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Should I be completely 100% honest with my therapist?

Disclaimer. This is a genuine question - I am not seeking attention nor sympathy for the things mentioned in this post. I am entering this post with a level head and seeking genuine advice from compassionate people. In keeping with rules, I am NOT asking for therapist for counselling advice. I’m asking if these are things I should mention to my therapist at all. I am not currently suicidal, at risk of self harm, or under the influence of alcohol.

TRIGGER WARNINGS: rape, suicide, self harm.

I ask because I worry these sort of thoughts are hidden from me or somehow dishonest, as they only arise when I’m drunk, I therefore I distrust these thoughts and don’t know if they’re worth entertaining - though I know they’re real thoughts I have. I am an alcoholic and diagnosed as such. Also, I have an amazing relationship with my therapist. She is intelligent, kind, and knows how to communicate with me as someone who is autistic and struggles hugely with social things.

• Should I tell my therapist that I’ve been raped twice and that deep down, I believe these instances of rape are entirely my fault, as I sought it out when I was drunk?
• That the abuse I experienced as a teenager is so hard to accept that I feel incapable of accepting it?
• Should I tell her that despite loving life, my passions, my area of study (animal care - hopefully moving on to veterinary disease research and parasitology), how excited I am for my future and my goals, that I hate being alive, because living under capitalism and barely affording to live is killing me anyway?
• Should I tell her that I feel such profound hopelessness in life that no amount of therapy can fix it? That I can develop coping strategies to bring me down from overstimulated and rage induced meltdowns, but I will always feel hopeless at the end of the day. Killing my self would be so much easier.
• should I confide in her that I worry, in certain contexts, that I may be a compulsive liar and (1) am only just (within the last 6 months or so) realising it. (2) want to severely harm or even kill myself because of it/ having extremely traumatic experiences in being victimised by other compulsive liars in the past.

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u/r0ck3t-onreddit — 23 hours ago

Vegan Jalapeño Poppers🤤❤️‍🔥🧀🌶️

Note: I recommend wearing gloves as you work with the peppers. Don’t be me and end up with jalapeño in your eye.

Ingredients:
• Plain flour
• Non-dairy milk of choice (I used oat)
• Breadcrumbs
• Jalapeños
• Block or grated cheese of choice (I used Violife)
• Cream cheese of choice (I used Kinda Co. Smoked)
• Vegetable oil

(Recipe makes ~12)
Instructions:

  1. If you bought a block cheese, grate 113g, or put aside 113g of grated cheese into a bowl. Combine with 170g of cream cheese. Mix together until smooth.
  2. Slice peppers in half, remove seeds, and blanch in simmering/boiling water for 3-5 minutes (depending on how soft you want your peppers to be)
  3. Remove peppers from water and pat them dry with a paper towel, then fill each half with the cheese mix (don’t over fill) and match the sides back together.
  4. Dip peppers in milk, coat in flour, repeat. Let set for ~10 mins.
  5. Repeat previous step with milk and breadcrumbs.
  6. In a deep pan, pour enough vegetable oil for the peppers to be fully submerged. Bring oil to around 180°c or watch for the surface of the toil to start wobbling. Deep fry for 2-3 mins or until golden brown.
u/r0ck3t-onreddit — 1 day ago
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The way my P polycephalum arrived😭 how to transfer to Petri dish??

How do I even go about transferring the colonies to my Petri dishes? They’re on soggy, mouldy tissue paper with a bunch of old oats.

u/r0ck3t-onreddit — 4 days ago

“Smart Casual” for work placement?

I have 3 work placements in various clinics lined up for the coming academic year, these will be my first placements.
2 of the clinics are organising me scrubs for the duration of my placement, and the remaining has instructed me to dress “smart casual, comfortable shoes.”

I’m super nervous about my clothing decisions and wanted to run them by yall before I get stuck in. My ideas are white button ups and plain neutral coloured polo tops, various comfortable and semi formal trousers (as seen in photo) and black crocs. Any thoughts?

u/r0ck3t-onreddit — 6 days ago

How to manage friendships with anti-vegans?

