u/moon_peach__

Looking for something available to purchase in the UK (can be from elsewhere if they ship to the UK and postage isn't too steep).

I was originally thinking of Fishwife, and am still considering them, but they're so expensive and I see the consensus seems to be that they're not necessarily tastier than other brands. I do want something that would feel like a little luxury and a nice gift to receive, though, so packaging matters.

I've also seen La Belle-Iloise recommended and am considering them too, but would love to know what else is out there!

Thanks

I recently got a new phone (iPhone 14) and connected to 1pMobile using an eSim. I arranged for my number to be ported over from my old phone (iPhone SE) yesterday.

Yesterday morning I woke up to emails from 1p saying that the port had been completed, but might take until the next day to all be working properly. I restarted both phones as suggested. My old number is now the only number listed on both phones. Yesterday I found that messages were sometimes going to my old phone and sometimes my new phone. Essentially they were both working but unreliably.

As of today, calls, texts and data are no longer working on my old phone, but I can access WhatsApp on there using my usual number.

My new phone seems to be operating as though I have two numbers. If I text anyone, they're receiving the text from a new number and replying to that number. But if they text my old number I still receive the text and can reply from that number.

It's not the end of the world but I would like for it to only be attached to my old number, and for that number to show when I text or call someone.

Any advice? Might it just be a case of waiting for it to sort itself out, or is there anything I should do?

We know that each season covers a short amount of time (as opposed to a full year).

I saw someone mention that S2 took place in winter, but I don’t know if that’s confirmed - my guess is that perhaps the creators don’t think through timescale in that much depth. I did notice it looked wintry and in a lot of episodes they’re wearing big coats outside etc, but then there is the first ep when the neighbour was complaining about them all wearing crop tops…

Then from what I remember there were a lot of shots with autumn leaves in S1 so it would make sense if that took place largely during the autumn.

I was thinking it’d be really fun if they leant into the seasons in this way - say with next season clearly taking place in the spring, the fourth in the summer, and showing them hanging out outdoors more in the city. (If the show went on even longer than that they could then add in holiday episodes next time it’s autumn/winter, which would be fun). I’m guessing they may not do this but I think it’d be cool!

Trying to gage how well the show is doing currently! Is the show currently trending on the streaming service you're watching it on?

I'm in the UK and it's currently number 3 here on Disney+. I didn't think to check before so I don't know if it might have been higher when S2 first came out

As a big fan of romcoms, I’m always bemoaning the fact that we get so little in the way of queer ones.

I did recently see that Rebecca Ferguson and Greta Lee are reportedly filming one, which is exciting, though there’s no confirmed details yet.

It got me thinking, which actresses would you love to see in a sapphic romcom? Do you have an ideal pairing in mind? Anything else you’d love to see in your perfect romcom?

I have ME/CFS as a result of Long Covid. I've been part of an online Long Covid support group for years, which used to be a wonderful space, but as the people who have recovered have left, it's increasingly become a space in which discussion of recovery is taboo - the general view seems to be that recovery is essentially impossible, those who have recovered aren't to be trusted, and mind body methods are at best woo woo nonsense and at worst an outright scam.

This group contains a lot of people with similar experiences to me - neurodivergent, queer, have experienced a lot of trauma, severely disabled by ME/CFS, reliant on caregivers who are dysfunctional at best and abusive at worst - so on that level it's a space in which I know a lot of my experiences will be understood, but the attitude towards recovery makes me feel frustrated, alienated, and means it's not really a healthy space to be in or supportive of my recovery process.

On the other hand, I've been in an offshoot group from that one for a while, full of people who are focused on and believing in recovery, predominantly through mind body methods, but I find I also feel like the odd one out in that space for different reasons.

The people in this group are largely ones who have already been able to make large strides in recovery, were often not as ill in the first place so haven't had to lose all their independence/freedom/autonomy to become reliant on dysfunctional caregivers, and are therefore not stuck in toxic situations, are largely cis, straight and neurotypical, tend not to have as significant trauma histories etc.

This means that I feel a lot of the time that they can't fully understand the depth of what I'm dealing with and just how much I'm up against, and I often don't feel like they're the right people to talk to about some of my struggles. I feel like it'd be good for me to interact more in a community focused on chronic illness recovery, but I feel so out of place in this specific one.

For a while I thought maybe the right move was just to not bother seeking community with other chronically ill folk anymore, but, even though I have able-bodied friends/communities which are generally respectful and understanding of my experience, it ultimately still feels alienating to be one of few disabled people around. I do still need that community.

Admittedly I haven't explored this sub on reddit much, and maybe this would be a good fit, but I'd like to have a more personal community - the kind you might find on discord or group chats - as opposed to reddit, which tends to feel pretty anonymous.

Does anyone else struggle with this? Have you managed to find a space out there that works for you? Anyone else in a similar situation to me?

Looking for:

* contemporary adult romance

* bisexual FMC

* dates/sleeps with people of multiple genders throughout the course of the novel.

