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It's really frustrating! I've finally figured out what looks good on me and now I can't find many clothes in those colours. I'm especially looking for greens and blues which are my best colours, but greens are all super warm and blues are all too light at the moment. Turquoise only seems to come in practically fluorescent tones.

Are others seeing the same? If you've found any clothing sites/brands with some good true summer colours (greens and blues especially) please let me know!

My under eye area is really ageing me (significant under eye hollows and fine lines, much more than would be expected at my age) and it feels like those issues are exacerbated by my eye area getting smooshed up against the pillow whilst I sleep. (Sleeping on my back all night just isn’t gonna happen….)

I’ve seen some say they wear hydrogel patches all night and they both help with their intended use and prevent some of the issues caused by side sleeping.

Does anyone have any recommendations?

Preferably:

* not super expensive

* fragrance free or very mild natural scent

* available for purchase in the UK

Thank you!

Looking for an eye cream that:

* minimises puffiness, fine lines and dark circles

* helps prevent creasing when wearing makeup under eyes

* either fragrance free or very mild natural scent

* preferably not tested on animals

* easily accessible for purchase in the UK

Thank you!

I had been using the Kosas BB Burst and was very happy with that, but unfortunately it’s been discontinued.

I’m looking for something that:

* is light coverage

* gives a dewy, ‘your skin but better‘ finish

* preferably no or at least very very little fragrance

* lasts well throughout the day

* preferably more ‘clean’ ingredients but it’s not a total necessity

* available for purchase in the UK

* preferably not tested on animals

Thank you!

A teaser trailer was released in February and still no full length trailer or release date announced, which is an unusual length of time between those two things.

The first season aired in May and June of 2024 for context.

With its previously announced cancellation this makes me a little anxious that they won’t air S2 after all. (I don’t see how this would make any sense since they’ve already paid to produce it all but maybe there’s something I’m missing).

Anyone else more clued up on this?

I know this is quite specific! I’m looking for something that might take me back to my grandparents’ youth.

* it can be more recently released historical fiction or something written at the time

* preferably adult fiction

* no fantasy, sci-fi, horror or thriller elements

* focused on regular working or lower middle class protagonists, no celebrities or socialites etc

* would like there to be at least one female protagonist

* strong sense of time and place!

One book I’ve got on my radar is Bloomsbury Girls by Natalie Jenner, but would like to have some other options.

Thank you :)

I’ve always been prone to this to some degree, but I’ve found myself in a pattern of pretty extreme sexual hyperfixation/limerence for various public figures over the past couple years. (I’ve not been able to have any dating life over this time due to illness, so I suppose it’s fulfilling that need for me to some extent).

They always follow the same pattern - at first it’s a fun new crush, it’s great to enjoy my sexual fantasies and I have that excited butterfly feeling you get when first forming a new connection with someone.

Then my fantasies tend to get more vivid and elaborate. I’ll really start to imagine in-depth scenarios of how I might meet this person, what our dates would be like, what our sexual dynamics and relationship as a whole would look like.

At this point it’s still very enjoyable but a bit all-consuming. It’s essentially like I’m conducting an ongoing imaginary relationship with this person in my head, and because I have a very vivid imagination, it starts to feel almost real. (To be clear, I am very aware that it isn’t, but emotionally it feels that way). I can feel on cloud nine when in this stage and it brings a lot of light to my otherwise dull days at the moment.

Then the other shoe drops and I realise….oh….this isn’t real. And the chances of my ever getting to be with this person are typically close to zero. And I start to feel either depressed or panicked.

I’ll then engage in weird sort of bargaining behaviour, like, trying to ascertain how likely it is this person might be into me in an alternate universe in which we met.

It’s easier the further removed the person is from me. Fictional character? Doesn’t tend to get to this stage bc they were always a total fantasy anyway. Celebrity? I at least am never able to entertain the idea that something could genuinely happen.

But atm I’ve been fixating on an influencer who is around my age and lives relatively nearby. So I’ve really been thinking…well….it could happen. And that seems to have made my fantasies so much more involved. Like a part of me genuinely thought for a while that I was going to end up dating this person. And now that illusion has come crashing down around me and I’m like ‘wait a minute. The chances of my even meeting this person are still very very slim.’

And now I just feel depressed and full of this yearning that I don’t know what to do with. I always feel like I’ll never meet anyone irl that I feel this level of desire for. It can also leave me feeling a lot of shame and like I’m not good enough. I wish I knew how to just stay at the fun crush stage of things.

It’s almost like I’m on the dating scene and constantly getting excited about relationships only to be dumped, except it’s all happening inside my own head!!!

On top of these feelings is the difficulty of feeling like I can’t share this with anyone because it would sound so bizarre. I know that romantic & sexual hyperfixation/limerence/imaginary relationships are more common with auDHDers so I wanted to share here and see if anyone could relate?

I have read through the rules and FAQ, I hope this is okay to post but I’m not 100% sure. ‘Oral sex’ isn’t totally accurate as a flair but seemed most aligned with this topic.

For context, I’m a bisexual woman and happy to hear experiences from people of any gender and sexuality.

I definitely have an oral fixation and my reasoning for posting and asking for other experiences is it leaves me feeling quite alienated!

Most discussion around oral sex presents it as something someone does primarily to please the other person - they might enjoy it because they like to give their partner pleasure, are turned on by whatever power dynamic they get from it etc, but generally people speak about it as though it doesn’t give them much physical pleasure. (Possibly I’m misunderstanding things, though?)

For me, my mouth is a huge erogenous zone - I get an enormous amount of pleasure from touch and sensation in and around my mouth. It can be like heaven to me. I fantasise about using my mouth/having my mouth touched/giving oral probably more than anything else. And whilst it’s definitely sexual, it can also be incredibly soothing and comforting to me.

Even the phrase ‘giving oral’ doesn’t necessarily feel accurate, as whilst I of course want to please the other person, it can also be primarily about my pleasure. And in certain acts where I’m more passive (ie something like gentle face fucking - not sure how explicit we can get here), it can feel like a total ‘role reversal’, so to speak, in terms of how we think about oral sex - in that it feels like I’m the one being pleasured/taken care of/given something.

It just makes me feel crazy when I hear people speak about giving oral sex as though it’s just accepted that it’s not something anyone gets any pleasure out of!

And when I do hear people who have a similar experience to me, more often than not I hear them frame it as a problem, whereas to me it feels like a great thing - how could it not be a good thing to have more avenues for experiencing pleasure? I think it makes my experience of sex and of simply being in my body richer and fuller.

So I’d just love to hear from anyone who has a similar experience, how that fixation feels for you and how you feel about it?

(To be clear, as per sub rules, I am very much not asking for sexy stories/titillating replies etc)

I'm just curious as someone who has experienced pretty extreme shifts in attraction and can't really pinpoint why. I try to just let myself surrender to my sexual fluidity and fluctuating desires, but it does leave me feeling a bit unmoored having no understanding of/control over something which has such a big effect on my internal experience and life.

Does anyone notice any patterns in your shifts in attraction?

Be it hormonal, in relation to what you're surrounded by (ie around more queer or straight people, engaging with more or less queer art/media), who you've been crushing on IRL recently, negative or positive experiences with one gender, negative or positive feelings around your sexuality etc.

I've experienced such a huge shift recently (went from feeling 100% gay for around 6 years to feeling mostly drawn to men for the last couple, totally out of the blue!) and I feel like there must be a reason, but I have no idea what it is. I know none of you can tell me but I'd love to hear your own experiences