I’m a new vegan. Officially made the change (with my consumption) in May (but held the values of veganism for about a year). As I’m becoming more vocal and unapologetic in my ‘unconventional’ beliefs, I find myself struggling with friendships more and more.

I recently cut off a newly found friend, because he refused to acknowledge that pigs are slaughtered in gas chambers as he found it offensive as a Jewish person, then went on a rant of excuses about being anaemic and needing red meat and blah blah blah.
Now today, I happened across a comment thread on instagram of another somewhat new friend (met through a close friend of ~3 years). This was on a vegan influencers post about how those complaining about the heatwave while still contributing to animal ag have no right to complain (damn straight) and this friend saying, roughly, “I will never be able to go vegan because I’m autistic and need my safe foods, and I’m complain about whatever the fuck I want!” . The comment thread beneath theirs was rightfully flaming them for their hypocrisy, selfishness, and factual inaccuracy. I then discovered a comment where they validated the dog meat market in Asia, as an attempt at a “gotcha” to demonstrate they weren’t a hypocrite.

This infuriated me. I always tell my friends and family that I do not care what they eat or wear, they at least need to acknowledge to even the tiniest extent, the damage they cause.
I mentally played through ways to handle it all day. Do nothing and silently unfollow, try talk to them either in DMs or in the comments, talk to the mutual friend we met through. After 8 hours + a stress nap, I decided to just DM them and ask straight up if they were being fr. They said they were ‘just trolling’ and will go and delete their comments because ‘no one was understanding them.’

I just don’t know how to move forward. With this friend or with any future friends similar things happen with. I truly don’t care if my friends and family are vegan. It took me 21 years to go vegan and break my cognitive dissonance so it would be hypocritical of me to flame anyone for being exactly where I was not too long ago. I’m just struggling. I can’t see people the same way anymore. The learned helplessness I see in so many other disabled people, when I could overcome it with autism, starve/binge eating disorder, ulcerative colitis, interstitial cystitis, fibromyalgia, and chronic malabsorption, is devastating to me. I want to help people have the same epiphany I did. But no one cares to.

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u/r0ck3t-onreddit — 9 days ago
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4 months post op!💞💜

I’m so so so happy with my results after 4 months! I had so many concerns after I had a bad reaction to my bandages and with the ‘pinched’ bit you can see on my left side somewhat.
But the more I’ve healed, the better things have been! I am totally pain free, I have 100% sensation (including in the nips!), I’ve had more chest hair growth, and I generally just feel totally awesome and euphoric.

Surgeon: Dr Kate Williams, TGH Manchester UK

u/r0ck3t-onreddit — 10 days ago
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4 months post op!💞💜

I’m so so so happy with my results after 4 months! I had so many concerns after I had a bad reaction to my bandages and with the ‘pinched’ bit you can see on my left side somewhat.
But the more I’ve healed, the better things have been! I am totally pain free, I have 100% sensation (including in the nips!), I’ve had more chest hair growth, and I generally just feel totally awesome and euphoric.

Surgeon: Dr Kate Williams, TGH Manchester UK

u/r0ck3t-onreddit — 10 days ago

Recovering after injury with fibro

Hi everyone. I’m wondering how you guys have managed recovery after getting injured?

I’m a very cautious person. I practically never get injured and when I’m doing physical work or at the gym, I am always mindful of my capabilities, my movements, etc. But the heat today has frazzled my brain and when I was rushing to catch the bus, I ended up having quite a dramatic fall by tripping over my laces.
I hit the ground super hard and cut up my knees, scraped my hands, broke my shoes, tore my shorts. I was shaken up but otherwise okay. Went home and fixed up my cuts. Went for a 1.5 hour walk afterwards - probably a poor choice.

I’ve been home for 3 hours now and the pain is extending through my whole body and getting worse and worse. Like the feeling where simple movements are like pushing through super thick gelatine. My right hand is killing me, my back is awful, my knees and feet and terrible.
Pain flares like this are very rare for me, and I’m panicking because last time I had one this bad I ended up with shingles and that was the most extreme pain I’ve ever experienced.

So, what are your guys’ advice? I really don’t want to cancel my plans tomorrow (beach with friends) but I also don’t want to end up in extreme pain.

