u/readingardener

Hi everyone! 👋

We've added optional user flairs to help members share their dating mindset at a glance.

These flairs aren't meant to label you, they're simply another way to express what you're looking for and encourage more meaningful connections.

Available flairs:

💍 Looking for a Relationship

❤️ Serious Dating Only

🌱 Taking It Slow

☕ Date with Intention

🤍 Long-Term Minded

🏡 Hoping to Settle Down

💫 Intentional Dating

🌹 Courtship Over Hookups

Feel free to pick the one that best represents your approach to dating.

📱 How to add your user flair (Reddit Mobile)

1. Open r/PhR4Dating.

2. Tap the ⋮ (three dots) in the top-right corner.

3. Select Change User Flair.

4. Choose the flair that best fits you.

5. Tap Apply/Save.

That's it! 🎉

We've recently seen an increase in posts that clearly violate our community rules.

Before posting, please make sure you've read and understood the subreddit guidelines.

We actively moderate this community to keep it safe and wholesome. Posts that violate our rules will be removed, and users who repeatedly or intentionally ignore the rules may be banned.

If your post was caught by AutoModerator or removed in error, contact us through Modmail. We'll review it as soon as possible.

Thank you for helping keep r/PhR4Dating a welcoming community for genuine dating.

*crossposting kasi I am curious about guy's POV din!*

I came across a video talking about the difference between love and attachment, and it honestly made me pause for a bit.

Disclaimer: The speaker was talking about love in general—not just romantic love. She gave examples about caring for animals, helping a child who wasn't even related to her, and doing good without expecting anything in return. But one part of what she said made me think about romantic relationships, so I'm curious what you guys think.

The gist of what she said was that love isn't about possession. If you truly love someone, you should be able to genuinely want them to be happy—even if that happiness isn't with you. She also said that love doesn't have to be reciprocated. Bonus na lang daw if it is. If you're expecting love, gratitude, or anything in return, then maybe you're not just giving... you're investing.

It got me thinking...

Do you agree that romantic love doesn't have to be reciprocated? Or is wanting the person you love to love you back just a normal human need?

Personally, medyo torn ako.

I think there's something really beautiful about loving someone so selflessly that you can genuinely be happy for them kahit hindi ikaw ang kasama nila. Ang pure pakinggan.

Pero at the same time, iniisip ko rin... we're only human. We all have emotional needs. If you keep giving love without ever receiving any in return, anong matitira sa'yo?

Maybe love itself doesn't need to be reciprocated, but I feel like romantic relationships do. Kasi how can a relationship work if one person is always giving while the other is only receiving?

Curious lang talaga ako.

What do you think? Where do you personally draw the line between love and attachment?

I came across a video talking about the difference between love and attachment, and it honestly made me pause for a bit.

Disclaimer: The speaker was talking about love in general—not just romantic love. She gave examples about caring for animals, helping a child who wasn't even related to her, and doing good without expecting anything in return. But one part of what she said made me think about romantic relationships, so I'm curious what you guys think.

The gist of what she said was that love isn't about possession. If you truly love someone, you should be able to genuinely want them to be happy—even if that happiness isn't with you. She also said that love doesn't have to be reciprocated. Bonus na lang daw if it is. If you're expecting love, gratitude, or anything in return, then maybe you're not just giving... you're investing.

It got me thinking...

Do you agree that romantic love doesn't have to be reciprocated? Or is wanting the person you love to love you back just a normal human need?

Personally, medyo torn ako.

I think there's something really beautiful about loving someone so selflessly that you can genuinely be happy for them kahit hindi ikaw ang kasama nila. Ang pure pakinggan.

Pero at the same time, iniisip ko rin... we're only human. We all have emotional needs. If you keep giving love without ever receiving any in return, anong matitira sa'yo?

Maybe love itself doesn't need to be reciprocated, but I feel like romantic relationships do. Kasi how can a relationship work if one person is always giving while the other is only receiving?

Curious lang talaga ako.

What do you think? Where do you personally draw the line between love and attachment?

I came across a video talking about the difference between love and attachment, and it honestly made me pause for a bit.

Disclaimer: The speaker was talking about love in general, not just romantic love. She gave examples about caring for animals, helping a child who wasn't even related to her, and doing good without expecting anything in return. But one part of what she said made me think about romantic relationships, so I'm curious what you guys think.

(Sorry, I can't post the links of the video because I might get doxxed. Lol. But it was a clip on Facebook from The Epic Podcast with Laureen Velasco)

The gist of what she said is that love isn't about possession. If you truly love someone, you should be able to genuinely want them to be happy even if that happiness isn't with you. She also said that love doesn't have to be reciprocated. Bonus na lang daw if it is. If you're expecting love, gratitude, or anything in return, then maybe you're not just giving. Maybe you're investing.

It got me thinking.

Do you agree that romantic love doesn't have to be reciprocated? Or is wanting the person you love to love you back just a normal human need?

Personally, medyo torn ako.

I think there's something really beautiful about loving someone so selflessly that you can genuinely be happy for them kahit hindi ikaw ang kasama nila. Ang pure pakinggan.

Pero at the same time, iniisip ko rin, we're only human. We all have emotional needs. If you keep giving love without ever receiving any in return, anong matitira sa'yo?

Maybe love itself doesn't need to be reciprocated, but I feel like romantic relationships do. Kasi how can a relationship work if one person is always giving while the other is only receiving?

Curious lang talaga ako.

What do you think? Do you agree with the speaker? Or do you see love and relationships differently? Where do you personally draw the line between love and attachment?

Anddd, let me know if you guys like this kind of discussion! Please message us through mod mail for suggestions to make this sub more interactive. :)

To help improve the subreddit's quality and maintain a safer, more genuine dating environment, several moderation and automation changes have recently been implemented.

Here’s a summary of the updates:

• Minimum account requirements strict implementation
  • Accounts must now be at least 30 days old - cannot post and comment.
  • Minimum 200 combined karma required - cannot post, can comment.
  • Unverified accounts - cannot post and comment.
• Standardized posting format enforced
  • Posts must follow: Age [Tag] Title - Needs a minimum of 25 characters to post, this is to encourage more descriptive and meaningful post titles rather than vague or low-effort submissions.
  • Note: Age should be 21 years old or above!
• Low-effort post filtering added very short, vague, or low-effort submissions may now be automatically filtered or removed. Minimum of 350 characters per post.
• Expanded SFW/NSFW filtering. Additional filters were added for:
  • hookup-oriented content
  • FWB/ONS solicitation
  • sexually suggestive wording
  • explicit NSFW terms
• Off-platform solicitation filtering added. Posts heavily directing users toward Telegram, Snapchat, Discord, OnlyFans, and similar platforms may be filtered or removed.
• Flood/repost prevention enabled. Users are now limited to one post every 72 hours to help reduce spam, reposting, and low-quality, repetitive submissions.
• Crossposting/reposting settings adjusted Settings were updated to help discourage reposting and crossposting of subreddit content outside the community for privacy and safety purposes.

 

Ongoing automod adjustments. Please note that some legitimate posts/comments may occasionally be filtered by mistake while we continue fine-tuning automod behavior and moderation accuracy. If your post/comment was removed incorrectly, please contact the moderators politely through modmail for review.

Thank you for your patience and cooperation as we continue improving the community and keeping r/PhR4Dating aligned with its intended purpose: genuine, respectful, and meaningful dating connections.

Need reco yung di nag-yyellow sana. Any recommendations?