This could present as anything from a polyamorous FMC who ends up with multiple partners of different genders by the end of the novel, to a monogamous FMC who dates multiple people of different genders but ultimately ends up with one.

If the latter, though, I'd like there to be a decent amount of focus on the various love interests, as opposed to the focus being predominantly on the one partner she ends up with

* this is somewhat outside of the scope of this sub, but I'd also be interested in chick lit featuring a bi FMC who dates/sleeps with multiple genders, even if there's no HEA/romance isn't the primary narrative, if anyone happens to have any recommendations of that kind. Something sort of adjacent to Sex and the City if Carrie Bradshaw was bisexual

* not interested in dark romance, billionaire, or mafia romances

Thank you!

* preferably adult fiction

* genre wise I'm looking for something along the lines of romance, chick lit, maybe a light contemporary

* if romance then I'd love either a polyamorous bi FMC who ends up in relationships with multiple genders, or a monogamous bi FMC who nevertheless dates multiple people of different genders before settling down with one. I'd like there to be a decent amount of focus on the different partners, rather than it being predominantly focused on one partner

* when it comes to chick lit, I'm looking for something fun, frothy, escapist, in which our heroine dates/sleeps with people of multiple genders. It could be all casual, it could be that she's looking for a partner or partners but is having fun dating in the mean time, it could be that there's a romantic subplot or plots. This doesn't have to be the main narrative. But I'd like there to be romantic connections/fun flirting/hot sex with multiple genders involved. Sort of like Sex and the City if Carrie Bradshaw was bisexual and the sex was, well, sexier...

It's surprisingly difficult to find this! I'm looking and I'm finding stuff that's sort of adjacent to it (ie meets the content requirements but is literary fiction; romances in which a bi FMC technically has romantic interactions w multiple genders but really the sole focus is on one partner.) Despite being a memoir, I'd say Alison Moon's Bad Dyke fits this criteria. The only other book I've found that sounds like it would is Vow of Celibacy by Erin Judge. The romance Triple Sec would, but I couldn't get into that.

I'm in England. Have claimed UC for 6+ years now. This is the first time I've received a 'Confirm your claim details' To-Do.

In the 'where you live and what it costs' section, it says 'you live with close relatives' - true, I live with my parents and adult sibling. In the 'children and other people living with you' section it says 'you have no other people living with you'.

I'm not sure if this is incorrect or not - yes, other people do live with me, but the research I've done suggests this question is about non-dependents, and I don't know if they are considered non-dependents.

I don't pay rent so don't receive any housing costs. What I've found about this suggests the question is so they can remove £96 from your housing costs for each non-dependent who lives with you.

Unfortunately I already answered that it was incorrect and am now second guessing that.

Because I've answered that this is incorrect, they're saying I need to report a Change of Circumstances or my claim will be stopped, which would mean reporting that other people do live with me and including them on my claim.

I'm concerned that if I do this it may affect my claim, but that if I don't (even if I explain why in a journal message) my claim will just be stopped.

Can anyone advise me on what to do?

Thank you

In the effort of staying anonymous, I don't want to elaborate too much, but it is just so frustrating and upsetting.

I can't help being disabled. I'm doing everything I can to improve, and spend so much of my energy thinking up solutions to help my carers, but nothing I do is ever enough. They throw all their negative emotions around caring for me at me constantly, seem to expect me to manage those emotions, and make it clear how much of a burden I am to them.

And of course, everyone else around us sees them as saints for caring for me at all and I'm expected to be nothing but endlessly grateful.

It's such an isolating experience so I wanted to see if anyone else is going through this.

I was dealing with orthorexia in 2022/23, from about the ages of 28 1/2 - 30. Lost my period for 7 months in 2022. During that time of course I had almost no sex hormones and zero libido (in fact was totally repulsed by the idea of sex).

After that I was in the process of recovery, but still very underweight until early 2024 when I was doing much better.

At that point it seemed like my sex hormones came back in full swing, including my libido. If anything it seemed like they were higher than usual for much of ’24 through to early ‘25.

In spring of ‘25 however they seemed to start fading, and since the autumn they seem incredibly low (again, libido vanished off the face of the earth, though not totally zero like during period loss) - I won’t go into detail as don’t want the post to be too long, but essentially, even though my periods are still regular, I’m experiencing textbook perimenopause symptoms across the board.

I’m 32 now so this would be very premature, however I do have a few other risk factors for experiencing early peri (ADHD, an autoimmune disorder, mother started hers in her late ‘30s).

I can’t get over the idea that maybe I made this happen with my eating disorder - I know that malnutrition and period loss can fuck up your hormones long term. I worry that maybe the surge of sex hormones immediately after recovery were because my body knew there wasn’t much time left, and now it’s done.

There are possible other causes for these symptoms - dietary changes following a different health diagnosis, and an incredibly stressful past year, but I can’t help but worry the eating disorder is the cause. I’m enormously stressed over this bc it feels like I’ll have lost what was left of my youth after already having lost so much due to other illnesses. I feel so much grief around the loss of my libido in particular.