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u/r0ck3t-onreddit — 11 days ago

Beginner hobbyist seeking guidance on physarum polycephalum

Hi all! Title says it all really. I am a beginner hobbyist who has recently bought P. polycephalum (will be shipped to me after the current UK heatwave) and am looking for some good pointers on keeping this species.

I am a qualification in veterinary parasitology, but my knowledge on keeping protists (and especially non-parasitic protists) at home (thriving) is very limited. I have done a decent chunk of reading surrounding the keeping of this spp at home and have a basic plan for when my cultures arrive, where I’ll be housing them, their diet. However, I’d like some advice, pointers, recommended reading material from some experienced folks before my cultures arrive. I also have a few questions.

The following is my plan for when they arrive. Please advise me if this does not sound ideal.

  1. Prepare a Petri dish with an appropriate agar base, one oat for food, and an appropriate barrier on the lip to prevent escape.
  2. Use a scalpel to remove the largest, fanning areas of the sclerotia and gently transfer to new Petri dish.
  3. Rehydrate sclerotia and observe for reanimation over 24 hours.
  4. Once established, regularly (every few days) reapply barrier on the Petri dish lip. Provide 1-3 oats (depending on culture size) every 2 days.
  5. Enjoy owning these sick little dudes. Be observant of life cycles, rehouse when necessary.
    They’ll be housed at room temperature in a dark, somewhat humid area of my home.

Now some questions…

A. Once I have moved the largest part of the sclerotia into a new Petri dish, what do I do with the old one/ unused culture? Do I just… throw it away? Do I need to take any special precautions?
B. Do I need to keep my cultures moist via misting or pipetting of water?
C. What in general should I avoid, the big ‘no’s of slime mould keeping? Food items to avoid, bad barrier techniques, proper disposal, etc.

Thank you in advance!🧫🦠

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u/r0ck3t-onreddit — 14 days ago

Top Surgery Review!🌟💞

Top Surgery Review!

Where: Trafford General Hospital, Manchester

Surgeon: Kate Williams

🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟(5!)

My experience at TGH was exceptional from start to finish, with only incredibly minor criticisms. I attended this hospital for bilateral double mastectomies on 24/02/26 and arrived just before 7am. I HIGHLY recommend this hospital and surgeon for top surgery.

Immediately after checking in, the admissions nurse showed me to my patient room and bed for the day. I was in a room with 3 other men of similar age who were getting the same procedure as myself. I put my things away and waited, comfortably and with my dad’s company, for the visits from the relevant people - all which happened within about an hour. I had 3 visits from…

(1) nurse for blood pressure, temperature, weight, general information such as allergies, name and address, double checking my consent. It was also at this first visit where I was given my estimated wait time to be taken down to theatre (11:15am). This nurse also asked if I had anything important I wanted communicated to the team, where I mentioned that I am autistic and it is very important to me to have clear communication and understanding between myself and all the team, especially due to my past traumas of medical abuse/neglect at my local hospital. Here I was also offered a locker for personal belongings, and informed the only criteria I had to meet before being discharged was to eat and drink something and use the bathroom.

(2) the surgeon herself, as well as a trainee accompanying her, where we had a good chat for a wee while. My chest was marked up for surgery and I was walked through what to expect, what my chest is likely to look like post-op, any questions I had, etc. They were both very friendly and made me feel comfortable. I then was helped into my hospital gown and compression stockings. I was asked here if I needed a sick note for work/college.

(3) the anaesthetist, who had some questions for me about personal and family medical history, walked me through his job and exactly what he’d be doing and why, told me what to expect (e.g. throat pain from the intubation) asked if I had any questions or concerns. We discussed my pre existing chronic conditions (ulcerative colitis and fibromyalgia) and went through a light plan to manage the inevitable increased level of pain I was going to experience due to this. He was very caring, considerate and went into good detail all while being cheery and positive, which definitely helped keep me relaxed.

