u/mahoganyblueberry

I’ve been seeing a guy and I’ve been very nervous/ shy around him. He’s the first guy I’ve gone out with this many times, and we’ve been seeing each other maybe 1 time per week for a bit longer than a month. I have to handle some family things and I am going to leave the area for a bit. So I wanted to ask where his head is at so I just don’t assume. I’m in my late 20s and I didn’t date before this basically ever.

noticed he’s initiated kissing me, holding hands, or holding me and hugging me or intensifying the amount of kissing. I haven’t initiated any of that. Each time we see each other we take a bit to actually get to holding one another’s hands or getting into kissing.

And I reply to him, we both plan seeing one another, but the most recent time I felt he wasn’t asking me to do anything, so I asked.

I noticed he was still replying but I couldn’t tell if he wanted to meet up, and when I saw him in person he asked me (about my lack of replies) but in a way I replied less because he did. So I did say I wasn’t sure if he was going to want to meet me as silly as it may sound.

I asked how he feels about things and where we are at. The conversation came back to me asking if he’s still wanting to explore other options.

He said he’s only been going out with me. I told him same. We never had this kind of conversation before either. I haven’t been very open with my feelings. I guess I’m scared to show too much. And long story short but he offered to delete the dating apps. So I said if he’s ready I am and we just did it. But I didn’t ask if we are exclusive. Do I reopen that conversation or just let things keep going as they are?

After this time he has asked me to meet up again and he followed up about which day he’s free. So I’m unsure if I should be adding more communication. I wish I stayed on the topic a bit more, I sort of moved on to make sure I asked everything but I might’ve glossed over things.

I’ve been seeing a guy and I’ve been very nervous/ shy around him. He’s the first guy I’ve gone out with this many times, and we’ve been seeing each other maybe 1 time per week for a bit longer than a month. I have to handle some family things and I am going to leave the area for a bit. So I wanted to ask where his head is at so I just don’t assume.

noticed he’s initiated kissing me, holding hands, or holding me and hugging me or intensifying the amount of kissing. I haven’t initiated any of that. Each time we see each other we take a bit to actually get to holding one another’s hands or getting into kissing.

And I reply to him, we both plan seeing one another, but recently I felt he wasn’t asking me to do anything. I was suggesting but I couldn’t tell if he wanted to. When I saw him in person I asked how he feels about things and where we are at. The conversation came back to me asking if he’s still wanting to explore other options. After that time and expressing how I didn’t know if he still wanted to do anything he said he did but said why he was not initiating, and then asked me this time if I am free again.

He said he’s only been going out with me. I told him same. We never had this kind of conversation before either. I haven’t been very open with my feelings. I guess I’m scared to show too much. And long story short but he offered to delete the dating apps. So I said if he’s ready I am and we just did it. But I didn’t ask if we are exclusive. Do I reopen that conversation or just let things keep going as they are?

I’ve been seeing a guy and I’ve been very nervous/ shy around him. He’s the first guy I’ve gone out with this many times, and we’ve been seeing each other maybe 1 time per week for a bit longer than a month. I have to handle some family things and I am going to leave the area for a bit. So I wanted to ask where his head is at so I just don’t assume.

noticed he’s initiated kissing me, holding hands, or holding me and hugging me or intensifying the amount of kissing. I haven’t initiated any of that. Each time we see each other we take a bit to actually get to holding one another’s hands or getting into kissing.

And I reply to him, we both plan seeing one another, but recently I felt he wasn’t asking me to do anything. I was suggesting but I couldn’t tell if he wanted to. When I saw him in person I asked how he feels about things and where we are at. The conversation came back to me asking if he’s still wanting to explore other options.

He said he’s only been going out with me. I told him same. We never had this kind of conversation before either. I haven’t been very open with my feelings. I guess I’m scared to show too much. And long story short but he offered to delete the dating apps. So I said if he’s ready I am and we just did it. But I didn’t ask if we are exclusive. Do I reopen that conversation or just let things keep going as they are?

