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The pics looked kind of scammy, but i couldn't tell exactly. The lady kind of text flirted w me in a wierd way. I just kept it professional tho & didn't engage

I got the part & dropped the 5q under a mat as instructed.

Next day i got a photo of her front door w a message: "bet ya didn't see the camera, now bring back the stove".

I was kind of freaked out & contacted local coppers.

They just said not to do FB marketplace cuz it's a scam pit

Is this a normal scam? What was the game here?

I have RQ at least a dozen jobs in the past 5yrs. So much so that i'm constantly living paycheck to paycheck and don't have proper insurance for therapy.

I really do feel like a druggie who falls of the wagon- i might be a bit hooked on that high?

Tho the last job i had for nearly a year!

That's about 11 mos longer than any previous employment.

I'm so ashamed and need help

I used to think "harm reduction" HR was BS- i thought i should be all or nothing

Now i see in my own SF journey, HR is exactly how i've improved health w little wins

When i 1st went sugar free, for example, i couldn't give up hand to mouth habit. I still "binged" on things like milk (!)

It took a few years to be willing to let it go.

I also HAD to have an apple a day as my "sweet hit". Just one, but gradually from the sz of my head to sm or med

Took a long time to both stop the hand to mouth snack impulse and to switch out apples for jicama.

Now commericial apples just are overwhelming. (pricey too_)

Those are little examples. Emotionally i'm still annoyed when ppl pester me re SF. I hope to get neutral on that soon!

lost stress mess of "resisting"/restricting.

literally only want actual nutrition, so no food noise.

The only and i mean ONLY issue is ppl pestering like i now have an ED. Ppl should see it as the new "non smoking". many are just ignorant, and some actually hurt my feelings. Like food shaming & it sucks.

But i've stayed the course because i feel so damn good for 1st time in life. Worth insults. I know in my heart i've made a rebellious health choice.

Can anyone recommend free viewing & their recent favs?

Binge eating cycles felt traumatic. The emotional shame, the physical pain, it was a lot! I felt trapped.

Harm reduction wasnt' invented yet as a recovery model. I also couldn't afford steady therapy. One session suggested "good food vs bad food" drove BED.

i lived w just eating, kind of like "intuitive eating" but preferred sugar & became prediabetic. I still sometimes "over ate" or even at a whole pkg of something low fat. I even had rituals of geting a box of something sweet knowing i'd finish it all- but not nearly BED level of pain/shame.

So

Maybe that 'good food vs bad food' recovery would work if our global food supply was actual food vs frankenfood & hunger spiking junk!

It did work in terms of curbing the BED--- grateful.

However, i was emotionally ready to cut out sugar entirely after decades of harm reduction. I also heard sugar caused inflammation, and my joints were truly in pain, felt like fibromyalgia.

I finally know myself re eating, and sugar free is the Lifesaver. I crave vs force actual nutrition, and apart from withdrawals, it's easy.

The food noise & body sz noise is mostly way way off. Sometimes a trigger, but rare. I also am pain free! Lost weight of course, but gained patience & calm.

Sadly most ppl tell me about sugar free - "you're weird" at worst or "highly disciplined" at best. I'm neither. I finally found out what works for me and it's been a ride!!

What's your journey w sugar free?

a friend literally told me she won't travel w me because i won't go out for desserts or junk food. He said it freaks him out when i watch him eat. Hurt at 1st then realised this wasn't a good friend for other reasons.

My own fam thought i had an eating disorder because i wouldn't eat birthday cake.

Best friend told me i was annoying & eating disoredred when he passed me a juice & i said no thanks.

Thankfully my grown kids are supportive because they study "macros" & body building. They're fully on board & proud how i eat protein vs all carbs.

Crazy this Sugar Free can present as "anti social" yet the best health decision apart from pickleball i'v ever made!

How have you handled sugar pushers or what's been your experience socially?

I also hallucinated the 1st wk due to lack of sleep and hormonal plummets. I kept thinking i couldn't find the baby, just a weird thing that passed.

I look back and know why i drastically changed my life because my partner was making it worse.

I left my partner within the 1st year because I just needed to be with ppl vs isolation w indifferent partner.

There's no answer! Just hopefully moms have lots of support from positive ppl fam/friends

what i expected & gained

1. weight loss

2. hair/skin improved

3. zero cavities

4. better nutrition

5. improved sleep

Bonus Surprise (s)

1. sustainable weight loss- slow but easy to maintain

2. able to study for career upgrade

3. MOre relaxed about facial genetics & unique features

4. palate change- i don't have to force quality food

5. mood swings finally resolved- no more trigger temper

nothing like a high school reunion to assess progress!

I've worked so hard on physical wellness, lost weight, grappled w diabetes. All good stuff for sure.

However, i was still that insecure/easy to manipulate peer pressure led kid for a day.

