u/logicitea

Things feel really off for me for the last few days but when I usually feel like this, I feel dread and sadness like a cloud over me and nothing will go right.. but this time I’m feeling off but hopeful and excited for the future. My dreams have been crazy since the beginning of the month, I’ve been feeling really depersonalised and off but not in the usual scary way. I’m feeling hopeful even though everything small is going wrong..? For example, I’m doing my usual routine making breakfast, my cast iron is sticking when it’s always been non stick, my eggs are bland, my soup I made was ruined by the blender breaking… I don’t understand what’s going wrong. Also time feels really odd, I go to a book club every month, this month we had to move dates so we had a week less time to read the book, I’ve finished it already within like 2 days and I don’t know where the time came from..?! I don’t usually post on Reddit about anything like this and googled what’s the best thread for this type of post, and this is what was recommended. Anyone else experiencing something similar?

My younger brother is 18 and autistic. He has care and support needs and still relies quite a lot on family for day-to-day support and decision making.

For over a year, he’s been talking online to someone who is older than him and lives in another country. They have never met in person.

He’s now booked a flight to go and stay with this person for 3 months. He’ll be travelling internationally on his own and then travelling onwards to a smaller town to stay at this person’s home.

We’re worried because there have been a few inconsistencies. The person’s age has changed from what we were originally told, and my brother originally said this person was paying for the trip but he later paid for it himself.

We have been given a name, phone number and address, but we have no way of independently verifying any of it.

I even offered to travel with him to make sure everything was okay and he initially agreed, but then said I wouldn’t be able to meet this person, their family, or see the home he’d be staying in.

I’m trying really hard not to be controlling because he’s 18 and legally an adult, and I know online friendships and relationships can be genuine. But at the same time, every instinct I have is telling me this isn’t safe and that he’s vulnerable to being manipulated or exploited.

Am I overreacting, or would other people be seriously concerned too? If this was your family member, what would you do?

I have 2 flat options when I move for uni in September. I have been and walked around both areas. I find the Primrose Hill area much better but the flat is worse, lovely street but really stingy flat at the end that is very dated and would need a lot of work, which I wouldn’t be up for doing as I am only planning to be there 4 years whilst I do my degree, and I will be renting so can’t do any major works anyway. The flat is a basement property and smaller too but has a small garden area.

Pimlico flat is so much nicer, larger and is 2nd floor so better light, it’s in a gated estate but the area doesn’t seem as lovely and less village feel, less green area etc.

Both are the same rent and same commute give or take 5m to my uni.

Really unsure what to do and would like some opinions from people who live in and around the areas. Do I go for the nicer flat in a worse area or a worse flat in a nicer area?!

I am starting UCL in September, after confirming my place last year and then having a gap year. I currently live in Essex and I don’t think it’s going to be viable to commute (1.5hr one way). I have found a flat in Pimlico, near Vauxhall bridge road.. I was wondering if any students (or anyone on here tbh) live in the area, what’s the commute like, how does it feel coming home late, how is the area at night etc.. I will be a single female living alone.
Thank you!

Summer is coming up and I wear a lot of dresses, I’m sick of people asking me what my band is and why I have it. Will the data be accurate if I wear it on my leg just above my knee? I have the bicep strap so it fits. I’ve seen some posts about wearing it on your ankle but I don’t fancy looking like I’ve got an asbo.
I mainly use the device for sleep tracking and energy monitoring.

29F, UK, 178 cm, 84 kg.

Current medication: Noriday (progestogen-only pill).

I have a white/pale patch of skin on my perineum and a small skin tag/fold-like area that has become painful over the last few weeks. It hurts when I wipe, touch the area, sit, and sometimes when I wee, but it isn’t itchy. I’m not sure how long the white area has been present or whether it has changed over time.

Unfortunately, I haven’t been able to get a GP appointment yet because my local surgery is oversubscribed.

For those with experience of vulval/perineal skin conditions, do these symptoms sound like something that should be assessed by a dermatologist or gynaecologist rather than waiting for a routine GP appointment? If anyone has experienced something similar, I’d appreciate hearing about your experience.

I will provide photos in the comments.

My partner has watched this, he has a porn addiction and we were discussing things recently, the sopranos came up in the conversation where he admitted that when trying to stop watching porn for a while he did masturbate whilst watching the sopranos. I was just wondering how explicit the show is? I had it on my watch list but don’t know if I should watch it when the kids are in bed or if I can watch it during the day. I wasn’t planning on watching it on the main tv in the living room but do I have to be careful with young eyes loitering around?

