u/marleytheking

Eu tenho um relacionamento que eu sei que Deus não aprovaria mas tenho dificuldades de terminar. Por conta do apego que eu sinto e porque essa pessoa me ajuda em muitas coisas inclusive materialmente. E também eu sinto quase nada na igreja. Eu sinto um alívio quando acaba. Faz mais de dois anos que eu não vou na igreja. Eu sinto uma grande irritação pela forma que as pessoas crentes falam.

Mas eu não quero virar minhas costas completamente. Eu tive algumas experiências que me fizeram sentir próxima de Deus. Eu sei o que eu falei me faz parecer fria e aversa fé cristã. Porém já teve um tempo que isso era importante pra mim, eu me desviei e me desanimei. Eu fico pensando se rezar, ler a bíblia, fazer devocional e ir na igreja. Ainda ia valer de alguma coisa se eu ainda faço coisas que Deus desaprova. Porque eu não quero ter um interesse espiritual se for algo inútil. Eu tenho medo de que talvez seja, porque eu já fui e vim muitas vezes e pra ser sincera eu não sinto forças ou vontade suficiente pra mudar ou retirar aspectos da minha vida que seriam problemáticos a fé. Eu agora sinto uma certa desconfiança especialmente porque eu já tive em lideranças religiosas abusivas.

Eu tenho um relacionamento que eu sei que Deus não aprovaria mas tenho dificuldades de terminar. Por conta do apego que eu sinto e porque essa pessoa me ajuda em muitas coisas inclusive materialmente. E também eu sinto quase nada na igreja. Eu sinto um alívio quando acaba. Faz mais de dois anos que eu não vou na igreja. Eu sinto uma grande irritação pela forma que as pessoas crentes falam.

Mas eu não quero virar minhas costas completamente. Eu tive algumas experiências que me fizeram sentir próxima de Deus. Eu sei o que eu falei me faz parecer fria e aversa fé cristã. Porém já teve um tempo que isso era importante pra mim, eu me desviei e me desanimei. Eu fico pensando se rezar, ler a bíblia, fazer devocional e ir na igreja. Ainda ia valer de alguma coisa se eu ainda faço coisas que Deus desaprova. Porque eu não quero ter um interesse espiritual se for algo inútil. Eu tenho medo de que talvez seja, porque eu já fui e vim muitas vezes e pra ser sincera eu não sinto forças ou vontade suficiente pra mudar ou retirar aspectos da minha vida que seriam problemáticos a fé. Eu agora sinto uma certa desconfiança especialmente porque eu já tive em lideranças religiosas abusivas.

É uma pergunta genuína mesmo, é possível ter um orixá completamente diferente de como você é? Porque eu vejo as pessoas que vêem o orixá como um arquétipo pessoal

Queria saber quanto tempo levou pra vcs entrarem. E também uma pessoa que viaja muito, isso pode atrapalhar?

É só uma pergunta por curiosidade mesmo, não quero pular nenhuma etapa

Eu fui numa gira de pg e exu. Eu tava me sentindo triste, mas não mencionei nada durante a gira. Tava só esperando chegar a minha vez de falar com os médiuns. E ai pg me viu, e começou a conversar comigo. E ela falou vc ta carente nao ta? Chega de ser depósito de p**rra. ai ela falou outras coisas e depois pediu pra abraçar outra mulher na assistência que parecia triste também e me disse que seria bom uma limpeza e um trabalho de cabeca pra iemanja. Só eu achei estranho ela ter me chamado assim, na frente de outras pessoas. Estou sendo fresca ou é estranho?

Eu pesquisei no google e aparentemente não. Mas queria confimar aqui. E tbm. Demora uns 3 dias certo? Eu moro em Florianópolis, vcs sabem se aqui leva menos tempo. Pq eu vi algumas pessoas dizerem que pode levar ate 8 dias mas no site diz que leva ate 72 horas

Eu pesquisei no google e aparentemente não. Mas queria confimar aqui. E tbm. Demora uns 3 dias certo? Eu moro em Florianópolis, vcs sabem se aqui leva menos tempo. Pq eu vi algumas pessoas dizerem que pode levar ate 8 dias mas no site diz que leva ate 72 horas

Is it harder than the baby phase? She's turning 1 year old next week, so I'm going to enter this new phase.

I'm finding the baby stage incredibly difficult. She's very clingy, cries easily whenever she's uncomfortable (hungry, tired, frustrated, etc.), and it's extremely hard to leave the house with her. Even simple things like going to the grocery store, taking the bus, or attending something important feel overwhelming. She needs constant physical attention, and I feel like I've lost almost all of my independence. There is lots of times I can't talk or be in a conversation with someone even if we're home and she's fine. Because she will yell. I guess all those things that I listed are very common and expected. But still. It's driving me insane.

My question is: does this usually get better between ages 1 and 3, or does it just become a different kind of difficult? I know toddlers have tantrums and can be defiant, but I'm wondering if they generally become easier to take out, more independent, and less prone to crying once they're walking and talking. I'd really appreciate honest detailed experiences from both people who felt it got better and those who felt it got harder.

