u/hotpotato128

I don't get aroused in my everyday life. It definitely doesn't happen by looking at anyone. I went on vacation last month. I saw some attractive women at the beaches and other places. I didn't feel aroused by them. They didn't trigger any desire to have sex either.

I have an Indian female friend who is heterosexual. I don't hangout with her in person much. We text sometimes. Should I tell her I'm an asexual?

I told one of my Indian-American male friends a few months ago. He didn't know what it was. I had to explain it to him. It was because he asked me if I wanted to get married.

Do you think Gods have any emotions? I think Kṛṣṇa is always portrayed without His emotions fluctuating.

I think some spiritual masters also don't have fluctuating emotions. I've never met one in person. That seems to be the case.

When do my spiritual practice, my emotions don't fluctuate much either. How are your emotions?

I contemplated how difficult it would be to have sex. I am sex-indifferent. Sometimes, I thought I felt sexual attraction. No, sexual attraction is having sexual thoughts and feelings about others. I can feel arousal occasionally. I came to the conclusion that it would be difficult for me to engage in sex. Even if I felt aesthetic and romantic attraction, it would be difficult. The lack of sexual attraction is the reason it would be difficult. 

I think it would be difficult even if I was sex-favorable, aroused, and the other person was attractive.

What do you think?

I have seen some aces describe it as a desire for sexual activity. According to the primary vs secondary sexual attraction model, asexuals can only feel secondary sexual desire. There is no guarantee for developing secondary sexual desire. That model doesn't explain all of the experiences in the spectrum.

I am sex-indifferent. If I engaged in foreplay, I might feel arousal. I don't know if I would choose to have sex in that moment or not. When I'm by myself, I almost never feel aroused. I don't know how sex-favorable aces feel.

I met my cousin. I think he might be ace. I won't ask him what his sexual orientation is. Maybe he is allosexual, but he doesn't feel comfortable expressing his sexual attraction.

Some allosexuals don't express their sexual attraction much. I am friends with some like that. They don't tell me who they think is hot. Other allosexuals are very open about their sexual attraction.

Some religious people want to stop experiencing sexual attraction. It's probably because it's very distracting for them.

Sometimes I assume a woman is asexual if I feel aesthetic and romantic attraction to her. I might be surprised to find out she is not asexual. I am just projecting onto her.

Do people in South Asia tell their potential partner, they are sex-averse, or something else?

What happens if you tell someone you are ace?

Hello, I am a heteroromantic asexual man. I am 35. I live in Ohio. I am a vegetarian. I am self-employed. I am 5'7 and 125 lbs.

I like to exercise, cook, watch movies/shows, travel, play chess, draw, and listen to music. On the weekends, I go out to meet my friends. I am an ESFJ.

I want to get married eventually. I want to have biological kids one day. I am sex-indifferent. I don't know whether I would like sex or not.

I prefer to date a heteroromantic asexual woman. She has to be 30-37. She has to be a vegetarian. It would be nice if she lives in Ohio or a neighboring state. She has to be shorter than me.

I realized I was asexual at 34. Some people realized it much younger. It was because I was ignorant about asexuality. I also confused aesthetic and romantic attraction to be sexual. I also masturbated occasionally. I thought it disqualified me from being asexual.

After I realized I was asexual, my libido decreased. Now, I don't get spontaneously aroused. When I thought I was heterosexual, I got spontaneously aroused.

Anyone else experience the same?

It took me a long time to realize I was asexual. I am 35 and I realized it last year. It would have been better if I realized it earlier. Some people realize it in their teens or early 20s.

It's because I was ignorant about what being asexual meant. It was just a lack of knowledge. I used to think being asexual was being sex repulsed and not feeling sexual attraction.

I confused aesthetic and romantic attraction to be sexual attraction. Then I learned they were different. Now, I can separate them in my experience.

I also masturbated occasionally. I thought it would disqualify me from being asexual, but now I know that's not true.

It took me a long time to realize I was asexual. I am 35 and I realized it last year. It would have been better if I realized it earlier. Some people realize it in their teens or early 20s.

