I’m talking about people not willing to put in the work to change. I recently got out a relationship where I was very emotionally open and he just wasn’t….He didn’t want to do the work to change and it just made me feel too intense. I think I was too available ? :/ What do they prefer in a partner?
The hardest part of all of this is realizing that the relationship I invested in wasn’t fully real. We started as friends, and I trusted him completely, never knowing that someone from his past had quietly made her way back into his life. He never told me she returned or that she wanted another chance with him after abruptly ending their engagement two years ago.
I only learned the truth by accident when I saw her name appear on his phone. He finally admitted everything because he had no choice. And even then, I could feel that a part of him had never let her go. I asked him directly if he still wanted us, and he said yes, but after that conversation, his behavior toward me changed completely. The respect, care, and consistency disappeared. He flipped a switch and became cruel.
I ended the relationship because I refused to keep accepting half-truths and disrespect, but what hurts most is that he never gave me the apology, honesty, or accountability I deserved. It’s painful when someone you valued so deeply turns out to be very different from who you believed they were. Now I’m trying to make peace with the anger, sadness, and disappointment that come with having your trust broken by someone you genuinely loved and respected.
I don’t know how to move past this anger and betrayal. I keep picturing their happy ending and it feels so unfair.
Isn’t that the truth? I looked at you with stars in my eyes. You would avoid my gaze. I knew all along. You loved the comfort of my touch, but never cared to know the depths of my soul.
It’s because your heart still belongs to your past. She will always hold your heart, even after tearing it apart. And somehow, I understand - because no matter how badly you broke me, you’ll always hold a piece of mine too.
I think you wanted to want me. You tried. I wish you were honest from the start instead of giving me hope.
Maybe one day, when her love is no longer yours to hold onto, you’ll think of me and regret letting go of the kind of love that would have stayed.
I was dating a friend. We share a friend group. He emotionally cheated on me with his ex-fiancée. My closest girl friend has been defending him ever since and called my venting “bullying”.
I no longer want to continue this friendship. I’m not sure how I should go about ending it?
You hurt me and now you want to be friends down the line?!
I don’t understand. So warm one week and cruel the next. They become someone else. It’s so scary. From being physically affectionate to acting like they’re repulsed by you. :(
How to deal with the unfairness of watching someone who betrayed you ‘win’ in life?
Long story short, we share a close friend group. We were close friends and started dating. Things were going great and one day, I saw the ex’s name pop up on his phone. I confronted him and he said she wanted to get back together. I gave him an out but he said he wanted to stay. He completely flipped a switch after that conversation and turned so cold. I eventually ended it. I called him out on his ex but he never acknowledged it and said we weren’t compatible. :(
He emotionally cheated with his toxic ex-fiancée (who ended their engagement suddenly), and somehow our mutual friend groups still welcomed him without question. No one really stood up for me except one true friend, so I quietly pulled away. Another friend also defended him and said we’ve known him for a long time. I decided to take myself out of the mix.
What hurts most is knowing my intentions were always pure, yet I’m the one carrying all the loss and distance from people I cared about. :(
He wants to stay friends even after treating me horribly?
I recently ended a relationship with someone who couldn’t admit they still had emotional ties to their ex. He strung me along and pulled me into the middle of their unresolved situation, and it completely broke my heart. I trusted him because we had a long history as friends, which made it hurt even more. Then, almost overnight, he turned cold during the last week we were together. I ended things after that shift in behavior.
What really got me was that afterward, he had the audacity to say he hoped I’d be open to being friends again someday. I shut that down immediately. I genuinely don’t understand how someone can treat you so poorly and still think friendship is something they’re entitled to afterward. I guess the only reason is to soothe their guilt?