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It's been probably close to a year that I have been getting sometimes weekly, sometimes daily, sometimes hourly, log in requests from the same specific location. A state over from me. I have two factor on with the app, so it typically would send me a code, recently it's just a box that lets me click deny or approve. Not only is this annoying, but it's also worrisome that I could accidentally hit the "right" number or "approve" and give a stranger access to my email. All hours of the day, any given day, sometimes it's all day long - sometimes it doesn't happen for a week. I also worry that one day it'll happen at the same time that I'm actually logging into my account and somehow they'll gain access.

It has never shown me a different location attempting the log in, as if it's the same one person attempting relentlessly. I don't know of a single person in that location. Anyways… If possible, I'd absolutely love the ability to block sign in requests from specific locations. Is this a feature? Is there any solution to stopping people from continuously sending sign in requests?

Two issues:

Ordered a new Air X Fairway 3 wood from Sportcheck, and it seemed to be brand new as expected, no scratches or anything, but upon using it for about 20 minutes I then swung it in the air without hitting a ball and I heard a crack, and noticed a line near the bottom of the grip that looks like a pressure crack or something that will eventually break. I'm hopefully getting it replaced today, but the store I'm exchanging it in only has 1 more in stock and it's a floor model - so it may be worse.

I also ordered a new combo set of Cobra Air X women's clubs from Sportchek and they arrived "new" with wrap and stickers on them but after taking everything off I noticed all of the clubs were extremely pitted, chipped, scratched, like massively! It looks like someone was hitting them on pavement or something for a long time. Even old vintage clubs at thrift stores don't look this bad. This store I'm heading to again today only has 1 set in stock that I can exchange them for, and it's another floor model.

I'm wondering if this is a sign that I should just totally return the Air X and get something "better" …My issue is my current swing speed is around 55-60 and I'm quite weak and short so I thought these would be my best bet for such a slow swing, but they seem very flimsy.

My husband built a simulator which I have been learning on since April or so. and have been to a course twice now. I've been playing with some old cheap Golf Girl clubs I got second hand (I've already broken two.) I need some "real" clubs. My cheap little driver and I max out my drives at 130, even when I'm hitting it properly.

I saw everyone raved about Kalea Gold's being the best of the best, so without looking into it more, I got my heart set on finding some used because I couldn't afford them new. I found the full Kalea Gold's for $700 on marketplace (they're $2500+ CAD here) but the deal fell through and someone else got them before we could, I was shattered. With that, I've had a hard time accepting that I'd now have to pay $1000+ for a new set that is not even Kalea Gold's. But, after a bit more research it seems maybe the Kalea's aren't my best match anyways due to my height & weight & strength.

I'm 5'0 (going to measure my wrist length today, but know I will have to cut down my clubs either way) and I'm also 95lbs and not very strong at all, I'm flexible enough to do the proper swing but I just feel like I don't have the muscle or driving strength to fully send it. I think that will keep me at a disadvantage even when I know what I'm doing more. …So, should I lean towards Cobra Air X or do the REVA's?

I'm 28f who has never been stung by a bee or wasp to know if I'm allergic, but I have horrible hayfever/seasonal/animal allergies (as does my mom and my brothers.)

My mom has went into anaphylactic shock once in her 40s due to a food she never knew she was allergic to, and she swells badly in the area where she gets stung, my brother has anaphylactic reactions to bee/wasp stings since childhood and has to take triple doses of benadryl and I think technically is supposed to have an epi pen but never has. So I worry that I'll one day get my first sting and be unprepared but I'm not sure if them reacting that way means I'm more susceptible to react similarly.

I also happen to live about 2.5 hours from the nearest emergency room the majority of the year, so I really worry about getting my first bee or wasp sting. Should I have an epi pen for myself? Would multiple benadryl be enough in replacement of an epi pen?

I am autistic, I'm shy/socially awkward, switched to homeschooling in middle school because of my social anxiety. I went 10+ years without any friends because of how scared I was of getting bullied or being perceived as the weird girl again, my only real friend was my older brother and then I lost him suddenly as I was turning 20. A few months after my brother died I met my now husband who had many friends, he had just bought a house and moved in one of his close friends to be a roommate. I moved in too, and he brought me into his circle. All of his friends genuinely seemed to love me, it was the best few years of my life. As controversial as this saying is, I really was like one of the boys. One of my best friends was our roommate, who was my brother's age, hanging out with him felt exactly like hanging out with my brother again and it helped me grieve a lot. My husband was so happy for me.