I’ve been seeing a guy from bumble and we went on 7 dates. I was confused about our direction. He said he was looking for something like long term and for commitment. I guess we never talked dating goals. And we just had conversation. We had our first kiss on date maybe 3? And it wasn’t very smooth like I moved away by accident because I didn’t realize he was going for that. And I sneezed.

We then kissed the next time and it went better, other time we just kissed a lot. I got very confused after because he didn’t seem to wanna make plans. So I just asked. I also brought up my dating goal stuff. And I said I’ve been confused.

He got a bit quiet. so I went quiet I thought he was going to ghost me. But I brought up meeting up. He said he got sick and he wasnt planning things well. Apparently work trip coming up. Anyway I was really confused and upset this whole week about not knowing with him.

We talk, and I told him a bit of this stuff when I saw him. So he told me he likes me, and I said I like him.

And then I said ok before we continue with the kissing are you seeing other women. And he said he isn’t and he can delete the apps. And then we just continued I guess and later I told him I could delete my app too. And we did it there. So i am not sure.

Then I didn’t hear from him after. But he said he wanted to make plans again. Which we didn’t sort yet. Had I not asked about the dating apps idk! But I also didn’t communicate with him. I think we both did not. Yet I did think his silence was odd.

So my question now is, do I just let things unfold? Ask more? About I guess exclusivity or idk anything like that? I wonder if I didn’t broach any of this what would’ve happened. I still don’t know how I feel.

We are both late 20s. Coming here for help

wanted to know if a guy im seeing from bumble is on the same page as me. I asked him via text what he’s looking for between us. I’m 24 and he’s 29 to add context. We’ve known each other since around late March.

My brother is going through a divorce and I’m going to him for a bit to help with stuff and my family has had other things come up too. So I guess I texted this guy because I wanna know before I go.

When I last met up with this guy things seemed fine, we spent like 2 hours talking and the rest of the time we were kissing. So I realized when I got back home that we didn’t have another plan set. I feel like we just started kissing more and we don’t act like people dating. There is a lack of transparency between us. We never once talked intention, never compliment each other or even much in that direction.

He has some stuff planned coming up and seems really busy.

I text him asking what he sees between us because I feel we’re just getting closer to being intimate but I feel a gap in communication. I told him I can’t tell if he only views me as someone he wants to just hook up with.

(I don’t want to force him to be exclusive but I do want to know where things are)

He replied to me saying he’s looking to find someone to be in a partnership with and his goal isn’t a hook up. He said If I feel that way he gets if I don’t want to talk anymore. But he also said he’s open to hear me out if I want to.

I told him it’s a conversation I’d like to have. I prefer not to via phone. So I asked if he’d be open to discuss it. He said— sure tell me the plan. And then continues with small talk about what’s going on for him. I feel like my text asking what is this was silly. He didn’t really answer me, about what he sees with me exactly.

And I’m not sure how to plan this. He hasn’t replied to me and I feel either I’m too anxious or he isn’t serious about me, but his intent can be serious with others. How can I ask if I see him? Is it too early to ask him if he’s still seeing other women?

I wanted to know if a guy im seeing from bumble is on the same page as me. I asked him via text what he’s looking for between us. I’m 24 and he’s 29 to add context. We’ve known each other since around late March.

My brother is going through a divorce and I’m going to him for a bit to help with stuff and my family has had other things come up too. So I guess I texted this guy because I wanna know before I go.

When I last met up with this guy things seemed fine, we spent like 2 hours talking and the rest of the time we were kissing. So I realized when I got back home that we didn’t have another plan set. I feel like we just started kissing more and we don’t act like people dating. There is a lack of transparency between us. We never once talked intention, never compliment each other or even much in that direction.

He has some stuff planned coming up and seems really busy.

I text him asking what he sees between us because I feel we’re just getting closer to being intimate but I feel a gap in communication. I told him I can’t tell if he only views me as someone he wants to just hook up with.

(I don’t want to force him to be exclusive but I do want to know where things are)

He replied to me saying he’s looking to find someone to be in a partnership with and his goal isn’t a hook up. He said If I feel that way he gets if I don’t want to talk anymore. But he also said he’s open to hear me out if I want to.

