i’ve always wondered whether having the same artistic interests creates stronger compatibility or if it ends up becoming competitive/too emotionally intense. like does sharing music as a language deepen intimacy, or is it sometimes nicer being with someone outside of that world entirely? curious what musicians think genuinely works best for them and why.
the title basically. i’m curious about what the dating experience is like specifically for australian men in their early 30s. i feel like that age range is interesting because people are usually past the “just messing around” uni phase, but also dealing with work, burnout, long-term relationship history, pressure to settle down etc.
is the app experience actually better in your 30s as a man, or does it just become more exhausting in a different way? do you feel like women on hinge around that age are generally more intentional and communicative, or more guarded because of past experiences?
also wondering how much things like career stability, appearance, height, lifestyle etc realistically matter in australia specifically. i hear people say dating gets easier for men in their 30s, but i can’t tell how true that actually is versus internet mythology.
lately i’ve seen so many people say that they are agnostic and atheist as if the two terms are interchangeable. but it never made sense to me. if you identify as such, can you explain why?
no judgement at all btw. i’m just seeking to fill the gaps in my knowledge around this sorta stuff :)
so i’ve gotten this a few times and i never really know how to feel about it. in the back of my mind it makes me think i must have really intense features in a way that maybe reads as masculine? idk if that makes sense. i also instinctively interpret “striking” as kind of jarring or harsh rather than soft/conventionally attractive, so i’m curious how most people actually mean it when they say it about someone.
i’m asking this in good faith because I’m genuinely curious about the psychological and philosophical side of it rather than trying to debate anyone’s beliefs. for people who are atheist or agnostic, how do you personally make peace with uncertainty regarding existence, consciousness, morality, death, or whether there is ultimately any higher meaning to reality? i understand that many religious people find comfort in having a structured metaphysical framework that explains suffering, purpose, and what happens after death, so I’m interested in how non-religious people approach those same questions without arriving at certainty.
is the acceptance of uncertainty itself part of the comfort? do you see meaning as something humans create rather than discover? or do you think it’s intellectually healthier to remain unconvinced rather than commit to claims that cannot currently be proven?
i’m especially interested in thoughtful, spiritual and personal perspectives from people who have spent a long time reflecting on this.
thanks :)
i’m asking this in good faith because I’m genuinely curious about the psychological and philosophical side of it rather than trying to debate anyone’s beliefs. for people who are atheist or agnostic, how do you personally make peace with uncertainty regarding existence, consciousness, morality, death, or whether there is ultimately any higher meaning to reality? i understand that many religious people find comfort in having a structured metaphysical framework that explains suffering, purpose, and what happens after death, so I’m interested in how non-religious people approach those same questions without arriving at certainty.
is the acceptance of uncertainty itself part of the comfort? do you see meaning as something humans create rather than discover? or do you think it’s intellectually healthier to remain unconvinced rather than commit to claims that cannot currently be proven?
i’m especially interested in thoughtful personal perspectives from people who have spent a long time reflecting on this rather than simple “nothing happens when we die” answers.
i’ve always wondered if men subconsciously separate certain compliments depending on how they view a woman romantically. for example, is there actually a difference between calling someone “cute,” “hot,” “beautiful,” “gorgeous,” or “stunning,” or are women overanalysing it?
i’ve heard people say that “hot” is usually more physical/sexual attraction, while words like “beautiful” or “stunning” can imply a deeper level of admiration or seriousness, but i don’t know how true that actually is. on the other hand, some guys say they call women “cute” when they genuinely like them because it feels more affectionate and personal.
so from a male perspective, do these words genuinely mean different things depending on how you see a woman and what your intentions are with her, or is it mostly random vocabulary?
I’ve always wondered whether certain compliments carry different levels of romantic seriousness or intention behind them. for example, is there actually a difference between calling someone “cute,” “hot,” “beautiful,” “gorgeous,” or “stunning,” or are women overanalysing it?
i’ve heard people say that “hot” is usually more physical/sexual attraction, while words like “beautiful” or “stunning” can imply a deeper level of admiration or seriousness, but I don’t know how true that actually is. On the other hand, some guys say they call women “cute” when they genuinely like them because it feels more affectionate and personal.
so from a male perspective, do these words genuinely mean different things depending on how you see a woman and what your intentions are with her, or is it mostly random vocabulary?
lately it feels like right wing ideology is becoming way more visible online and in politics, but i can’t tell whether that’s because the number of people who actually hold those beliefs is increasing, or if social media/media algorithms are just amplifying a smaller group and making them seem more dominant than they are
i’ve also noticed that a lot of political discussion now feels way more polarised and emotionally charged than it used to, which probably contributes to that perception too. interested to hear different perspectives from people in different countries/age groups and whether you think this is an actual ideological shift or mostly a visibility issue.
i’ve always felt kind of uncomfortable with traditional dating culture and i don’t know if that’s normal or not. i’d genuinely rather just walk around with someone, go into music/book shops, talk for hours or do something spontaneous than go on a formal dinner date where it feels like both people are subtly interviewing each other.
for some reason overly structured romantic settings make me feel more aware of “performing” attraction instead of naturally connecting. i still like romance and intimacy, i just feel way more comfortable when it develops through shared experiences and conversation rather than obvious date rituals.
