u/honeykissesmerciless

My bf told me he likes a finger up his ass as he’s done that in previous relationships. He waited to tell me because he knew I wouldn’t want to do it so he didn’t bring it up. I told him I’m willing to do it with a glove but he didn’t like that. I just don’t like the idea of putting my fingers in his ass (or him touching mine) because it’s dirty and I don’t want to deal with poo…is it really worth cutting my nails short and dealing with poo just to satisfy him for this? I think it’s weird…

A man with body hair is normal but a woman with body hair is repulsive, not normal, “too liberal” etc etc when she’s just not wasting her time on removing something that for some reason can’t be seen on women but can be seen on men.

A man with body hair is normal but a woman with body hair is repulsive, not normal, “too liberal” etc etc when she’s just not wasting her time on removing something that for some reason can’t be seen on women but can be seen on men.
And most women give themselves the excuse that it doesn’t look good and it doesn’t feel good when their hair grows out….but that’s an excuse usually stemming from your own internalized misogyny and from the fact you had to remove it the first time and then yes after you shave it grows back itchy. The men don’t mind it on them. So why do we mind it so much?

If I don’t remove my body hair and expose it outside you know who’s going to judge me? Other women. Much more than men.
Men are blind they can’t tell when a girl is wearing makeup or not how are they going to notice my hairy legs?

How does one even do that?
I do believe that what you put into your body and your health go hand in hand but I eat pretty healthy. Is it possible that something I eat everyday is triggering it or multiple foods?
How would I even know what is the cause?
I keep on seeing stuff online about how healing my gut health and balancing my hormones will help me with all my illnesses etc etc but how does one do that anyways and ig does sound convincing like it would help

Recently I talked to a female friend and she told me that she hates how women dress so naked lately and especially at the beach they’re wearing thongs and everyone can see their whole ass and that it’s sexual and she feels like it ruins intimacy with her boyfriend and that it’s special when she’s in a thong or he sees her ass but if he’s seeing everyone’s ass it’s not as special…
In the beginning I was like I don’t care I think they can wear whatever they want and obviously my bf has seen other women naked before me it’s not ruining anything…
But then I realized that I am insecure of going to the beach with my bf. He wants to go to the beach but I’m not willing to go because I dont want my practically naked body next to all everyone else’s practically naked body in front of him. I can go to the beach with my friends, but I don’t feel secured enough to go with him. And honestly I don’t really want to be half naked in the beach with friends either.
Any of you guys felt the same as me and have any advice in getting over this feeling?
I haven’t had this problem previously in dating, I feel like I put on some weight in this relationship and I’m insecure about my body and it’s ruining myself and my relationship.

Hi. I actually shave down there but after a bad experience I don’t want to shave down there anymore and my hormones are stronger than laser hair removal so I think it’s time to learn how to trim. Everyone recommended the Philips bikini trimmer but I do not understand how people want me to bring this vibrating death machine close to my clit and lips.
And honestly I’m struggling to use it in general.
So girls…
How do you trim without cutting off parts of yourself? Seriously!
Shaving was less scary and I didn’t bother being perfect.

So I like my sex more on the fast and deep/ rough (I wouldn’t say rough because I’m not into getting choked, slapped, etc anything that will hurt me) and I like being touched gently. Like fuck me hard and fast but treat me like a princess.
And my bf just doesn’t have the stamina to do so. I didn’t understand what the problem was cause all my previous partners were faster but then one time he went faster and he said he realized I really like that and now I know what I’m missing…
But will it actually get better? Because I think I’ve been sexually satisfied like 3-4 times in the 3 months we’ve been dating. Also when he goes down on me I just need more time but he tires out. And he doesn’t touch my body enough other than my boobs and a lot of times with him I just stop feeling anything…has this happened to anyone before?
I also feel insecure because he prefers no condoms and that is not something I’m willing to do (I’m also not on bc and have no intent on getting on if anytime soon). He does finish but in the beginning he complained about it and I just feel insecure about it like neither of us are getting what we actually want though he says he’s good after he asked me to touch him more and I started to. I feel like I go down on him much more and explore him much more than he does me and that turns me off.

Than understand that he is raping Nikki.
Most of these dudes will not admit or understand that he is raping Nikki again and again and again and she’s completely aware of it and has nothing to do about it and HE KNOWS it’s not really her but he’s denying it.
And her being stuck in her body like that isn’t much different than a ‘normal’ rape scene for most victims…

When looking at a relationship logically, it doesn’t make sense to be in one in my opinion.

1. The dangers and consequences of sex all fall on me
2. Men are my biggest predator, especially my partner statistically
3. I need to accommodate another person
4. I need to regularly make time for another person + still support existing relationships
5. Most men fall under the category of man child and you’re expected socially to take care of them and the house, and work nowadays too cause you can’t be financially reliant on them however they still only have the expectation of making money.

So in order to be in a relationship and want one I need to be delusional. Girls, am I really wrong?

Especially since I don’t want to give birth and have children.

As said, I (F) don’t feel anything in most positions during penetration with partner (m). I can feel him enter but that’s about it. Either he hits a spot that really hurts inside or I feel nothing. He said he doesn’t feel anything either other than in doggy. We use condoms and recently out of curiosity we tried it for a second and he said he felt a lot more. But I felt even less. I could barely notice he was inside me. Is this a dealbreaker? Is it even possible for it to get better? Honestly he’s really nice but I want to enjoy sex and it makes me miss past sexual encounters.