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So I was diagnosed with ADHD. Let me tell you, life with ADHD is terrible. It feels like your brain is a playing 20 are different YouTube videos at the same time, with 10 crying toddlers in the background. It's a terrible chaos!

Luckily, my doctor prescribed me Adderall. Let me tell you, it’s a game-changer. When I take it, it feels like a sudden flash strikes into the chaos, and suddenly all the videos stop playing and you realize that all the toddlers crying in the background are not yours, so you can safely ignore them all of them.

Suddenly, all of my thoughts become organized and focused. It's as if I went from Neurodivergent into Neuroconvergent. 

Hello, I’m a brand new aspiring joke writer and hopefully one day a stand-up performer. I’m currently working through a few comedy books (I read The Serious Guide to Joke Writing by Sally Holloway and I’m currently reading The New Comedy Bible by Judy Carter).

My main hurdle right now: when I write material, I end up with a collection of individual puns or short jokes. How do you actually tie isolated jokes together into a coherent 3–5 minute stand-up set?

I'm mostly trying to learn the workflow/process. Right now, I'm thinking about coming up with individual jokes first and then wrapping them inside a larger narrative/story. Is that a good approach, or how do you usually build your sets?

Thanks in advance!

Hey everyone,

Looking to see if anyone here is navigating something similar or has figured out a decent workaround.

I’m living in Southern Spain right now (Seville). I’m not a native English speaker, but English is the language I want to perform in. My Spanish isn't at the level where I could write or land complex comedic setups, so performing in Spanish isn't really an option for me. That leaves me stuck in a pretty weird middle ground.

Because I’m not in a massive hub like Barcelona or Madrid, local English stage time is basically nonexistent (or rather, VERY limited). There are maybe one or two monthly English open-mic nights, but nothing like a real daily circuit where you can go out and test raw premises 4 nights a week.

Two main things I’m trying to figure out:

1. The language barrier aspect: For those performing in English as a second language, how do you handle the rhythm? I find that punchlines have to be hyper-precise, and if I place the key word in the wrong spot because of how my brain translates the thought, the joke just drops dead. On the flip side, the outsider perspective feels like good fuel for premises.

2. Getting reps when there are no mics: If you live somewhere without a active English scene, how are you actually getting stage time? Are people running Zoom mics, traveling to bigger cities on weekends just to get 5 minutes, or eventually just sucking it up and starting their own room in an expat bar?

Would love to hear from anyone doing English stand-up across mainland Europe or in smaller secondary cities. How did you actually build and polish your first tight 5 under these conditions?
Appreciate any thoughts or advice.

I work as a Product Manager, and for the last three years, I’ve worked extremely closely with a designer on my team. We collaborate daily, make strategic decisions together, and attend leadership calls side-by-side. On paper, we should be each other’s strongest partners and have each other’s backs.
For the most part, our partnership works, but there has always been a side to the dynamic that makes me uneasy. Lately, our team has been under high stress, and her behavior toward me has worsened significantly. While she maintains a very warm, polished persona with everyone else, her interaction style with me has turned increasingly passive-aggressive and unpredictable, which is creating a lot of friction.
A few recent examples of what’s been happening:

During a discussion she was having with someone else (that didn't involve me), she randomly turned to me and asked me to schedule a meeting for them on our calendar.

In a recent meeting, she asked me to share my notes. When I told her I hadn't been taking notes, she responded with that she fully expect me to ve taking notes.

In another instance, she condescendingly asked if I had even read a specific document. When I pushed back and asked if she had read it, she admitted she actually hadn't. She was attempting to use passive-aggressive posturing to influence .

Under stress, she frequently has high-intensity venting episodes or "freak-outs," declaring that she refuses to do certain work unless specific conditions are met, leaving me to absorb the fallout.

I brought this up to a mutual colleague to see if I was overreacting. He mentioned that he doesn't pick up on those negative vibes from her, though he acknowledged that he isn't in my shoes or working directly in our specific day-to-day dynamic.

This is getting under my skin to the point where it's causing me severe anxiety and impacting my sleep. Because our work requires constant, high-level alignment, I can't just limit contact or ignore her.
I’m trying to figure out the best way forward:

1. Should I have a direct, candid 1-on-1 conversation with her to address these comments and set boundaries in real-time?
2. How do you reset boundaries with a close cross-functional peer who treats you like an assistant or a sounding board for emotional outbursts?
3. How can I protect my own peace of mind when I'm naturally receptive to negative tone and subtle toxicity from a close colleague?

