u/panda5921

Hi all! I recently adopted my very sweet and social 2 year old girl this past February and she’s the light of my life! However, I am traveling a lot in these next few months which makes me nervous. I’ve left her before for a few days-a week and have someone come to check on her minimum of once a day. I also have cameras where I can watch her/talk to her

However, I will be leaving for a week this month, next month, and almost 2 weeks in December. I will have someone (likely a friend she is comfortable with) feed her twice a day (maybe once for a few days) and change her litter, but I am worried about the emotional stress it could cause her. I have heard that some cats really struggle when their owners are gone for longer periods of time and this could lead to health issues. I am so nervous about this happening, especially because she is such a social cat.

I’m really struggling lately. My best friend of over 16 years met my bf of 5 months recently and when I asked her what she thought, she said that he was fine. When I asked what she meant she said that he wasn’t bad or anything, but that he didn’t excite her and she wants the best for me. I don’t want to bring this up to her again bc we already talked about it and she explained why she felt the way she did (he’s younger, doesn’t make enough money, ect). I could also tell she didn’t realize how big of a deal this was to me.

My friend and I have very different types when it comes to dating, so part of me isn’t shocked but this sent me into a massive spiral. She’s someone extremely close to me and i have always been a little codependent on her, so her opinion matters a lot, and I want her to approve of who I am with. Since hearing this, I have convinced myself she will end up hating him down the line and our friendship will suffer because of it. There’s another part of me that is now doubting my boyfriend, even though I am acknowledge that it is ROCD.

I feel really anxious all the time, even though I know I shouldn’t. My friend says that all she wants is the best for me, and she’s not sure if he is the best. Granted, she’ll never know him the way I do but I was really shaken by her lack of excitement. I love my boyfriend and my best friend, and really want to be able to put this behind me and move on. This is effecting me so much more than I thought

I’m really struggling lately. My best friend met my bf of 5 months recently and when I asked her what she thought, she said that he was fine. When I asked what she meant she said that he wasn’t bad or anything, but that he didn’t excite her and she wants the best for me. I don’t want to bring this up to her again bc we already talked about it and she explained why she felt the way she did (he’s younger, doesn’t make enough money, ect). I could also tell she didn’t realize how big of a deal this was to me.

My friend and I have very different types when it comes to dating, so part of me isn’t shocked but this sent me into a massive spiral. She’s someone extremely close to me so her opinion matters a lot, and I want her to approve of who I am with. Since hearing this, I have convinced myself she will end up hating him down the line and our friendship will suffer because of it. There’s another part of me that is now doubting my boyfriend, even though I am acknowledge that it is ROCD.

I feel really anxious all the time, even though I know I shouldn’t. My friend says that all she wants is the best for me, and she’s not sure if he is the best. Granted, she’ll never know him the way I do but I was really shaken by her lack of excitement. I love my boyfriend and my best friend, and really want to be able to put this behind me and move on. This is effecting me so much more than I thought

I have been with my boyfriend for 5 months in an LRD and things are really good between us. He treats me so well, and this is my first official relationship where I feel safe and loved. I just spent a week with him where I met all of his friends and family and he told me he loved me for the first time. While I really enjoyed this trip, I also feel slightly overwhelmed and am in my head.

I have OCD so I tend to spiral, I don’t know why I feel so “weird” but I think I am just overwhelmed by how much happened. I really do care for him , but I’ve never been in love before and am not sure if what I feel is being in love. Has anyone else been on different paces in a relationship? I don’t want to ruin anything with my ROCD and overthinking, so I would love some honest advice from people who may have also been in my situation. I’m so sad to leave him for two months, but also could use some space. I’m messing with my head and it’s all very confusing!

I have been with my boyfriend for 5 months in an LRD and things are really good between us. He treats me so well, and this is my first official relationship where I feel safe and loved. I just spent a week with him where I met all of his friends and family and he told me he loved me for the first time. While I really enjoyed this trip, I also feel slightly overwhelmed and am in my head.

I have OCD so I tend to spiral, I don’t know why I feel so “weird” but I think I am just overwhelmed by how much happened. I really do care for him , but I’ve never been in love before and am not sure if what I feel is being in love. I said it back because it felt right, but is it normal for two people to be on different paces in a relationship? I don’t want to ruin anything with my ROCD and overthinking, so I would love some honest advice from people who may have also been in my situation. I’m so sad to leave him for two months, but also could use some space. I’m messing with my head and it’s all very confusing!

Hi all, I can’t believe I did something so stupid! I left my pill in the car today for 8 hours🫠 totally forgot all about it. It’s been in the 80-90’s here as well so I am super concerned.

I have been having unprotected sex all week with my partner and am worried that I am no longer going to be protected. Is there anything I can do? I can’t get a new pack of pills either. What is the risk I am at? Thank you!!