I wanted to post this to see if anyone else has experienced something similar, or if anyone has any idea why this happens.
I’ve had severe mouth ulcers literally my entire life. The first record of them in my medical notes was when I was 2 years old. Over the years I’ve seen countless specialists, oral doctors, dentists, etc. and I always just got passed from one person to the next.
When I was younger, it got so bad that I was taken out of school because I would sometimes have 20+ ulcers in my mouth at once and could barely talk properly. I was bullied constantly because of it. Honestly, mouth ulcers have ruined a huge part of my life.
I’ve been prescribed so many medications over the years, including some medication apparently used for gangrene because one of its side effects was supposed to help mouth ulcers (it didn’t). I’ve also had endless oral steroids, tried lysine, supplements, changing toothpaste, diet changes, pretty much everything.
I noticed they got slightly worse around my period and slightly better when my ferritin levels were higher after iron infusions, but they never fully went away.
Recently, I finally saw an oral specialist who specifically deals with mouth ulcers. He diagnosed me with “subcutaneous recurring mouth ulcers” (first actual diagnosis I’ve ever had, and I’m now in my late 20s). He described my mouth as “a war zone with many scars.” But after all that, I basically got told there was nothing else they could do and that some people just get them. Possibly genetic, possibly not.
After that appointment I went down an internet rabbit hole and found people talking about coconut oil pulling. I honestly didn’t expect anything, but I started doing it every evening after brushing my teeth for around 10 to 20 minutes.
And somehow, it worked.
For the first time in my life, I basically stopped getting ulcers. I’ve gone almost a year without them. I could finally eat crisps, ketchup, citrus foods, etc. without agony. It genuinely changed my life.
But now I’ve recently started trying to exercise because I’m overweight and want to improve my health. I’ve already been eating healthier for a while, but I’ve just started going to the gym.
Whenever I do a workout, I seem to wake up with ulcers the next day, and weirdly the coconut oil pulling doesn’t stop these ones.
I don’t understand it because surely exercise should help my body, not trigger ulcers?
Has anyone else experienced ulcers being triggered by exercise or workouts? Could it be stress on the body, a vitamin deficiency, immune response, histamine, cortisol? I genuinely have no idea at this point.

Hi, I’m hoping someone can clarify something for me regarding the Transitional Protection element on Universal Credit.

I’m in England, disabled, receive PIP, and I migrated from ESA to Universal Credit in September 2025. I currently receive LCWRA and Transitional Protection as part of my UC award.

From everything I had previously read and understood, the Transitional Protection amount only reduces if there’s an increase to other elements of my Universal Credit (for example annual uprating, rent increases, or other changes to my award), or if there’s a significant change in circumstances or income. I understood it could also end completely in certain situations.

However, I dropped into the Jobcentre yesterday just to ask a question, and the member of staff I spoke to told me that Transitional Protection automatically decreases month by month after around 8–18 months, even if nothing changes in your circumstances or UC claim. She described it as a temporary amount designed to taper away over time regardless.

I’m feeling quite confused because I can’t find anything official online that says it reduces automatically without any changes to the claim or award. Everything I’ve read seems to suggest it only erodes when other parts of UC increase or circumstances change.

Could anyone explain which understanding is correct, or point me toward any official guidance? I’d really appreciate it because the conflicting information has left me quite anxious and unsure about what to expect financially moving forward.

Thank you.

Hoi allemaal! Mijn vorige post is verwijderd omdat het blijkbaar een beetje verdacht/scam-achtig overkwam, wat ik achteraf eigenlijk best begrijp 😭 Daarom wilde ik het even beter uitleggen.

Ik ben op zoek naar het boek “The Apple Pie Ice Cream Parlor” van Laurie Gilmore. Het boek werd afgelopen oktober alleen uitgebracht in Nederland en België voor English Book Day, waardoor het buiten deze landen ontzettend moeilijk te vinden is. Ik woon zelf in het VK en probeer dit boek al maanden te bemachtigen om mijn collectie compleet te maken én eindelijk te kunnen lezen.

Ik heb echt overal gezocht, eBay, Vinted, Facebookgroepen en zelfs meerdere eBay-biedingen verloren 😭 Ik heb zelfs geprobeerd een Nederlands Vinted-account aan te maken, maar dat werd geblokkeerd omdat ik uit het VK kom.

In mijn vorige post vroeg ik specifiek of meiden mij wilden DM’en, puur omdat ik dacht dat deze boekenserie populairder is onder vrouwen. Dat was absoluut niet bedoeld om iemand buiten te sluiten of vreemd over te komen, maar ik snap nu wel waarom sommige mensen het verdacht vonden 😅

Dus hierbij een nieuwe poging: als iemand in Nederland of België dit boek ergens ziet of misschien zou willen helpen met het doorsturen ervan naar het VK, zou ik echt enorm dankbaar zijn 🫶 Uiteraard betaal ik alle kosten voor het boek en de verzending.

Ik hoopte gewoon dat de kracht van Reddit misschien kon helpen waar mijn maandenlange zoektocht niet is gelukt

Are there any girls from the Netherlands who’d be kind enough to DM me? I’m looking for a book that I genuinely can’t find ANYWHERE 😭 I finally found it on Vinted NL, but I don’t live in the Netherlands.

I’d be so grateful if someone would be willing to help me out. 🫶

I am in the UK and I have been in supported accommodation (charity for young people who were estranged from their parents) when I was younger, I am now in my late 20s and have a housing association flat (been here 7 years) I have been to college and got my level 3 last year and been accepted into a university. I confirmed the place then took a gap year (ending this year to start education this October) I am autistic and a few other diagnosis and I receive LCWRA, the housing element covering all of my rent and high rate PIP (I have a mobility car that is deducted from the PIP) I would be staying in my current flat and commuting to the university.
Will I loose any money? I am so anxious about this as I have had many failed attempts at education (college level 3s) during my life as it gets very overwhelming. I really want to give it my all and try and get a degree but the worry of loosing the safety of this income if I can’t cope with uni life is very stressful for me as i know it’s gone wrong in the past and if I am then left with nothing or having to reapply I’m not sure what I would be able to cope with as I had previously had an Occupational Therapist to help me with my applications but as I’m stable and in a better place due to my security I am able to cope day to day on my own now and have been discharged from the service with a multi year waiting list to get help again.