I'd appreciate any advice from people who have navigated similar peer dynamics or managed high-stress friction with close collaborators.

40- year-old fart here. Currently going through an extremely busy period , working 12-14 hour days, generally exhausted, the whole deal.

I bought Splatoon Raiders without many expectations, mostly just to treat myself.
Finally booted it up yesterday.

The gameplay is fun, but can we talk about the beautiful design and art direction? Everything is so thoughtful and playful. It's cute, yet it doesn't feel immature or patronizing. I instantly fell in love with the aesthetics.

It honestly felt like a balm on the soul after a long week.

I'm seriously considering picking up Splatoon
3 now just for this reason.

That's all I wanted to say, I guess. Keep making cool stuft, devs!

Why do people go off their meds? Genuinely curious what their reason is.

Is it because of side effects, losing that "spark," or just forgetting to refill them? For those who chose to stop taking them (either temporarily or for good), what was the actual turning point for you? Was it a conscious decision because you preferred your unmedicated self, or did the logistics of executive dysfunction just get in the way?

I'm on week 3 of Elvanse (30 mg each morning), and I wanted to share my experience so far.

My biggest issue before getting diagnosed was work. Undiagnosed ADHD was having a huge impact on my performance. I constantly struggled to stay focused, finish tasks, and maintain momentum throughout the day.

Three weeks in, the difference has been incredible. My work performance has improved dramatically. I can actually sit down, focus, and stay productive for the whole day without feeling like I'm fighting my own brain every step of the way. This is having a very positive effect on my self-confidence. I don't feel undisciplined or stupid anymore! (or...so much xD).

If this is anywhere close to what people without ADHD experience on a normal day... I honestly feel like I've been running with a weight strapped to my back for decades.

I'm just grateful I finally got diagnosed at 38. Part of me wishes it had happened sooner, but honestly, better late than never.

Hopefully this keeps going in the right direction.

Hi all,

Just wanted to share something I've been noticing lately.

I've seen a lot of people who aren't diagnosed saying they think they have ADHD because they:

- can't get themselves to clean their room;
- leave the dishes or sink dirty after cooking;
- struggle to find motivation to do anything;
- don't have hobbies or can't enjoy them.

To be clear, these can absolutely be symptoms of ADHD. Anyone who has ADHD knows they can be a real part of the condition.

What gives me pause is when these things are treated as proof of ADHD on their own.

The reality is that plenty of people without ADHD struggle with motivation, discipline, procrastination, or keeping up with chores. If you browse subs about productivity, discipline, or self-improvement, you'll see thousands of people wrestling with the exact same issues.

ADHD isn't "I don't feel like cleaning my room" or "I'm unmotivated today." It's a neurodevelopmental disorder that affects multiple areas of life, usually from childhood onward, and causes persistent impairment. Context and the full picture matter.

I guess my point is that I don't want us to normalize attributing every common human struggle to ADHD. It risks trivializing a condition that can be genuinely debilitating, while also leading people to self-diagnose based on experiences that are, on their own, pretty universal.

That's all really. Just something that's been on my mind after reading a lot of posts lately.

Hello all,
Day 3 on Elvanse 30mg. The first two days have been pretty incredible - the chronic mental strain and fatigue are completely gone, my general mood is great, and surprisingly, my sleep has improved and I’m waking up feeling fresh.

Quick question for those further along: do these initial effects tone down significantly over time, or is this smooth baseline what long-term management actually feels like?

Thanks!

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I live in Spain and every morning when I go for coffee, I meet a girl who is asking people for money for coffee. I bought her breakfast twice (costs 4 euros, nothing) but she’s now grown accustomed to it and waits for me daily.

The 4€ is a "preferred indifferent" to me—I don’t mind the cost. My dilemma is whether this is actually Virtuous. By providing a daily meal without understanding her situation (possible neurodivergence or addiction), am I actually helping her, or am I just "giving 2 euros to an alcoholic"?

money doesn’t bother me and I like to help those in need…I just wonder whether I should continue doing this or not