. This doesn’t feel like “normal teenage attitude” anymore. So if anyone here is a therapist, psychologist, counsellor, or someone who has gone through this with a sibling/child. should we actually get professional help involved? Or can this still be solved through behaviour changes, communication, family support etc.? And how do you even convince someone to accept help when they refuse to talk?

I just want my sister to be okay.

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