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my stepsister “Rose” F14 is a manipulator she has bragged to my mom about being a manipulator and how she used to cry to get her way. she has a huge history of lying, making up stories to her dad that people hit her when she doesn't get her way, even used makeup before… and spreading rumors at school her school about our stepbrother and my cousin Josh (which is brock’s brother) saying he has STDs and does drugs (she denied it), rose like to compete with others based on achievements and she likes to be in control and gets upset when anything gets in the way of her unadulterated want to control and dominate. recently, rose told me our cousin Brock M13 told her that he came out as gay to our gma, and that grandma didn’t care. the issue is, our grandma is deeply homophobic.

I M16 felt like that was weird because Brock doesn't talk like that, I asked him directly. he told me it was a lie and he hadn’t even spoken to rose in a while. I realized roses motive was probably to get me to casually bring it up to gma, which would’ve outed brock

so, when we were all hanging out, I asked brock out loud how he was doing with his friend, and then asked, "wait, rose told me you came out to gma, is that true?"
rose immediately began gaslighting me. 1st she tried to shift the blame to josh "I said JOSH told me that!" i know that’s isn’t true because when she first told me the rumor weeks ago, my immediate internal reaction was (why would Brock tell her and not me?) If she had actually mentioned Josh’s name back then, I would've been mad at him, just naturally, bc i don’t like that outing people thing. especially your brother. If i’m not delusional or crazy this is what she said “you didn’t know? yeah, brock came out to grandma but she said she didn’t care, but he told me not to tell anybody”. obviously not verbatim but on that track.

then she twisted it again, claiming Josh told her *and* his girlfriend that Brock was gay and said "don't tell nobody." But right then and there, Alonte texted his girlfriend to check, and she said he never said that. his gf also spoke up and said that conversation never happened.

then she started saying things like "how can you tell me what i said” and “i know what i said” “what would i have to lie for?” that I misheard her, and that what she said is "fact." but then our cousin gianna (F16) called her out for changing her story, so rose was like, "well, I don't know if it was josh or his gf, but it came from josh."

at the end of that, I just looked at her and said “the moral of the story is don't talk about my cousins, and don't repeat anything unless you go up to them with it to confirm." now she’s acting weird and trying to play the victim like we "ganged up" on her. AITAH for trapping her in her own lie?

my stepsister “Rose” F14 is a manipulator she has bragged to my mom about being a manipulator and how she used to cry to get her way. she has a huge history of lying, making up stories to her dad that people hit her when she doesn't get her way, even used makeup before… and spreading rumors at school her school about our stepbrother and my cousin Josh (which is brock’s brother) saying he has STDs and does drugs (she denied it), rose like to compete with others based on achievements and she likes to be in control and gets upset when anything gets in the way of her unadulterated want to control and dominate. recently, rose told me our cousin Brock M13 told her that he came out as gay to our gma, and that grandma didn’t care. the issue is, our grandma is deeply homophobic.

I M16 felt like that was weird because Brock doesn't talk like that, I asked him directly. he told me it was a lie and he hadn’t even spoken to rose in a while. I realized roses motive was probably to get me to casually bring it up to gma, which would’ve outed brock

so, when we were all hanging out, I asked brock out loud how he was doing with his friend, and then asked, "wait, rose told me you came out to gma, is that true?"
rose immediately began gaslighting me. 1st she tried to shift the blame to josh "I said JOSH told me that!" i know that’s isn’t true because when she first told me the rumor weeks ago, my immediate internal reaction was (why would Brock tell her and not me?) If she had actually mentioned Josh’s name back then, I would've been mad at him, just naturally, bc i don’t like that outing people thing. especially your brother. If i’m not delusional or crazy this is what she said “you didn’t know? yeah, brock came out to grandma but she said she didn’t care, but he told me not to tell anybody”. obviously not verbatim but on that track.

then she twisted it again, claiming Josh told her *and* his girlfriend that Brock was gay and said "don't tell nobody." But right then and there, Alonte texted his girlfriend to check, and she said he never said that. his gf also spoke up and said that conversation never happened.

then she started saying things like "how can you tell me what i said” and “i know what i said” “what would i have to lie for?” that I misheard her, and that what she said is "fact." but then our cousin gianna (F16) called her out for changing her story, so rose was like, "well, I don't know if it was josh or his gf, but it came from josh."

at the end of that, I just looked at her and said “the moral of the story is don't talk about my cousins, and don't repeat anything unless you go up to them with it to confirm." now she’s acting weird and trying to play the victim like we "ganged up" on her. Am i wrong for trapping her in her own lie?

my stepsister “Rose” F14 is a manipulator she has bragged to my mom about being a manipulator and how she used to cry to get her way. she has a huge history of lying, making up stories to her dad that people hit her when she doesn't get her way, even used makeup before… and spreading rumors at school her school about our stepbrother and my cousin Josh (which is brock’s brother) saying he has STDs and does drugs (she denied it), rose like to compete with others based on achievements and she likes to be in control and gets upset when anything gets in the way of her unadulterated want to control and dominate. recently, rose told me our cousin Brock M13 told her that he came out as gay to our gma, and that grandma didn’t care. the issue is, our grandma is deeply homophobic.