I didn't eat well, was shaking, went to a cocktail party when i don't drink and feel on edge etc. FOMO took me there, when an earlier group museum tour was more my speed, and I should have headed home. I didn't wreck myself w booze out of insecurity, but was not socialising well, i was just a mess, maybe came off a dotard. GAH

lesson. Inner fitness is just as important as health stats

How can i measure emotional wellness? Is there an ap to measure progress🤣

I mean this humorously, but i really want to take a nice exhale and get working! Where to start?

Trying to deal with this, but wanted to wear the same style of jeans i wore decades ago.

Before the eventing party w group photo, i did a lot of activities.

My HS friend took me to yoga, a hike, river dipping, cave tour etc. We didn't eat lunch and i was shaking.

I usually eat a good lunch and I abstain from sugar, that's my success plan

But i was shaking & bloated because my friend gave me a green juice which just did not agree w my system. I was bloated :(

By the time of the party i was bloated, uncomfortable, and couldn't find the right shirt i'd brought for group photo op.

Someone took a group photo of me from behind, and it's kind of a disaster. It's posted on the event web page. Just one of me, but jeans look tight, hair a ratted mess and i have visible muffin top because i had to wear some rag top i found in the car at last minute.

So much for the "look at me I'm a success" weight loss photo :(. I'm trying to laugh it off.

Has anyone else had a "miss" w the "after" photo?

Trying to deal with this, but wanted to wear the same style of jeans i wore decades ago.

Before the eventing party w group photo, i did a lot of activities.

My HS friend took me to yoga, a hike, river dipping, cave tour etc. We didn't eat lunch and i was shaking.

I usually eat a good lunch and I abstain from sugar, that's my success plan

But i was shaking & bloated because my friend gave me a green juice which just did not agree w my system. I was bloated :(

By the time of the party i was bloated, uncomfortable, and couldn't find the right shirt i'd brought for group photo op.

Someone took a group photo of me from behind, and it's kind of a disaster. It's posted on the event web page. Just one of me, but jeans look tight, hair a ratted mess and i have visible muffin top because i had to wear some rag top i found in the car at last minute.

So much for the "look at me I'm a success" weight loss photo :(. I'm trying to laugh it off.

Has anyone else had a "miss" w the "after" photo?

Serendipity to be vulnerable. When it was coming out of my mouth, admitting my absence for years, i felt like maybe i should be quiet. But she really understood.

She resisted her parent's cult, and thankfully the dad was "in" the cult but didn't live in community with the actual ppl.

But her siblings participated, and there are legal ramifications.

However, my cult is still somewhat active in nearby town- and she was shocked to realize what poses as a martial arts studio runs deeper.

She asked me, "what were they into". Big question! Basically eastern modalities, clean eating and the end of the world. But a whole conversations more.

I don't live in that town anymore. I visit rarely!

I spent the day hiking with a friend who has gained weight- an injury w a major setback in fitness.

I really feel badly for him, but he goes back and forth to telling me I'm an annoying eater and i inspire him. It's confusing.

without asking, he gave me a bottle of green juice he made. I said thank you, took a sip and asked why it was sweet. He said it was pineapple and apple plus green veg. I said, i can't drink sweet stuff, but thanks it was thoughtful and gave it back. He literally told me i was difficult.

I just stayed quiet about it as i'd already said my honest peace.

Then he said, "now i'm feeling self conscious, are you trying to tell me i shouldn't eat anything sweet either because i'm fat?

Patiently i explained he can do what he wants and that i hope he doesn't either take personal protocol as a hint to him. I also said, "how i eat shouldn't affect you. Does it trigger you to control what i consume? I hope it doesn't"

When we joined a group for dinner he kept telling me to not pay a dime because i wouldn't eat. Again. A loop of me saying, "I'll decide" and him pleading me not to pay anything.

Turns out there weren't any appetizers i could eat so i didn't. I did pay my share, it's okay, my choice. I joined and just enjoyed the company. He kept pestering me about paying afterwards.

I left the day feeling exausted by him.

Is this common?

Worked at a company years ago that was very popular & intense...we have a reunion coming up.

I actually fit into the jeans i used to wear back then as a 20something. I think it will be funny to wear my casual friday 'fit from back in day. Wondering if anyone else will notice? Kind of something i want to do for fun.

main activity -dinner and cocktail hour, neither of which i like. Not only am i sugar free, but i do intermittent fasting now which doesn't include late night dinner.

So i'm all shades of insecure- we have a day tour of our old work place which was a zany unique place. Can't wait for that, but i have to go home, skip the night stuff and i feel sad.

The old me would have been IN for a night of indulgence, but now i have a totally diff health protocol

Wondering if i'm too rigid re health?

i did weed out associates who were rude about my food choices. You know, sugar pushers and or ppl who just were nasty on the regular re sugar free.