does anyone else feel like this?
i’ve realised i way prefer spontaneous interaction over traditional “dating etiquette”. like i’d genuinely rather wander around a city with someone, sit in a music shop for an hour, look through vinyls/books, grab random food and just exist together naturally than do the whole structured dinner date/interview vibe.
something about formal dating culture can feel so performative to me. like both people are trying to optimise attraction instead of actually connecting as human beings. i feel way more drawn to people through shared environments, conversation and curiosity than rehearsed romantic settings. does anyone else feel like this or am i just allergic to conventional dating rituals?
why do some men seem especially attracted to push-and-pull flirting dynamics? things like teasing, suggestiveness, tension, playful resistance, testing patience a bit, etc. it seems like this kind of interaction often creates stronger attraction than being completely direct from the start. is it because some men enjoy the challenge/aspect of “winning someone over” more when the other person isn’t immediately easy to read, or is there another psychological reason the tension feels exciting?
Hi everyone, 21F here. i’m a beginner with no experience and i want to start self teaching/taking learning seriously. i’ve had a shitty electric that i got set up and it plays pretty well so i’ll be using that to start. my amp is pretty low quality and it doesn’t even really pick up the effects so i often just play unplugged. Despite having the guitar for almost 2 years now i’ve been so overwhelmed that i haven’t actually started learning it properly and have barely made progress. i don’t know any chords or any theory. i basically just know like 5 beginner riffs and how to read tabs etc but that’s mostly because i play once every few months for like 30 minutes.
anyway to those of you that started out similarly i would really appreciate if you could please give me tips or like a rundown of what i should focus on first to make it easier. i don’t want to get upgraded gear until ive actually become good at this shit because i’m barely an apprentice at this point, but i’m mostly into the blues and am interested in developing an adjacent style to that so tailored advice would be appreciated.
thank you :)
the title. i’m F21 and still a virgin so i don’t have a lot of experience, but i was wondering if this is actually true because i’ve been told by some of my friends that men can sometimes view women negatively if they initiate intimacy or are too forward. personally i feel like if you’re attracted to someone and comfortable with them then initiating should just be a normal part of mutual attraction, but i don’t really know how men actually perceive it in practice.
i think part of my confusion also comes from how differently women are judged for sexuality compared to men. guys are often encouraged to pursue/initiate, but when women do the same there can sometimes be a weird stigma attached to it. i’m curious whether most men genuinely like when women initiate or if they quietly lose respect/interest even if they respond positively in the moment. just interested in hearing honest opinions/personal experiences.
TLDR: do men generally like when women initiate intimacy or is it sometimes viewed negatively?
hi, 21F here and still a virgin. lately i’ve been hearing from my guy friends about bad sexual encounters they’ve had with women and it’s made me curious what most men would consider good.
thanks :)
hi, i’m 21F currently finishing a bachelor of nursing, but lately i’ve been feeling sad about how much knowledge i’ve lost from not engaging with science anymore outside of my degree. i used to love chemistry and biology in high school, but after ~3 years of barely touching them i feel like i’ve forgotten almost everything.
my uni doesn’t really let us take electives with this course, so i’ve been thinking about self teaching on the side because there’s still so much i want to learn. i genuinely miss learning and want to keep my brain functioning instead of letting it rot lmao.
the issue is that i’d basically be starting from complete scratch again, especially with maths and physics. i barely remember anything beyond very basic concepts, so it’s a little intimidating trying to figure out where to even begin.
if there are any physicists/math people/stem nerds here, do you have a roadmap for what order i should learn things in or the best methods/resources for self teaching? any advice or encouragement would genuinely help.
hi, i’m 21F currently finishing a bachelor of nursing, but lately i’ve been feeling sad about how much knowledge i’ve lost from not engaging with science anymore outside of my degree. i used to love chemistry and biology in high school, but after ~3 years of barely touching them i feel like i’ve forgotten almost everything.
my uni doesn’t really let us take electives with this course, so i’ve been thinking about self teaching on the side because there’s still so much i want to learn. i genuinely miss learning and want to keep my brain functioning instead of letting it rot lmao.
the issue is that i’d basically be starting from complete scratch again, especially with maths and physics. i barely remember anything beyond very basic concepts, so it’s a little intimidating trying to figure out where to even begin.
if there are any physicists/math people/stem nerds here, do you have a roadmap for what order i should learn things in or the best methods/resources for self teaching? any advice or encouragement would genuinely help.
hi, i’m 21F currently finishing a bachelor of nursing, but i’ve realised there are so many things i still want to learn on the side. my uni doesn’t really allow electives with this course, so i’ve been thinking about self teaching instead. i loved chemistry and biology in high school, but after ~3 years of basically no exposure to them i feel like i’ve forgotten almost everything, which honestly makes me sad. i miss learning for the sake of learning and want to start studying again to keep my brain active and to retain as much knowledge as possible.
i’m essentially starting from scratch, so any tips, encouragement, or advice would be appreciated.
also, i know physics and maths can be harder to learn independently, but i was wondering if any physicists/math people/stem nerds here have a sort of roadmap they’d recommend? like where to start, what order to learn things in and the most effective methods/resources for self teaching.