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can i? should i? benefits or no benefits? will it cause unnecessary stress to the engine? is it easily done or expensive?

i dont want to write out a huge long sob story. my bf and i have been together for 7 years (19-26me, 22-29him), and i want to break uo with him. our relationship has been teetering for a while, like over a year, for a number of reasons and weve talked about it so many times

• our personalities arent similar and we have different desires for our life outcome (i want to live far away from a city but his career would benefit best close to one)
• some of his habits (health and other little things) i cant stand anymore, yes ive addressed them -hes been really busy with work and getting his masters and as a result hes let his health go (hes gained weight, wont cut his hair). i maintain myself and work hard to stay fit and keep good habits, its not hard. he chooses to over eat and eat unhealthy and it pisses me off but i cant tell him that hes getting fat and to shave his head (hes balding from font to back but he wont cut his hair, i just look at him and see a 50 year old guy and i get turned off)
• he has debt but makes good money but has poor spending habits and has been telling me for the last 2 years ‘my debt will be gone in 6 months’ -ive done more and gone more places by myself because he ‘doesnt have the time or money’, he says he wants to but never does. -we dont have sex anymore, my body is just not physically attracted to him, its like i dont want to have sex with him. also, our whole relationship i was on birth control, i went off about 4 months ago but he doesnt like how condoms feel, and now we barely have sex

this is just the bad stuff, he also does a lot of really nice things for me and i know he loves me a lot but i just dont love him like i used to anymore. i find myself dreading going to hang out with him, i just dont want to anymore. when we dont havg out im actually happier. i enjoy doing things by myself because i know he wont be there to complain or change what im doing. i find myself thinking about other men and being with other people but i know its wrong and i stop. he keeps talking about marriage and kids but i dont want to marry him anymore, when he talks about it i feel cornered, how do you leave someone who still loves you and hasnt done anything actually wrong. hes a good person with a good heart and my parents love him. hes been in my life for almost 10 years, and weve dated for 7. hes my first boyfriend and was also my first sexual partner, i havent slept with anyone else (minus the two threesomes with girls that he wanted when we were young, im still mad at him for that). i dont know what to do. my brain is saying to find someone more like me but what if its the wrong choice. i know peoples physical appearance can change any time but im 26 and avoiding sexual relations with him and choosing to do things by myself. im confused and i dont have people to talk to about this

im leaving to africa for a month and i have some reptiles that will need basic care, food isnt an issue but their water is. (everything electrical is automated, even a misting system for my two snakes). i have two leopard geckos who have shallow water dishes that get filled every 3 days. my set up is a bit dumb and their cages are top opening in a stacked system so its kinda annoying to get the top open (i dont mind but my parents would) does anyone use a diy or recommend a refilling water dish that will last a month?

26F, female hiking partners preferred. im set to hike whitney june 9-13th, gave myself a nice big window to do it. im hoping (if i do actually summit, to complete it in 2-3 days for better acclimation and reduced altitude sickness). summit reports from people are stating that the standard route-> take the chute to skip the switchbacks-> summit trail is the best and safest route, although weather reports are showing the switchbacks may be open. im planning on hiking up mt whitney trail, staying overnight at either trail camp or outpost camp, summiting/ attempting to summit and then coming back down by glissading the chute and hiking down normally. if youre interested please let me know!

im 25 years old, i went on birth control at 17 and went off it about 5 months ago. since then ive had 4 regular periods but my 5th one hasnt started yet and is about 5 days late. my bf and i are using condoms but (tmi, had a quickie with a pull out, i know im an idiot). after the 5th day i took a test and its negative but im still concerned that i havent got my period. every period since coming off has been regular, but my last period was VERY painful with cramping. is it normal for period to be regular then not regular at all after being on oral contraceptive for 8 years? i tried to call my ob today but i couldnt get through to them today to make an appointment. was 5 days too early to take a test?

my period is 5 days late, i stopped oral combination bc about 5 months ago. after stopping my periods were regular give or take a day but this is the first one to be this late. my bf and i use condoms now but im still worried that the obvious may have happened. my last period was extremely painful and i was on meds pretty much the whole time. is this normal? should i take a test just to be sure?

i live in the suburbs with three neighbors around me. i feel bad because my hens are SO loud in the morning before their automatic door opens. my solution? i purchased an automatic cat feeder. i put chicken scratch in the feeder and have it drop a little bit every 15 mins (7-8am) until their door opens. now my hens are quiet and my neighbors are happy. i use a 5 gallon hopper to keep it full.