I then took a small nap on my bed as I had travelled a long time and very far to get to the hospital. I was awoken by a nurse at about 11:30am telling me it was time for surgery. So I got up, removed my piercings, and headed down with her. I was in the theatre waiting room for about 20 mins, there was no clock so I wasn’t entirely sure, but it wasn’t too dreadfully long. Eventually a member staff came to fetch me and I was taken into theatre. I put my shoes, dressing gown, and glasses into a plastic bag and was instructed to lay on the bed. The anaesthetist and his team greeted me again and asked me how I was feeling, again, everyone was exceptional and super friendly, chatty, and positive. After 3 attempts they successfully got the cannula in and started me on oxygen (they were very apologetic that it took 3 painful attempts, but I fully understood and it was not a huge deal to me). Anaesthetist asked me what my favourite alcoholic drink was, and when I answered the anaesthetist told me “fantastic, I basically just gave you like 10” I told him that’s what I like to hear, then they told me they were starting the anaesthesia, and about 30 seconds later I was under.

Next thing I remember is waking up in the recovery room with a nurse beside me at about 3:30pm. She said hello and asked me how I was feeling, I said my chest was really sore and I was exceptionally thirsty, so she gave me some morphine, which really helped, and a small glass of water. 15-20 mins later I was wheeled up in the bed, back to the patient room. A few mins later, a nurse helped me trudge my way to the patient toilet. I was granted privacy to do my business and then helped back to my bed. I drank a few more glasses of water and was offered food (I brought my own things with me). So I ate and drank, rested for a wee while longer, had a few nurse visits to be given my sick note, codine, patient information letters and discharge form, and eventually left the hospital by about 5pm.

Overall my experience was absolutely exceptional! My only criticism is that the sick note was filled out improperly to state I couldn’t attend college, full stop, for 6 full weeks, I only noticed this once I was home and there was no urgent port of communication to amend this. I now have to wait for an email to fix this and have no clue how long this will take. This could be improved with better patient-hospital communication and having gone over the sick note with me post-op instead of just handing me it.

Other than this one hiccup however, everything was absolutely perfect.

All of the staff were amazing, friendly, accommodating, well organised, kept me informed and up to date with things, great waiting times. The hospital was clean, comfortable, and warm. Public transport to and from the hospital was also awesome, good timings and very affordable.

u/r0ck3t-onreddit — 1 month ago

Recommendations of high powered microscope?

Hey everyone, I’m looking for recommendations for high quality, high powered (ideally 400x) microscopes with a screen display. This will be for recreational use as a student of parasitology.

Screen display is important to me as a person with chronic migraines.

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u/r0ck3t-onreddit — 2 months ago

Can anyone ID this egg and helminth?

First time working with a microscope today in parasitology. We collected samples from a few animals we have on campus and found a good few things. Some we couldn’t identify.

  1. Mystery Helminth.
    Faecal sample diluted in saline solution. Collected from giant African land snail. Terrarium, I believe coco coir x top soil is used, fed in mixed greens. Kept at ~30°c. Preparing in sample pot for 30 min. No gram staining. Magnification x10 I believe.
    No hypothesis, never seen or studied anything like this. Lecturer was also out of ideas but she is a DVM, not a microbiologist.

  2. Mystery egg(?)
    Faecal sample diluted in saline solution. Collected from outdoor runner ducks. They have a small amount of water access.
    15°c rain has been on and off today. Preparing in sample pot for 30 min. No gram staining. Magnification x40

u/r0ck3t-onreddit — 2 months ago

Yo everyone!

I (from the UK) was just chatting about edibles with some (American) friends and came across something fascinating that none of us know the answer to.

My American friends were chatting amongst themselves about edibles and the strengths of various edibles they’ve consumed. That ranging from 5mg to 50mg. One friend said 5mg is their max dose, another described an experience with a 10mg tea as leaving them super high all through to the next day, and one noted that a friend of theirs does 100mg a day as an extremely high dose.

This was absolutely perplexing and insane to me, because I’ve never even heard of edibles being under 250mg. When I used to partake, my typical edibles were 500-750mg for an average-strong high, but never crazy.

So I’m wondering, what the hell is the difference and why is it so extreme lol. Thanks in advance for any answers!

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u/r0ck3t-onreddit — 2 months ago