u/fliwat

Hallo! Ich habe leider erheblische Schwierigkeiten, Beispiele zu positiver (queerer) Männlichkeit zu finden. Vielleicht suche ich auch nur falsch, vieles was ich finde dreht sich eben vorallem oder ausschließlich um toxische Maskulinität. (Diese Diskussion ist sehr wichtig, nur macht die Einseitigkeit mir meine Selbstfindung sehr schwer, gerade als trans Person.)

Kennt ihr Texte zu Maskulinität? (Gerne deutsche, gerne von nichtbinären und andersweitig nicht binären Menschen!) Wie erlebt ihr eure? Was mögt ihr an eurer Männlichkeit? Was macht sie für euch aus?

Danke schonmal :)

I'm pretty used to being the outcast of any group, most times I'm not even in it. Now I'm slowly getting more confident in my masculinity (despite me not passing) and myself. I try to balance being perceived as a woman and acting as one of the men. Meaning on the looking like a woman side, I have an eye out for being explained to etc. On the acting men side, I try to output my confidence, to balance having a good time and get shit done. (this is not exclusively masculine, but I think you know what type of guy I'm talking about).

It's as exhausting as it reads, but if I am succesful, I get to have a position where others seem to mostly forget about my female-ness and talk to me eye to eye. It gets better with training I suppose. I like that position. It gets me so euphoric I need time after to let that happiness out.

But.

The others (men more, but women, too) now also push me up the social ladder. (why is everything so fucking hierarchic?) I have no intent of being there. I just want to talk to others and be able to be part of a group. But I guess I have no real choice. It's just, in this position I feel like I suddenly became an example of some kind and it's unnerving the fuck out of me.

I recognize that I, why being vigilant of sexism, may push others down from time to time when I misunderstood their intentions or acted out of fear.^1 This certainly contributes to this dynamic and is something I want to work on. What else can I do to counter this hierarchy without being pushed to the bottom of it? I learned it has to be rather subtle. Is such a hierarchy mostly about who knows what and how much of that, staying calm, remaining an overview, etc? Or am I missing stuff I can use? Help please.

^1 Edit: To be clear, most times I give them a bad look, get snarky or close myself up more as if they've done a social mistake (shameee) what is good when they did do sexism, but bad when I just thought they did. Because I now am in this fucking position where others seem to value my opinions very much and it feels like executing power over others, which I really don't want. Is this normal?

Not necessarily looking to pity myself. It def has it's place but I am looking rather to feel understood.

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It doesn't have to be I am at fault nor I am in pain/the victim. Just "things are fucked up and they will probably stay that way for a long time, I see that and we'll go through it together."

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For the record, I am queer (masculine) and disabled. Internet bonus points for music that is about that in some way or form!

Still have a few years to go before I cross 30. It's beautiful to see what can be. It's one thing to think about possibilities, it's another to see just, people existing. It sometimes gets so abstract in my head, seeing you guys out and about is very touching and grounding.

Thank you all for showing your beautiful selfs. :) I hope you have a wonderful day.

(I hope this post is allowed. If not, please tell me.)

Hello friendly people in my phone! I could use your help.

TW: I am possibly also dealing with OCD, even tho this fear is rooted in reality. In this post I am trying to understand it better and learn to draw the lines between them. I am also describing some of my (paranoid) thought processes. If you're sensitive to that topic and decide to read it, please look after yourself. :)

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This is something that haunts me daily.

I know to not write down anything that could reveal a structure or harm someone else–but where does that start and how much is considered taken?

To start extreme: If I write down names in my diary, there we have a network. If I obscure them, write aliases, I start holding myself back and the diary loses its purpose. I also start to feel extremely paranoid about it (what if the police can reconstruct it?, etc.). I recently rediscovered Obsidian (you basically link markdown files together) and it's a tool that works well with my disabilities and for my mental health. Until I step into "too personal" topics or write too many notes about anarchist theory or material. Especially with the rise of AI Agents, mantaining a well organized digital note taking program feels very unsafe. I have files update themself when they were last modified and created. It basically allows to reconstruct parts of my day, for years ago, if I continue with it.

It's always adviced to delete and destroy stuff but I don't know what stuff that stops being (as) important for. I also need stuff, I have a life and work I want to remember and reuse from time to time (as anyone, I'd guess). I need writing shit down as a tool and having former versions of it and foreign shit as a means to learn. I also have memory problems and rely on written word. But I don't want to feel paranoid every time I do that.

How can I develop a better practice? How could one look like? Thank you all!

I like the new study screen, but having everything top heavy is really bugging me. The big white space on one end and the other being squished to the toolbar throws me off. My cards look unbalanced overall.

The Anki Forum page says center align can be added via add on. I am using it mostly on mobile, which doesn't work with add ons. How can I change the behaviour? I am having a lot of note types, as reccommended one per topic/deck, and editing the CSS of every one of them would be a lot of work.

Thanks a lot!

(Note: This is asking for a plug in, but the syntax shouldn't differ from core bases views. It's essentially asking how to put formulas in a view settings input field.)

My problem:

I have a .base file that shows a heatmap. In the view settings, I can specify a date range that the heatmap shows. (It has to be specified here, filters only change the content shown) I want to embed this base in my daily notes, showing only the current week.

Afaik, in those setting fields, I can put a date manually or insert a templater code. Both don't work in my scenario. The date changes and the templater code can't be processed since it's embedded.

I would like to insert a this.file.name formula, similarly to the filters option. Problem is, I can't seem to get it to work.

Current workaround:

1. Make a new view for every week. For several reasons: No.

2. Don't embed a .base, but put a ```base``` in every daily note. I tried this before, but they have problems updating and I guess, going forward, it would slow down Obsidian quite a lot.

Is there a workaround? A pluging? Am I the first one with this problem? Help is very appreciated! :)

Edit: Reddit doesn't like me syntaxing.

The latest version I got to work is 1.6.5. Versions above produce a black screen on start up.

I'm using a Likebook Ares (eInk, Android) with the Android System WebView Version 74.0.3729.186

I am sadly not able to update it, the tablet can't seem to work with newer versions.

What I noticed is that .apk 's installed just fine, but as soon as I had to install .apkm 's, it didn't work anymore. For 1.7.5, I tried changing architectures (both together/alone) and changing the DPI (320/all). Neither worked.

Thanks for your help!

Roh kann ich sie leider nicht essen. Ich hab keinen Pürierstab, Suppe ist also raus, asiatische Nudeln hab ich jetzt oft genug gemacht und der Karottenkuchen hat leider noch ~1kg übriggelassen. Hat irgendwer Ideen? :D

Ich habe letztens Ballistol gefunden und das scheint ja laut Hersteller die eierlegende Wollmilchsau zu sein. Seht ihr das auch so? Das klingt zu gut um wahr zu sein.

Ich möchte damit aktuell ein Holzbrettchen einölen und es als Rostschutzöl nach Abschliff auf Stahl auftragen. Beides braucht lebensmittelsichere Optionen. Gute Idee oder eher nicht so?

[Irgendwo hab ich es auch als Deo-Ersatz vorgeschlagen gelesen und das auszuprobieren reizt mich ja etwas...]

I only want to know if it uses FAT32 (Linux Mint)