I told him it’s a conversation I’d like to have. I prefer not to via phone. So I asked if he’d be open to discuss it. He said— sure tell me the plan. And then continues with small talk about what’s going on for him. I feel like my text asking what is this was silly. He didn’t really answer me, about what he sees with me exactly.

And I’m not sure how to plan this. He hasn’t replied to me and I feel either I’m too anxious or he isn’t serious about me, but his intent can be serious with others. How can I ask if I see him? Is it too early to ask him if he’s still seeing other women?

I wanted to know if a guy im seeing from bumble is on the same page as me. I asked him via text what he’s looking for between us. I’m 24 and he’s 29 to add context. We’ve known each other since around late March.

My brother is going through a divorce and I’m going to him for a bit to help with stuff and my family has had other things come up too. So I guess I texted this guy because I wanna know before I go.

When I last met up with this guy things seemed fine, we spent like 2 hours talking and the rest of the time we were kissing. So I realized when I got back home that we didn’t have another plan set. I feel like we just started kissing more and we don’t act like people dating. There is a lack of transparency between us. We never once talked intention, never compliment each other or even much in that direction.

He has some stuff planned coming up and seems really busy.

I text him asking what he sees between us because I feel we’re just getting closer to being intimate but I feel a gap in communication. I told him I can’t tell if he only views me as someone he wants to just hook up with.

(I don’t want to force him to be exclusive but I do want to know where things are)

He replied to me saying he’s looking to find someone to be in a partnership with and his goal isn’t a hook up. He said If I feel that way he gets if I don’t want to talk anymore. But he also said he’s open to hear me out if I want to.

I told him it’s a conversation I’d like to have. I prefer not to via phone. So I asked if he’d be open to discuss it. He said— sure tell me the plan. And then continues with small talk about what’s going on for him. I feel like my text asking what is this was silly. He didn’t really answer me, about what he sees with me exactly.

And I’m not sure how to plan this. He hasn’t replied to me and I feel either I’m too anxious or he isn’t serious about me, but his intent can be serious with others. How can I ask if I see him? Is it too early to ask him if he’s still seeing other women?

have seen a guy from bumble for several dates over the course of over a month, once a week. Ages: 26F, 29M. We didn’t talk about anything related to dating. But we’re still on the app.

We would usually make our next plans right on the spot and both say which days we’re free. The last time he saw me we didn’t. It was a change from his behavior. So I asked. And his reply was very ok yea, you know which work shifts I have (which I don’t fully know because it changes for him)

I’m leaving the state for a friends birthday, then to visit my parents. He’s going for a work trip so we won’t see each other a good part of June. We didn’t discuss any sort of goals or any emotional topics ever. (The reason I texted him this next part is because this feels very nonchalant to me and I’m looking for a bf)

What I decide to text him: ask him what his dating goals are with me. And he said— he’s looking for something very serious and wants to find a partner. (He didn’t say he wants serious with me, just generally his goal in dating) I think on bumble he wrote he’s looking for a commitment/ life partner or something. So he said he’s open to what I have to say. And I told him it would be great to make plans to discuss face to face.

He replies—for sure! I’m at the gym and tired!

I feel so confused and just idk what to do. When he kissed me the first it took me aback so much. He acts like my friend then suddenly tries to kiss or escalate to where I can’t even tell he wants to. Like any sort of emotional connection is just not fully there. It feels friendly then suddenly physical. He kissed me once and he just walked off, I had to grab his arm and ask him what happened. He didn’t really say much. Even this reply^ feels very bleh?

have seen a guy from bumble for several dates over the course of over a month. Ages: 26F, 29M. We didn’t talk about exclusivity and I’m not sure if people do. But we’re still on the app. And we’d usually make our next plans right on the spot and both say which days we’re free. The last time he saw me we didn’t. So I asked. And his reply was very ok yea, you know which work shifts I have (which I don’t fully know because it changes for him)

I’m leaving for a friends birthday then to visit my parents and he’s going for a work trip so we won’t see each other a good part of June. We didn’t discuss any sort of dating goals or any emotional topics ever. The reason I texted him this next part is because this feels very nonchalant to me and I’m looking for a bf

So I decide to text him and ask him what his dating goals are with me. And he said— he’s looking for something very serious and wants to find a partner. He didn’t say he wants serious with me, just generally his goal. I think on bumble he wrote he’s looking for a commitment/ life partner or something. So he said he’s open to what I have to say. And I told him it would be great to make plans to discuss face to face. He replies—for sure! I’m at the gym now.

