u/m0nster_Kitty

I recently got a Leachie gecko who I’m absolutely in love with. Shes almost 9 months old and I got her two and half weeks ago. The issue is that she is not eating anything. I excepted this at first because I know it takes time for them to acclimate and adjust to a new environment and not eating for a little bit is normal.

But she hasn’t eaten anything since I got her. I think it’s been too long without food and I’m really worried. I have no idea what to do! I redo the food every night, I make sure the heat and humidity are comfortable, I make sure she’s on a fairly consistent schedule with lights turning off for night time.

I’m messaging the breeder right now and seeing if I should take her to the vet

I’m so attached to her, any advice helps ❤️‍🩹

So I cut this friend off about 6 months ago. I don’t know if I was too harsh or should have given a second chance but here’s what happened:

I went to a convention with this person (I’ll call them Niki) back at the very beginning of the year on new years. I had invited Niki earlier last year, I wanted to share the experience with someone who had never gone to a con before. I also went with my good friend who I’ll call Henry (19 M). I had already been to this specific con with him before but I thought it would be nice to have Niki join this time around.

Well the first night Niki plugged in a giant multi outlet extension cord in our hotel room. It ended up tripping the breaker and we had to call the hotel for help. Neither me or Henry were bothered by this because mistakes happen, it wasn’t a huge deal and was quickly fixed. For whatever reason, Niki did not take this whole thing very well. They were super moody and kept saying things like “maybe I should just leave” or “I should go before I ruin something again” and “I probably shouldn’t have come, I’m making everything worse”

We had been in the hotel for less than an hour at this point, so I was really confused on why Niki kept saying they ruined The Who trip. It also felt extremely guilt trippy, and me and Henry did our best to reassure them but it didn’t stop so we kind of gave up after a couple hours of trying to help Niki feel better. I totally understand severe rejection sensitivity since I have that too but this felt weird.

The next day we started going down to the convention (located in the same hotel) and went to panels and met people, just typical con stuff. I would wait for Niki as much as possible because they had an ankle that had recently been twisted and was still recovering. I tried to go slow and wait for them whenever I could, and when I couldn’t do that I would check in before going on ahead. I would ask if it was okay for me to go to something without them or if u could save a seat. Niki always said it was perfectly fine. I believed them.

Me and Henry had a lot of people coming up to take pictures with us because we were wearing fursuits and people enjoyed them and wanted pictures, pretty typical stuff. However at the end of the day when we were resting before the rave, Niki seemed really upset. We prodded a bit but didn’t get much other than Niki being vague and mopey.

Well they later said they didn’t like how we were getting so much attention while they got hardly any. They have a tail and paws but not a head they could wear. I explained that people are a bit biased and will only really get pictures with fursuiters. I offered one of my fursuits for Niki to wear if they wanted to but they declined.

The second day I Niki mostly stayed with their mom, I checked in via text multiple times throughout the day and made sure they were okay. I even missed some events I wanted to go to because they seemed so upset. I probably could have done better at including them but everything I tried they shut down.

Eventually i stopped trying as much because it genuinely seemed like they preferred staying in the room with their mom. They got upset with me that night because i didn’t stay with them in the room. I gently explained that I came to the con to do things and meet people I only knew online. That’s the point of going to this event in the first place, I want to do stuff.

Well they ended up moving out of our room the next day to stay in their mom’s room. This was after me and Henry said we wanted to go to the photo shoot booth. I asked Niki if they wanted to go but they said no because they did r have a fursuit. They sounded really defeated so I offered one of mine for them to borrow. Once again they said no.

So we went and took pictures before coming back up to the room and by then Niki and their mom were already packing stuff up and getting ready to leave. I was really confused and surprised by this and asked what was wrong or if there was anything I did that upset them. They were really passive aggressive about it and kept saying “it’s nothing” but in a really upset way. Even Niki’s mom urged them to talk about it with me and Henry but still they did not.

The final straw was when me, Henry and my dad were planning on going to a restaurant we’d all been looking forward to going to, including Niki. It was a conversation had in the group chat we had made to keep everyone in the loop. We planned to meet down in the lobby and Niki ended up texting that they couldn’t believe we were going to leave without them. I was confused because we were actually waiting for them in the lobby.

When Niki did come down I got excited because I thought we were finally going to have some nice time together at the restaurant. I walked up to them and started to ask if they were coming with. Niki interrupted me and snapped that they were sick of being left behind, that I was a bad friend and that they would be eating elsewhere.

I was kind of stunned this and didn’t know what to do so me, my dad, and Henry left for the restaurant. We had a great dinner but I got a really nasty text from Niki. I was really devastated by this because I thought I communicated really well with them. They said I was a terrible friend and I had no clue what to say. I apologized for not communicating as well as I probably could have.

They didn’t apologize for anything at all, not a single thing. At first I thought maybe it was because I was the only one in the wrong but the more I thought about it I realized a lot of different patterns that were unfair. For example it became the norm for me to drop everything and go to Niki to help with mental health struggles but whenever I needed help i didn’t get much of anything. I know not everyone can just stop what they’re doing and go to someone and that’s not what I expect, I just wanted a little more effort. There’s more stuff but this is already pretty long.

So fast forward to now, I went to a craft night hosted by my local library and Niki was there. This was after I explained my issues with our friendship and eventually blocked them after they did not respect my wishes to distance ourselves.

I’m almost positive Niki has no idea I blocked them. I’m so scared of more conflict and confusion but I really wanted to go to this event monthly. I’m not sure what to do or if I’m in the wrong, any input is appreciated <3

I’ve noticed a lot of therians are animals that the majority of media considers aesthetic or pretty. I’mI want to see more representation of people who have “less appealing” theriotypes. Obviously all beings are beautiful and prettiness is subjective. I’m not at all saying that certain theriotypes are ugly, I’m saying the opposite! I want more unusual critters to be seen and heard

For example, I’m a moose and therian. I rarely see other animals like that. I’ll see caribou and elk but I never see giraffes or donkeys.

I’ll see wolves and big cats but never bugs or reptiles.

So if there’s any unusual therians out there, please share your thoughts on this. I feel really alone as a moose and wish there was better representation in media for us less appealing animals

Looking for someone who would be open to making moose gear (mask, antlers, hooves, ears, anything like that) preferably realistic style stuff ^^

I have no idea where to look for open commissions so I’m trying here

I’ve owned many pets, from donkeys to guinea pigs to geckos to cats and dogs, but I’ve never had a hedgehog. I want to make sure I’m doing things right so I’m coming on here to see what people have to say.

Things I’d like to know:

1: the closest breeders are in the neighboring state, about 6 hours away from where I live. If I’m transporting a hedgehog on the way back how should I go about it?

2: hedgehog set up, cage size, enrichment, heating, etc.

3: How to bond and socialize with a hedgie

4: diet and where to get the best food for them

5: anything else I should know?

Firstly, if I don’t know something please be kind, I’m here to learn from all of you.

Okay so I own a gargoyle gecko and an elderly leopard gecko. I’m wanting to add chameleon geckos to the family and have a few questions.

1: My house is very dry, I live in a dry climate so humidity can be a challenge. Any tips of hiking moisture would be greatly appreciated.

2: can this species be housed with another? Specifically two or three females? I’m happy with keeping one if this is not ideal of course.

3: tank size?? I have an 18x18x24 tank, is this okay?

4: I want to make this enclosure bio active. This would be my first bio active tank so I’m trying to get as much advice as I can. What plants do you recommend? What kind of drainage layer is best? How do you manage a bio active enclosure?

5: health concerns to look out for?