u/imsensitiveaubery

I was originally going to ask this in the other sub, but all of the rules and passive aggressive messages that kept popping up while typing up my post annoyed me and led me to here. It seems like the people here are more welcoming!! Anyways,

1. I used to collect kpop photocards, but that phase has pretty much fizzled out of my life. One aspect of it that I thought was really helpful though was being able to find templates for a group/idol that included pictures of the card and where they came from, serving as a visual checklist essentially. I've recently started getting into football cards after realizing how much I fucking love the sport. I bought my first Topps box yesterday, and the excitement I felt from getting a simple base card from my team makes me want to collect every card from my favorite players (that are reasonably easy to get my hands on, I don't have much interest in collecting autos, patches, numbered, etc unless I can find them for a good price or I win the lottery). However, the amount of cards per player and the variants are kind of confusing and overwhelming. I looked up the checklist just to see it listed the player and card with no picture of said card. As the set is out for longer, will there eventually be a checklist out there that has photo references of the cards? It's no big deal if not, I can use my brain and keep track, but it would make things a bit easier.

2. Are the inexpensive, not super sought after cards faked very often? It's kind of a big problem in the photocard collecting community, but it's pretty easy to tell if it's fake or not once you physically have it in your hands. I'm sure the expensive chases in the sets are faked all the time, but what about the base cards and midtier $20-$40 cards? Is there a way to tell once you receive them, or is it really not something to worry about in general?

Right before me and my ex broke up, I went through her ipad because I knew she was hiding something from me, and I just couldn't shake the feeling out of my head. I found a plethora of unsavory, hurtful, nasty messages between her and her friend, and among those was some messages about how I sucked at eating her out. When I confronted her about all of it and we talked, I asked her about that specifically at some point. She told me that it felt like I was just slapping my tongue against her clit, which I’ll admit, I was doing. I think the way I would describe what I was trying to do was moreso "make out" with her clit in a sense. Regardless, I thought that's what she enjoyed, along with straightening my tongue out to flick, I guess? I know I made her (actually) orgasm many times from oral, so I just genuinely didn't think I was doing anything wrong. She never talked to me about it lol.

She was my first and currently only sexual partner. I'm talking to a new girl right now, and things are going really well. However I keep thinking about the possibility of sex and it stresses me out. I feel like I'd be going into it with practically no experience all over again. My ex and I had dated for over a year and I didn't even realize I was doing it wrong the whole time. Our sex life did go to shit after a while, and I pleaded with her dozens of times to tell me what was wrong, but she never told me. I'm really really scared to go through that again. The very rare times she ate me out it never felt that great either, so it's not like I can try and copy what she did. So what is the proper technique to eat a girl out? It's a bummer because I do enjoy giving head a LOT, but I'm worried the anxiety of doing it wrong will make it more difficult and thus lead me to perform worse.

I just saw the other post asking what does meth smoke smell like, and it made me wonder if meth or heroin have a distinct taste when you smoke/ingest them. Like weed and cigarettes obviously have a strong taste and odor, so I would imagine meth and heroin do too unless I'm wrong lol If they do, what do they taste like?

Hello! I've lived in the area pretty much all my life but I've never been to any of the ERs. I went to the hospital earlier this year when I had a cold (it was just a cold, but I have asthma and previously had the flu, covid, and tonsilitis only months before this cold) because I couldn't breathe, but I was seen almost right away because of my breathing. I have been to urgent care twice (for the flu and covid lol).