Then, my "best friend"/roommate, started seeing a few girls, telling me about each of them and why he liked them. I helped him settle on one girl who sounded like a great match. I was excited for him, he was excited that I was going to have a girl friend in the group. One day, we're out in a small group and we run into the girl. I excitedly tell her I'm happy to finally meet her, expecting her to know who I am because of how much I know of her. She gave me one look up & down and then scoffed. Roommate leaves to hangout with her. Our friendship continues like normal for the following weeks. Then one day, he texts my husband that he's moved out (without any warning.) We get home, see he's left some stuff behind, I go to message him to tell him and to my surprise I'm blocked, everywhere!

Years go by and he never returns to get his stuff, never unblocks me, hardly speaks to my husband (he's just started coming around to hangout with my husband again after 5 years or so, but acts like I'm not there, won't even look in my direction.) It felt like suddenly losing my brother all over again, without the closure it really hurt my feelings. I still think about it daily. Eventually I got to speak with him one time privately in person, I could tell he was scared to talk with me, but I had to ask what I did wrong. He explained very short and simple that he didn't hate me, he said his girlfriend hates me and doesn't believe him when he tells her he had never had "done anything" with me when living with me but he's tried to get her to understand. Since then, I have heard from several other people that she hates me. She has even told people I slept with him. NEVER have I ever! My husband is the only man I've been with. She hasn't even had a conversation with me.

Then, my other "best friend" who was actually very upset about the roommate situation for me. Maybe a year afterwards, also gets a new girlfriend, who then ALSO makes him remove me and stop talking to me! I quietly put my head down and respected their relationship because I get that you have to respect your partner and I love my friends enough to step back for the sake of them having a happy relationship, but it still hurt my feelings, especially after it already happened with our other friend. Fast forward a few years and they split up, he came back around, he was so apologetic that he did the same thing to me.

It's been 8 years of me & my husband being together now. This has now happened with multiple other guys I've been buddies with in the friend group too. Some have come back around after break ups, and some have been in long term relationships where they've never been allowed to come back around. It always goes as follows: friend tells us they have a new girlfriend and are so excited for their girlfriend to meet me because they'll "love me", we meet her and she immediately sees me and "nopes", either won't even have a conversation with me or is super dismissive and turns to talk to the other guys at the table very quickly, or will even just talk to my husband and not me. I can see it on their faces that they don't like me before even talking to me. Then, after meeting me, they make their boyfriends never associate with me again. Which also makes it hard on my husband because some of the girlfriends take it as far as not allowing the guys to even hangout with my husband one on one just because of the chance that they might see me. I've learned to not get too attached to any friendship, but it's left me feeling like I'm really unlikable and will never have a girl friend. It hurts my feelings to the extreme.

Now on the rare occasion that a big group of us gets together and guys all bring their girlfriends, the girlfriends all sit together away from me and won't even say hi to me and their boyfriends clearly aren't allowed to chat with me, but the girls will happily talk with my husband. All of the girlfriends are in a big girl group and go do things together, I have never been invited or talked to, the girls don't even have me on social media. It's literally like I'm the only odd one out.

How do I navigate this?

I suspect I have ibs-d (symptoms since childhood) but I hadn't told a soul. I've had immense anxiety and embarrassment about anything bathroom related or farting since before I knew how to speak.

Somehow, I lived with my ex for two years, and now my husband for 8, and have never farted in front of either! I have went through periods of time where I'm having huge (suspected ibs-d) flare ups -- I've used every trick and excuse in the book to avoid him hearing me fart or go to the bathroom. He even jokes about it and tells people I don't poop (which has made the pressure even worse, especially when I'm having awful diarrhea anytime I eat anything not completely clean and homemade.)

Finally, I broke down and told my gynaecologist of all people 2 weeks ago about my pain and bowel issues. I told him I was embarrassed, and how I knew he wasn't the right doctor to talk to but I needed help. He told me he would refer me to a specialist. Now, I've just received an email from my hospital with prep for a colonoscopy, telling me they're going to call me soon with a date! I haven't even talked to a specialist, I had no idea a colonoscopy was going to be happening. I'm terrified -- Not of the colonoscopy, but of the prep and the passing of gas afterwards, around my husband. As silly as that is.

...I told him about the email the other night and he thought I was joking because in his mind there's no way I could have any bowel issues if I "don't even fart." I didn't want to then dump (pun intended) all of this info on him that I've been secretly dealing with and hiding from him, so I just acted I didn't know why they were doing it and like it was a random routine colonoscopy. I am PANICKING and I feel so silly about it! Please reassure me, any way you can.