It's clear that we all struggle. But is intellectually researching Jung's work really gonna solve our problems?
When i discovered Jung around 19 years, like 8 years ago i felt so excited, this excitement pushed me to study it for multiple years. Thinking that with enough understanding the source of my issues, i can at some point overcome it...
But now at 27, i realise i just build some unique, societally incompatible mind, that really only makes sense to me.
The problems are still there, intellectual understanding didnt do shit. Experiencing life makes a difference for me now tho.
Is there anyone here, that can put this intellectual understanding to use around areas that are particularly sensitive? Are we really dealing with our issues, or are we just enjoying the intellectual stimulation?
Feels like a never ending amount of sirenes at 5 am, must be something serious? Usually they don’t sound sirenes when the roads are already empty so early in the morning
I have the option to go to Uva or to Erasmus. I would like a change of cities so im considering amsterdam as i've been living in rotterdam for 6/7 years but dont want to move for now. I live 10 min away from Erasmus campus vs probably 90 to 110 min from the UVA location.
How much of a burden is the traveling to amsterdam going to be? I dont have mandatory contact hours every day, afaik it will be maybe 2 or max 3 days so that makes it bit easier.
Will i regret picking amsterdam because of long commute? I do like Amsterdam as a city better, so i would like to be there more often, i think that experience and change of location is also valueable. Im just not entirely sure if its worth the long commute.
Did anyone else study in amsterdam while living in Rotterdam? How was that?
Please not interested in comments about Rotterdam vs Amsterdam rivalry
I keep moving my toolbar without knowing why or how. I dont change any settings, but it seems like i am triggering some shortcut or gesture. Or is this a bug?
Its annoying, i would like to prevent it.
Is it just me? I keep trying to upload different files but everytime it says it cant read it. Temporary problem or do i need to go somewhere else for this?
my (m27) mother(62) is coming to visit me and she always wants to sleep in my bed with me. I have a kingsize, but it never felt right for me. My mother likes to have her way and likes to guilt trip when I set boundaries, up to the point I already kinda resent her visit before she arrived. To be clear, its not about wanting to be in the same bed as me, but about her feeling entitled to have the bed and expecting me to take the couch.
Maybe I’m being unreasonable here. She will be staying for 2 nights. I want to offer her my huge comfortable couch with a surface area of atleast a single mattress, with a thin top up air mattress. But her attitude about this is already very condescending.
Mind I have sleep issues and she goes to bed at least 2 hours later than me.
AITA?
Edit: Ok, i can understand that i should give her the bed. The thing that bugs me, is that she walks in like she owns the place. Like i would feel ok to give her the bed, but she is claiming it, which kinda ruins the gesture of me going on the couch for her.
Edit 2: was not clear about this: this is not about her wanting to sleep in the same bed as me, but about her feeling like she is mistreated if she gets the coach and i take the bed.
Not sure yet, but i start to seem a connection between TRE and my mood going down a lot after, even with only 5 min every other day.
How likely is this?
I am neurodivergent/adhd/gifted/sensitive, i've read that this can affect it as well and positive + negative emotions are both quite intense for me. Example; i will also cry out of gratitude a few times per week or when the weather is really nice or i listen to good music.
I am already doing a lot of downregulating activities like walking in nature for 1 to 2 hours per day. Vipassana meditation. And generally try to slow down a lot.
Also have some gut an sleep issues (wake up in the middle of the night for a few hours, seems to be related to bloodsugar stemming from gut issues). Also good to know i can not really build muscle properly, i think this says something about the stress my system is under but probably also due to poor sleep.
I do not have a full time job anymore, i have restarted studying, which is not so stressful for me and doesnt require much time so i have alot of free time where i try to do thing i enjoy. I am 27 atm
I already scaled down on time a lot, but i would say i am in some way quite unstable. Even though my mood is good most of the time and stabilithy is increasing, sometimes in life i have setbacks through which i cope with smoking cannabis (mixed with tabacco) for a few days. Then my body needs to recover after quitting. Like now i had some recent smoking, but i quit 10 days ago, maybe thats too early also to start TRE again?
What do you think? All perspectives are welcome.
Edit: ok I will scale down in time even more. How do I know my dosing is right? I read I should feel integrated and grounded afterwards? Is that the main indicator?
Seems like a similar thing to me. Yet fidgeting is not known to taxing the NS or can cause overdoing symptoms. Why?
I am a big Spotlight search user, mostly just for opening my apps. It always used to be perfect, i would type in 1 or 2 characted and the app i wanted to find showed up 1st position.
But since a few months, spotlight search is so inconsistent, sometimes it works fine, but most often completely irrelevant search results come up. Think some random Podcast episode, or the most random file in the most random folder somewhere on my drive.
Anyone relates?
I've read before that Jung recommended not to do inner work or analysis at a younger age and start focussing on building a life and identity first.
First, i never understood that, the inner work made me feel better, gave me a sense of control in a world where i only felt confused.
But now I am 27, and the same inner work starts to feel like a recurring cycle i am stuck in. Like Jung said, i realise i actually have almost nothing in the sense of what i've built up in life. I only have some pretty strickt mental model i place everything in to for it to make sense.
The years long obsession/interest in to psychology was nothing more then coping for me. I do not think this was much about healing. But it was all about creating a sense of control and clarity.
What i was trying to do with inner work, get happier and solve my issues, just created an bigger gap in between me and my solution. I realise to heal, to work on myself, i do not need complex mental models. I need to take action, place myself in to the world, have experiences.
This is the most difficult step for me now, and i've been feeling a bit stuck in this cycle for some time now. The inner work, the analysis, maybe gave me some sense of security. But now i would say its almost useless in my next step. And it works even against my growth. I need to transcend my thoughts, and fuck that is so hard, i've been working this mind for many years. Only to find out now, it is of no use for me anymore at this moment.
How do you even do that? At 27 i am also becoming more aware that my mind is not as flexible as it used to be, like it's filled with stuff now. And that stuff seems of great importance to me. How do i still make that shift? I think i can do it, but it seems like such a huge heroic task. Just remind myself to focus on small steps.
Just a little rant. Also maybe want to share my experience for people going down the same path. Your mind is not the answer, taking action is.
I do not regret my path, i just really really hope i can make this pivot as i feel like staying on the path on the detached intellectual will make me end up like a lonely loser 😞