I M16 felt like that was weird because Brock doesn't talk like that, I asked him directly. he told me it was a lie and he hadn’t even spoken to rose in a while. I realized roses motive was probably to get me to casually bring it up to gma, which would’ve outed brock

so, when we were all hanging out, I asked brock out loud how he was doing with his friend, and then asked, "wait, rose told me you came out to gma, is that true?"
rose immediately began gaslighting me. 1st she tried to shift the blame to josh "I said JOSH told me that!" i know that’s isn’t true because when she first told me the rumor weeks ago, my immediate internal reaction was (why would Brock tell her and not me?) If she had actually mentioned Josh’s name back then, I would've been mad at him, just naturally, bc i don’t like that outing people thing. especially your brother. If i’m not delusional or crazy this is what she said “you didn’t know? yeah, brock came out to grandma but she said she didn’t care, but he told me not to tell anybody”. obviously not verbatim but on that track.

then she twisted it again, claiming Josh told her and his girlfriend that Brock was gay and said "don't tell nobody." But right then and there, Alonte texted his girlfriend to check, and she said he never said that. his gf also spoke up and said that conversation never happened.

then she started saying things like "how can you tell me what i said” and “i know what i said” “what would i have to lie for?” that I misheard her, and that what she said is "fact." but then our cousin gianna (F16) called her out for changing her story, so rose was like, "well, I don't know if it was josh or his gf, but it came from josh."

at the end of that, I just looked at her and said “the moral of the story is don't talk about my cousins, and don't repeat anything unless you go up to them with it to confirm." now she’s acting weird and trying to play the victim like we "ganged up" on her. AITAH for trapping her in her own lie?

I started playing the violin in April of 2025. August 30th i’ll be starting the auditioned youth orchestra and August 25th is the first day of my junior year of high school and i’ll have my first day of orchestra ever that day. My teacher essentially just shoved it in my face to audition for the youth orchestra (i’m not complaining) i initially didn’t think i would be ready for it but he thinks i was, and i practiced the audition pieces and auditioned and got accepted. My mind has just been unable to stop fixating on the first rehearsals and the whole entire thing will be like, i’ve been endlessly googling about this but i feel like my “situation” is so nuanced and specific that the endless searching hasn’t yielded the right answers to help me. I am a really big over-thinker though and i try to prepare for any situation i’m not certain about by debating every likely scenario and trying to prepare for it…

Ive improved a lot over the year and few months of playing the violin for the audition we had to play a 3 octave melodic minor scale of our choice i chose D melodic minor, we also had to play an excerpt from Ruslan and Ludmilla overture, one composed by Berlioz, I cannot remember the other ones. But everyone keeps telling me i got accepted so that should eliminate my fears and there’s nothing to be scared for but i know how demanding orchestras are, my sight reading is atrocious, cover your ears if im sight reading anything besides quarter notes, a scale if i see it in music, or music with a tempo that is really slow. Im just terrified because they youth orchestra has played music like griegs in the hall of the mountain king, HTTYDs music and it all just sounds HARD. My teacher told me “the music will be hard but don’t let it discourage you” i’m trying to live by that but it’s hard. Can you guys just help me out please i’d really appreciate it.

I started playing the violin in April of 2025. August 30th i’ll be starting the auditioned youth orchestra and August 25th is the first day of my junior year of high school and i’ll have my first day of orchestra ever that day. My teacher essentially just shoved it in my face to audition for the youth orchestra (i’m not complaining) i initially didn’t think i would be ready for it but he thinks i was, and i practiced the audition pieces and auditioned and got accepted. My mind has just been unable to stop fixating on the first rehearsals and the whole entire thing will be like, i’ve been endlessly googling about this but i feel like my “situation” is so nuanced and specific that the endless searching hasn’t yielded the right answers to help me. I am a really big over-thinker though and i try to prepare for any situation i’m not certain about by debating every likely scenario and trying to prepare for it…

Ive improved a lot over the year and few months of playing the violin for the audition we had to play a 3 octave melodic minor scale of our choice i chose D melodic minor, we also had to play an excerpt from Ruslan and Ludmilla overture, one composed by Berlioz, I cannot remember the other ones. But everyone keeps telling me i got accepted so that should eliminate my fears and there’s nothing to be scared for but i know how demanding orchestras are, my sight reading is atrocious, cover your ears if im sight reading anything besides quarter notes, a scale if i see it in music, or music with a tempo that is really slow. Im just terrified because they youth orchestra has played music like griegs in the hall of the mountain king, HTTYDs music and it all just sounds HARD. My teacher told me “the music will be hard but don’t let it discourage you” i’m trying to live by that but it’s hard. Can you guys just help me out please i’d really appreciate it.