Right now I think I might be experiencing symptoms of appendicitis. I initially brushed it off as IBS pain or maybe even period cramps, even though I'm not due for my period for another two weeks or so. However, when I press down on the left side of my stomach vs the right side, the pain is only noticeable on the right. I'm leaning towards appendicitis, but I want to wait a few more hours or until the morning to see if it improves or not. In the event I do decide I need to go to the ER, is there one around here that might be better than others, especially at night time? I know there's an issue with emergency rooms taking forever to see patients, which I totally understand is not on the staff in the majority of cases. Admittedly, I still don't really want to wait hours or be seen by a staff that doesn't care. I'm totally fine with an emergency room that might be a little slow as long as the staff is nice though, because I do understand appendicitis isn't really on the top of the priorities list unless it's actively rupturing. If my pain doesn't get any worse and I wake up feeling mostly fine I'll just make a trip to urgent care though.

just need to know so i can mentally prepare to spend money

Kind of a weird rant, but I genuinely cannot deal with how horrendous most western kpop fandoms have gotten. Let me preface by saying it has ALWAYS been this way, I'm well aware. But there's no doubt in my mind there's been a major shift in the last few years and everything has just gotten worse. I got into kpop in 2018 and comparing fandoms then to now is like night and day.

If an idol fucks up and does something wrong, no one cares anymore. If someone tries to criticize the idol (this does not apply to the people who don't actually care about what the idol did, and that they just feel vindicated that they can freely trash someone they don't like. I'm specifically referring to people who can be mature and have conversations regarding idols' mistakes, even if it's their favs) they are immediately shut down by their fans. I don't know if it's because fans assume anyone saying anything slightly negative/critical about their favorites is always just plain hatred, but it's becoming more and more unbearable. There's almost no room to actually discuss an idol's harmful behavior, words, actions, etc anymore. So many fans write off very serious issues as just people being insensitive or a hater. It's draining. My favorite groups have members that aren't perfect and have done some messed up things, and it's not hard to just admit that. I don't believe they should have their careers ruined or be shunned from the public, but I absolutely understand if someone doesn't like my favorite groups or idols because of the things they've done.

Even just in 2018, I feel like this just wasn't AS much of an issue? It was very much a problem and always has been, but it was possible to have nuanced discussions about idols and their mistakes without being called too woke, too sensitive, "just a hater," what have you. Nowadays, it feels like it's all just gone completely out the window. The constant defensiveness and writing off people's feelings about certain situations is horrid. No one is out to get these people for doing something stupid and insensitive, they simply want idols, companies, and even fans who may not be aware to know better.

Maybe I'm talking out of my ass and it's always been this bad, but I'm not sure. It just feels like it's getting harder and harder to have civil discussions about these things. No one likes to see their favs get hated on, but trying to drown out the "hadurz!1!1!" simultaneously suppresses any meaningful discussion that isn't coming from a place of hate. There's absolutely nothing wrong with being a human and making an honest mistake. However, there is something wrong with downplaying real people's emotions and disappointment at the expense of parasocial behavior and feeling like a knight in shining armor for protecting grown men and women from valid criticism.

I'm a 19 year old female, and I began taking testosterone in June of 2024. I took it for purely masculinization purposes, as I've always been a masculine lesbian and wanted to achieve more masculine features. I did my research, I knew what was going to happen when I started taking it. Of course there were aspects I wasn't thrilled about, but the mental relief from the hormone was so great it didn't matter. Around July or August of 2025, I stopped taking it. I was fairly happy with my results, but I was also just getting lazy about my injections. I figured it was best to just stop instead of taking it every other week or two weeks.

Anyways, fast forward to now. I'm starting to feel kind of bad about myself again, and I know it's mainly because I'm seeing some of my feminine features come back. I would like to start taking it again, but I'm curious if my voice will drop more if I start hrt again? It's already dropped a significant amount, and I've come to like it even if the voice doesn't match my face or pronouns. I still kind of sound like a girl who might just be sick or has a naturally deeper, nasally voice. If it drops more I might have to consider training my voice to be a bit higher though, which I'll do, it's just not preferable. Anyone have any experience with this? Thank you!