It was as hard as cold turkey quitting sugar, deciding to cut ppl out of my life. That was bigger than quitting sugar, tho both happened around same time--just took me awhile to wake up.

many of those same ppl want to get back into my life, and maybe they're ready to behave more respectfully. But i've moved on!

The impulse to over eat was a monster. I'd go a few days or even few months, then boom, OOC binge :( A recovery professional told me the issue was my "good food vs bad food" mentality.

I sort of agree w this assessment, and it's part of many food recovery rehabs, tho i never attended one! Couldn't afford it, nor could I take time off work etc

So i saw one therapist who suggested the good food vs bad food method, meaning, make all food neutral and just have 3 meals/day, maybe with a snack in between.

I think it kind of helped me not restrict then binge, but gradually most meals were sugary, and i had to gag down "healthy" foods.

Guess i finally felt "ready" to quit sugar as i hadn't binged in years!

it was super hard to detox from sugar, but i prepped with a workbook i got on amazon, kind of a simple step by step. YEs it was kind of situationally depressing, but i made it thru in about 3-10 days, gradual lessening of pain.

NOW i realize that sugar increased my appetite before i detoxed. I could barely NOT snack in between meals, and i was constantly "hangry", on edge and just unable to regulate. Even in BED recovery, i drank sugary things all day to cope.

TODAY ,i realise my palate is totatlly different. Without sugar i crave quality nutrition, it's no longer a battle. I'm more even keeled. I don't even get an upset tummy after a full meal like the old days. I can have a regular meal, take a 10m walk and my digestion is golden.

Ppl here seem to have a version of BED, and i want to share my personal story that sugar detox is so important- tho i was ready! I used to fear meals, now i'm neutral & content

I know rehabs can't suggest quitting sugar- maybe it sets up a "restrict & binge" cycle for ppl who aren't ready?

The impulse to over eat was a monster. I'd go a few days or even few months, then boom, OOC binge :( A recovery professional told me the issue was my "good food vs bad food" mentality.

I sort of agree w this assessment, and it's part of many food recovery rehabs, tho i never attended one! Couldn't afford it, nor could I take time off work etc

So i saw one therapist who suggested the good food vs bad food method, meaning, make all food neutral and just have 3 meals/day, maybe with a snack in between.

I think it kind of helped me not restrict then binge, but gradually most meals were sugary, and i had to gag down "healthy" foods.

Guess i finally felt "ready" to quit sugar as i hadn't binged in years!

it was super hard to detox from sugar, but i prepped with a workbook i got on amazon, kind of a simple step by step. YEs it was kind of situationally depressing, but i made it thru in about 3-10 days, gradual lessening of pain.

NOW i realize that sugar increased my appetite before i detoxed. I could barely NOT snack in between meals, and i was constantly "hangry", on edge and just unable to regulate. Even in BED recovery, i drank sugary things all day to cope.

TODAY ,i realise my palate is totatlly different. Without sugar i crave quality nutrition, it's no longer a battle. I'm more even keeled. I don't even get an upset tummy after a full meal like the old days. I can have a regular meal, take a 10m walk and my digestion is golden.

Ppl here seem to have a version of BED, and i want to share my personal story that sugar detox is so important- tho i was ready! I used to fear meals, now i'm neutral & content

I know rehabs can't suggest quitting sugar- maybe it sets up a "restrict & binge" cycle for ppl who aren't ready?

The impulse to over eat was a monster. I'd go a few days or even few months, then boom, OOC binge :( A recovery professional told me the issue was my "good food vs bad food" mentality.

I sort of agree w this assessment, and it's part of many food recovery rehabs, tho i never attended one! Couldn't afford it, nor could I take time off work etc

So i saw one therapist who suggested the good food vs bad food method, meaning, make all food neutral and just have 3 meals/day, maybe with a snack in between.

I think it kind of helped me not restrict then binge, but gradually most meals were sugary, and i had to gag down "healthy" foods.

Guess i finally felt "ready" to quit sugar as i hadn't binged in years!

it was super hard to detox from sugar, but i prepped with a workbook i got on amazon, kind of a simple step by step. YEs it was kind of situationally depressing, but i made it thru in about 3-10 days, gradual lessening of pain.

NOW i realize that sugar increased my appetite before i detoxed. I could barely NOT snack in between meals, and i was constantly "hangry", on edge and just unable to regulate. Even in BED recovery, i drank sugary things all day to cope.

TODAY ,i realise my palate is totatlly different. Without sugar i crave quality nutrition, it's no longer a battle. I'm more even keeled. I don't even get an upset tummy after a full meal like the old days. I can have a regular meal, take a 10m walk and my digestion is golden.

Ppl here seem to have a version of BED, and i want to share my personal story that sugar detox is so important- tho i was ready! I used to fear meals, now i'm neutral & content

I know rehabs can't suggest quitting sugar- maybe it sets up a "restrict & binge" cycle for ppl who aren't ready?