Hi all, I’m looking to find a stylist who can do a wig install (preferably sew in). I’m pretty new to this but I have my own wig. I’ve seen most places say you need to purchase the hair through them, but I would hate to waste the one i have. I’m located near downtown as well. Thanks all!

Hi all! I was laid off in April and have been nannying and Babysitting since. The majority of kids have been aged 3-8 but I recently took a job where I am nannying a one year-old girl, full-time while the parents work from home. She’s a pretty easy baby however, I am SO bored.

She has 5 hour wake windows, so I try to fill them as much as possible with toys, walking, books, but that only takes up so much time. The parents have cameras in every room, so I constantly feel like I have to be “on” and be extra animated/talkative to her at all times. The mom mentioned she appreciates how vocal I am, and honestly it’s awkward if I’m not constantly talking. I don’t think babies/toddlers are my forte, but I made a commitment for another two weeks.

What are some things I can do to help pass the time? I am there 7:30-5pm, and I don’t want to be on my phone very much. She has a short attention span for things and likes to be as independent as possible, so a lot of the time I am just staring at her lol. I feel slightly insane! Any and all advice is helpful!

Hi all, I could really use some support and advice as my anxiety is eating me alive.

My best friend recently met my boyfriend of a few months and while we all had a nice time, I asked her thoughts afterwards as her opinion means a lot to me. She said she thought he was nice, and “fine”. I asked her why and she said he just didn’t super excite her and that it was ok because I am happy, and he might not be my husband anyways. For context, we are LDR and I really am falling for him

Granted, she’s never loved anyone I have dated and is always a tough critic so I am not sure why this time it is giving me so much anxiety. I told her it caused me to spiral and she said that it shouldn’t and things could change. I just can’t seem to snap myself out of this rumination that something is wrong or honestly I don’t even know where the anxiety stems from. I think I just really was hoping she would love him. I know that overall there’s nothing wrong and that we are happy but I feel so icky

Hi all, I could really use some support and advice as my anxiety is eating me alive.

My best friend recently met my boyfriend of a few months and while we all had a nice time, I asked her thoughts afterwards as her opinion means a lot to me. She said she thought he was nice, and “fine”. I asked her why and she said he just didn’t super excite her and that it was ok because I am happy, and he might not be my husband anyways. For context, we are LDR and I really am falling for him

Granted, she’s never loved anyone I have dated and is always a tough critic so I am not sure why this time it is giving me so much anxiety. I told her it caused me to spiral and she said that it shouldn’t and things could change. I just can’t seem to snap myself out of this rumination that something is wrong or honestly I don’t even know where the anxiety stems from. I think I just really was hoping she would love him.

Hi all, I am really struggling today and could use some support.

This weekend my newer (2 months) boyfriend visited me and met all my friends and the majority of them really liked him and were happy for me.

However, my best friend (whose opinion means the most) was not super impressed. She thought he was nice and said she had a good time when we all got dinner, but I get the feeling she’s not thrilled about him. I asked her about it and she said she just wants the best for me and she’s a little worried that since he’s switching career paths, I might not be financially supported in the way she would like, but that wasn’t the only thing.

When I asked what the other things were, she said she didn’t want to say because it didn’t matter because “he’s fine for now and I deserve to be happy”. She’s very blunt and direct so I expected her to say something like this but I have been so anxious about it. I know she’s just looking out for me but I hate the idea of her not approving of him. I really love him too so im trying to remind myself that as long im happy, thats all that matters. I just can’t stop ruminating on this and im so saddened

Hi all, I’m being ridiculously paranoid due to my OCD but last night my boyfriend pulled out and then went back in immediately after. I am on the pill, but struggle to trust it due to my OCD so I tend to think the worst. Lets say I wasn’t on the pill, would it still be the same risk as not pulling out at all? I get sooo anxious it’s terrible

Hi all! I’m used to babysitting ages 2+ and I typically charge $25 a hour (I am in a major city in the south). I was given the opportunity to babysit 3-4 days a week for 5-6 hours. I am not used to working with babies (I was honest and told mom, she’s not worried and says the baby is pretty easy).

A few of my friends told me that I should increase my rate for a baby as there is more involved like diapers, washing bottles, ect. Is this true? If so, how much do you suggest?

I’m also a little nervous about watching a child so small! What are typical activities to do besides reading, snacks, and naps lol…I would love advice! Thank you

I usually take my pills at 9pm and ended up missing one full day, and taking the next days pill late (skipped Friday, took Saturday 4 hours late). I took both pills as soon as I realized and also took a plan b since I had unprotected sex Tuesday night.

He pulled out but I know I could be unprotected. It’s been almost a week and I have been so anxious and nauseous. I have OCD so I have convinced myself my nausea is because im pregnant lol, even though I know that’s not true. Looking for some additional information on how forgiving the combo pill is and if I should be worried until I can accurately test