I'm a 19 year old female, and I began taking testosterone in June of 2024. I took it for purely masculinization purposes, as I've always been a masculine lesbian and wanted to achieve more masculine features. I did my research, I knew what was going to happen when I started taking it. Of course there were aspects I wasn't thrilled about, but the mental relief from the hormone was so great it didn't matter. Around July or August of 2025, I stopped taking it. I was fairly happy with my results, but I was also just getting lazy about my injections. I figured it was best to just stop instead of taking it every other week or two weeks.

Anyways, fast forward to now. I'm starting to feel kind of bad about myself again, and I know it's mainly because I'm seeing some of my feminine features come back. I would like to start taking it again, but I'm curious if my voice will drop more if I start hrt again? It's already dropped a significant amount, and I've come to like it even if the voice doesn't match my face or pronouns. I still kind of sound like a girl who might just be sick or has a naturally deeper, nasally voice. If it drops more I might have to consider training my voice to be a bit higher though. Anyone have any experience with this? Thank you!

Hello!

This is kind of an embarrassing post to make, but I'm completely lost. I'm 19 years old and I've never really learned how to cook anything besides eggs and boxed stuff like mac and cheese. I eat pretty horrible as a result and I really need to fix it. I figured learning how to cook chicken would be a good starting point. I know it is one of the healthiest protein sources and relatively simple to make, I just get overwhelmed with all of the instructions online. I'm just clueless on what brining is and if it's a must, what kind of seasonings are most common to use, how to avoid cross contamination while prepping, the proper temperature to cook in the oven, all of it. I also am kind of clueless whether or not I can just take it out of the package and start prepping, or if I need to remove certain bits. Any help is greatly appreciated, even if it's a link to a guide or video with step by step instructions !

I'm sorry if this post is confusing or poorly worded, I'm freaking out and my mind is all over the place.

Our relationship has been on the rocks for a few months now. We broke up initially in February on her terms, but after about two weeks we got back together on her terms. Lately things have started feeling off again, and she has a habit of not telling me what's TRULY going on when she's upset. Just a few days ago we had a minor argument that spiraled into me suggesting maybe we should break up, and she cried and said she didn't want to.

Since then, I still feel like something isn't right. I was sitting on the couch while she's at work, just thinking, when I looked over at her ipad. I have never done this EVER (we've been together a little over a year now) but something in me screamed at me "look through it." Without thinking, I opened it and went to her best friend's contact. It didn't take much scrolling to find what I was looking for unfortunately. It was a lot of stuff she didn't like about me, I was bad at, etc. A few texts even mentioned breaking up with me the next time we argue. I am not a perfect partner by any means, and we both know that. I've been trying to improve. She hasn't been perfect either though, and I feel like we go in circles where I ask her to change and she doesn't.

Now I feel incredibly stuck. It was extremely wrong of me to look through her messages, but there is absolutely no way I can continue on knowing what I know. I don't really want the relationship to end, but I'm thinking it's more of a matter of time. How do I go about this? Do I tell her I looked through her messages? It's a huge invasion of privacy and it feels wrong to tell her I even did that, regardless of if the end result is breaking up or not.

Hello! I'm not sure if this is the right place to post this, but I just need some advice. I'm 19 and have been smoking for about a year now. Ever since I was a kid I've suspected I've had asthma, but with smoking and being around cats all the time (which causes some struggling to breathe), I'm kinda certain I have it. I'm going to get tested soon.

In the meantime, I've been using primatene mist to help with the symptoms. I only use it at my girlfriends house in the morning, because she has two cats and that's when I notice the shortness of breath. However, after doing some more proper research, I'm realizing how terrible this inhaler is. I've been aware that it's not exactly great, but I'm now realizing how detrimental it may be to my lungs. And I obviously know the smoking isn't good either, but I've pretty much quit. But I'm very worried the damage has been done, especially if I DO have asthma. I haven't taken primatene mist before this, and I haven't gone through this first one yet. However I'm still kinda anxious that I've already fucked up my heart and lungs. I know they'll never be the same, but I'm just worried if I can make a decent recovery?