i'm sx5 and i wondered if id have compatibility with 2s. but i wondered if id be upset by them seeking validation from other people. i only need my partners affection, love my friends but dont need emotional validation from them. but 2s are much more emotionally needy and affectionate with everyone right? i'm not experienced w them so idk tho
i keep seeing this advice on tiktok that if you pull away and focus on yourself they will come back, but won't this just reinforce their abandonment fear and make them close off more?
im going to choose my next bf based on typology instead of feelings since feelings never got me anywhere good
i don't understand
im a normal 22yo girl that loves men..
but ever since a kid, in my dreams i only fall in love w women. sometimes im a man w a gf or wife. or sometimes im just lesbian girl. it happens so often. and my heart races and i really feel in love w these girls. but irl i never liked a girl. also only very rarely do
i dream im in love w a man, and if i do it's just my irl bf
i think it's me, sx5
he's an unemployed avoidant istp sp9 with depression
i always hear advice to just not bother dating avoidants, that they will ruin your mental health etc
i don't think i've ever heard a happy ending
but with the avoidant guys i've been involved with, the desire for intimacy was obvious, i could see the internal battle they were having
and if i were to ignore all the internet advice, from my pov it seems like all they need is security and reassurance and they'll calm down? although it never worked out for me haha
my bf right now is really gentle and sweet but has some avoidant tendencies. i don't understand him enough to speak too in depth but he tried breaking up before because he was scared of getting hurt. (took hours to get him to admit that btw)
and from my pov, the solution seems simple, reassure him and be consistent and show him that im on his side and wont do anything to hurt him. then he will open up no?
is this not how it works?
he says he loves me but i feel like he doesn't even value our time together and doesn't consider my feelings but idk if im just misreading
the modpack we were playing together, he opened a new server of it to play w his friends and showed off to me that he caught the pokemon he wanted there. it hurt me so much cuz i thought that was our thing?
and when we play games together he will just advance ahead or play them alone without saying anything to me
for me if i like someone it's impossible for me to do such things
are sp9s just not that..
emotionally attuned to others or what..
so sp9s are prone to indulging in physical pleasures right
i want advice and people's thoughts and experiences
my sp9 bf used to smoke 3 packs of cigarettes a day when we first met. i told him i will not date a smoker and he said he will quit. and he actually did quit. we were together like 6 months and he never smoked then we broke up and he instantly started smoking again the same day. our breakup was kinda not very solid though and we still fight and have contact occasionally after that.
i asked him, why would u do that to urself? u fixed your addiction, why go back to it?
he said he only quit for me and that he likes smoking. i said to quit for his own sake, for his money and health. but he said he likes smoking and that plenty of ppl live long that smoke and that he has no intention to quit for his own sake.
and now we reconciled and are back together and he is trying to hide it but i can tell he is still smoking. to
me it just makes no sense, why doesn't he care about his health
how do i even approach this convo w him? ik if i tell him ill leave him if he doesn't quit he will probably stop, but i want him to do it for his own sake, i want him to care about himself
how sp9 can overcome addiction?
i want to go to school in japan, looking at apu and temple right now but i want to know if there's any other good options
ive not taken jlpt but i could easily pass n2
i could take courses in japanese but prefer english
i did my first 2 years at community college computer science but idk if i want to stay in cs. i would if i could though
after graduating i want to stay and work in japan
i only do these rarely and usually outside the usa so it was never an issue but i have a trip in nyc and booked a $400 hair treatment that i've been saving up for. and their website says standard gratuity is 18%?? i don't understand why i need to pay more, i am already paying 400. is it ok if i dont pay it? it stresses me so much because im on tight budget. i wanted to get my nails done too but seems if you don't give 20% tip on nails you are a demon? how bad is it if i dont tip?? sorry if i sound dumb i am just not used to this at all and it seems bizarre to me
my sp9 bf and i were talking out our latest relationship struggles and i was asking him like, why did you act this way in dms? why did you say this thing? did it upset you when i did this certain thing?
and no matter how i asked him his answer was that he doesn't remember. even though it was just a few days ago. he said he doesn't remember every little thing and has no idea why he acted a certain way, even though it's all vital moments.
it's just bizarre to me because i play these moments over and over in my head, considering every possibility, reexamining my own reactions and reasoning, theorizing his. and to him it's nothing and he doesn't even remember
is this normal
i always hated fi and found it the most annoying function but as i get older i kind of admire how firm fi users are in their values. i've realized the value of knowing whats important to u and being able to stick by that. as intp if im given sufficient logical reason i can end up doing things that ppl might find immoral or might not be consistent with what ive said in the past i value. and yea it annoys me that logic wont sway fi users values but i admire it as well. as i grow i try to develop stronger more firm values for myself too. and i think this may annoy the ppl around me lol, i learned to be pretty firm w my boundaries and values now
need handbag with multiple pockets inside for storing cards and money, makeup , tickets etc...