I was playing on my E string and i heard i was playing like really flat, so i checked my fifths tuned my A with a drone then tuned my e string. And my F# (im saying F# because that’s like the note that i have drilled into my head for fingerings yk?) basically i did the thing where i put my finger on A3 then E4 then B4 then F#5 right because they all have the same fingering and placement on the fingerboard just different strings my A3, E4, and B4 are in tune but my F# was extremely flat. I’m starting to panic because have i been playing out of tune this entire time?? Keep in mind all my strings are in tune as per TonalEnergy tuner, Drones and just my own ear so i don’t know what is going on.. My solution, but also bad solution was to make my E string a tad bit sharper now the finger placement is spot on for the F# but my E string is now like 30 cents off. Is this a common issue, is there something wrong with my instrument?? Any advice will help thank you!!

I was practicing my violin, practicing the etude my teacher assigned me and there was this part i genuinely couldn’t get in tune, and i was also during that practice session trying to play the A-flat Melodic minor scale and, One, i absolutely HATE flats to me they’re just so much more complex to read than a sharp. But the 7 flats and the finger shape, and my left hand was tensing up, my notes weren’t resonating it was just an absolute train wreck it felt like. So i got upset after the repetitive errors and i felt like i could NOT get the scale right and i put my violin down and genuinely felt like i wanted to quit so bad, although ive progressed so fast made it into my city’s youth orchestra and my schools symphonic orchestra after a little over a year of playing. Did great at my recital i posted it on here somewhere. But i genuinely felt like i couldn’t get the scale correct i genuinely debated quitting violin because i began to think about playing Repertoire in that evil A-flat minor and it sounded like something i would never want to encounter. But.. when i came back to the scale a few days after i was in a better headspace and i nailed it at my next lesson. I just wanted to ask, do we all have situations like that? Is it normal to debate or feel like i’m losing hope playing my instrument after making repetitive mistakes?

Hi everyone, I wanted to pick up flute because I just love the chirpy, just ethereal sound and also I just love the way the flute looks. I find the flute genuinely fascinating as it uses an “open end column” and that’s something I learned in physics I just find it cool that most of the sound comes out of the embouchure hole. But yeah anyway, i mainly play violin and get private lesson and am in my schools orchestra as-well as a youth orchestra, I’d like to label violin as my main instrument. Ive had my flute for a few months but haven’t really picked it up much and im really feeling like I want to get better at flute and be able to play it at a level that is fulfilling to be (getting to that point through practice of course) but i feel like me playing the violin and the skills I’ve developed with it significantly can help with things like intonation, note reading, and expression/shaping. I’ll name some of the challenges I’ve faced playing the flute, 1. Playing E natural in the 3rd octave or high register is EVIL with the note sometimes cracking. 2. The fingering for D natural upsets me so much because I have to lift my pinky off the Eb key which is so awkward for me what I mean by this is that it’s awkward to have to go from say C natural to D natural at a fast rate and then placing the pinky back down to play E natural, I find that sometimes I’m late to putting my pinky back down when playing scales to avoid the awkwardness of putting it back down on the Note after the D natural unless it’s a D# after which would be optimal. I ALWAYS get happy to see a D# in flute music because no pinky lifting lol! But any advice will help, please note that I don’t plan on getting lesions although yes they’re obviously optimal I’m not really wanting flute to be a serious thing for me although I know lessons aren’t exclusive to those who want to be serious, I’m just opting out at the time due to financial constraints and time constraints etc. Thank everyone for their advice.

I get the urge every few weeks or months to move my entire room around, reorganize everything, and make the space feel different. I don’t know if i’m looking for some sense of control, or if i’m searching for a dopamine hit, or do i have ADHD. and i try to like compare and contrast or do decision matrix’s on each layout to see the limitations and the benefits of each layout, like will i be able to watch tv better like this, or that? Do i want my books here, Would i feel more comfortable walking up to this right here? Do i neeed a designated corner to play my violin or in another layout where the floor will be mostly just open, will i practice there?? Please tell me other people do this😭.

Beyond aesthetics, what are the reasons one would get a Violin shaped case over an Oblong case. Violin shaped cases cannot hold as much as an oblong case in my experience. My case can hold like 5 books of music in it and when i had my older VSC it couldn’t even close when i had 1 book in there. So is there any particular reason why people would rather get the violin shaped case?

I’ve been trying to quit for the longest time, i’ve been putting blockers on certain cites and everything. But i always end up going back to watching it again. I even spent money on an OF subscription.. And i really want to quit but it’s also eating at me that if i quit i’ll have wasted my money. I really don’t know what to do anymore i want to reclaim my life because im sick of spending my free time looking at porn and also with the time i’m looking at porn interfering with my sleep and productivity i don’t know what to do guys.. Can someone help?