Image 1 — transphobia is WAY too common, especially in lesbian “safe spaces”
Image 2 — transphobia is WAY too common, especially in lesbian “safe spaces”

transphobia is WAY too common, especially in lesbian “safe spaces”

i have blocked out everyone’s user but mine in the photos as to follow to rules of this subreddit, i just think it’s wild that an “inclusive space” for lesbians is full of terfs. as a community we’ve been getting far to familiar with transphobia. and the second you call out the transphobia in the community, you’re “a man playing as a woman, trying to chase lesbian” or you’re “not letting them tell their story” and i can’t even imagine how hard it is to be trans, because i have a hard time defending the trans community and im a cisgender woman; i can only imagine how difficult it is to actually be a trans woman and i wanted to say that every trans individual is strong, and worth listening to, and even worth loving. i’m astounded and ashamed of my community and we all need to do better. they kicked me out and called me a troll, so much for “safe space” and “being respectful” lmao, also misgendered me entirely and said i “am probably a male”? 😭🙏

u/national_sillyguy — 10 hours ago

welcome to r/gothlesbians!

hi everyone! I'm u/national_sillyguy, the founding moderator of r/gothlesbians.

this is a subreddit where goth and other alternative genres that identify as lesbian can have a safe space to talk, share memes, vent, or even just make friends! let’s all help to build a space where everyone feels comfortable sharing and connecting.

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u/national_sillyguy — 4 days ago

music recommendations

i love feminist riotgrrl music! can anyone recommend me a good band?
i love the sound of bratmobile, bikini kill, mommy long legs, and jack off jill

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u/national_sillyguy — 4 days ago

i want a girlfriend so bad 🫠

i want a girlfriend so bad but i keep getting played and i can barely find any other lesbians close to my age, i had to break up with my most recent ex girlfriend because she was a shit person and wasn’t there for me at all, i feel like i need more lesbian friends at the very least but i want a girlfriend so bad because i just crave the lesbian experience with someone i truly love and care for 💔💔

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u/national_sillyguy — 5 days ago

questioning if im demisexual, or maybe something else entirely

i’m confused on if i’m demisexual or not and might need some help

i am a lesbian and i know that i find women attractive, but i don’t enjoy hookups, or anything sexual with anyone who i don’t know REALLY well; even if i had a girlfriend i don’t think i would immediately want to get into that kind of stuff with her. i have always seen my friends of all sexuality’s want to hook up or have sneaky links but i have never understood it and even tried to have a “sneaky link” myself but it didn’t work out because i was just doing it to feel like i fit in with my peers, i didn’t enjoy being put in a situation like that whatsoever.

the real reason why i’m confused is because i don’t know if this is considered being demisexual. for all of my life this has just been how i felt, so for me it’s my normal and i don’t know if my normal would be considered demisexual or any other kind of sexuality, i’ve heard of other sexualitys that are similar to being demisexual, and i’m curious about if my experience lines up with another sexuality and not demisexual! just trying to find out more about myself and if anyone has any advice or answers please lmk :(

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u/national_sillyguy — 5 days ago

hair emergency, need help

i’ve been dying my hair for five years but this has me stumped, for context i’m not used to blonde hair; the ends of my hair is the darker part and the very blonde hair is about a quarter of my hair on the top of my head, i’m currently trying to keep the top half of my hair as bright and blonde as it is right now, and i’m trying to make the dark parts pastel pink.

last night i bleached my whole head for 30 minutes and then bleached the dark parts at the end of my hair for 20 extra minutes and the results are what you see in the picture, my hair is very strong and has always been resilient to bleach, i don’t care how dead my hair is i just want it to be pink.

i have crème developer and light might power so i mix up my own bleach (brand is color brilliance), i have purple shampoo for my hair as well (brand is odele) but i haven’t used any yet, and the pastel pink dye i’m using is pink puff by good dye young. i’d like to only use the hair products in my house but id also consider going out to buy more if i REALLY needed it, any advice?

u/national_sillyguy — 9 days ago