u/itzvilius

Disclaimer: i was venting to chatgpt and i asked him to clean my post a bit since theres too much info and english is not my first language so the text is AI generated but the story is 100% true

Met this girl 7 months ago and instantly clicked. She told me herself she was a narcissist but I ignored it because she treated me better than any girl ever has. We were together every day, sleeping on calls, acting like a married couple, fucking, kissing, going everywhere together. She spent a stupid amount of money on me too, buying me food almost every day, gifts, posting me everywhere, introducing me to her parents. I genuinely thought God finally sent me the right girl after years of getting hurt.

From the very beginning I told her my 2 biggest dealbreakers were sluts and drug users. I said many times I could never be with someone like that and she promised she wasn’t like that anymore and that she’d never lie to me.

Turns out while we were already acting like a couple she was still fucking another guy in her college dorm while I was asleep on call or busy. At first she lied and said she stopped before me, then mixed up her lies later and exposed herself. Apparently the guy left her because he found out she was talking to me too.

Then people started telling me rumors that she got ran through in her town, fucked dudes in abandoned buildings, had a huge body count, etc. I defended her because I thought people were just mad she rejected them since a lot of guys want her only for her body.

Later we officially dated and I started finding actual evidence. Photos, screenshots, old messages, hidden accounts. She denied EVERYTHING until I was about to leave. She gave me her Snapchat and Instagram logins to “prove” she was loyal but most chats were already deleted. Then I found other passwords and found out she had an OnlyFans at 18 too and most rumors were actually true.

She still had dudes she fucked added everywhere while dating me and talked to them casually in front of me while we were together. Whenever I confronted her she’d either deny it, cry, say I’m attacking her, or switch to “okay I did it so what it’s the past.” Even though some stuff happened while we were already basically together.

She keeps saying I’m the only guy who treated her like a person and not just a body, says she loves me more than anyone, says she changed for me, cries when I try to leave, threatens suicide, begs me not to give up, etc. But then I keep discovering more lies.

Recently I found out she also lied about drugs after promising me she’d never lie again. Turns out in October (a month before we met) she was sniffing cocaine at a party and bragging about it to her friend. I don’t know if she did it later too because at this point I don’t even know what’s true anymore.

What fucks with my head is she genuinely acts loving sometimes. She spends money on me, posts me everywhere, wants to be around me 24/7, talks about a future together. But at the same time she lies nonstop, hides shit, deletes things, changes passwords, manipulates situations, and I honestly don’t even know what’s real anymore.

I seriously thought I was gonna marry this girl.

TLDR: Girl acted like a sweet innocent loyal girl with a rough past, promised she quit drugs years ago and wasn’t a hoe. Later found out she lied about almost everything, was fucking another guy behind my back, hid a huge past, lied about drugs, manipulates me, and every time I forgive her I discover more shit.

The question is what to do? How do i trust her? How do most of these people actually act? What are the chances she will go back to that life again? Is it even worth it? She keeps crying that she changed for me and looks up to me and she loves me and that the relationship will work but is this just manipulation or the truth?

Disclaimer: i was venting to chatgpt and i asked him to clean my post a bit since theres too much info and english is not my first language so the text is AI generated but the story is 100% true

Met this girl 7 months ago and instantly clicked. She told me herself she was a narcissist but I ignored it because she treated me better than any girl ever has. We were together every day, sleeping on calls, acting like a married couple, fucking, kissing, going everywhere together. She spent a stupid amount of money on me too, buying me food almost every day, gifts, posting me everywhere, introducing me to her parents. I genuinely thought God finally sent me the right girl after years of getting hurt.

From the very beginning I told her my 2 biggest dealbreakers were sluts and drug users. I said many times I could never be with someone like that and she promised she wasn’t like that anymore and that she’d never lie to me.

Turns out while we were already acting like a couple she was still fucking another guy in her college dorm while I was asleep on call or busy. At first she lied and said she stopped before me, then mixed up her lies later and exposed herself. Apparently the guy left her because he found out she was talking to me too.

Then people started telling me rumors that she got ran through in her town, fucked dudes in abandoned buildings, had a huge body count, etc. I defended her because I thought people were just mad she rejected them since a lot of guys want her only for her body.

Later we officially dated and I started finding actual evidence. Photos, screenshots, old messages, hidden accounts. She denied EVERYTHING until I was about to leave. She gave me her Snapchat and Instagram logins to “prove” she was loyal but most chats were already deleted. Then I found other passwords and found out she had an OnlyFans at 18 too and most rumors were actually true.

She still had dudes she fucked added everywhere while dating me and talked to them casually in front of me while we were together. Whenever I confronted her she’d either deny it, cry, say I’m attacking her, or switch to “okay I did it so what it’s the past.” Even though some stuff happened while we were already basically together.

She keeps saying I’m the only guy who treated her like a person and not just a body, says she loves me more than anyone, says she changed for me, cries when I try to leave, threatens suicide, begs me not to give up, etc. But then I keep discovering more lies.

Recently I found out she also lied about drugs after promising me she’d never lie again. Turns out in October (a month before we met) she was sniffing cocaine at a party and bragging about it to her friend. I don’t know if she did it later too because at this point I don’t even know what’s true anymore.

What fucks with my head is she genuinely acts loving sometimes. She spends money on me, posts me everywhere, wants to be around me 24/7, talks about a future together. But at the same time she lies nonstop, hides shit, deletes things, changes passwords, manipulates situations, and I honestly don’t even know what’s real anymore.

I seriously thought I was gonna marry this girl.

