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Was casually browsing listings I can't afford (classic sunday activity) and ended up on some local market blog by larry mastropieri. Nothing groundbreaking but he had a blurb about a 418-unit tower getting approved in riviera beach after some fbi subpoena drama with the city. a whole fbi thing and the zoning still passed 3-2. crazy

But the thing that actually stuck with me was a piece about condo boards silently killing deals. not saying no outright, just dragging document requests until the buyer gives up. And suddenly a bunch of "too good to be true" listings Ive been side-eyeing make a lot more sense

florida real estate is just a different animal man. You're not just buying a unit, you're buying into whatever personality disorder runs the HOA

i am an australian and i have been in love with italian food for years now. it started when i went on a trip to italy about ten years ago and had my first proper pasta and pizza there. since then i make italian meals at home a lot and always look for authentic places when i travel or eat out. the fresh ingredients, simple flavours and good wine just make me happy every time.

i tried attenzione food and wine recently and really enjoyed the menu and the atmosphere. it felt like a proper italian experience with nice wine options.

what are your favourite italian restaurants in your area that feel authentic? any dishes you always go back for or tips for making good italian food at home? i am always looking for new places and recipes to try.

I had zero intention of getting into this sport. A friend dragged me out to the local course on a whim a few months back, handed me a beat up starter putter, and honestly I was just expecting to walk around a park for an hour. By hole 9 I was already thinking about what discs to buy. By the end of the week I had ordered a starter set and watched probably six hours of form tips on YouTube.

What gets me is how deep the rabbit hole goes. I thought it was going to be a casual weekend thing, but now I am tracking my rounds, thinking about hyzer angles while I am at work, and seriously considering driving 45 minutes to play a course I heard has some really technical wooded holes.

I feel like this is pretty common based on how passionate everyone here seems, but I am curious what actually got you hooked. Was it a specific moment, a first ace, finding a tight wooded course, or just the people you play with? And if anyone has advice for someone still in that early obsessive phase about what actually matters to focus on first, I am all ears. Feel free to share your origin story too, I feel like this community has some good ones.

I'm a PhD student in a biomedical field and my advisor recently pushed back on a few of my literature review citations, saying I was leaning too heavily on review articles for background concepts rather than citing original research. I get the principle, but in practice I find it genuinely murky where the line is.

For something foundational that has been replicated hundreds of times and isn't the central argument of my thesis, it feels redundant to track down a 1992 paper just to cite it for one sentence of context. Reviews seem more useful to a reader in those cases. But I also don't want to develop bad habits early in my career.

I'm curious how people across different fields and career stages actually think about this in practice. Are there general norms that differ by discipline? Does it depend on whether the concept is central to your argument or just background scaffolding? Does journal prestige or audience change the expectation?

I'm based in the US at an R1 institution if that matters. I'd love to hear from people who have been on thesis committees or reviewed manuscripts about what actually raises red flags versus what is considered acceptable shorthand.

So I have been going back and forth for months trying to plan my first cruise and honestly I feel more confused now than when I started. Every time I think I have narrowed it down I fall down another rabbit hole comparing cruise lines, ship sizes, itineraries, cabin types and the list goes on.

I originally wanted to do something Caribbean since it seemed like the classic starting point but then I started reading about Alaska and now I am second guessing everything. I also keep seeing people talk about how much the experience differs between a massive newer ship versus a smaller older one and I genuinely have no idea which way to go. A few things about me that might help narrow it down. I am in my early 30s, traveling solo, not a huge party person but I do like good food and interesting ports where I can actually explore. Budget is moderate, not looking to go ultra luxury but willing to pay more if it genuinely makes a difference.

For those who remember their first cruise, what do you wish someone had told you before booking? And honestly was there a specific line or itinerary that just clicked for you right away? Would love some real opinions rather than the generic stuff I keep finding on travel blogs.