It's because I was ignorant about what being asexual meant. It was just a lack of knowledge. I used to think being asexual was being sex repulsed and not feeling sexual attraction.

I confused aesthetic and romantic attraction to be sexual attraction. Then I learned they were different. Now, I can separate them in my experience.

I also masturbated occasionally. I thought it would disqualify me from being asexual, but now I know that's not true.

I resonate with more than one ace spectrum label. That's why I am myrsexual. The labels I resonate with are apressexual, gray-asexual, and quoisexual. Sometimes, I think I am feeling sexual attraction. Sometimes, I'm not sure what I'm feeling.

Today, I ordered an ace ring. I'm excited to receive it.

Do people around you talk about sex frequently?

I have allosexual friends who don't talk about sex. I am sex-indifferent, but I still wouldn't be able to relate to that.

I was reading the Śrīmad Bhāgavata Mahāpuraṇa. It said Viṣṇu is beyond sense perception. How did they determine that?

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I agree that Viṣṇu is beyond sense perception. I'm wondering how they knew it was Him. I don't think we can fathom what it's like to be beyond sense perception. It's an indescribable state to be in.

Hello, I am a 35 M heteroromantic asexual man. I am an ESFJ, vegetarian, and financial professional. I like to watch movies/shows, cook, play chess, exercise, draw/paint, and hang out with people. I am 5'7 and 125 lbs.

I met a woman on Ace Space. She lived in Florida. I only thought of her as a platonic friend. Now, I only prefer to date someone in Ohio. I don't like long distance relationships. I prefer to meet in person more frequently.

I met a woman on Facebook. I also think of her as a platonic friend. She lives in my city. I don't feel aesthetic attraction to her.

I probably need to feel aesthetic attraction first, before I can feel romantic attraction. I can feel aesthetic attraction to some celebrities, but zero romantic attraction. I guess I only feel romantic attraction, when I meet someone in person.

Asexuals are 1% of the population. There must be some asexual women here in Ohio who are single. I probably haven't found them because:

• They don't use Reddit.
• They are in a relationship already.
• They don't know me or know I'm asexual.
• They don't use the same apps or in person meetings I do.
• And many more reasons...

I go to queer events to meet people. I haven't told anyone I'm asexual there, yet.

What I prefer in a partner:

• Vegetarian
• 30-37
• shorter than 5'7
• Residing in Ohio
• Good personality

Feel free to message me if you match those.

I identify as heteroromantic. I don't feel romantic attraction by looking at women. If I get to know them a little bit, I might feel it. Do alloromantics feel it by looking at someone? I don't know much about the romantic spectrum.

I identify as heteroromantic. I can't feel romantic attraction by looking. If I get to know someone a little bit, I might start to feel it for her. What about you?

I thought about how many people a person has to be sexually attracted to, to be an allosexual?

We don't have a number for that. I guess it can be any number they choose.

What would be the line between allosexual and ace spectrum? The number of people they would feel sexual attraction to.

My heterosexual friends knew they would have sex with some women based on their looks. One friend told me he thought 50% of women were hot. I thought he exaggerated.

It was something I thought about for fun.

Hello, I am a 35 M heteroromantic cis man. I am sex-indifferent, and my libido is low. I am an ESFJ.

I am open to non-sexual touching like kissing, holding hands, hugging, and cuddling. I am also open to QPRs. I've never been in one, though.

I like drawing, playing chess, watching movies, traveling, and other stuff for fun.

I am looking for a romantic relationship with little to no sex. I prefer an AFAB cis woman. She has to be shorter than me (5'7), vegetarian/vegan, and in her 30s.

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Hello, I am a 35 M heteroromantic cis man. I am sex-indifferent, and my libido is low.

I am open to non-sexual touching like kissing, holding hands, hugging, and cuddling. I am also open to QPRs. I've never been in one, though.

I like drawing, playing chess, watching movies, traveling, and other stuff for fun.

I am looking for a romantic relationship with little to no sex. I prefer an AFAB cis woman. She has to be shorter than me (5'7), vegetarian/vegan, and in her 30s.