I'm looking for honest advice because I'm feeling very conflicted about my relationship.

My partner is a trans man who hasn't had bottom surgery, and we recently got back together after a breakup. When we got back together, I hoped that seeing him in person again would help me reconnect with my feelings.

The problem is that over the past several months, something has changed for me.

He struggles a lot with insecurity about his body and his transition. He's told me that feeling sexually desired by me helps ease a very deep emotional pain related to his dysphoria and self-image. I believe that pain is genuine. I don't think he's pretending or manipulating me.

There's also a very specific issue: I don't feel like touching him sexually anymore like in the beginning of the relationship.

At the same time, I feel like I've gradually become responsible for managing that pain. Many of our conversations end up revolving around sex, validation, and whether I desire him enough. He says he doesn't want to pressure me, and I believe he means that, but I still experience a lot of pressure.

He notices when I don't initiate, when I don't touch him in certain ways, or when I don't perform certain sexual acts. It leaves me feeling like my sexuality is constantly being evaluated.

The hardest part is that I've had sex with him while internally thinking, "This isn't enjoyable for me." I went along with it because I didn't want to hurt him or make him feel rejected. Looking back, I realize I was betraying myself.

I worry that this is especially painful for him because that type of touch seems deeply connected to how he experiences his transition and to feeling accepted and desired as a man.

Lately I've realized that I've been operating on "automatic girlfriend mode." I'm affectionate, I tell him I love him, and I try to support him, but much of it feels automatic rather than spontaneous. I'm starting to question how much of what I'm doing is genuine and how much is habit, guilt, or fear of hurting him.

In a few weeks we'll be spending about a month together and sharing the same accommodation. I'm extremely anxious because I expect there will be an ongoing expectation of sexual intimacy, and I honestly don't know whether I'll feel sexually attracted when I see him. I've decided that I won't force myself to do anything I don't genuinely want to do anymore, but I'm afraid that this may end the relationship.

I'm also wondering whether my loss of attraction is mainly the result of months of feeling pressured, or whether my feelings have changed in a deeper and more permanent way.

But I also don't want to keep pretending or having sex to maintan a relationship.

Has anyone experienced something similar? Is it possible to rebuild attraction after a relationship starts feeling like sexual obligation, or is this more likely a sign that we're fundamentally incompatible?

**TL;DR; : TL;DR: I'm a 24F dating a 23M trans man. I care about him, but I feel like sex has become tied to managing his dysphoria and insecurities. I no longer know if I'm sexually attracted to him, I'm scared this means we're fundamentally incompatible.**.

I'm looking for honest advice because I'm feeling very conflicted about my relationship.

My partner is a trans man who hasn't had bottom surgery, and we recently got back together after a breakup. When we got back together, I hoped that seeing him in person again would help me reconnect with my feelings.

The problem is that over the past several months, something has changed for me.

He struggles a lot with insecurity about his body and his transition. He's told me that feeling sexually desired by me helps ease a very deep emotional pain related to his dysphoria and self-image. I believe that pain is genuine. I don't think he's pretending or manipulating me.

There's also a very specific issue: I don't feel like touching him sexually anymore like in the beginning of the relationship.

At the same time, I feel like I've gradually become responsible for managing that pain. Many of our conversations end up revolving around sex, validation, and whether I desire him enough. He says he doesn't want to pressure me, and I believe he means that, but I still experience a lot of pressure.

He notices when I don't initiate, when I don't touch him in certain ways, or when I don't perform certain sexual acts. It leaves me feeling like my sexuality is constantly being evaluated.

The hardest part is that I've had sex with him while internally thinking, "This isn't enjoyable for me." I went along with it because I didn't want to hurt him or make him feel rejected.

This is a whole issue for him because that type of touch seems deeply connected to how he experiences his transition and to feeling accepted and desired as a man.

Lately I've realized that I've been operating on "automatic girlfriend mode." I'm affectionate, I tell him I love him, and I try to support him, but much of it feels automatic rather than spontaneous. I'm starting to question how much of what I'm doing is genuine and how much is habit, guilt, or fear of hurting him.

In a few weeks we'll be spending about a month together and sharing the same accommodation. I'm extremely anxious because I expect there will be an ongoing expectation of sexual intimacy, and I honestly don't know whether I'll feel sexually attracted when I see him. I've decided that I won't force myself to do anything I don't genuinely want to do anymore, but I'm afraid that this may end the relationship.

I'm also wondering whether my loss of attraction means that my feelings have changed in a deeper and more permanent way. Or if we could ignite a flame again.

But I also don't want to keep pretending or having sex to maintan a relationship.

Has anyone experienced something similar? Is it possible to rebuild attraction after a relationship starts feeling like sexual obligation, or is this more likely a sign that we're fundamentally incompatible?

I think maybe it was also a budget issue considering it's set in the 60s. But I wish there were more shots of the city, the buildings, outdoors. I don't know, it would've interesting to see more of New York in the 60s. A lot of the shots are usually indoors. Even when it's outside, it felt for me, that there weren't enough wide shots.

It isn't a criticism or anything, just something that i think it would've been nice to see. I wonder if you guys noticed that or agrees with me.