I've been practicing for about three years, and for most of that time I was pretty obsessed with getting into the final expression of poses. I wanted the full splits, the deep backbend, the arm balance. I kept wondering why I was plateauing and occasionally tweaking things.

A few months ago my teacher basically told me to stop rushing through transitions and just... feel what was happening between poses. Not just chaturanga to updog, but every single movement in between. The shift from warrior one to warrior two, the way the hips reorganize coming out of a lunge, all of it.

Honestly it changed everything. My stability improved, my body awareness went up noticeably, and some of those peak poses I'd been chasing started to feel more accessible because I was actually building the strength and control the transitions require rather than just flopping into shapes.

I feel a bit silly that it took me this long to realize the transitions were the actual practice, not just the commute between poses.

Curious if others have had a similar shift. Was there a specific transition that cracked it open for you, or was it more of a general mindset change? Would love to hear what worked for people.

i’m looking for a baby blanket to buy and want something really soft that feels gentle on sensitive skin. i’d like it to be machine washable, a good size for a crib or stroller, and have a simple but pretty design without too many loose ends or details that could come apart.

i found some nice options on a local site and their baby blankets look well made with soft yarn and clean stitching. has anyone bought from them before or have other recommendations for similar handmade blankets that hold up well after washing? what features do you usually look for when picking one out for a baby?

4 years self-managing. Phoenix. 6 units, 3 properties.

maintenance i can handle. late rent, whatever, i have a system. what actually drives me insane is just. reaching people. texts ignored, calls go straight to voicemail, emails read 3 days later if i'm lucky.

guy in a landlord group i'm in brought up ringless voicemail for stuff like rent reminders. never heard of it before. looked it up, apparently you just drop a voicemail directly without the phone ever ringing. few people mentioned Drop Cowboy, someone else said they use Slybroadcast. no idea which is better but the concept alone sounds like it would save me like 2 hours a month minimum.

anyone actually doing this for tenant comms or is it more of a sales/real estate investor thing?

I've been thinking a lot about publish or perish culture and wanted to get some honest perspectives from people actually working in the field. The pressure to maintain steady publication output seems to be intensifying across disciplines, and I'm curious how experienced researchers navigate this in practice.

A few specific things I'm wondering about. Do you find yourself prioritizing quantity over quality at certain career stages, say early on when building your CV versus later when you're more established? How do you decide when a piece of work is genuinely ready to submit versus when you're just feeling external pressure to get something out? And has the culture around this shifted noticeably over the past decade in your field?

I'm also curious whether this looks meaningfully different across disciplines. My impression is that STEM fields tend to favor shorter papers published more frequently while humanities scholars often produce longer, slower work, but I don't know how that affects the daytoday pressure people actually feel.

I'm asking as someone trying to understand what a realistic longterm academic career looks like before committing further down that path. Honest reflections from people at different career stages, postdoc through full professor, would be really appreciated

This has been stuck in my head ever since I handed in my notice last week. For three years, everything was genuinely fine, good reviews, solid feedback, no drama. Then a new manager came in, and the vibe shifted completely overnight.

Suddenly I was getting left off meeting invites, micromanaged on tiny stuff that never mattered before, and given deadlines that made no sense. Every time I asked for clarity, I got corporate nothing-speak like "take more ownership" or "be more strategic".

Never got written up. Never had a formal warning. It all felt carefully designed to stay under HR's radar while making me miserable enough to walk.

So I did. Resigned last week. Landed on myfeet pretty fast, fired off applications, and already accepted a way better offer.

But here's the thing that's eating at me: was this a calculated push? Or did I just fail to figure out how to work with a difficult boss? The new offer proves my skills are fine, but I can't shake the doubt.

Anyone else been through something like this?

