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The Jamui incident reminded me of something that happened to me.

Seeing the news about the Jamui incident brought back a memory I hadn’t thought about in a long time.

During last Ganesh Chaturthi, me and my sister was out for dinner with my friends and we were walking when a guy on a motorcycle came up near my sister and passed vulgar comments at her like i have seen u somewhere.. tell me wt is ur rate per night and fyi this guy literally put sindoor on his forehead.. my sister was so scared and she started crying.. we were like 6 members walking 2 ppl together and my sister was walking with my other girl bestie..

He came again with his bike near her and i stopped him and I confronted him i didnt even say anything rude i asked him bro how can u say those to my sister dont u have women at your home, and instead of backing down, he started shouting at me and called me a “Randy” in front of everyone around us and people were literally watching and he ran away.

And we had a guy friend with us too and he literally couldn’t speak a word he was js watching and silent and i was shivering.. wt wrong did my sister do?? I still cudnt understand how can he say tht to her..

I remember just going completely numb.

I couldn’t think of what to say. I couldn’t react the way I wish I had. I just stood there while people were watching. Later, I tried to raise a complaint with the police, but nothing was done.

At the time, I tried to move on from it. But seeing the Jamui case made me realize how deeply these incidents can stay with you.

It’s not just the words. It’s the humiliation, the helplessness, the crowd watching, and the feeling that someone can violate your sense of safety in public and simply walk away.

I’ve noticed I have a hard time saying no when guys approach me in public or at work.

Usually, I’m just minding my own business and a guy will start a conversation with me. I don’t want to be rude, so I respond and have a normal conversation. But quite often, by the end of it, he asks for my Instagram.

The problem is, I usually don’t want to give it to him, but when he asks, I automatically say yes and give it to him because I feel awkward saying no. In the moment, I worry that I’ll come across as rude or make the situation uncomfortable.

It’s frustrating because afterwards I’m like, “Why did I give him my Instagram? I didn’t even want to.”

For women who have experienced this, how do you handle it when someone asks for your Instagram and you don’t want to give it? How did you get comfortable saying no without feeling like
you’re being unnecessarily rude?

I’d especially like to hear how you handle it in the moment, because that’s where I struggle the most.

I’m 25F and I’ve been thinking about whether dating genuinely becomes harder around this age.

I had my first relationship when I was 18, and we were together for almost 4 years before eventually breaking up. I’ve been single since then. I’m also quite introverted, so I find it really difficult to approach people or actively put myself out there.

The people who approach me are usually either not my type or sometimes younger than me. And lately I’ve been wondering if I should just be more open and give people a chance.

When I say I feel “late,” I don’t mean that 25 is old. I mean that by this age, it feels like people are much busier with their careers and personal lives, and also more mature about relationships. Maybe people are less willing to spend months or years getting to know someone if they’re not sure it’s going anywhere.

So I’m curious about women around my age Did you find dating or meeting someone you genuinely liked became harder in your mid-20s? Or is 25 actually still an age where it’s relatively easy to meet people and build a serious relationship?

Especially interested in hearing from introverted women who don’t naturally meet or approach a lot of people. How did you eventually meet your partner?

I talked to this guy for almost 2 years. We were on and off because he was never really sure about us, and I didn’t push it either. At one point we stopped talking for more than 6 months.

In November 2025, he randomly texted me “hi” again. I honestly hesitated to reply not because I didn’t care, but because I didn’t want to repeat the same cycle. I thought maybe we’d just keep it friendly this time. But he slowly started flirting again. At first i didn’t really reciprocate properly, but eventually i did.

After about a month of talking again, we decided to meet. It was actually our first time meeting in person ever. We went for lunch, took cute photobooth pictures, talked a lot even though the conversation wasn’t anything extraordinary, I still liked being with him. It just felt nice. We ended up kissing too.

After that, we both had to go back to our hometowns for work. That’s when I noticed he started reacting less, texting less. When I asked him about it, he initially said it was nothing. But after I kept asking, he admitted his parents are looking for matches for him. He said he doesn’t want to get married right now, but he’s also not sure about us in the long run because he can’t go against his parents.

I didn’t argue. I did ask him that we cud give it a try but he said there’s no way its gng to work out .I just said maybe we should stop talking. He suggested we stay friends, but I said no. So we stopped.my frns r asking me if he is not sure abt u why bother come back again n txt u and asked to meet him

Now I’m back in the same city where he lives because of work. Before meeting him, I wasn’t that emotionally involved. But after meeting him in November, I don’t know what changed. I feel like I got attached. I keep thinking about him not because I want to text him or go back, but because the moments we shared keep replaying in my mind.

I know I won’t reach out. I just don’t know how to stop thinking about it.he knows for sure that i will never reach out to him and i think this time he wont either…

Im done wit him atp but idk this feeling i cant explain it but i cant stop thinking abt wt happened btw us coz i never talked to anyone besides him n i feel i jst wasted my time n feelings js for nothing. He ruined the idea of love for me..