I feel so confused and just idk what to do. When he kissed me first it took me aback so much. He acts like my friend then suddenly tries to kiss or escalate to where I can’t even tell he wants to. Like any sort of emotional connection is just not fully there. It feels friendly then suddenly physical. He kissed me once and he just walked off, I had to grab his arm and ask him what happened. He didn’t really say much . I don’t know what to say to him at this point.

have seen a guy from bumble for several dates over the course of over a month. Ages: 26F, 29M. We didn’t talk about exclusivity and I’m not sure if people do. But we’re still on the app. And we’d usually make our next plans right on the spot and both say which days we’re free. The last time he saw me we didn’t. So I asked. And his reply was very ok yea, you know which work shifts I have (which I don’t fully know because it changes for him)

I’m leaving the state for a friends birthday, then to visit my parents. He’s going for a work trip so we won’t see each other a good part of June. We didn’t discuss any sort of dating goals or any emotional topics ever. (The reason I texted him this next part is because this feels very nonchalant to me and I’m looking for a bf)

What I decide to text him: ask him what his dating goals are with me. And he said— he’s looking for something very serious and wants to find a partner. (He didn’t say he wants serious with me, just generally his goal in dating) I think on bumble he wrote he’s looking for a commitment/ life partner or something. So he said he’s open to what I have to say. And I told him it would be great to make plans to discuss face to face.

He replies—for sure! I’m at the gym and tired!

I feel so confused and just idk what to do. When he kissed me first it took me aback so much. He acts like my friend then suddenly tries to kiss or escalate to where I can’t even tell he wants to. Like any sort of emotional connection is just not fully there. It feels friendly then suddenly physical. He kissed me once and he just walked off, I had to grab his arm and ask him what happened. He didn’t really say much . I don’t know what to say to him at this point.

I have seen a guy from bumble for several dates over the course of over a month. Ages: 26F, 29M. We didn’t talk about exclusivity and I’m not sure if people do. But we’re still on the app. And we’d usually make our next plans right on the spot and both say which days we’re free. The last time he saw me we didn’t. So I asked. And his reply was very ok yea, you know which work shifts I have (which I don’t fully know because it changes for him)

I’m leaving for a friends birthday then to visit my parents and he’s going for a work trip so we won’t see each other a good part of June. We didn’t discuss any sort of dating goals or any emotional topics ever.

So I decide to text him and ask him what his dating goals are with me. And he said— he’s looking for something very serious and wants to find a partner. He didn’t say he wants serious with me, just generally his goal. I think on bumble he wrote he’s looking for a commitment/ life partner or something. So he said he’s open to what I have to say. And I told him it would be great to make plans to discuss face to face. He replies—for sure! I’m at the gym now.

I feel so confused and just idk what to do. When he kissed me first it took me aback so much. He acts like my friend then suddenly tries to kiss or escalate to where I can’t even tell he wants to. Like any sort of emotional connection is just not fully there. It feels friendly then suddenly physical. He kissed me once and he just walked off, I had to grab his arm and ask him what happened. He didn’t really say much . I don’t know what to say to him at this point.

We met from Facebook dating, we both want a serious thing. And I got into a routine with this man, we meet 1x a week. Plus we just plan out our next date during our goodbyes. We didn’t do that at the start of this dating-journey.

For example: last time he taught me to shoot pool and he told me we should go to an aquarium next time. Since we talked about sharks. So when we said bye he said ok Saturday for the aquarium? Then we kissed and left. I didn’t confirm so I was going to text. But he texted me first.

Well this last time we met up, things seemed to go fine but I did feel a bit weird about one thing that happened and I got quiet during our date. We went to a movie and he put he hand on my thigh, i don’t wanna get too graphic. Nothing happened but we were surrounded by people and I felt like this was different.