I was in a similar spot in my mid-20s. Everyone else seemed to have a plan, and I was sitting in a decent job wondering why I didn't care about it. The thing that helped me most was paying attention to what I naturally kept coming back to. Not what I thought I should enjoy, but what I'd end up doing when nobody was asking me to. Sometimes I'd start reading about a topic or working on a side project and suddenly realize I'd lost half an evening. Another thing was talking to people about what they actually do all day. Not their job title, but what their last week looked like. A lot of careers sound interesting until you hear what the day to day work really is.

I also stopped looking for the right career. Every time I treated it like one huge decision, I got stuck. Things got easier when I started treating it like a series of experiments. Try something, learn from it, adjust, repeat.

Honestly, the interests you listed don't sound too vague to me. It sounds more like you need more exposure to different kinds of work. At some point you stop learning by thinking and start learning by trying things.

Hey everyone, I’m heading to Iceland in a few months and just booked my first glacier caving tour in Vatnajökull through Guide to Iceland. I’ve never done anything like this before so I’m equal parts excited and a little nervous.

The tour I picked is the one that takes you inside the ice caves with a small group and a guide. I’ve heard the blue ice and the whole experience is unreal, especially with the way the light hits inside. Since it’s my first time, I wanted to ask those of you who’ve done it:

What should I actually wear/bring for the cave part? (layers, boots, etc.)

Was the tour physically harder than expected or pretty chill?

Any little things you wish you knew beforehand?

Super pumped to finally do this but I don’t want to show up unprepared. Any advice is appreciated! Thanks yall.

I've been trying to get more comfortable in the kitchen over the past few months, and the biggest thing I've noticed is how much easier everything gets once you pick up a few foundational skills. Not recipes, just skills. Things like how to properly hold a knife, how to tell when oil is hot enough, or how to season food as you go instead of only at the end.

A lot of beginner cooking resources jump straight into recipes without slowing down to explain the why behind certain techniques. And when something goes wrong, you have no idea how to fix it because nobody walked you through the basics first.

For me personally, learning how to control heat on the stovetop was a total game changer. I used to burn everything or undercook things because I just left the burner on high and hoped for the best.

I'd love to hear from others here, whether you're a complete beginner or someone who has been cooking for a while. What is one skill or concept that made a noticeable difference once you finally learned it? Maybe your answer will help someone else who is just starting out and feeling a little lost.

I've spent more than a decade in marketing and I'm decent at it. The pay is good, which matters with a family and mortgage. But lately I'm realizing I never really chose this path. It just happened. Now every recruiter offers me the same type of role, and I feel like my professional identity is locked in. Has anyone here actually broken out of a well-paying but unfulfilling career in their late 30s without taking a massive pay cut or starting from the bottom? How did you manage the risk when you can't afford to gamble?

this is gonna sound crazy but i been watching patterns for a few months now. you know when you see a post that gets thousands of upvotes in like an hour, but the comments are all kinda samey? like different usernames but the writing style is identical

i first noticed it in politics subs but now its everywhere. perfect grammar, no typos, never any emotional outbursts. just clean little paragraphs that all follow the same rhythm. real people dont write like that. we get sloppy when were tired or annoyed

and the thing is, the more i look for it the more i see it. accounts that post 24/7 with no breaks. replies that come within seconds no matter what time of day. its almost like theres a shift change happening and the night crew talks different than the day crew

i stumbled on some kind of human verification thing. not saying its the answer but it made me realize the problem is big enough that people are actually trying to solve it

maybe im just paranoid. or maybe we're already past the point where most online conversations are just bots talking to bots and the real humans left years ago

I'm 36 and I think my best career years are behind me. Not in a depressed way, more like a math equation. I jumped from 45k to 85k to 110k to 130k between ages 25 and 32. Every move felt like progress. Now Ive been stuck around the same level for four years and every job I look at is either a lateral move with the same pay or a slight increase with way more stress and travel. I don't want to sound ungrateful. 130k is good money. But I also remember how good it felt to see that number climb every year or two, and now it just isnt moving the same way. My friends in tech and sales are still seeing those jumps. Meanwhile Im applying to roles that feel like more of the same. Is this just what happens when you settle into a certain tier? Or am I being impatient and the next big jump comes later in your 40s when you hit director or VP? Part of me wonders if I should pivot into something else just to get that momentum back. The other part thinks Im chasing a feeling that was never gonna last forever. Curious if other people hit this wall and what you did about it.