TLDR: Girl acted like a sweet innocent loyal girl with a rough past, promised she quit drugs years ago and wasn’t a hoe. Later found out she lied about almost everything, was fucking another guy behind my back, hid a huge past, lied about drugs, manipulates me, and every time I forgive her I discover more shit.

The question is what to do? How do i trust her? How do most of these people actually act? What are the chances she will go back to that life again? Is it even worth it? She keeps crying that she changed for me and looks up to me and she loves me and that the relationship will work but is this just manipulation or the truth?

We met 7 months ago, i wasnt looking for anything serious, but after a month she seemed like the sweetest most loving girl, we acted like a couple always hung out together and stayed on call, turns out she was fucking a guy in her collage dorm when i was busy, (didnt know that until this week) after a month we began dating and people started telling me that shes a hoe and many disgusting rumours around her, i was in disbelief, i called her crying asking if theyre true, she denied and said that theyre just rumours, she did manipulate me a lot and always lied to me. About a week ago i found out she was cheating on me when we first met and my heart broke, she manipulated me in to staying by lying and gaslighting, but during the week she would mix up in her lies and i decided to end the relationship so she gave me her logins, when i logged in i went through everything and she had many guys she slept with on snap, i told her she removed them while crying, i dug around more and i found out she had an onlyfans(i even asked her once as a joke she said ofc not are u dumb), then went through her chats and saw her talking to her friends about dudes dicks and how many she had and comparing sizes of 2 dudes she did at the same time in an abandoned building (i heard that rumours but she kept saying its nonsense) i decided i had enough of her lying and ended things, tried ending in a nice way by saying that i hate that type of lifestyle and i dont want to live in a lie she kept saying “she loves me she changed for me” and using many manipulation tactics, i wished her farewell and she said shes going to commit suicide. Idk what to do now, currently i dont even feel sad or cry, i dont feel anything, probably because i cried my heart out when i found out she cheated

We met 7 months ago, i wasnt looking for anything serious, but after a month she seemed like the sweetest most loving girl, we acted like a couple always hung out together and stayed on call, turns out she was fucking a guy in her collage dorm when i was busy, (didnt know that until this week) after a month we began dating and people started telling me that shes a hoe and many disgusting rumours around her, i was in disbelief, i called her crying asking if theyre true, she denied and said that theyre just rumours, she did manipulate me a lot and always lied to me. About a week ago i found out she was cheating on me when we first met and my heart broke, she manipulated me in to staying by lying and gaslighting, but during the week she would mix up in her lies and i decided to end the relationship so she gave me her logins, when i logged in i went through everything and she had many guys she slept with on snap, i told her she removed them while crying, i dug around more and i found out she had an onlyfans(i even asked her once as a joke she said ofc not are u dumb), then went through her chats and saw her talking to her friends about dudes dicks and how many she had and comparing sizes of 2 dudes she did at the same time in an abandoned building (i heard that rumours but she kept saying its nonsense) i decided i had enough of her lying and ended things, tried ending in a nice way by saying that i hate that type of lifestyle and i dont want to live in a lie she kept saying “she loves me she changed for me” and using many manipulation tactics, i wished her farewell and she said shes going to commit suicide. Idk what to do now

We met 7 months ago, i wasnt looking for anything serious, but after a month she seemed like the sweetest most loving girl, we acted like a couple always hung out together and stayed on call, turns out she was fucking a guy in her collage dorm when i was busy, (didnt know that until this week) after a month we began dating and people started telling me that shes a hoe and many disgusting rumours around her, i was in disbelief, i called her crying asking if theyre true, she denied and said that theyre just rumours, she did manipulate me a lot and always lied to me. About a week ago i found out she was cheating on me when we first met and my heart broke, she manipulated me in to staying by lying and gaslighting, but during the week she would mix up in her lies and i decided to end the relationship so she gave me her logins, when i logged in i went through everything and she had many guys she slept with on snap, i told her she removed them while crying, i dug around more and i found out she had an onlyfans(i even asked her once as a joke she said ofc not are u dumb), then went through her chats and saw her talking to her friends about dudes dicks and how many she had and comparing sizes of 2 dudes she did at the same time in an abandoned building (i heard that rumours but she kept saying its nonsense) i decided i had enough of her lying and ended things, tried ending in a nice way by saying that i hate that type of lifestyle and i dont want to live in a lie she kept saying “she loves me she changed for me” and using many manipulation tactics, i wished her farewell and she said shes going to commit suicide. Idk what to do now

I was dating this girl for a long time everything seemed great she did have some redflags but i thought she was loyal it felt like the dream relationship turns out the first 3 months we were together she was fucking with a dude in her collage dorm, whenever i was too busy to hang out she would have sex with him, turns out shes a known slut and fucked even way younger boys shes the definition of a thot, i really loved her and trusted her and thought that our love was meant to be. She was acting strange today and i just decided to ask people from her old school (she quit recently) what kind of a person is she, i found with a photo and video proof that while she was hanging out almost every day with me, kissing me, going to restaurants and just spending all the time she was having sex with a dude. I called her and at first she denied everything and she denied denied till i forced her to admit that she did fuck him many times and her excuse was “i didnt take you seriously back then but now im in love with you and i want to be with you for the rest of my life”. I dont know if i should believe her and forgive her since we werent actually sating back then but we were getting very closed and she lied that im the only one and i thought i was special and this was real. I cant eat i cant even fall asleep ky hearts pounding i dont know what the fuck to do. Do i trust her that she actually loves me and wont cheat? From the people i got the info from she stopped fucking him when he moved out of the collage but turns out she still has him on snap. They said many gut wrenching things that were true i just dont want to live anymore. Do i trust her?