Does anyone have any idea of how likely this would be after 2 years malnutrition inc 7 months of amenorrhea? Am I stressing too much over this? Do people typically recover healthy reproductive functioning after ED recovery?

The dream wasn’t a flashback but rather my absolute greatest fear around sexual assault, which is still ultimately influenced by my past experiences.

My dreams are incredibly vivid and often include intense bodily sensations - in a sex dream I’m really feeling the physical sensations of that, and will often even come in my sleep. So I think often the dreams themselves are traumatising because to my brain they really feel like they’ve happened and I’ve had an immediate physical response to them irl, one that is involuntary, unwanted, and happening without my consent.

It’s hard for me to even type this out. It’s the worst one I’ve ever had and it’s making being able to feel any part of my body right now torturous. I want to tear my own skin off. I feel quite panicked.

What can I do in this situation?

(For context, where I am in the UK the care for IBD is piss poor. My local hospital seems to be really struggling. I barely receive any attention or care for my IBD. Last month I - finally, after years - had a telephone appt w my doctor. He said he would send me a stool test form (this is what reliably shows inflammation for me) and never did. I’ve been trying to chase up the IBD team but it’s essentially impossible to get through to them. This is an awful state of affairs and makes me quite scared and uneasy. I have no idea what someone in my area would do if in a flare. I’m not asking for advice on this but wanted to explain why testing isn’t as readily accessible to me as it should be).

But what I’m asking here is - without having had recent testing, do you generally gauge how you’re doing based on symptoms?

Mine seems to be well-controlled with meds but I can’t say for sure. I’ve been really needing to expand my diet for some time now, but I’m scared to without having had a calprotectin test to confirm there’s no inflammation.

I will of course continue to chase up the IBD team, but in the mean time I’m just stuck at a standstill. My heath is suffering in other ways due to my strict diet.

When introducing new foods do you simply watch for any symptoms and if there are none, assume it’s okay?

I‘m wondering if I can just start introducing new foods now and watch for symptoms, but my worry is that even if there are no symptoms, the new foods could be causing inflammation that I’m not aware of.

What do you think?

I’m in the UK, this appt is through the NHS.

Just looking for any advice/suggestions I might not’ve thought of.

* I’ve already had an in-depth conversation with the pharmacist re statins so I don’t have any questions on that

* I’ve been able to get my cholesterol within the normal range (not yet ideal) solely by changing my diet, so it sounds like FH is unlikely. However my parent does have FH and high cholesterol does run in the family. I believe following on from this appt the goal is to do a blood test specifically for FH

* My concern is that even w/o FH, I’ve never watched how much fat I eat before, so if my cholesterol is predisposed to be somewhat high, it’s possible it has been high all/most of my life

* I‘m interested in getting testing done to see how my arteries are. I’ve heard of a coronary calcium test. I believe there is another one (or more?) that may be more suitable? If anyone has info on this please let me know. I know I’ll likely have to get this done privately, but it would be helpful to talk it through with the doctor and I may need a referral from them

* anything else you think I should be asking them?

Thank you!

Forgive me for the obvious question. I've read a lot of posts on here over the last few months and can't keep the info straight in my head. So just looking for some clear answers/directions on this. I did search on here but couldn't find any.

- is testing FSH a reliable way to tell if you're in peri?

- if so, does it need to be done at a certain time in your cycle/a certain amount of times etc?

- is it only reliable above a certain age? or will doctors only test above a certain age?

- if FSH is low does that rule out peri?

I've early 30s and have been experiencing peri symptoms for quite a while now, but I've also got severe chronic health issues going on, plus dealing with extreme mental/emotional stuff. I'm pretty sure my sex hormones are low, but there could be multiple reasons for that.

I've been trying to just focus on looking after myself and calming my nervous system and seeing if things improve. However, if there is a reliable way to know for sure you're in peri, it would be good to know considering the health impacts of low estrogen etc. I also don't want to be unnecessarily fighting an uphill battle if my symptoms could be improved with HRT. I understand that simply testing sex hormones is unreliable, but am unsure about FSH.

Thank you!

Watching the show for the first time. I've watched it all with the same set-up (DVD boxset on my laptop), so no changes there. Though I did take a break between S3 and 4.

Part of what I love about the show is it's just so pleasing to the eye - I love everyone's outfits and styling, I love the scenery of NYC and the way it's shot.

But I'm 6 episodes into S4 now and it just feels visually....bland.

Firstly it all feels really dark? I feel like I can't see things properly. The first 3 seasons seemed quite light and airy.

The outfits aren't catching my eye and it feels like we're not getting as many shots of the city and of the girls' surroundings. Each shot just isn't as pleasing to look at as in previous seasons.

Does anyone else feel this way? I'm wondering if I'm just perceiving it differently for some reason or if it actually does look different.