When we go to say bye, we walk out and he just said "alright good night” and kissed me. I asked him if he wants to go out again. And he said sure you can gauge my schedule by now.

And I didn’t ask him anything after. What is going on? He planned every other date so am I not doing enough? Did I mess up at the movie theater?

We met from Facebook dating, we both want a serious thing. And I got into a routine with this man, we meet 1x a week. Plus we just plan out our next date during our goodbyes. We didn’t do that at the start of this dating-journey.

For example: last time he taught me to shoot pool and he told me we should go to an aquarium next time. Since we talked about sharks. So when we said bye he said ok Saturday for the aquarium? Then we kissed and left. I didn’t confirm so I was going to text. But he texted me first.

Well this last time we met up, things seemed to go fine but I did feel a bit weird about one thing that happened and I got quiet during our date. We went to a movie and he put he hand on my thigh, i don’t wanna get too graphic. Nothing happened but we were surrounded by people and I felt like this was different.

When we go to say bye, we walk out and he just said "alright good night” and kissed me. I asked him if he wants to go out again. And he said sure you can gauge my schedule by now.

And I didn’t ask him anything after. What is going on? He planned every other date so am I not doing enough? Did I mess up at the movie theater?

He’s been wanting to do less talking lately more touching and more kissing, a lot. And it doesn’t feel emotional or romantic it feels sexual

We matched on bumble. And he seemed serious about a relationship. We had a few dates and it went well but we didn’t even do more than like hug each other. Between meeting up we’d have like 1-2 texting exchanges per day until this last week. We got faster with texting.

Then this week he’s texting me and said it would be great to see me on the weekend. I’m like ok perfect let’s do it. What do you wanna do? Then he stops replying. He had something happen at work, burned his arm. So he told me he went to the urgent care and then is just resting etc. Said if he feels better we can do the weekend. I wish him well, then the weekend comes. He got very quiet this week. Like there was a day I didn’t hear at all from him. Like barely replying but active online. Not really engaging as much as before in conversation.

Then today he said I can come to his place and we can watch this movie we were talking about and we could cook. I only met him 3 times by the way. If you don’t count the 4th time I randomly saw him with his friends while I was with my friends. Or we could go on a scenic walk.

Anyway he also said we could do something else but it feels super last minute. Every other time we had pre planned things. Is this common? We are both 20s. I replied back saying I don’t do hook ups if that’s what he meant but we could do the scenic walk. I didn’t hear back all day.

There’s a clear shift in communication especially the last 3 times we met we pre planned it all. I feel stupid

I’ve been seeing a guy from a dating app. And he seemed serious about a relationship. We had a few dates and it went well but we didn’t even do more than like hug each other. Then this week he’s texting me and said it would be great to see me on the weekend. I’m like ok perfect let’s do it. Then he stops replying. He had something happen at work, burned his arm. So he told me he went to the urgent care and then is just resting etc. Said if he feels better we can do the weekend. I wish him well, then the weekend comes. He got very quiet this week. Like barely replying but active online. Not really engaging as much as before in conversation.

Then today he said I can come to his place and we can watch this movie we were talking about and we could cook. I only met him 3 times by the way. If you don’t count the 4th time I randomly saw him with his friends while I was with my friends.

Anyway he also said we could do something else but it feels super last minute. Every other time we had pre planned things. Is this common? We are both 20s.

I feel really sad about this. I’ve been seeing a guy from a dating app. And he seemed serious about a relationship. We had a few dates and it went well but we didn’t even do more than like hug each other. Then this week he’s texting me and said it would be great to see me on the weekend. I’m like ok perfect let’s do it. Then he stops replying. He had something happen at work, burned his arm. So he told me he went to the urgent care and then is just resting etc. Said if he feels better we can do the weekend. I wish him well, then the weekend comes. He got very quiet this week. Like barely replying but active online. Not really engaging as much as before in conversation.

Then today he said I can come to his place and we can watch this movie we were talking about and we could cook. I only met him 3 times by the way. If you don’t count the 4th time I randomly saw him with his friends while I was with my friends.

Anyway he also said we could do something else but it feels super last minute. Every other time we had pre planned things. Is this common? We are both 20s.