I spent most of my 20s chasing promotions, certifications, side projects, networking events, all of it. I was constantly thinking about the next step and honestly tied a lot of my self-worth to career progress. Over the last couple years, things finally clicked. I’m making enough to pay bills comfortably, save money, travel occasionally, and not stress every time an unexpected expense shows up.

The weird part is now I feel way less ambitious than I used to. I still do my job well, but I don’t feel that same drive to climb higher anymore. My manager keeps talking to me about leadership tracks and bigger responsibilities, and instead of feeling excited, my first thought is usually about the extra stress and longer hours.

Part of me wonders if I’m becoming complacent or wasting potential. Another part of me thinks maybe I just spent so long in survival mode that stability changed what I value. Most career advice seems built around constantly leveling up, and I feel oddly disconnected from that mindset lately.

Has anyone else gone through this? Did your ambition come back later, or did your priorities just permanently shift once work stopped feeling like a financial emergency?

I'm a pretty new cook and I keep running into the same frustrating thing. I heat up my stainless steel pan on medium heat, add a little oil, and within a minute the oil starts smoking. Not like a little wisp, actual visible smoke. I haven't even put the chicken or vegetables in yet. Then when I do add food, it sticks badly and the smoke gets worse.
I've watched videos where people heat the pan, add oil, and then cook without any drama. What am I doing wrong? Am I using the wrong oil? I usually grab olive oil because that's what I have. Should I be using something else like avocado or vegetable oil instead? Or is my pan just getting too hot? I don't have an infrared thermometer so I'm just guessing at temperatures.
Also, is smoking oil dangerous? Like am I breathing in bad stuff? My kitchen gets hazy and I worry I'm messing up my nonstick pans too with high heat. Would love a simple explanation of what's happening and how to fix it without buying a bunch of new equipment. Thanks.

I am 5 foot 3 and have been riding a lowered Ninja 400 for two years. I can flat foot it with boots on and I feel pretty confident. But I really want to move up to something like a Tenere 700 or an Africa Twin. The problem is even with lowering links and a shaved seat I am still on my tiptoes on one side. I have watched all the videos about sliding off the seat and putting one foot down at stops. I practice the technique in parking lots. But every time I come to a real stop on a slight hill or uneven pavement I panic and feel like I am going to drop the bike. I know short people ride big adventure bikes all over the world. There is a famous video of a tiny woman riding a fully loaded GS through sand. But I cannot figure out how they build that confidence.

Is it just practice and accepting that you will drop the bike sometimes?
Or are there specific drills or habits that make the one foot down technique feel second nature?

Also curious if crash bars and engine guards change your mental approach or if you just ride differently. Would love to hear from other shorter riders who made the jump to a tall bike without losing their minds or their ankles.

I have had my Peak Pro with the 3DXL chamber for about two months now, using it daily. Lately I notice the vapor production is way lower even on the same temp settings (490-510F). I deep clean everything every week with 99% iso, soak the chamber, clean the glass, the works. The chamber looks fine no visible cracks or chazzing. Atomizer connection is clean too. Firmware is up to date. I tried resetting the device and even did a factory reset. Still getting weak hits.

Has anyone else experienced this drop off after a couple months?
Is the chamber just wearing out already? I know these are consumables but two months feels short for the price.
Could it be the heating plate inside degrading slowly? Or maybe the firmware is misreading temps?

I am debating whether to buy a new 3DXL or try the regular 3D chamber again. Would love to hear if others fixed this without buying a new chamber right away.